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Talking about 'sexploits' with people you meet

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have been meeting a man and everything was going so so well until he talks about his meets. I have no feelings for him other than the fact I think he is a really lovely person and I enjoy his company. I don't think I want to see him again now and I can't help but wish things were different and that he hadn't have. I don't know why it has put me off him though, shouldn't bother me but I just think differently about him now. So yes or no to sharing? Should I pull my bbw knickers and chill my bean or does anyone understand this? Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been meeting a man and everything was going so so well until he talks about his meets. I have no feelings for him other than the fact I think he is a really lovely person and I enjoy his company. I don't think I want to see him again now and I can't help but wish things were different and that he hadn't have. I don't know why it has put me off him though, shouldn't bother me but I just think differently about him now. So yes or no to sharing? Should I pull my bbw knickers and chill my bean or does anyone understand this? Xxx "

I know what you mean, for one I don’t really want to hear about his other exploits while he’s in my bed, and two it would make me wonder what he’s saying about me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm, difficult one. At the end of the day, don’t do anything that you’re not comfortable with. If you have the slightest doubt, don’t do it, in case you regret it. Imagine how awkward it would be to have him deep in your mouth and the you feeling physically sick at the thought of it, that isn’t going to be ideal for you, or him!!! Maybe be honest with him, was there something in particular that he did that you didn’t like? Can that be put behind you? Or, maybe just say you’re tied up for a while and can’t meet, until you’ve chatted some more, and see if this passes before making a decision? Just remember to put you first babe, and don’t do anything you’ll regret! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It can turn me on a little bit when a guy talks about fucking his last meet. Although, I think if he constantly spoke about it, I’d maybe have to shut him up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It can turn me on a little bit when a guy talks about fucking his last meet. Although, I think if he constantly spoke about it, I’d maybe have to shut him up!"

And how would you shut him up?

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

While you're with him, you should be his focus. Just tell him to stop doing it!

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I’m not keen on talking or hearing about other meets during a meet. I know what the site is for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It may just be his way of being intimate with you; pillow talk is a thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Discretion is the key

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it’s a bit bad form to talk about any previous women/man with a current one.

Insensitive.

If they were so amazing go back to them is what i tend to think, don’t sing their praises to me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would just be nice to have the meets to not talk about.

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By *ddibleMan over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

All depends. If the woman openly talks about her past meets and asks you questions then yes it's fine. But usually live by the rule that a gentleman never kisses and tells

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it’s a bit bad form to talk about any previous women/man with a current one.

Insensitive.

If they were so amazing go back to them is what i tend to think, don’t sing their praises to me!"

Exactly This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ohhh - big alarm signals for me!

I always think that if someone will talk to me about other people they have met, no matter how guardedly - then next week they'll be telling someone else all about me...!!!

Time to call things to a halt and leave...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had this happen a couple of years ago

It made me think hmmm if he is here telling me about meets with other people he has met, I bet when he is at another meet he is telling them about us

For me that was really off putting as in all fairness I'm all about being discreet

So I told him I didn't want to continue seeing him

It pissed him off but as I pointed out it was all his doing

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By *ddibleMan over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

"Ohhh - big alarm signals for me!

I always think that if someone will talk to me about other people they have met, no matter how guardedly - then next week they'll be telling someone else all about me...!!!

Time to call things to a halt and leave...

I doubt anyone would name and shame. I assume it's the activities they talk about???

Well I hope that's the case????

You've got me paranoid now!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We both talk about our other meets (with no names mentioned)

He and I both enjoy hearing about the things we've tried and enjoyed. Sharing experiences definitely adds to our fun.

If either of us was unhappy about this, I’m sure we’d both agree to stop talking about others.

I can understand why some don’t like it but it suits me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like hearing people’s stories, bit of a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know what you mean, for one I don’t really want to hear about his other exploits while he’s in my bed, and two it would make me wonder what he’s saying about me"

This

Maybe he has no self confidence and he thinks talking about other people he's fucked makes him feel less of a loser.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it’s a bit bad form to talk about any previous women/man with a current one.

Insensitive.

If they were so amazing go back to them is what i tend to think, don’t sing their praises to me!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hmmm, difficult one. At the end of the day, don’t do anything that you’re not comfortable with. If you have the slightest doubt, don’t do it, in case you regret it. Imagine how awkward it would be to have him deep in your mouth and the you feeling physically sick at the thought of it, that isn’t going to be ideal for you, or him!!! Maybe be honest with him, was there something in particular that he did that you didn’t like? Can that be put behind you? Or, maybe just say you’re tied up for a while and can’t meet, until you’ve chatted some more, and see if this passes before making a decision? Just remember to put you first babe, and don’t do anything you’ll regret! Xx"

Thank you, everything he does is good. He is a really nice person so much so he has a girl to go to most nights, all friends with benefits because he treats them nice. Do I want to be part of his group of go to girls? I am just not desperate for company that I would drop things for a nice night with him. It was going so well though until he over shared xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's kind of an icebreaker to ask about previous meets but the most odd ones or bad experiences. I expect I would be an interesting story for some guys future meets!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say he might be hinting of trying a threesome with you and some of his previous meets.

If he is a nice guy , why chuck him away?

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By *andonmessMan over a year ago

A world all of his own

I wouldn't do it purely because I wouldn't feel comfortable speaking about a previous meet, let alone whether the other person wants to hear it!

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I think it depends on the content of what he's telling you and if there's a point to it.

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