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"Unfortunately the site doesn't give us the option to describe our body shape as massive or huge, so you will just have to put up with curvy OP " You look amazing | |||
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"Setting my chair up now and a larger chair and some popcorn for any curvy lady wanting to join me" Already here with popcorn ... feel free to bring your chair over here | |||
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"Reckon a fatty turned him down?" | |||
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"Unfortunately the site doesn't give us the option to describe our body shape as massive or huge, so you will just have to put up with curvy OP " maybe the site could provide a series of graduated female silhouettes, slowly blocking out a sun icon, for us to choose from, we can all choose something a little more accurrate, and in a very simple form for those that struggle.. | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. " Popcorn, hotdog and a diet | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. Popcorn, hotdog and a diet " Make mine full fat please, just to add to my curves | |||
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"Unfortunately the site doesn't give us the option to describe our body shape as massive or huge, so you will just have to put up with curvy OP maybe the site could provide a series of graduated female silhouettes, slowly blocking out a sun icon, for us to choose from, we can all choose something a little more accurrate, and in a very simple form for those that struggle.." If that were the case Id go with the total eclipse silhouette | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. " Then maybe you should have a bit of thought before you titled your thread? | |||
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"Unfortunately the site doesn't give us the option to describe our body shape as massive or huge, so you will just have to put up with curvy OP maybe the site could provide a series of graduated female silhouettes, slowly blocking out a sun icon, for us to choose from, we can all choose something a little more accurrate, and in a very simple form for those that struggle.. If that were the case Id go with the total eclipse silhouette " same here...but a lot of people get awfully overexcited by an eclipse! | |||
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"Feeling rather brave there are you OP? You say you're kinky, but to myself and others you may be vanilla. " You can't be vanilla with this one OP. | |||
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"There is large and there is fabulous.. just tick the right boxes. It’s ok to be who you are. " Large doesn't adequately describe someone who is small but overweight and fabulous means fuck all. The categories are all shite so just ignore them and look at the photos. | |||
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"Op can you define curvy please? Cheers" Well, I can categorically confirm it certainly isn’t the woman I was misled to meet tonight!!! I should have asked for £20 for wasted petrol | |||
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"Op can you define curvy please? Cheers Well, I can categorically confirm it certainly isn’t the woman I was misled to meet tonight!!! I should have asked for £20 for wasted petrol " Now we get to the root of the matter.... | |||
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"There is large and there is fabulous.. just tick the right boxes. It’s ok to be who you are. " I’ve ticked them boxes an get told I’m not big enough. So can’t win. I see curvy as waiste in hips out. In any size that is curvy. | |||
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"Op can you define curvy please? Cheers Well, I can categorically confirm it certainly isn’t the woman I was misled to meet tonight!!! I should have asked for £20 for wasted petrol " nice...discreet..maybe dont slag someone off who may read this....? | |||
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"There is large and there is fabulous.. just tick the right boxes. It’s ok to be who you are. " Is fabulous a shape? It's listed after large on the list fab gives us so does that mean it refers to bigger builds? If this is the case then does that mean slimmer people can't describe themselves as fabulous? OP body shape is always discussed on fab and can lead to some rather heated debates. The options the site gives are rather limited and some people will see themselves rather differently to the way others see them. There are a lot of gentlemen on here who I would describe as large but who choose slim or average to describe themselves. When searching make sure you read the whole profile and look at the pictures. People will often put details about their body shape/size in the text. If there are no pictures and very little in the profile then just move on to someone else, don't waste your own time messaging if you can't tell what shape/size that are. | |||
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"To be fair to the OP, despite my teasing him here we have chatted lots before and I can confirm he is not anti fatty. Perhaps just a poorly worded thread. " Thank you, I’m definitely not just hate being misled and I truly was tonight.. Thank you Mrs T cup luv ya xx | |||
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"Op can you define curvy please? Cheers Well, I can categorically confirm it certainly isn’t the woman I was misled to meet tonight!!! I should have asked for £20 for wasted petrol " please let the woman see this. I'm dying to know how she felt after ur beautiful perfect self bored her off | |||
