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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word! "

Fine addition.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word! "

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

bandwagon jumping, mob cultures on facebook groups totally boil my piss, take a look at the Alfie’s Army page on facebook as a prime example.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'Pass the popcorn' = unspoken offense

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I'm offended that you find it offense that people get offended of people getting offended.

*note this is ment to be a joke*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm offended that you find it offense that people get offended of people getting offended.

*note this is ment to be a joke*

joke recognised

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder how many people take offense at the comments of others simply because it's expected.

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"I'm offended that you find it offense that people get offended of people getting offended.

*note this is ment to be a joke*

joke recognised

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm offended that you find it offense that people get offended of people getting offended."

Appreciate this is a joke, but it's still offensive.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

Nope. It's a term thrown about by people who are upset by differing views to them. Especially if they are 'leftie' views.

For instance, someone commented on another thread about wolf whistling being a form of compliment. Someone disagreeing with that and saying it's offensive would be called a snowflake. A delicate little thing.

I equally dislike the term gammon in reference to those who are quick to anger about people taking offence lol

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"I'm offended that you find it offense that people get offended of people getting offended.

Appreciate this is a joke, but it's still offensive.

It's not ment to be thow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is all of this in the FAQs????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder how many people take offense at the comments of others simply because it's expected."

some like to start arguments, we all like a little drama....... right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm offended that you find it offense that people get offended of people getting offended.

Appreciate this is a joke, but it's still offensive.

It's not ment to be thow."

I've offended you haven't I.

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"I'm offended that you find it offense that people get offended of people getting offended.

Appreciate this is a joke, but it's still offensive.

It's not ment to be thow.

I've offended you haven't I.

Not at all.

Mor surprised that you found it offensive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

Nope. It's a term thrown about by people who are upset by differing views to them. Especially if they are 'leftie' views.

I equally dislike the term gammon in reference to those who are quick to anger about people taking offence lol "

Like Gammon. They are just trite little insults that reduce everyone and everything you disagree with.

It's the intrinsic self satisfaction I can't stand.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find this thread offensive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am offended by people who are offended by people who are offended about other people being offended.....

I think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder how many people take offense at the comments of others simply because it's expected.

some like to start arguments, we all like a little drama....... right?"

More that some people take offense because the PC brigade tell them they should be offended rather than thinking for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I wonder how many people take offense at the comments of others simply because it's expected.

some like to start arguments, we all like a little drama....... right?

More that some people take offense because the PC brigade tell them they should be offended rather than thinking for themselves."

"PC Brigade"

LOL.

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By *heangelWoman over a year ago

wonderland

So dramatic .

#flounces off #

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

Nope. It's a term thrown about by people who are upset by differing views to them. Especially if they are 'leftie' views.

I equally dislike the term gammon in reference to those who are quick to anger about people taking offence lol "

There's nuance to the word though.

Ready to melt under any duress.

It implies that the snowflake can't differentiate between important and trivial problems. It's an extension of first world problems.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m offended when people say “bless you” it sounds so patronising grrrrrrr!!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

Nope. It's a term thrown about by people who are upset by differing views to them. Especially if they are 'leftie' views.

I equally dislike the term gammon in reference to those who are quick to anger about people taking offence lol

There's nuance to the word though.

Ready to melt under any duress.

It implies that the snowflake can't differentiate between important and trivial problems. It's an extension of first world problems."

It's rarely used in that context. It's almost always used by people who frequent the bbc HYS boards to lament the dissolution of the good old days when you could call people names and not get called out for it. Also used prior to any offence bring taken 'fir fear of upsetting the snowflakes....' 'before the snowflakes start o mean no offence....'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the days of people of being scared of offending are over now and most don’t care anymore and practice free speech

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

Nope. It's a term thrown about by people who are upset by differing views to them. Especially if they are 'leftie' views.

I equally dislike the term gammon in reference to those who are quick to anger about people taking offence lol "

Gammon? Is that a typo?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The ball is in your court... the sooner you finish the sooner you can knock off!

Gaaaaaaaaaawd

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

My wife called me a ‘fucking cunt’ yesterday. I wasn’t offended.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple over a year ago

Planet Ork

Don’t take this the wrong way but.........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My wife called me a ‘fucking cunt’ yesterday. I wasn’t offended."

