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How do you explain your fab life to your nearest and dearest?
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I don’t openly tell people I’m on here- but obviously I have public photos and won’t hide away from my life choices.
My two best friends I think have some inkling I’m on here. They don’t talk about it and aren’t very open to the idea of it but I feel like they don’t judge me for it if they do know- more banter?
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over a year ago
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Those who we are closest to know. We want to be ourselves with them- so share all our truthes and this is one of them.
We wish it could be the same for everyone but sadly it’s not- as gossips create horrid rumours and I’d rather just not deal with them |
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over a year ago
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I don't shout it from the rooftops but I have nothing to hide. When I say that I am knackered from a night out my work colleagues (who don't have a clue what the lifestyle is really like) will ask if it is was an 'Alternative Club' that I had been at and I answer honestly.
I would have no problem with telling my family if it was required, so long as I am safe and well they wouldn't have an opinion on it. All of my friends are on here anyway so there is no conflict there.
I am aware that people have their reasons, but in my mind if you are embarrassed to be something then you got no business being it in the first place. Own it, take control of it, and all the power is yours and nobody can harm you.
Just my 2 cents worth. |
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All my friends are well aware. A couple have asked to go to a club. The ones that frustrate me are the ones that think you’ll ‘try it on’ with them automatically as you ‘shag everyone’ but then I have friends that think that I will try it on with them because of my sexuality... like I have no limits/decisions |
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We are very open about it as we aren't embarrassed about how we wish to live our lives.
Phil meets women from here socially in cafes and pubs locally so its just as well we dont try and keep it secret 
When I first told my very prudish and naive best friend many years ago about me going to swingers clubs, she thought I was winding her up  as she didn't know such places existed  |
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We don't tell anyone at all , This is our private life and we keep it that way . We wouldn't be too bothered if we didn't have kids but I would dread to think of stick they would get if thier mates ever found out so that's the only reason really .
We have a feeling my cousin might have an idea as one of her best friends is on here and we have spoke with a view to meet ( before we realised who she was ) but pretty sure she wouldn't tell the world though. ,so unless she asks we won't be saying anything either . Xx |
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"We don't tell anyone at all , This is our private life and we keep it that way . We wouldn't be too bothered if we didn't have kids but I would dread to think of stick they would get if thier mates ever found out so that's the only reason really .
We have a feeling my cousin might have an idea as one of her best friends is on here and we have spoke with a view to meet ( before we realised who she was ) but pretty sure she wouldn't tell the world though. ,so unless she asks we won't be saying anything either . Xx "
She had better not tell anyone! That’d be a right twats trick! Xx |
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"We don't tell anyone at all , This is our private life and we keep it that way . We wouldn't be too bothered if we didn't have kids but I would dread to think of stick they would get if thier mates ever found out so that's the only reason really .
We have a feeling my cousin might have an idea as one of her best friends is on here and we have spoke with a view to meet ( before we realised who she was ) but pretty sure she wouldn't tell the world though. ,so unless she asks we won't be saying anything either . Xx
She had better not tell anyone! That’d be a right twats trick! Xx"
We are quite close so I know she wouldn't just tell anyone but my fear is ,she tells her mum everything even about her own sex life and conquests lol ....so if anyone it would be her. But then her mum is close to mine so she may tell mine . Although my mum is very open minded and takes most things as a joke I think she would be pretty shocked haha . Xx
Mrs xx |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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None of our nearest and dearest have a clue (I hope) and thats how we keep it.
When people ask how we 1st met, as they do, we tell them it was over a cup of tea in Sainsburys... which is the truth... only we say we were on adjacent tables and just got chatting and hit it off. (This is not beyond the relms of possibility as Im known to chat to anyone!) They dont need to know he popped up on my local updates with a status of "Im bored, what to do?" or that id arranged to meet him from a swingers sex site. |
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I told my parents only because I was viewed by a couple who were my ex husband & the woman he left me for. I wanted them to find out from me in case he tried to use it against me.
I told my closest friends for safety reasons.
They know I met Frank “online”. No one knows about our couples profile.
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"All my friends are well aware. A couple have asked to go to a club. The ones that frustrate me are the ones that think you’ll ‘try it on’ with them automatically as you ‘shag everyone’ but then I have friends that think that I will try it on with them because of my sexuality... like I have no limits/decisions "
Go on, they know you want to really. Lol |
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I come from a liberal background so nothing would shock my family. My close friends and family know enough to know that I’m more adventurous than the average person. They don’t judge so I’m lucky. |
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I keep it private. I've been on and off fab now for a few years. I've told some people who have a more open mind, but some people just wouldn't understand. So I prefer the mystery that surrounds me. |
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I don't openly discuss swinging and fab with most of my friends and family but some may have an inkling.
There are 3 people who I will chat with it about. One is my best mate and we chat about everything. The other 2 are my sister and her husband but they are swingers who met via fab |
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I would love to tell one of my best friends just to see her reaction to it all but don't think she would understand .
Love her to bits but she really needs to open her eyes to the world . I took her to Ann summers the other week and she was like a school kid trying to take pictures of things secretly to show her fella as she had never been in there before lol ....if only she knew  Xx
Mrs xx |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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I don't go starting conversations on it as people might not actually want to know, but if we happen to be talking about the subject then I have nothing to hide. I'm not embarrassed about enjoying sex, and I'm not embarrassed about using a website to find people to have sex with.
It's just another form of communication, one that I'm more comfortable with than going out into a town I don't like, to meet the kind of people I have no interest in as I don't like going to pubs and bars and wasting money on over priced drinks and being overwhelmed by all the sights, sounds and smells, just to meet complete strangers for sex.
I'd rather stay in the comfort of my own home, talk to guys I want to talk to, read their verifications, and have time to think through questions to ask and the answers I'm given.
If people have a problem with that then the simple answer is, well don't do it yourself then. |
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We have family members on here. An when we found out it was a little bit omg.
But now. We have no qualms about it whatsoever. It’s about realising. It’s consenting adults enjoying life.
We think it’s a shame swinging in the public eye is still frowned upon and taboo.
I play cricket Nd nearly all the young lads are on tinder. This is basically meet and fuck.
Swinging is far more civilised than that, it’s sociable and you can meet some greet people who have similar interests and outlooks.
I appreciate people use this site to fuck. But we definitely use it for more than just fucking.
We like to remain private which is a shame. Because what harm are we Ll really doing ?? |
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"I would love to tell one of my best friends just to see her reaction to it all but don't think she would understand .
Love her to bits but she really needs to open her eyes to the world . I took her to Ann summers the other week and she was like a school kid trying to take pictures of things secretly to show her fella as she had never been in there before lol ....if only she knew Xx
Mrs xx "
How old is she? 16?!  |
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"I would love to tell one of my best friends just to see her reaction to it all but don't think she would understand .
Love her to bits but she really needs to open her eyes to the world . I took her to Ann summers the other week and she was like a school kid trying to take pictures of things secretly to show her fella as she had never been in there before lol ....if only she knew Xx
Mrs xx
How old is she? 16?! "
She is in her 30's lol but very limited on experience I think ...her idea of experimenting is getting on top . She does have a few toys but all bought online and very rarely used . Can only imagine her face as I told her ...she thinks we are abnormal having sex just with each other the amount of times we do for a long term married couple haha . Xx |
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Adam has told some of his friends at work who are all cool with it.
I have made the mistake of telling a close friend and two work friends. I regretted each one.
Luckily my close friend came around after a while but she was disgusted initially.
The work friends I no longer work with.
So, I wouldn't tell anyone again but we don't keep our faces a secret on here.
Eve. x |
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