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"There is large and there is fabulous.. just tick the right boxes. It’s ok to be who you are. " A curve is an edge of a round shape. How big the shape is is not relevant. Plus, that’s what photos are for!! One persons ‘curvy’ is another persons ‘skinny’ Just like you say you’re kinky. To me you might be quite mainstream, but if you think you’re kinky then who am I to argue?! I see ‘curvy’ & I assume bigger girls. Cupid’s BBW night is called Curvy Thursday. Townhouse’s Buxom Babes party has the strapline ‘flaunt your curves’ Slim girls with boobs I’d class as ‘athletic’ - but it’s down to how people see themselves! | |||
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"To be fair to the OP, I can see where he’s coming from. It’s exactly the same as a guy putting 6 inches on his height. Cut him some slack..." maybe if it was just a generalisation it's just tactless, but it's a bit nasty to refer to someone from here who might read it! | |||
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"*pulls up chair, gets popcorn " Can I share your popcorn lol? | |||
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"To be fair to the OP, I can see where he’s coming from. It’s exactly the same as a guy putting 6 inches on his height. Cut him some slack... maybe if it was just a generalisation it's just tactless, but it's a bit nasty to refer to someone from here who might read it!" Could’ve been put a bit more diplomatically, but we constantly read threads from women about being misled. It’s frustrating when it happens to any of us. | |||
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"To be fair to the OP, I can see where he’s coming from. It’s exactly the same as a guy putting 6 inches on his height. Cut him some slack..." Thank you x By the way I’m only 5 4” really | |||
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"To be fair to the OP, I can see where he’s coming from. It’s exactly the same as a guy putting 6 inches on his height. Cut him some slack... maybe if it was just a generalisation it's just tactless, but it's a bit nasty to refer to someone from here who might read it! Could’ve been put a bit more diplomatically, but we constantly read threads from women about being misled. It’s frustrating when it happens to any of us. " but they dont usually speak specifically about a particular meet the night it happened when it would be very obvious to the lady in question who he was referring to...incredibly ham fisted! | |||
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"OP just out of interest was your meet a social or a play meet? I always insist on a social meet first, that way if someone doesn't look like their pictures I'm not too disappointed. At worst I have met someone new and had a cuppa and a chat. I've not wasted any time because I go with no expectations and hope to be pleasantly surprised." It was a 40 mile trip so we agreed it would be more than a social.. as it happened it was neither | |||
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"To be fair to the OP, I can see where he’s coming from. It’s exactly the same as a guy putting 6 inches on his height. Cut him some slack... maybe if it was just a generalisation it's just tactless, but it's a bit nasty to refer to someone from here who might read it! Could’ve been put a bit more diplomatically, but we constantly read threads from women about being misled. It’s frustrating when it happens to any of us. but they dont usually speak specifically about a particular meet the night it happened when it would be very obvious to the lady in question who he was referring to...incredibly ham fisted!" I just think body size can be an emotive subject. Even if the OP wrote it as a general observation, it’d still get similar replies. Agree to disagree | |||
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"I’ve seen guys calling women fat on the chatrooms and I hate it. There are some heavier woman on here that are gorgeous to be honest and my favourite woman on the whole site is certainly curvy. But it is vile for someone just to turn round to someone and call them fat. It’s rude and discriminatory." So who’s called a woman fat? | |||
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"I’ve seen guys calling women fat on the chatrooms and I hate it. There are some heavier woman on here that are gorgeous to be honest and my favourite woman on the whole site is certainly curvy. But it is vile for someone just to turn round to someone and call them fat. It’s rude and discriminatory." Why? I prefer to describe myself as fat. Id be far more offended if you called me a bbw. | |||
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"Well No, I agree with the op. He hasn't mentioned names or anything. We can all understand the disappointment. You know whether your pictures and your profile reflect reality. If they don't, people will get annoyed when they meet you. Should have been honest." This is why I put full length pictures up now. They’re going to see me naked so they may as well know what they’re getting! | |||
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"OP just out of interest was your meet a social or a play meet? I always insist on a social meet first, that way if someone doesn't look like their pictures I'm not too disappointed. At worst I have met someone new and had a cuppa and a chat. I've not wasted any time because I go with no expectations and hope to be pleasantly surprised." Milk & sugar? | |||
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"OP just out of interest was your meet a social or a play meet? I always insist on a social meet first, that way if someone doesn't look like their pictures I'm not too disappointed. At worst I have met someone new and had a cuppa and a chat. I've not wasted any time because I go with no expectations and hope to be pleasantly surprised. Milk & sugar? " Milk, no sugar thanks Btw did I spot you at the attic on Saturday night? | |||