After a while it's water off a duck's back.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

I actually think it fashionable to be offended

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I actually think it fashionable to be offended "

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I,m offended by people who get offended by people just stating a conflicting opinion to the one the offended person stated. As the forum is for discussion and not for agreeing with everything someone else thinks

XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder how many people take offense at the comments of others simply because it's expected."

There will be loads but as the thread is about them they will be unable to post anything without being offensive

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

Nope. It's a term thrown about by people who are upset by differing views to them. Especially if they are 'leftie' views.

I equally dislike the term gammon in reference to those who are quick to anger about people taking offence lol

Gammon? Is that a typo? "

Nope. It's the new retaliation term the snowflakes use for remainers and the like. There was a very angry piece about it on the Jeremy vine radio show on radio 2

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I think the days of people of being scared of offending are over now and most don’t care anymore and practice free speech

Free speech exists without expressly offending people.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Gammon? Is that a typo?

Nope. It's the new retaliation term the snowflakes use for remainers and the like. There was a very angry piece about it on the Jeremy vine radio show on radio 2 "

Not remainers, Brexit supporters. The overweight, white, middle class males who got all red about the face during debates, and as a result resembled gammon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can post an empty thread and people get offended

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

You can't control how other people behave.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

May I add people using the term ‘white knights’?

There’s a fascinating logic at play, there. Apparently, when someone is being criticised, as many people as possible are allowed to join in that criticism without their motivations being questioned. As soon as anyone speaks up in support, they’re accused of white-knighting. Like it’s somehow a flaw to stand up for others.

(Ironically, it’s often used by people who ask how snowflakes would have got on in the war, failing to see that, by their own flawed logic, WW2 was the largest scale act of white-knighting in all history.)

It’s essentially another ad hominem argument; when unable to counter the arguments they’re faced with they will, instead, just criticise the person, and make unfounded assertions about their motivations.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

You can't control how other people behave."

Actually- you can distract them with your boobs!

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By *alking HeadMan over a year ago

Bolton

Offence is something that's taken, not given. Not much you can do about it all really. Everyone just keep schtum....everyones happy. Probably.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Gammon? Is that a typo?

Nope. It's the new retaliation term the snowflakes use for remainers and the like. There was a very angry piece about it on the Jeremy vine radio show on radio 2

Not remainers, Brexit supporters. The overweight, white, middle class males who got all red about the face during debates, and as a result resembled gammon."

There is a hashtag on Twitter ‘Gammon & Proud’

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

And to add to 'white knights' there's also 'virtue signalling', another catchphrase that gets used in lieu of any actual arguments...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

You can't control how other people behave."
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I can’t control how I behave sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Snowflake..... I fucking hate that word!

Someone said it on here the other day - I had to google it

I guess it's another irritating term for self absorbed twat

Nope. It's a term thrown about by people who are upset by differing views to them. Especially if they are 'leftie' views.

I equally dislike the term gammon in reference to those who are quick to anger about people taking offence lol

Gammon? Is that a typo?

Nope. It's the new retaliation term the snowflakes use for remainers and the like. There was a very angry piece about it on the Jeremy vine radio show on radio 2 "

I learned something new, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

You can't control how other people behave.

Actually- you can distract them with your boobs!

Go on then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

Actually I find this post offensive.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Offense isn't given, it's taken.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES, BUT WORDS WILL NEVER HURT ME!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES, BUT WORDS WILL NEVER HURT ME! "

Wow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

You can't control how other people behave.

Actually- you can distract them with your boobs!

She does this to me all the time...Mr

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

The forums in general are full of them.

I've taken a back seat from this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are sitting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Offense isn't given, it's taken.

That might be the dumbest thing I've ever read.

Well done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Offense isn't given, it's taken."

Are you saying that you cannot intentionally try and offend someone?

Becouse of semantics?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Offense isn't given, it's taken."

It's almost as if that's a trite little sentence you've heard somewhere.

Adopted it as your own way of "thinking".

And just haven't really bothered to think about how stupid it is ever since.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Offense isn't given, it's taken.

Are you saying that you cannot intentionally try and offend someone?

