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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That thing people do to keep others interested.
When you're talking to several people on here, and you send the odd brief message (breadcrumbs)to several people to keep them interested rather than focusing on good conversation with one or two?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had multiple people talking to me on here. But on other places I've had 10 convos going at the same time and just follow the 10 convos individually. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We talk to several people at one time, we find it fairly easy to maintain a few conversations. Swinging isn't about exclusivity for us."
Is that people you already know? I guess I meant when you're formulating new friendships and trying to find common ground and chemistry?
If you're not careful questions to show interest can appear generic? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't talk to several people at the same time. I give them my attention. Anything less would feel like a conveyor belt."
 yes that's what I was thinking. Your avatar scares me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn't work for hanzle and grettle   throws teddy from pram...it's impossible to have a conversation in here!! "
I chat to lots of my chums as a chap I do t get that many messges. Most of my chats are the same as you would with friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't talk to several people at the same time. I give them my attention. Anything less would feel like a conveyor belt.
yes that's what I was thinking. Your avatar scares me "
Why does it scare you? The bowl is clean.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't talk to several people at the same time. I give them my attention. Anything less would feel like a conveyor belt.
yes that's what I was thinking. Your avatar scares me
Why does it scare you? The bowl is clean. "
Come on basics...no toilet backgrounds...and that..."thing" makes me feel inadequate and clench my cheeks  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You’re obviously a total player OP, we bow down before you, basing in your reflected glory that we are in the midst of a genius with the ladies. "
I wish...sorry I'm talking to someone else brb. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You’re obviously a total player OP, we bow down before you, basing in your reflected glory that we are in the midst of a genius with the ladies.
I wish...sorry I'm talking to someone else brb."
It’s okay I’ve got a very nice curry on the go as it happens, thanks for asking. |
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"We talk to several people at one time, we find it fairly easy to maintain a few conversations. Swinging isn't about exclusivity for us.
Is that people you already know? I guess I meant when you're formulating new friendships and trying to find common ground and chemistry?
If you're not careful questions to show interest can appear generic?"
Some and some. We don't get enough interest to be chatting to half a dozen interested parties. However each conversation is unique and develops individually so questions don't become generic. If we were chatting to a couple of new acquaintances in a pub I expect it would be much the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't talk to several people at the same time. I give them my attention. Anything less would feel like a conveyor belt.
yes that's what I was thinking. Your avatar scares me
Why does it scare you? The bowl is clean. "
Is that used by you or in you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't talk to several people at the same time. I give them my attention. Anything less would feel like a conveyor belt.
yes that's what I was thinking. Your avatar scares me
Why does it scare you? The bowl is clean.
Come on basics...no toilet backgrounds...and that..."thing" makes me feel inadequate and clench my cheeks "
 Updated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I canny spread myself equally. One guy will always stand out and that's the one I concentrate on. I wish I could spread myself more evenly across a few guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Erm well... it's a swinging site. I don't want to entrap "the one" and I'm capable of having several decent conversations at once with different people just like I can in the real world |
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" That thing people do to keep others interested.
When you're talking to several people on here, and you send the odd brief message (breadcrumbs)to several people to keep them interested rather than focusing on good conversation with one or two?
Are you guilty? "
Good conversation with a select group of fab friends is my preference. Not a breadcrumb in sight !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news "
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had several conversations at once with people, just the same as I do with friends etc. I didn’t realise it was called a thing though!
I’d assume that women are doing pretty much the same thing on here though as that’s what swinging is about!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions"
A single woman looking for more than a fuck would want to hear that. A married woman who is only looking for a fuck wouldn't give a shit how many other women a guy was talking to as she would already have her significant other. |
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions
A single woman looking for more than a fuck would want to hear that. A married woman who is only looking for a fuck wouldn't give a shit how many other women a guy was talking to as she would already have her significant other. "
If you are talking to a Man you find interesting and attractive would you ignore a message or messages of other interesting/attractive Men, Keeping your options open ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions"
I think it’s 100% because they think that’s what you want to hear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions
A single woman looking for more than a fuck would want to hear that. A married woman who is only looking for a fuck wouldn't give a shit how many other women a guy was talking to as she would already have her significant other. "
If someone is looking for exclusivity then that’s fine and it takes a different route very early, but chatting is just that. |
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions"
When we belonged to another site a guy messaged us saying he was looking to meet a couple with a view to long term, repeat meets. We replied expressing an interest because we were looking to build up a circle of swinging friends to meet regularly. His next message said he wouldn't be looking anymore because he'd found the perfect couple. We responded wishing him well and thanking him for letting us know. His next message was to tell us we'd misunderstood and we were the lucky couple after just two messages . We ran away, fast. Of course he was saying what he thought we wanted to hear.
I also think some men say they want to be exclusive because bareback will be more likely to be acceptable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions
I think it’s 100% because they think that’s what you want to hear. "
A guy saying what he thinks a woman wants to hear to try and get her into bed? I’ve never heard of that! |
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions
I think it’s 100% because they think that’s what you want to hear.