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"OP just out of interest was your meet a social or a play meet? I always insist on a social meet first, that way if someone doesn't look like their pictures I'm not too disappointed. At worst I have met someone new and had a cuppa and a chat. I've not wasted any time because I go with no expectations and hope to be pleasantly surprised. Milk & sugar? Milk, no sugar thanks Btw did I spot you at the attic on Saturday night?" Nah not me, I've been laid up with a stinking cold all weekend, it must have been my ugly twin brother | |||
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"The Op - while clearly not worrying about upsetting people - does have a valid point. There is a limited number of body type options - which definitely does not help at all. Even dress sizes may not make things clearer. No matter how many options you have they rely on the honesty of the individual to select the relevant one. We have seen people put curvy down when large/ample would probably be a better description. But then it all depends on perception. We would say curvy could be 12/14 it could even be as low as 10 and as high as 16 depending upon someone’s height, breasts and bum, ample 16-20 and large 20+. Others may see it differently. However not all people are attracted to larger people or to skinny people. I guess that is the case for the Op, maybe they invested time messaging with someone they thought description wise they would find attractive - only to find they had been deceived (unwittingly or purposefully). It may limit our meets but we try not to chat to people unless we’ve seen at least a body picture of both people (if a couple) and we have body pictures of us both on ours so as to avoid issues like the Op has had. We have put missy down as average. I think she is curvy but others may feel curvy means a larger lady. Missy is size ten with nice boobs and a nice bum so to me has curves. I am down as athletic, I don’t have perfect abs and pecs but have a 38” chest and a 30” waist. Some may say I’m skinny. However we have been messaged by some who have claimed to be average or curvy, chatted, got close to arranging a meet, exchanged photos and they have been a million miles off what we would have classed them as. It’s a difficult one to be honest, pictures aren’t always a perfect system as they can be taken at flattering angles too. " I really don’t think it matters what you put as your body size as long as you have pictures to represent what you actually look like. Everyone is curvy really. I’ve seen very slim guys put ‘athletic’, it’s really just your own perception | |||
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"The Op - while clearly not worrying about upsetting people - does have a valid point. There is a limited number of body type options - which definitely does not help at all. Even dress sizes may not make things clearer. No matter how many options you have they rely on the honesty of the individual to select the relevant one. We have seen people put curvy down when large/ample would probably be a better description. But then it all depends on perception. We would say curvy could be 12/14 it could even be as low as 10 and as high as 16 depending upon someone’s height, breasts and bum, ample 16-20 and large 20+. Others may see it differently. However not all people are attracted to larger people or to skinny people. I guess that is the case for the Op, maybe they invested time messaging with someone they thought description wise they would find attractive - only to find they had been deceived (unwittingly or purposefully). It may limit our meets but we try not to chat to people unless we’ve seen at least a body picture of both people (if a couple) and we have body pictures of us both on ours so as to avoid issues like the Op has had. We have put missy down as average. I think she is curvy but others may feel curvy means a larger lady. Missy is size ten with nice boobs and a nice bum so to me has curves. I am down as athletic, I don’t have perfect abs and pecs but have a 38” chest and a 30” waist. Some may say I’m skinny. However we have been messaged by some who have claimed to be average or curvy, chatted, got close to arranging a meet, exchanged photos and they have been a million miles off what we would have classed them as. It’s a difficult one to be honest, pictures aren’t always a perfect system as they can be taken at flattering angles too. I really don’t think it matters what you put as your body size as long as you have pictures to represent what you actually look like. Everyone is curvy really. I’ve seen very slim guys put ‘athletic’, it’s really just your own perception " I put average as didn't know what to put! I have curves? Am fit but athletic should mean sports fit? I'm not slim? It is difficult... | |||
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"The Op - while clearly not worrying about upsetting people - does have a valid point. There is a limited number of body type options - which definitely does not help at all. Even dress sizes may not make things clearer. No matter how many options you have they rely on the honesty of the individual to select the relevant one. We have seen people put curvy down when large/ample would probably be a better description. But then it all depends on perception. We would say curvy could be 12/14 it could even be as low as 10 and as high as 16 depending upon someone’s height, breasts and bum, ample 16-20 and large 20+. Others may see it differently. However not all people are attracted to larger people or to skinny people. I guess that is the case for the Op, maybe they invested time messaging with someone they thought description wise they would find attractive - only to find they had been deceived (unwittingly or purposefully). It may limit our meets but we try not to chat to people unless we’ve seen at least a body picture of both people (if a couple) and we have body pictures of us both on ours so as to avoid issues like the Op has had. We have put missy down as average. I think she is curvy but others