Becouse of semantics?"

Intention is an attack, taking offence is a matter of the individuals constitution!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Offense isn't given, it's taken.

It's almost as if that's a trite little sentence you've heard somewhere.

Adopted it as your own way of "thinking".

And just haven't really bothered to think about how stupid it is ever since.

You've really taken offence at that, haven't you!

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

If you look at any bit of legislation in relation to it, offence is something that is ‘caused’. Arguing that offence is only ‘taken’, and not intended by the originator is just a pathetic, cowardly escape clause.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Offense isn't given, it's taken.

It's almost as if that's a trite little sentence you've heard somewhere.

Adopted it as your own way of "thinking".

And just haven't really bothered to think about how stupid it is ever since.

You've really taken offence at that, haven't you!

LOL. Yes, yes I did. Apologies if my offense taking has caused any offense. It was not my intention though so it's all fine.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

"I,m offended by people who get offended by people just stating a conflicting opinion to the one the offended person stated. As the forum is for discussion and not for agreeing with everything someone else thinks

XXX"

You can't agree with everyone, you are bound to upset someone by what or how you say things. That's all part of being different, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm just offensive rather than offended. Is that OK?

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Offense isn't given, it's taken.

Are you saying that you cannot intentionally try and offend someone?

Becouse of semantics?"

Of course people try to be offensive. It could be argued that your multiple replies to my comment illustrate that point.

Whether people are offended or not is a matter of personal decision and circumstance, surely?

I'm not offended by your attempts to bait me.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Whether people are offended or not is a matter of personal decision and circumstance, surely?"

No. Nobody ‘chooses’ to be offended. It’s an involuntary reaction.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Whether people are offended or not is a matter of personal decision and circumstance, surely?

No. Nobody ‘chooses’ to be offended. It’s an involuntary reaction."

Maybe I decided to ignore "stuff" and be less bothered by things I can't change.

I realised a while ago that when I got offended by shite; the offender didn't revise their opinion.

And no matter how deeply offended I was, nothing changed, nothing happened.

So now I simply choose not to be offended. I'm taking control of my own emotions.

I'm a lot happier now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just a point of order, anyone who thinks of snowflake as a derogatory term for people easily defeated, has not seen an avalanche....

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

I think indicating that you have been ‘offended’ in forums is a strategy often designed to indicate to others that you consider yourself a better, more moral person that either the OP, the poster that has been quoted or the general tone of the thread..

The ‘white-knighting’ on this forum is almost exclusively by male posters that are ‘offended’ on behalf on any situation that highlights a difference between men and women. I imagine that the actions they take to redress this are largely only carried out in order to make them more visible to women and increase the likelihood of an approach. It’s therefore a cynical betrayal of their own viewpoint, and should be seen as offensive in its own right.

Women are equally able to defend themselves, and the general tone of the forum (as it is representative of this website) suggests they can do no wrong.

My opinion is that in most situations you should consider whether or not you have a reason to be offended, and consider what might actually be neutral statements within the context of a thread as a whole, rather than make ‘taken offense’ A surrogate for ‘didn’t agree’.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"The ‘white-knighting’ on this forum is almost exclusively by male posters that are ‘offended’ on behalf on any situation that highlights a difference between men and women."

No. People stand up for each other all of the time. You’ve just got a special term for it for one specific situation. I’m not saying it doesn’t ever happen, but the term gets bandied about in here all the time. It’s almost impossible to show support without being accused of it.

And nobody has ever said that women can’t stand up for themselves. I’d argue that every person I’ve seen on here can stand up for themselves. So, do we just stop showing support? No.

As for the rest of your post, it’s just more nonsense. It’s again this utterly baseless notion that people ‘choose’ to be offended, and do so just because they disagree with something. It’s another attempted ‘get out of jail free’ card; if you don’t believe you’ve genuinely offended someone, you can feel better about the offensive thing you said. Nah.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"The ‘white-knighting’ on this forum is almost exclusively by male posters that are ‘offended’ on behalf on any situation that highlights a difference between men and women.

And nobody has ever said that women can’t stand up for themselves. I’d argue that every person I’ve seen on here can stand up for themselves. So, do we just stop showing support? No.