A guy saying what he thinks a woman wants to hear to try and get her into bed? I’ve never heard of that! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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" That thing people do to keep others interested.
When you're talking to several people on here, and you send the odd brief message (breadcrumbs)to several people to keep them interested rather than focusing on good conversation with one or two?
Are you guilty? "
Not me but it has happened to me ..
Their loss is all i can say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I also think some men say they want to be exclusive because bareback will be more likely to be acceptable."
Yes I think you have a very valid point there. The scary thing is the amount of vulnerability some display even on the forum makes them an easy target. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions
A single woman looking for more than a fuck would want to hear that. A married woman who is only looking for a fuck wouldn't give a shit how many other women a guy was talking to as she would already have her significant other. "
Totally agree, that said, their are numerous possibilities as to why a chap could only be conversing with one lady at a time. The lady in question could be the only one to reply to his messages for instance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I talk to more than one man at a time. We have conversations about anything and everything and sex talk is minimal or not at all.
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I’m the same as you. I have a few friends I talk between here and whatsapp. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions
I think it’s 100% because they think that’s what you want to hear.
A guy saying what he thinks a woman wants to hear to try and get her into bed? I’ve never heard of that! "
Who knew, right! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I talk to more than one man at a time. We have conversations about anything and everything and sex talk is minimal or not at all.
I’m the same as you. I have a few friends I talk between here and whatsapp. "
My WhatsApp is pretty quiet usually as it's just my regular partners on there. I've had a few people on Kik recently and yet again they were only after pics and wank talk.
That's why I do my chatting on here, usually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"BREAKING:
Sometimes women chat to more than one man at a time.
I'm sure plenty of men do to. "
BREAKING:
Sometimes men chat to more than one man at a time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"BREAKING:
Sometimes women chat to more than one man at a time.
I'm sure plenty of men do to.
BREAKING:
Sometimes men chat to more than one man at a time. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"BREAKING:
Sometimes women chat to more than one man at a time.
I'm sure plenty of men do to.
BREAKING:
Sometimes men chat to more than one man at a time. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I chat to lots. Some I have met, some I might, some I probably wont. Some I talk to all day every day (poor them) some I pick up converstions with as and when. My message boxes are on fire |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any bloke who tells you they are only conversing with one ...... fake news
Is that because they think that's what women want to hear? The block button couldn't be pressed quicker if a guy said that to me! It's sad that people make assumptions
A single woman looking for more than a fuck would want to hear that. A married woman who is only looking for a fuck wouldn't give a shit how many other women a guy was talking to as she would already have her significant other.
If you are talking to a Man you find interesting and attractive would you ignore a message or messages of other interesting/attractive Men, Keeping your options open ?"
Once in a blue moon I'll find a guy that's extremely handsome and tall with a decent dick and good chat, chances of two or more turning up at the same time, are rare! One always sticks out above the rest anyway and I'm naturally drawn to the most handsome one. |
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Chance would be a fine thing ,one person showing an interest is unusual more than 1 a miracle lol but work stupid hours so cant chat sometimes depends what job I'm doing so may seem I'm not engaging in conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I talk to more than one man at a time. We have conversations about anything and everything and sex talk is minimal or not at all.
I’m the same as you. I have a few friends I talk between here and whatsapp.
My WhatsApp is pretty quiet usually as it's just my regular partners on there. I've had a few people on Kik recently and yet again they were only after pics and wank talk.
That's why I do my chatting on here, usually. "
I would never meet straight from here so I have to take the chat elsewhere and get to know them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We talk to several people at one time, we find it fairly easy to maintain a few conversations. Swinging isn't about exclusivity for us.
Is that people you already know? I guess I meant when you're formulating new friendships and trying to find common ground and chemistry?
If you're not careful questions to show interest can appear generic?"
It's easy to talk to a good few people at once. It's like taking to 5 different friends. You talk about different things and the chat goes in different directions. A conversation with one person has no impact on the next x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We talk to several people at one time, we find it fairly easy to maintain a few conversations. Swinging isn't about exclusivity for us.
Is that people you already know? I guess I meant when you're formulating new friendships and trying to find common ground and chemistry?
If you're not careful questions to show interest can appear generic?
It's easy to talk to a good few people at once. It's like taking to 5 different friends. You talk about different things and the chat goes in different directions. A conversation with one person has no impact on the next x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve the attention span of a gnat and a low boredom threshold so struggle with conversation of any size  In fact I dislike messaging generally "
I look forward to my reply! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve the attention span of a gnat and a low boredom threshold so struggle with conversation of any size In fact I dislike messaging generally
I look forward to my reply! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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In all honesty, i don't see myself as breadcrumbing per say. There are a lot I've spoken to over the years, so have a broad spectrum of people i need to juggle. I do go quiet for a bit, then get back in touch sporadically. But they already know i get easily distracted. Some days i don't even open one message, just come straight on to the forums |
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No, never on purpose, though I rarely initiate chats even with people I have spoken to before anyway, so I let them dictate the regularity. Chatting to one or two at a time is enough - more than that and I get spread too thin! If people don't keep in touch I'm afraid I lose interest.  |
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