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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A lady I work with is on here but she doesnt know i am.The young lads in the office have found out she's a swinger not from me and gossip about her.Should I message her and tell her their talking about her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady I work with is on here but she doesnt know i am.The young lads in the office have found out she's a swinger not from me and gossip about her.Should I message her and tell her their talking about her? "
Tough one indeed, is one of them on the site and found out she is? It is always a chance that you will get found out as they say it's a small world. Might be worth mentioning it to her not really sure. I work with a girl who is on here, gotta admit her pictures are awesome and they are great to look at but I would never tell her probably because I'm to polite... But if I did maybe we could strike up a swinging partnership... If only I had a crystal ball.. |
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"Why not speak to her in person? "
Discretion? Maybe she doesn’t want people to know about her private life, just think about how would you feel if a guy in your workplace confronted you about your swinging lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is her profile easily identifiable ? Yes face pic on profile"
Please don’t say a word to her....
Anything you say to her can be construed as sexual harassment and your boss will know you’re browsing swingers sites at work..
Don’t lose your job over non sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not speak to her in person?
Discretion? Maybe she doesn’t want people to know about her private life, just think about how would you feel if a guy in your workplace confronted you about your swinging lifestyle"
Erm.....I think you've missed the point? Her face is on show on her profile so I assume she's ok with being seen. He's not "confronting" her about her swinging lifestyle, he's asking if he should let her know her colleagues are talking about her.
For me I'd rather someone spoke to me discreetly in person than sent me a message on here. It shows they are being sensitive and genuine. |
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OP I’d just leave it. What is there to confront.
- hey colleague your photo is on a profile on fab swingers
- yes I know, I put it there 
Sites like Fab are open to guys using as fantasy and titilation. If you overt enough to show your face, you’ve got to accept that. |
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Me personally, I would stay well clear and mind my own business. Her face is public.. and for a reason.. perhaps she is getting the attention she wants... who knows but ultumatley it would not be any of my business. No joy here playing the hero here fella
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Me personally, I would stay well clear and mind my own business. Her face is public.. and for a reason.. perhaps she is getting the attention she wants... who knows but ultumatley it would not be any of my business. No joy here playing the hero here fella
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think your right going to leave it alone.just wanted her to know people are talking but guess she will find that out soon enough |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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It would depend on my friendship with her. If she is just somebody who works in the same place Id just block her so she cant find me. But if we were quite friendly, chatted over lunch, took breaks together, would socialise with her etc. I would have to have a word with the colleagues gossiping. Its none of their business what she does in her own time! Id probably gently ask her if she is aware of the gossip too. She may be ok with it but also could be mortified so do be tactful and do it face to face quietly not on here.
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could always mention to the ones talking about her that you think its un proffesional and un called for to talk about people behind there back?
If thats wjat makes you uncomfortable about this then she remains unaware you know she is on here? Just an diffrent idea to speaking to her though  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You could always mention to the ones talking about her that you think its un proffesional and un called for to talk about people behind there back?
If thats wjat makes you uncomfortable about this then she remains unaware you know she is on here? Just an diffrent idea to speaking to her though "
Most of the office knows have defended her to a few no doubt she will find out they know after a few comments towards her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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difficult one, I agree with all the points made above.
my worry would be.
what if she besides that you started all the gossip as she now knows that you are on here.
caution is the watch word, many shot messengers line the path to salvation.
At best.
write her an anonymous note and pop it on her desk etc ? |
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OP I would be more inclined to confront the assholes who think it's ok to discuss her private life in the office.
It's nobody's business what she chooses to do in her spare time and they should leave her alone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mail her on here but don't say who you are. She might blame you for being the one telling everyone.
Some people have public face pics because they wrongly assume that all swingers are discreet. |
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"Mail her on here but don't say who you are. She might blame you for being the one telling everyone.
Some people have public face pics because they wrongly assume that all swingers are discreet. "
They also don't realise that if you don't adjust your setting the entire interweb can see their face on Fab, not just members. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mail her on here but don't say who you are. She might blame you for being the one telling everyone.
Some people have public face pics because they wrongly assume that all swingers are discreet.
They also don't realise that if you don't adjust your setting the entire interweb can see their face on Fab, not just members."
They can see the profile text but the pics are pixelated. Doesn't really matter because it's easy enough to set up a profile. |
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"Mail her on here but don't say who you are. She might blame you for being the one telling everyone.
Some people have public face pics because they wrongly assume that all swingers are discreet.
They also don't realise that if you don't adjust your setting the entire interweb can see their face on Fab, not just members.
They can see the profile text but the pics are pixelated. Doesn't really matter because it's easy enough to set up a profile. "
I thought you had to adjust your settings to make the pictures pixelated.
Every days a school day.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just out of interest and it might have been covered but how was she uncovered as a swinger and how did someone find out she was on here?
Geeky x"
I heard it from the young lads at the coffee machine can only guess one of them went on fab looking for fun and saw her profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP I would be more inclined to confront the assholes who think it's ok to discuss her private life in the office.