I think "if you don’t believe you’ve genuinely offended someone, you can feel better about the offensive thing you said" is miss-interpreting what I said.

And I think I've already addressed the point, but I'll say it again...

Yes, people DO go out of their way to offend other people.

However, it's MY choice whether to be offended by that or not.

If I choose not to be offended it doesn't give those that set out to deliberately offend a free pass.

I've never set out to offend anyone, and if I have I'm mortified and the first to apologise.

You've put a real twist on what I actually said in your last paragraph.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I wasn’t replying to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And to add to 'white knights' there's also 'virtue signalling', another catchphrase that gets used in lieu of any actual arguments... "

You are forgetting about "literally Hitler"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are cunts!

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I wasn’t replying to you."

This is why we use reply and quote.

No offence intended.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"People are cunts!"

I’m sorry

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I wasn’t replying to you.

This is why we use reply and quote.

No offence intended.

I did use reply and quote. I was replying to the person I quoted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are cunts!

I’m sorry

No apology necessary

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Am I supposed to be offended or not? Do I need to wait until someone tells me its OK to be offended or can I make my own mind up?

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I wasn’t replying to you.

This is why we use reply and quote.

No offence intended.

I did use reply and quote. I was replying to the person I quoted."

Yup, so you did.

My bad......

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Am I supposed to be offended or not? Do I need to wait until someone tells me its OK to be offended or can I make my own mind up?

Is this a trick question?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Am I supposed to be offended or not? Do I need to wait until someone tells me its OK to be offended or can I make my own mind up?

Is this a trick question?

LOL. No but it is tongue in cheek

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Am I supposed to be offended or not? Do I need to wait until someone tells me its OK to be offended or can I make my own mind up?

Is this a trick question?

LOL. No but it is tongue in cheek

I got that.....

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Am I supposed to be offended or not? Do I need to wait until someone tells me its OK to be offended or can I make my own mind up?

Is this a trick question?

LOL. No but it is tongue in cheek

I got that.....

Yes but are you offended by it?

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Think some folks get offended if they can't fund something to be offended about.

There should be a daily Offendability report on the Forums like the pollen count.

"Today's Offendability Level is high. If you are easily offended please stay inside with the windows closed"

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Think some folks get offended if they can't fund something to be offended about.

There should be a daily Offendability report on the Forums like the pollen count.

"Today's Offendability Level is high. If you are easily offended please stay inside with the windows closed""

I think it's OK for people to feel offended by things as long as they don't expect me to always agree with their offence.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am even more offended by that thread than the thread abt being offended I just replied !!

In what world are we living in!!

Btw I love you op

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Btw I love you op "

Offend me you hairy bastard!

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Think some folks get offended if they can't fund something to be offended about."

This attitude says more about the people who have it than the people they think they’re talking about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Btw I love you op

Offend me you hairy bastard!"

Pretty sure you are hairier than me ! According to the rumour though

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Am I supposed to be offended or not? Do I need to wait until someone tells me its OK to be offended or can I make my own mind up?

Is this a trick question?

LOL. No but it is tongue in cheek

I got that.....

Yes but are you offended by it?

Hell no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Btw I love you op

Offend me you hairy bastard!

Pretty sure you are hairier than me ! According to the rumour though "

I knew you couldn't be that nice all the time. Yes, I am half Chupacabra. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Btw I love you op

Offend me you hairy bastard!

Pretty sure you are hairier than me ! According to the rumour though

I knew you couldn't be that nice all the time. Yes, I am half Chupacabra. x"

I still love you even if you were more than half

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Btw I love you op

Offend me you hairy bastard!

Pretty sure you are hairier than me ! According to the rumour though

I knew you couldn't be that nice all the time. Yes, I am half Chupacabra. x

I still love you even if you were more than half "

You to me are everything. The sweetest song that I could sing,

Oh bearded.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Btw I love you op

Offend me you hairy bastard!

Pretty sure you are hairier than me ! According to the rumour though

I knew you couldn't be that nice all the time. Yes, I am half Chupacabra. x

I still love you even if you were more than half

You to me are everything. The sweetest song that I could sing,

Oh bearded.

You've really destroyed the point of this thread with your loveliness, you know that?