may feel curvy means a larger lady. Missy is size ten with nice boobs and a nice bum so to me has curves. I am down as athletic, I don’t have perfect abs and pecs but have a 38” chest and a 30” waist. Some may say I’m skinny. However we have been messaged by some who have claimed to be average or curvy, chatted, got close to arranging a meet, exchanged photos and they have been a million miles off what we would have classed them as. It’s a difficult one to be honest, pictures aren’t always a perfect system as they can be taken at flattering angles too. I really don’t think it matters what you put as your body size as long as you have pictures to represent what you actually look like. Everyone is curvy really. I’ve seen very slim guys put ‘athletic’, it’s really just your own perception I put average as didn't know what to put! I have curves? Am fit but athletic should mean sports fit? I'm not slim? It is difficult... " We’re all completely fabulous though! | |||
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"The Op - while clearly not worrying about upsetting people - does have a valid point. There is a limited number of body type options - which definitely does not help at all. Even dress sizes may not make things clearer. No matter how many options you have they rely on the honesty of the individual to select the relevant one. We have seen people put curvy down when large/ample would probably be a better description. But then it all depends on perception. We would say curvy could be 12/14 it could even be as low as 10 and as high as 16 depending upon someone’s height, breasts and bum, ample 16-20 and large 20+. Others may see it differently. However not all people are attracted to larger people or to skinny people. I guess that is the case for the Op, maybe they invested time messaging with someone they thought description wise they would find attractive - only to find they had been deceived (unwittingly or purposefully). It may limit our meets but we try not to chat to people unless we’ve seen at least a body picture of both people (if a couple) and we have body pictures of us both on ours so as to avoid issues like the Op has had. We have put missy down as average. I think she is curvy but others may feel curvy means a larger lady. Missy is size ten with nice boobs and a nice bum so to me has curves. I am down as athletic, I don’t have perfect abs and pecs but have a 38” chest and a 30” waist. Some may say I’m skinny. However we have been messaged by some who have claimed to be average or curvy, chatted, got close to arranging a meet, exchanged photos and they have been a million miles off what we would have classed them as. It’s a difficult one to be honest, pictures aren’t always a perfect system as they can be taken at flattering angles too. I really don’t think it matters what you put as your body size as long as you have pictures to represent what you actually look like. Everyone is curvy really. I’ve seen very slim guys put ‘athletic’, it’s really just your own perception I put average as didn't know what to put! I have curves? Am fit but athletic should mean sports fit? I'm not slim? It is difficult... We’re all completely fabulous though! " | |||
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"What about those of us who really are curvy? Where do we fit in? " In a size 12 dress? | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. " Instead of reading the word curvy use your eyes to look at the pics | |||
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"Some ladies are very honest and write there size in there profile ie I'm a size 22/24 with wobbly bits . So letting us know she's a lot more than curvy" If you don't look at height or build you might envisage something entirely different to reality. | |||
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"What about those of us who really are curvy? Where do we fit in? In a size 12 dress?" With a very wide skirt, yes! | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. " Cant you use your own judgment looking at pics? | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. Instead of reading the word curvy use your eyes to look at the pics " I thought I had!!! Then she wasn’t like her pictures or maybe she was about 4 years prior | |||
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"There is large and there is fabulous.. just tick the right boxes. It’s ok to be who you are. " Exactly ... and I am very blunt and curvy ! How would you describe yourself please ? ( tick the box !) | |||
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"When we get messages from potentials I always say “thanks for messaging, I’m a big girl and totally understand if that’s not your thing” because I would be mortified if I had arranged a social and the guys time was wasted as I’m bigger than he was expecting, I also always check out their previous verifications to see if they were larger ladies, puts my mind at rest " I'm the same! I have even made a point of stating my size and height because I'd hate anyone to meet me and be disappointed. Some people are confident with their size and its not a issue for them and they may see themselves as curvy who are we to say they are large rather than curvy. I know we all have preference of people size and shape. Maybe a few more tactful questions before a meet maybe required. OP try not to see it as wasted time, look at it as experience and good luck with your next adventure Jenny x | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. Instead of reading the word curvy use your eyes to look at the pics I thought I had!!! Then she wasn’t like her pictures or maybe she was about 4 years prior" So the issue isn't that she was fat but that she lied to you.... Also, this will probably get deleted as you are discussing a member on here. Next time do your due diligence. Ask for full length pics, face time or Skype or can on here. It's disappointing that you feel mislead but it's no reason to start a thread about it. | |||
