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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.
So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.
I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.
I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.
I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!
I might actually have to take up a hobby!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.
They're all slightly different and all free...
You might get to like one of them.
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.
So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.
I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.
I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.
I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!
I might actually have to take up a hobby!
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It’s a buyers market, the question is what are you looking for?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you spend too much time searching for someone, you'll never find them
Don't fret about negatives, focus on doing things that make you happy and the right person will turn up eventually
I hear stamp collecting is good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.
They're all slightly different and all free...
You might get to like one of them.
Good luck x"
Wrong advise, she’s not a single guy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.
They're all slightly different and all free...
You might get to like one of them.
Good luck x
Wrong advise, she’s not a single guy "
The point is that they're all a little different and one might work better than another |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would use the scatter gun approach and register on the 3 other major sites/apps.
They're all slightly different and all free...
You might get to like one of them.
Good luck x
Wrong advise, she’s not a single guy
The point is that they're all a little different and one might work better than another"
She’s still young why not go to the pub instead of digital dating which is a bit like eBay |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.
So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.
I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.
I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.
I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!
I might actually have to take up a hobby!
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I’d say the hobby is a better idea. I hope you haven’t paid for the site. I’ve been on all sites going. Found dating sites to be like a mail order family. Found it works for all my single kid less friends though. Spend your time having fun else where. An remember there is nothing wrong with you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!"
Because it wasn’t the first one of the type that he’d posted. Next! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Is online your only access to men OP? Could you go out with some friends and meet someone that way? Oh and a hobby might actually give you access to meeting new men in the flesh.... I will say, your pictures are lovely. So I'm surprised that you are struggling on that match site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!"
I was just thinking if any comparisons were going to be made with him.
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"Seem to remember the retort was "self pity" is an ugly trait when a man posted some similar recently!
Because it wasn’t the first one of the type that he’d posted. Next!"
Or because she's a poor little woman who needs sympathy and tissues?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.
So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.
I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.
I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.
I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!
I might actually have to take up a hobby!
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Try fab |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is online your only access to men OP? Could you go out with some friends and meet someone that way? Oh and a hobby might actually give you access to meeting new men in the flesh.... I will say, your pictures are lovely. So I'm surprised that you are struggling on that match site "
I think it's a convenient option. My friends are all coupled up and have busy lives too, when we go out men are the last thing on my mind. We are too busy dancing round our handbags.
Plus I'm not confident enough to approach someone I might like the look of. I'm also oblivious if anyone is flirting with me!
Also it's unlikely I'll meet anyone through work.
I'm really not seeking sympathy, I was aiming for humour.
I've been single a very long time now (9 years) and I genuinely don't want to be anymore.
I suppose I'm also trying to prove I can be more to someone than just a bit of fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.
So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.
I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.
I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.
I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!
I might actually have to take up a hobby!
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Nothing wrong with a yummy mummy |
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"Find that hard to believe as women always get lots offers say your just picky "
Are you saying us women shouldn't be picky and just say yes to every Tom, Dick and Harry? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Find that hard to believe as women always get lots offers say your just picky
Are you saying us women shouldn't be picky and just say yes to every Tom, Dick and Harry? "
no but some of you are extremely picky then winge about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.
So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.
I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.
I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.
I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!
I might actually have to take up a hobby!
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I would work on your profiles on the other sites. Get some good pics and write a decent one. On a site where there are probably girls a lot hotter with no baggage and a decent profile ....an average.. girl next door will get overlooked x |
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"You need to stop putting yourself down and find some self confidence. From what I can see you look gorgeous. Get out there and her some fun. "
Couldn't agree more. If you don't feel you're good enough, it won't happen. And you're definitely good enough! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So after quite a few insistent pep talks from friends I've signed up to that matching site.
So far I've learnt that my place on the shelf is likely to remain.
I'm not what anyone is actually looking for.
I'm not slim or attractive, I'm divorced and I have children.
I scrolled through profiles for a good couple of hours and not one that I thought was ok wanted someone like me!
I might actually have to take up a hobby!
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I'd wager that, contrary to you what you think, you are exactly what someone is looking for!
You are not the only person who is divorced with children, many people are and it hasn't been an obstacle for them.
You say you aren't slim or attractive, but to whom? You may be surprised by the number of people that think the opposite. Try sending the 1st message, be brave. Fortune favours the brave.
Good luck though, I'm sure when you least expect it someone will make your tummy flutter |
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