Prick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Btw I love you op

Offend me you hairy bastard!

Pretty sure you are hairier than me ! According to the rumour though

I knew you couldn't be that nice all the time. Yes, I am half Chupacabra. x

I still love you even if you were more than half

You to me are everything. The sweetest song that I could sing,

Oh bearded.

You've really destroyed the point of this thread with your loveliness, you know that?

Prick."

Love when you are getting angry with me !! Grrrrr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

No matter what is said to who at whatever time. If you are offended, you have allowed yourself to be offended. You control your feelings. So if you are offended, you have allowed it yourself. Others don't control your feelings.

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice. "

Yawn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn"

Not a thinking person then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?"

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too much in my day to day life to annoy me or potentially offend me.

On here I find muttering "fuck you ya fud" to be suffice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

Nope, just bored the tits off me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too much in my day to day life to annoy me or potentially offend me.

On here I find muttering "fuck you ya fud" to be suffice."

"Ya fud" that made me laugh out loud!

haven't come across fud before. I like it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

Nope, just bored the tits off me

I care not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

Nope, just bored the tits off me

It’s not like you said something interesting in return either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too much in my day to day life to annoy me or potentially offend me.

On here I find muttering "fuck you ya fud" to be suffice.

"Ya fud" that made me laugh out loud!

haven't come across fud before. I like it! "

You've never came across a fud? You have not lived my son....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

Nope, just bored the tits off me

It’s not like you said something interesting in return either

Neither did you, Bananaman. So by your logic we’re all as guilty as each other, aren’t we

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too much in my day to day life to annoy me or potentially offend me.

On here I find muttering "fuck you ya fud" to be suffice.

"Ya fud" that made me laugh out loud!

haven't come across fud before. I like it!

You've never came across a fud? You have not lived my son....

I recall years ago maybe fud referring to a cunt. Is that it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice. "

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

Nope, just bored the tits off me

It’s not like you said something interesting in return either

Neither did you, Bananaman. So by your logic we’re all as guilty as each other, aren’t we

Can Banana and I come and give you a pounding now that's out of the way?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

Nope, just bored the tits off me

It’s not like you said something interesting in return either

Neither did you, Bananaman. So by your logic we’re all as guilty as each other, aren’t we

I did actually, speak for yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Yawn

Not a thinking person then?

People are siting on the edge of their seats waiting to be offended & when you tell them they say Yawn

At least i didn't 'offend' her.

Nope, just bored the tits off me

It’s not like you said something interesting in return either

Neither did you, Bananaman. So by your logic we’re all as guilty as each other, aren’t we

I did actually, speak for yourself

Oh, I must have missed it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

Yeah it’s an exclusive club, we can’t join in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

People sonetimes read things to learn.

It can mean avoiding posting the same trite nonsesnse over and over. Otherwise they get called boring idiots.

I'm the OP since you asked. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too much in my day to day life to annoy me or potentially offend me.

On here I find muttering "fuck you ya fud" to be suffice.

"Ya fud" that made me laugh out loud!

haven't come across fud before. I like it!

You've never came across a fud? You have not lived my son....

I recall years ago maybe fud referring to a cunt. Is that it?

Yep..... very well deduced...ya fuckin fud!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

Yeah it’s an exclusive club, we can’t join in

What? Did you enquire with the membership secretary?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too much in my day to day life to annoy me or potentially offend me.

On here I find muttering "fuck you ya fud" to be suffice.

"Ya fud" that made me laugh out loud!

haven't come across fud before. I like it!

You've never came across a fud? You have not lived my son....

I recall years ago maybe fud referring to a cunt. Is that it?

Yep..... very well deduced...ya fuckin fud!

Stop! Too funny!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

People sonetimes read things to learn.

It can mean avoiding posting the same trite nonsesnse over and over. Otherwise they get called boring idiots.

I'm the OP since you asked. x"

Not learning anything from you with spelling like that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

People sonetimes read things to learn.

It can mean avoiding posting the same trite nonsesnse over and over. Otherwise they get called boring idiots.

I'm the OP since you asked. x

Not learning anything from you with spelling like that!

I am dyslexic.

Only word I can really spell.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

People sonetimes read things to learn.