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"Welcome to the internet my friend.... From now on you just have to ask women their Hieght , wieght , and dress size before a meet. If not have a FaceTime chat.... " People have seen me in person and been surprised that I'm a size 20 dress. I've been told I'm not large or ample but curvy. It's very difficult to describe a body size or shape. I would go with Apple shape with a fat arse and saggy stomach for myself if I had to. | |||
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"It is hard, I think I’ve described myself as ‘average’ and you’re right you can’t use dress sizes - I’m a size 8 but I’m also absolutely tiny making me look ‘chubby’ where as the same 8 on a girl of 5’7 you would call her skinny. I know you can’t help who you fancy but bashing people for not knowing what box to tick is a little unfair " There is not knowing how to describing yourself and then there is sending pics from 4 years ago and 40 pounds ago. He was upset he was deceived.... Women post all the time about guys lying about their height and age on the forums daily. Let him vent a little | |||
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"Reckon a fatty turned him down?" | |||
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"Why does it matter that much if you don't like what you see move on , nobody is forcing themselves on anyone " The whole point isn’t about what size someone is it’s about how some profiles bend the truth and the guy had travelled 40 miles for a social and the lady hadn’t been truthful about her size, most guys prefer a bigger lady but some don’t and that’s their prerogative | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. " I agree. | |||
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"Why does it matter that much if you don't like what you see move on , nobody is forcing themselves on anyone The whole point isn’t about what size someone is it’s about how some profiles bend the truth and the guy had travelled 40 miles for a social and the lady hadn’t been truthful about her size, most guys prefer a bigger lady but some don’t and that’s their prerogative " | |||
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"*pulls up chair, gets popcorn " Ooooow this will be interesting, think of all of the meets your going to get now OP Who’s got the M&M’s | |||
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"The problem is that the OP is a guy. Therefore, according to the site rules he isn’t allowed to complain about anything. Here’s a generalisation. 60% of the UK adult population are overweight or even more obese. There’s a huge reluctance to admit that it’s a problem, particularly on this website from a self entitled group that maintain that it should be sexy, despite trying to disguise the fact in their profile descriptions and their carefully angled photos. To prevent the ‘deceit’ as mentioned in previous posts the site needs either accurate height/weight data, or compulsory full length standing photographs. I suspect that the requirement to do this would not be popular. It’s tricky when it comes to mentioning specific cases, but in fairness to the OP I see plenty of threads and status updates talking about inaccuracies of profiles written by women and couples. Just to prove that it does happen, I was talking on the phone once to a girl (no longer on the site) that told me she had been told she wasn’t allowed to do a parachute jump because she was way above the weight limit. Her profile said curvy. I met her for a coffee anyway because she was fun to chat to. " Even full length standing photos can be deceiving. I don't send naked or bra and knickers photos on here. How I see it is if a man is up front about not wanting to meet fat women it's easier to decline an invite. | |||
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"Curvy is curvy, massive is huge! Stop kidding yourselves and trying to fool us. Just be honest, it stops the time wasting." You sound like an absolutely charming young man | |||
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"These must have been magical photos or ones of her sister.. I got misled that’s all. Sorry if I’ve stirred up a hornets nest here.. I was merely sharing. " It's a form of time wasting and it's fair enough that you're pissed off. If a woman turned up to find the 6ft man was only 5ft or the 40 yr old man was actually 60, she'd be getting virtual hugs all over the thread. | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. Instead of reading the word curvy use your eyes to look at the pics I thought I had!!! Then she wasn’t like her pictures or maybe she was about 4 years prior" Ahhhhhhh you see none of that was mentioned in your opening post....yep lying is wrong - and having no new pics is sneaky. I have some very up to date pics with all my fat on show and ‘after’ pics so you can see my dragged through a hedge backwards look....I like people to know what they are getting into | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest." Agreed. If I like someone it's because of their personality and their soul. Would I have sex with an someone who is over weight? Yes. Infact when I married my husband he was 21 stone. But bending the truth or using old photos where you were a lot slimmer is going to have me lose interest very quickly. | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. Agreed. If I like someone it's because of their personality and their soul. Would I have sex with an someone who is over weight? Yes. Infact when I married my husband he was 21 stone. But bending the truth or using old photos where you were a lot slimmer is going to have me lose interest very quickly. " This happens alot | |||
