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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What has been the most horrid thing that has been said to you by an ex.
The worst thing I've been told was actually in an email by my recent ex's mother a day after boxing day two years ago.
Let me give a bit of backstory first so you can understand. In the relationship I had with my former best friend two years ago, she and her mum had it in their heads that I was trapped in my own home and wanted me to leave my family, pack in my job and live with them in Blackpool. My ex also wanted to start a family despite being in a relationship for so many months which was way too much pressure. When Christmas came round, she decided to dump me by text and cut ties altogether.
I can't remember all of what was said in the email but what I do remember in parts of the email that stuck out to me was that it said if me and my ex were married, I would have been a crap husband and a crap father and by the time I reach 55, I will have nothing but regret for not doing anything with my life.
This really hurt and made me feel discouraged but when the new year came, I chose not to sit on my ass and do nothing as I now have been going out a few times a month being with the friends I made who helped me regain my confidence and be a happier person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got dumped by my ex saying that she was hanging up before I locked her in her house and beat her. Now I am one of the softest guys out there, and furthermore, I come from a home where domestic violence was a thing. When she hung up, I just burst into tears. I had not been so hurt by words in the eight years before that happened. She knew how much I hate domestic aggression, so no doubt she said that to cut me deep |
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"it's all your fault"
I lived with a complete control freak, whatever happened, it was always my fault, he never accepted any blame for anything, twisted everything back into me in one way or another.
I spent half my life apologising for things I knew I hadn't done.
I realised recently that, that behaviour has stayed with me.
I may have made mistakes, I wasn't the only one, but I was the only one apologising.
I'm working hard on ditching that attitude now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He once said 'i must have been really bad in another life to end up with you'
And..
'Why can't you just get cancer and die a really horrible death?'
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Omg thats awful  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"He once said 'i must have been really bad in another life to end up with you'
And..
'Why can't you just get cancer and die a really horrible death?'
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Now that is just plain nasty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t really want to reminisce about what has been said specifically but let’s just say over years it has led to a huge dent in my self esteem and confidence... (although it does take two for a marriage breakdown so the blame is not all with him) but how he ended up treating me and making me feel was and is pretty low!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last thing my ex said to me was 'I can't wait for this harrassment order to expire cos I'm going to break my way into that house and kill you both..'
The next day we packed up and left..not seen or heard from the fucker since |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first husband said in a letter " I don't want to waste another 10 years" a couple of months after he dumped me and our 3 kids for a female he had just met at the works Christmas party XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The last thing my ex said to me was 'I can't wait for this harrassment order to expire cos I'm going to break my way into that house and kill you both..'
The next day we packed up and left..not seen or heard from the fucker since"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The last thing my ex said to me was 'I can't wait for this harrassment order to expire cos I'm going to break my way into that house and kill you both..'
The next day we packed up and left..not seen or heard from the fucker since
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That was 7 yrs ago..
Finally managed to divorce him last year  |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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My ex husband was a complete plank. He was convinced I was having an affair and checked up on me all the time. I never had and never would have cheated on him. When I finally had enough of him controlling me he decided to say our 8month old son wasn't his.
He soon dropped that approach and we divorced with him still adamant I cheated. He even tells the boys thats why we divorced.
Anyway a few years ago he had beein engaged to a wonderful woman who loved our boys like her own. We get along brilliantly and the boys have a great relationship with her. The ex and her had her female friend living with them for a while and the ex had an affair with the friend which went on just over a year. Then his fiance found out and the ex left her to live with the friend. Where he still is today but he doesnt want to be with her... he and his ex fiance are seeing each other still behind the friends back!
The ex out of the blue told our eldest at Christmas that our youngest isnt his and that I had several affairs whilst married. Of course our son came to me to get the truth.
Our eldest has since said he believes his dad was probably cheating on me and thats why he accused me to hide the truth.
To be honest i suspect that too. He had made passes at two of my friends that I knew of so it wouldnt surprise me.
Why he told our22 year old though is beyond me... like I said though. The mans a plank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been very lucky and remained on good terms with my ex-girlfriends. One told me I was often selfish and inconsiderate but that was a 'teenage' relationship so fair enough, and took that one on the chin, and taken on board and lesson learnt. Nothing deeply dramatic then but she was my first love so it hurt knowing I'd hurt her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""it's all your fault"
I lived with a complete control freak, whatever happened, it was always my fault, he never accepted any blame for anything, twisted everything back into me in one way or another.
I spent half my life apologising for things I knew I hadn't done.
I realised recently that, that behaviour has stayed with me.
I may have made mistakes, I wasn't the only one, but I was the only one apologising.
I'm working hard on ditching that attitude now "
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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Oh gosh there are many, but I think the thing that showed me that we couldn’t be more different people was coming up to my 40th. He kept asking what I wanted to do and he’d been saving. As our family are all around the country we used to spend a lot of our holiday time visiting them and I said I’d really just like a holiday, could be anywhere, just me, him and the kids to have some time together.
He responded that he wasn’t wasting the money he’d saved on a family holiday Who begrudges holiday time with their own kids? That’s was incredibly hurtful as it just showed me we clearly didn’t value things in the same way.
He booked him and I a weekend in New York and then left me a month before, but still wanted to go “as friends”. I cancelled him off, changed the name on his ticket for our son and bought an additional ticket for my daughter and spent my 40th with the people who mattered |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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""it's all your fault"
I lived with a complete control freak, whatever happened, it was always my fault, he never accepted any blame for anything, twisted everything back into me in one way or another.
I spent half my life apologising for things I knew I hadn't done.
I realised recently that, that behaviour has stayed with me.
I may have made mistakes, I wasn't the only one, but I was the only one apologising.
I'm working hard on ditching that attitude now "
I lived with this this too. And I swing now from being totally no nonsense to sometimes realising I’m still letting other people’s behaviour dictate. I think it’s so ingrained in me to be the one to always try to make things right
Work in progress! |
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""it's all your fault"
I lived with a complete control freak, whatever happened, it was always my fault, he never accepted any blame for anything, twisted everything back into me in one way or another.
I spent half my life apologising for things I knew I hadn't done.
I realised recently that, that behaviour has stayed with me.
I may have made mistakes, I wasn't the only one, but I was the only one apologising.
I'm working hard on ditching that attitude now "
Yes. Constantly making you think you were in the wrong.
Apologising for everything.
Feeling like you are going mad.
Narcissistic control freaks and you don't realise until you are out of the situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I split with my ex and two weeks later i discovered i was pregnant with our second child. I told him and he was ok at the time about it, would support me etc.
Then 4 months later he got himself a new woman and told me i’d ruined his life by having kids and went on to call our unborn baby a cunt.
Normally i’d have shrugged that off as the twatty ramblings of a d*unk arsehole (cos he always nasty texted when d*unk) but at the time there were issues with the pregnancy and it was extremely stressful, and my step-dad was also seriously ill at the time and passed away a month before my youngest was born, so i found it a bit more difficult to shrug the comment off.
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Some very sad stories on this thread. I can associate a little on a couple of points already said. But you know what, I’m the bigger person than the kind of person my ex is. Unfortunately my daughters father, which is the saddest thing for me. I had hoped his venom would be contained to me only, but last autumn while I was away on business he upset my 16 year old daughter so much, that she’s not seen him since. So very sad. But all I can do is be the person I believe in and leave him to God. That’s a phrase that FTs mum used to say apparently. As a non vengeful person that’s as far I can feel and just get on with our lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thankfully I have been with the same man for almost 30 years so I don't have an ex."
How can you possibly have 30 years of history?? You look like you're 24! |
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