It can mean avoiding posting the same trite nonsesnse over and over. Otherwise they get called boring idiots.

I'm the OP since you asked. x

Not learning anything from you with spelling like that!

I am dyslexic.

Only word I can really spell.

Just broken your own record then. You should tell the family and....friends?

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

People sonetimes read things to learn.

It can mean avoiding posting the same trite nonsesnse over and over. Otherwise they get called boring idiots.

I'm the OP since you asked. x

Not learning anything from you with spelling like that!

I am dyslexic.

Only word I can really spell.

Just broken your own record then. You should tell the family and....friends?

Takes a big person to take the piss out of learning difficulties fair play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where are you going with that one?

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"You control your feelings."

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions."

What’s wrong with you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

Yeah it’s an exclusive club, we can’t join in

What? Did you enquire with the membership secretary?"

Yes, if you fail the basic don’t be a dick test you can’t join

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

How very dare they

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

What’s wrong with you?"

What’s wrong with you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

Yeah it’s an exclusive club, we can’t join in

What? Did you enquire with the membership secretary?

Yes, if you fail the basic don’t be a dick test you can’t join

You’d be straight in then, as you’re a dick every day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

Yeah it’s an exclusive club, we can’t join in

What? Did you enquire with the membership secretary?

Yes, if you fail the basic don’t be a dick test you can’t join

Boooooo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

What’s wrong with you?

What’s wrong with you?"

Echo.....echo.....echo.....echo....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

Yeah it’s an exclusive club, we can’t join in

What? Did you enquire with the membership secretary?

Yes, if you fail the basic don’t be a dick test you can’t join

You’d be straight in then, as you’re a dick every day

Takes one to know one! Yeeeeoooo!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody and his dog is offended by something these days. It's a load of f*cking balls!

So take hold of yourself and start controlling yourself and your emotions. Choose not to be offended. You have that choice.

Please see my earlier rant as to why you are a fucking idiot.

Why would i care about your rant? Who are you anyway?

He’s the well known f**ki** idiot

Ahhhh, in idiots circles i take it!

Yeah it’s an exclusive club, we can’t join in

What? Did you enquire with the membership secretary?

Yes, if you fail the basic don’t be a dick test you can’t join

You’d be straight in then, as you’re a dick every day

Good to have a confirmation from the head of the club

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By *ookingforlustMan over a year ago

northants

I’m far too fat skinned to be offended.

I can do faux offendedness if that’s ok?

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

When I was younger I would take offence at anything derogatory that people said to or about me . I would often stick up for my mates if people were rude or insulted them too .

Then I grew up and realised that my faux offence was a load of bollocks . People find it bloody hard to insult someone who doesn’t give a shit .

That was forty odd years ago , and my life hasn’t been plagued by being offended since . So much better than allowing someone to enter my inner self with offending comments . Yes they can make the comments , but they don’t offend me .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I was younger I would take offence at anything derogatory that people said to or about me . I would often stick up for my mates if people were rude or insulted them too .

Then I grew up and realised that my faux offence was a load of bollocks . People find it bloody hard to insult someone who doesn’t give a shit .

Cool story bro

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m far too fat skinned to be offended.

I can do faux offendedness if that’s ok?"

Can't believe you are going to fake it. That's offensive!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I was younger I would take offence at anything derogatory that people said to or about me . I would often stick up for my mates if people were rude or insulted them too .

Then I grew up and realised that my faux offence was a load of bollocks . People find it bloody hard to insult someone who doesn’t give a shit .

Would you say you are in control of those feelings then?

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By *ookingforlustMan over a year ago

northants

"I’m far too fat skinned to be offended.

I can do faux offendedness if that’s ok?

Can't believe you are going to fake it. That's offensive!!

I’m offended!!!!

Or am I........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I say Bacon is overrated, people will be offended

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"If I say Bacon is overrated, people will be offended

How very dare you it's the food of the gods

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"When I was younger I would take offence at anything derogatory that people said to or about me . I would often stick up for my mates if people were rude or insulted them too .

Then I grew up and realised that my faux offence was a load of bollocks . People find it bloody hard to insult someone who doesn’t give a shit .

Would you say you are in control of those feelings then?"