It's nobody's business what she chooses to do in her spare time and they should leave her alone "
totally agree with you bet they wouldn't be that bothered if they found out I was on here.fucking double standards |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just out of interest and it might have been covered but how was she uncovered as a swinger and how did someone find out she was on here?
Geeky x I heard it from the young lads at the coffee machine can only guess one of them went on fab looking for fun and saw her profile "
if a young lad was on here looking for laughs or a shag he still signed up there for he is also ‘a swinger’. Why is he not being spoken about? Because he is a man. She obviously is quite open with the fact she is a swinger as are we our face pics are clear as day and if anyone approaches me about it I wouldn’t be bothered about it because I didn’t hide my face and it shows the other person was also on the site in the first place to find me lol.
Speak to her about it but I’m sure she’s fine x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just out of interest and it might have been covered but how was she uncovered as a swinger and how did someone find out she was on here?
Geeky x I heard it from the young lads at the coffee machine can only guess one of them went on fab looking for fun and saw her profile
if a young lad was on here looking for laughs or a shag he still signed up there for he is also ‘a swinger’. Why is he not being spoken about? Because he is a man. She obviously is quite open with the fact she is a swinger as are we our face pics are clear as day and if anyone approaches me about it I wouldn’t be bothered about it because I didn’t hide my face and it shows the other person was also on the site in the first place to find me lol.
Speak to her about it but I’m sure she’s fine x"
will think about it |
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How is the fact that you are on here - and know that she is - in any way relevant? Why does that have to be a factor in the situation?
It boils down to, “Some colleagues are gossiping about another colleague. Should I tell the colleague?” The answer is the same as how you would deal with it any other piece of office gossip. Do you know her well enough to bring it up with her? Is it your place to do so?
As it stands, it sounds like you're itching for an excuse to let her know that you’re on here too. That’s a totally unrelated matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just out of interest and it might have been covered but how was she uncovered as a swinger and how did someone find out she was on here?
Geeky x I heard it from the young lads at the coffee machine can only guess one of them went on fab looking for fun and saw her profile
if a young lad was on here looking for laughs or a shag he still signed up there for he is also ‘a swinger’. Why is he not being spoken about? Because he is a man. She obviously is quite open with the fact she is a swinger as are we our face pics are clear as day and if anyone approaches me about it I wouldn’t be bothered about it because I didn’t hide my face and it shows the other person was also on the site in the first place to find me lol.
Speak to her about it but I’m sure she’s fine x will think about it "
We got noticed by a person I used to call friend and he messaged us on here I was polite back said hi then after a while blocked him because I know he’s the kind of person to gossip with the group of friends I used to be a member of
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why not speak to her in person? "
I worked in a place once and recognised someone from here and she recognised me too. There was that initial awkward look of 'oh hello'.
When all was quiet we just chatted as normal and she would say about the clubs she was going to at the weekend etc. Wasn't awkward at all.
We both just appreciated that we were part of a 'secret society' and respected each others discretion about it.
Depends on the person and if she will get embarrassed or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lady I work with is on here but she doesnt know i am.The young lads in the office have found out she's a swinger not from me and gossip about her.Should I message her and tell her their talking about her? "
Mind your own business. If you must tell somebody something then tell the young lads to grow up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had a guy from my workplace message me to say he recognised me from work and he went on to want a reward - it went from creepy to block quite quickly.
I've also had people approach me in another job and even on the school run, all are blocked.
I don't mix fab with day to day work/family life and anyone that tries to isn't the sort of person I would ever meet.
Personally I'd leave well alone, you're unlikely to come off as the knight in shining armour. |
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"Is her profile easily identifiable ? Yes face pic on profile
Please don’t say a word to her....
Anything you say to her can be construed as sexual harassment and your boss will know you’re browsing swingers sites at work..
Don’t lose your job over non sense "
How on earth do you know that the OP is browsing swingers sites at work ? That isn't what he said. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I had a guy from my workplace message me to say he recognised me from work and he went on to want a reward - it went from creepy to block quite quickly.
I've also had people approach me in another job and even on the school run, all are blocked.
I don't mix fab with day to day work/family life and anyone that tries to isn't the sort of person I would ever meet.
Personally I'd leave well alone, you're unlikely to come off as the knight in shining armour. "
I'm going to follow your advice.she knows they know anyway I guess.i ain't saying nothing |
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"OP I would be more inclined to confront the assholes who think it's ok to discuss her private life in the office.
It's nobody's business what she chooses to do in her spare time and they should leave her alone totally agree with you bet they wouldn't be that bothered if they found out I was on here.fucking double standards "
Men single or in a relationship can go out looking for sex, Its what we do, Pulled at the weekend, Get in lad, Split up with gf, Go out and fill your boots,
A Woman doing something similar is just dirty, Easy, A slapper etc,
Its the way we have all been brought up and I can't see if ever changing, Even with the youth of today being more out going Women will still get a reputation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the young girls of today really don't care what that type of male thinks or believes.
maybe you have missed that ?
Sensible girls of the 21st century see right through that controlling man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would just stay out of it, she may shoot the messenger. She may also know that they know and she isn't bothered.
I'm assuming she is a grown woman and can fight her own battles if needs be. |
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