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"I'm fat, unfortunately it doesn't let me say that on the listing. I also have curves- huge curves that go in at the waist and really far out at the hips . So I'm curvy fat..... can I have that please instead of the fabulous bollox Although I do clearly describe my size on my profile and have tons and tons of pics full length " Same! I have huge boobs, a definite waist and huge hips, bottom and belly - I went for fabulous as the options went from slim - fabulous so I figured it was the fattest... I did consider large but thought thy made me sound like the hulk | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. " I feel you on this OP. So many men claiming to be funny, bright, and capable of being an amazing lover yet have less imagination and skill than a can of beans. | |||
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"I'm fat, unfortunately it doesn't let me say that on the listing. I also have curves- huge curves that go in at the waist and really far out at the hips . So I'm curvy fat..... can I have that please instead of the fabulous bollox Although I do clearly describe my size on my profile and have tons and tons of pics full length Same! I have huge boobs, a definite waist and huge hips, bottom and belly - I went for fabulous as the options went from slim - fabulous so I figured it was the fattest... I did consider large but thought thy made me sound like the hulk " I agree hate the term large- I'm not particularly tall so it's definitely not me . I'm happy to be described has having fat, I do have lots of wobbly fat | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. Agreed. If I like someone it's because of their personality and their soul. Would I have sex with an someone who is over weight? Yes. Infact when I married my husband he was 21 stone. But bending the truth or using old photos where you were a lot slimmer is going to have me lose interest very quickly. This happens alot " Sadly so. Prior to a meet I always ask for an photo taken in the last 3 months. So I'm rather annoyed when you meet the person and the photo you were sent is very clearly more like 5 years old. It's as if they are saying you are to stupid to notice the difference. | |||
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"The problem is that the OP is a guy. Therefore, according to the site rules he isn’t allowed to complain about anything. Here’s a generalisation. 60% of the UK adult population are overweight or even more obese. There’s a huge reluctance to admit that it’s a problem, particularly on this website from a self entitled group that maintain that it should be sexy, despite trying to disguise the fact in their profile descriptions and their carefully angled photos. To prevent the ‘deceit’ as mentioned in previous posts the site needs either accurate height/weight data, or compulsory full length standing photographs. I suspect that the requirement to do this would not be popular. It’s tricky when it comes to mentioning specific cases, but in fairness to the OP I see plenty of threads and status updates talking about inaccuracies of profiles written by women and couples. Just to prove that it does happen, I was talking on the phone once to a girl (no longer on the site) that told me she had been told she wasn’t allowed to do a parachute jump because she was way above the weight limit. Her profile said curvy. I met her for a coffee anyway because she was fun to chat to. Even full length standing photos can be deceiving. I don't send naked or bra and knickers photos on here. How I see it is if a man is up front about not wanting to meet fat women it's easier to decline an invite. " But you’re not saying that you’re only curvy either | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. I feel you on this OP. So many men claiming to be funny, bright, and capable of being an amazing lover yet have less imagination and skill than a can of beans. " I think we all know this one well, we say on our profile what dress size I am if someone is put off by that it is their issue. Must admit this is why we only meet at clubs means we don’t have to make excuses if there isn’t the attraction | |||
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"well I'm with the OP on this though he could have said it in a better way to mislead anyone isn't going to work out well " Agreed here, but how people run their profiles is just another filter, you know? If you don't like the way they do it, no one is forcing you to meet them! | |||
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"well I'm with the OP on this though he could have said it in a better way to mislead anyone isn't going to work out well Agreed here, but how people run their profiles is just another filter, you know? If you don't like the way they do it, no one is forcing you to meet them!" yes that's so very true | |||
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"Curvy is curvy, massive is huge! Stop kidding yourselves and trying to fool us. Just be honest, it stops the time wasting." Is a size 16 curvy or fat? Surely it's a different way of thinking for all? BTW, I'm not offended by your clumsy attempt at getting some sort of point across lol... Proceed! | |||
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"Curvy is curvy, massive is huge! Stop kidding yourselves and trying to fool us. Just be honest, it stops the time wasting. Is a size 16 curvy or fat? Surely it's a different way of thinking for all? BTW, I'm not offended by your clumsy attempt at getting some sort of point across lol... Proceed! " Whisper your curvy and very sexy | |||
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"Unfortunately the site doesn't give us the option to describe our body shape as massive or huge, so you will just have to put up with curvy OP maybe the site could provide a series of graduated female silhouettes, slowly blocking out a sun icon, for us to choose from, we can all choose something a little more accurrate, and in a very simple form for those that struggle.. If that were the case Id go with the total eclipse silhouette " Why am I now singing Bonnie Tyler Nothing you can do a total eclipse of my asssssss. | |||