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I say Bacon is overrated, people will be offended

How very dare you it's the food of the gods

It’s processed food

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I say Bacon is overrated, people will be offended

How very dare you it's the food of the gods

It’s processed food

Ahhh... thought you were talking about Kevin!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I was younger I would take offence at anything derogatory that people said to or about me . I would often stick up for my mates if people were rude or insulted them too .

Then I grew up and realised that my faux offence was a load of bollocks . People find it bloody hard to insult someone who doesn’t give a shit .

Would you say you are in control of those feelings then?

Yep

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions."

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"If I say Bacon is overrated, people will be offended

How very dare you it's the food of the gods

It’s processed food

Ahhh... thought you were talking about Kevin!"

Now that I'll agree with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I say Bacon is overrated, people will be offended

How very dare you it's the food of the gods

It’s processed food

Ahhh... thought you were talking about Kevin!

Now that I'll agree with

The bacon must be flying!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"I actually think it fashionable to be offended "

It's certainly fadhionable to think it's fashionable to be offended.

Somebody will always make the point that 'it's fashionable to be offended' in this debate.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

You can't control how other people behave."

I can.

Look into the eyes. Not around the eyes. Look into the eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find the offense that people take from other people being offended, offensive.

There are so many dumb comments from people on this I thought we'd need another thread to store them all.

I'll start by adding "You can't say nothing anymore". To the list of idiotic and utterly tiresome received wisdoms.

Please respond with pretty much anything you can. As you can actually say pretty much what you like.

You can't control how other people behave.

I can.

Look into the eyes. Not around the eyes. Look into the eyes."

That is complete nonse.......oh, i'm getting tired

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively. "

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset? "

It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset?

It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one. "

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively. "

Your emotions are involuntary responses. You don’t hear news of a loved one dying and think, “I’ll be sad about that.” You don’t sit on a night out with friends and think, “Of the range of emotional responses to this, I think I’ll pick ‘happy’.” You don’t see someone kissing that girl you liked and think, “Hmmm, I wonder if I’ll go for ‘enthusiastic’ or ‘jealous’.”

Yes, you can pick what you do about that emotion you feel. You can choose whether to wallow in the sadness, build on the happiness, or challenge the jealousy. But you cannot choose your initial involuntary reaction to it.

Even then, you do not simply ‘choose’ to change your emotion. You choose to take voluntary, conscious actions to which you know you will have the desired emotional response. And, again, none of that changes your initial emotional response.

It’s a fairly glaring omission from a subject you have studied ‘extensively’.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one. "

Being offended is an emotional response to external stimulae, exactly the same as the other examples.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset?

It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one. "

Look at what I was replying to, it generally helps to follow a conversation.

But in any case,'taking offence' is a reaction to external events in exactly the same way. All people like you are doing is assuming that because you don't care about the offending event, no one else can or should.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset? "

You're confusing anger and a desire for retaliation with offense.

Your confusing heartbreak with offense.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one.

Being offended is an emotional response to external stimulae, exactly the same as the other examples."

It's not exactly the same at all .

If someone physically assaults me I don't see that the same as someone calling me a boss eyed short arse . Or a bald headed twat .

A relative dying again is not offensive either. It's sad and that's not something to be offended by .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one.

Being offended is an emotional response to external stimulae, exactly the same as the other examples.

It's not exactly the same at all .

If someone physically assaults me I don't see that the same as someone calling me a boss eyed short arse . Or a bald headed twat .

A relative dying again is not offensive either. It's sad and that's not something to be offended by ."

Are you bald?

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"It's not exactly the same at all .

If someone physically assaults me I don't see that the same as someone calling me a boss eyed short arse . Or a bald headed twat .

A relative dying again is not offensive either. It's sad and that's not something to be offended by ."

Oh, crikey, you really don’t get it at all, do you? Nobody is saying that a relative dying is offensive. I mean, you’re not even close to grasping this.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

It’s a fairly glaring omission from a subject you have studied ‘extensively’."

You hit the nail on the head.

"Yes, you can pick what you do about that emotion you feel."

And then completely ignored it.

You made my point really well.

I'll choose to ignore your sarcasm and another attempt to bait me.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one.

Being offended is an emotional response to external stimulae, exactly the same as the other examples.

It's not exactly the same at all .

If someone physically assaults me I don't see that the same as someone calling me a boss eyed short arse . Or a bald headed twat .

A relative dying again is not offensive either. It's sad and that's not something to be offended by .

Are you bald?"

Someone called a four eyed bald headed wanker once. A friend asked how I put up with crap like that. My friend was deeply offended on my behalf.

I said I am four eyed, I am bald and before I came out tonight I cracked one out.

I could have been offended. But why get offended about a very accurate assessment.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset?

You're confusing anger and a desire for retaliation with offense.

Your confusing heartbreak with offense."

I'm not. You made a claim that emotions only come from within. You're wrong.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"You hit the nail on the head.

"Yes, you can pick what you do about that emotion you feel."

And then completely ignored it.

You made my point really well.

I'll choose to ignore your sarcasm and another attempt to bait me."

I haven’t completely ignored it. I’ve pointed out why you’re still not choosing your emotional response.

Do I take it that you concede, then, that nobody chooses to be offended, and that what you actually take issue with is people voicing that reaction?

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

I could have been offended. But why get offended about a very accurate assessment.

I don't think you know what the word 'offended' means. You couldn't have 'chosen' to be offended. You couldn't have summoned up feelings of anger and resentment that didn't exist.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset?

You're confusing anger and a desire for retaliation with offense.

Your confusing heartbreak with offense.

I'm not. You made a claim that emotions only come from within. You're wrong. "

I didn't claim that at all.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"You're confusing anger and a desire for retaliation with offense.

Your confusing heartbreak with offense."

Fuck me, here we go again. Why is it so hard for you to understand that we’re citing other examples of emotional responses, not ‘things which offend us’? I mean, relating to examples is a basic building block of conversation, and some of you are having remarkable difficulty with it.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset?

You're confusing anger and a desire for retaliation with offense.

Your confusing heartbreak with offense.

I'm not. You made a claim that emotions only come from within. You're wrong.

I didn't claim that at all.

"Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?"

If that's not what you meant, you should write more carefully.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"It's not exactly the same at all .

If someone physically assaults me I don't see that the same as someone calling me a boss eyed short arse . Or a bald headed twat .

A relative dying again is not offensive either. It's sad and that's not something to be offended by .

Oh, crikey, you really don’t get it at all, do you? Nobody is saying that a relative dying is offensive. I mean, you’re not even close to grasping this."

It's not me that's not getting it.

The thread is about being offended .

I didn't suggest a dying relative or a smack in the mouth were relative to the thread because they're not .

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I could have been offended. But why get offended about a very accurate assessment.

I don't think you know what the word 'offended' means. You couldn't have 'chosen' to be offended. You couldn't have summoned up feelings of anger and resentment that didn't exist.

This whole topic is about taking offense.

Of course I can choose whether I'm offended by something or not.

They're my emotions, no one else's.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hahaha fuckin forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You control your feelings.

Congratulations on failing to have even a basic understanding of emotions.

Who else but oneself controls ones emotions? Who else controls how one reacts to outside influences?

I'm genuinely interested in your take on this, it's an area I've studied extensively.

So if someone walks up to you and punches you, you'd carefully consider and decide whether or not to get angry about it?

If a loved one tells you they're dying, you can control yourself so you don't get upset?

It's to do with taking offense. Not physical assault or accepting death of a loved one.

Look at what I was replying to, it generally helps to follow a conversation.

You look back. It was my conversation

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"It's not me that's not getting it.

The thread is about being offended .

I didn't suggest a dying relative or a smack in the mouth were relative to the thread because they're not . "

I can’t believe I’m having to spell this out. Yes, the thread is about offence. Being offended is an emotional response to an external event. Some of us listed different emotional responses to different external events to illustrate our point. Nobody, not one person, is saying that a relative dying is something that you would be offended by.

"This whole topic is about taking offense.

Of course I can choose whether I'm offended by something or not.

They're my emotions, no one else's. "

And in saying that, all you have done is proven that you don’t know the first thing about a subject you claim to have studied ‘extensively’. Emotions are involuntary responses to external stimulae. That’s not up for debate. It’s just a fact.

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