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"Unfortunately the site doesn't give us the option to describe our body shape as massive or huge, so you will just have to put up with curvy OP maybe the site could provide a series of graduated female silhouettes, slowly blocking out a sun icon, for us to choose from, we can all choose something a little more accurrate, and in a very simple form for those that struggle.. If that were the case Id go with the total eclipse silhouette Why am I now singing Bonnie Tyler Nothing you can do a total eclipse of my asssssss. " Jebus Do they have their own gravity? Wowee | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. Popcorn, hotdog and a diet Make mine full fat please, just to add to my curves " You got junk in that trunk and I love it | |||
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"There is large and there is fabulous.. just tick the right boxes. It’s ok to be who you are. " And there is huge and massive, as your original post OP | |||
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"Unfortunately the site doesn't give us the option to describe our body shape as massive or huge, so you will just have to put up with curvy OP maybe the site could provide a series of graduated female silhouettes, slowly blocking out a sun icon, for us to choose from, we can all choose something a little more accurrate, and in a very simple form for those that struggle.. If that were the case Id go with the total eclipse silhouette Why am I now singing Bonnie Tyler Nothing you can do a total eclipse of my asssssss. " | |||
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"well I'm with the OP on this though he could have said it in a better way to mislead anyone isn't going to work out well Agreed here, but how people run their profiles is just another filter, you know? If you don't like the way they do it, no one is forcing you to meet them!" But if you have been interested in meeting someone and they are not the same as you were expecting, because they deliberately displayed specific photos to mislead you, then that is wrong. | |||
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"I chose to tick ample to better describe my jigglyness and squishability. Plus tried to be as honest as possible with my pics, no filters and a good mix of angles. " Every pic a fab from me | |||
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"I have no problem with anyone’s body shape, we are all different but it’s the deceit I detest. I feel you on this OP. So many men claiming to be funny, bright, and capable of being an amazing lover yet have less imagination and skill than a can of beans. Hey guys. We think you are fit as fuck, but then we’re bias? Lol what if was about cock size, there’s no way there would be a fib there. Lol I think we all know this one well, we say on our profile what dress size I am if someone is put off by that it is their issue. Must admit this is why we only meet at clubs means we don’t have to make excuses if there isn’t the attraction " | |||
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"Curvy is curvy, massive is huge! Stop kidding yourselves and trying to fool us. Just be honest, it stops the time wasting." Yes ! I’m really put off when a man says he is curvy . Men should not be curvy . Women can be curvy whatever size they are as the word means shape ! In and out hips waist boobs curves . Some women are slim and boyish they are not curvy . Despite my size 20 frame I am very curvy | |||
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"Curvy is curvy, massive is huge! Stop kidding yourselves and trying to fool us. Just be honest, it stops the time wasting." Cheers Another one bites the dust | |||
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"Curvy is curvy, massive is huge! Stop kidding yourselves and trying to fool us. Just be honest, it stops the time wasting. Yes ! I’m really put off when a man says he is curvy . Men should not be curvy . Women can be curvy whatever size they are as the word means shape ! In and out hips waist boobs curves . Some women are slim and boyish they are not curvy . Despite my size 20 frame I am very curvy " There should be a mr gru option | |||
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"At the end of the day it all comes down to people hiding things to get meets. Sometimes it's size,or marital status or age. Most of the time they are found out and someone is left annoyed/disappointed. Sadly people lie to get meets ,on my single profile I had a social with a man who stated he was 35.it was more like 55 when he turned up,I was irritated and nothing came of it. So can kind of see op's point. Miss" I met a man who said he was 5ft 4in on his profile which is quite short for a man. Im only5ft 2in so it didnt bother me. When he arrived at the pub he wasnt as tall as the bar! We chatted and had a laugh about it but he was adamant 3ft 7in was not an option in the height section. | |||
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"At the end of the day it all comes down to people hiding things to get meets. Sometimes it's size,or marital status or age. Most of the time they are found out and someone is left annoyed/disappointed. Sadly people lie to get meets ,on my single profile I had a social with a man who stated he was 35.it was more like 55 when he turned up,I was irritated and nothing came of it. So can kind of see op's point. Miss I met a man who said he was 5ft 4in on his profile which is quite short for a man. Im only5ft 2in so it didnt bother me. When he arrived at the pub he wasnt as tall as the bar! We chatted and had a laugh about it but he was adamant 3ft 7in was not an option in the height section." | |||
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"These must have been magical photos or ones of her sister.. I got misled that’s all. Sorry if I’ve stirred up a hornets nest here.. I was merely sharing. It's a form of time wasting and it's fair enough that you're pissed off. If a woman turned up to find the 6ft man was only 5ft or the 40 yr old man was actually 60, she'd be getting virtual hugs all over the thread. " Agree with this. I would be fuming but I take extra steps to make sure I’m meeting exactly who I’m meeting. | |||
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"At the end of the day it all comes down to people hiding things to get meets. Sometimes it's size,or marital status or age. Most of the time they are found out and someone is left annoyed/disappointed. Sadly people lie to get meets ,on my single profile I had a social with a man who stated he was 35.it was more like 55 when he turned up,I was irritated and nothing came of it. So can kind of see op's point. Miss I met a man who said he was 5ft 4in on his profile which is quite short for a man. Im only5ft 2in so it didnt bother me. When he arrived at the pub he wasnt as tall as the bar! We chatted and had a laugh about it but he was adamant 3ft 7in was not an option in the height section." | |||
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"Some ladies are very honest and write there size in there profile ie I'm a size 22/24 with wobbly bits . So letting us know she's a lot more than curvy" Christ on a bike, curvy is a shape, not a size. I'm plus-sized and guess what? I'm curvy! | |||
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"It is hard, I think I’ve described myself as ‘average’ and you’re right you can’t use dress sizes - I’m a size 8 but I’m also absolutely tiny making me look ‘chubby’ where as the same 8 on a girl of 5’7 you would call her skinny. I know you can’t help who you fancy but bashing people for not knowing what box to tick is a little unfair " You're absolutely right about dress sizes! It's a measurement that changes hugely with height! I'm near to 5ft11 and a size 12 which is a totally different size visually to someone who is 5ft and size 12! | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x" That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. | |||
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"I had a meet via Tinder, when she turned up she was bigger than her photos, but so what she probably thought I was a bigger knobhead in real life. Hope this helps OP" How much bigger did you say your cock was? | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum." I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? " You have a lovely curvy shape sweetheart | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? " Average? God knows, I gave up trying to figure out what to tick for myself years ago. I can't remember what mine says now. | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? " Cool, beautiful, Janner | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? Average? God knows, I gave up trying to figure out what to tick for myself years ago. I can't remember what mine says now. " I use average on dating apps as limited choices. | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? Cool, beautiful, Janner " Love you too | |||
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"Curvy is curvy, massive is huge! Stop kidding yourselves and trying to fool us. Just be honest, it stops the time wasting." Nah, I describe myself as 'a thumping great girlie' and the men just keep insisting I have the most fabulous figure ever to pass in front of their eyes! Who's fooling who? | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? Average? God knows, I gave up trying to figure out what to tick for myself years ago. I can't remember what mine says now. I use average on dating apps as limited choices. " You can always tell them you have big boobs when they message you. I don't think that would be a problem | |||
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"I dislike the categories to be honest. I consider myself to be curvy but I can't label myself as curvy as apparently that label refers to larger ladies than myself. I'm not average as I train hard in the gym and have decent muscle tone, however, at the moment I hate to class myself as Athletic because my abs aren't showing through. I went with Athletic though. Eve. x That's the problem. So many very overweight people use curvy that it now means obese, on here. I curve in places but my stomach is too big to call myself curvy. Curvy women have a defined waist that is much smaller than the boobs and bum. I have a thick waist as I’m an apple shape, so big boobs a tummy and skinny legs. I would only use curvy as I’m not big big and most guys call me curvy in person. My waist is smaller than my hips but not much. I can be a size 12/14 on bottom and 16 on top. What am I supposed to use to describe myself? Average? God knows, I gave up trying to figure out what to tick for myself years ago. I can't remember what mine says now. I use average on dating apps as limited choices. You can always tell them you have big boobs when they message you. I don't think that would be a problem " They generally notice as that’s what most of my messages are about!! Ha | |||
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"To be fair to the OP, I can see where he’s coming from. It’s exactly the same as a guy putting 6 inches on his height. Cut him some slack... maybe if it was just a generalisation it's just tactless, but it's a bit nasty to refer to someone from here who might read it! Could’ve been put a bit more diplomatically, but we constantly read threads from women about being misled. It’s frustrating when it happens to any of us. " Couldn't agree more. A dress size indicator on profiles would help but liars will always tell lies. Just because a guy wants to know dress size doesn't mean he wants slimmer women. | |||
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