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Who’s the real threat?
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Exhibit A- Me. I’ve been on here ten years. Feel I’m pretty active on the scene. Aside from my parents, kids and boss absolutely everyone in my life knows I’m on here, my face pics are there for all to see,
Exhibit B- the cryptic ‘real lifers’. Usually an old school friend or a parent from the school gates or something. No pics, been on here a fortnight. Sending messages like ‘bet you’d love to know who I am. I’m not telling you as you might tell someone.’
Tbth. No. That annoys me. Been here years. Seen more cock than hot dinners, know all the etiquette and rules, why I’d be interested in blabbing about someone meeting a single fem in the back of his Ford Fiesta is totally beyond me.
I’m assuming the problem for most here is my face pics and my lack of anonymity.
The question is, Who would you rather ‘out yourself’? to. Him Or me?
This should be interesting.... |
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over a year ago
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Only someone intending to cause a problem for someone is a threat, surely.
If someone even thinks about ‘outing’ someone, they need to get a big, ‘keep your ’fin nose out of people’s business’ poke to the eye.  |
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"Only someone intending to cause a problem for someone is a threat, surely.
If someone even thinks about ‘outing’ someone, they need to get a big, ‘keep your ’fin nose out of people’s business’ poke to the eye. "
Yes! This!  |
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"Exhibit A- Me. I’ve been on here ten years. Feel I’m pretty active on the scene. Aside from my parents, kids and boss absolutely everyone in my life knows I’m on here, my face pics are there for all to see,
Exhibit B- the cryptic ‘real lifers’. Usually an old school friend or a parent from the school gates or something. No pics, been on here a fortnight. Sending messages like ‘bet you’d love to know who I am. I’m not telling you as you might tell someone.’
Tbth. No. That annoys me. Been here years. Seen more cock than hot dinners, know all the etiquette and rules, why I’d be interested in blabbing about someone meeting a single fem in the back of his Ford Fiesta is totally beyond me.
I’m assuming the problem for most here is my face pics and my lack of anonymity.
The question is, Who would you rather ‘out yourself’? to. Him Or me?
This should be interesting...."
You every time.. you know the rules and are clearly comfortable in your own skin. Why would you even want to put me any further? An open book. Plus you are hot as fuck! |
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I don't show my face initially as I hope my amazing sense of humour and my intellect may win them over before I have to show a face pic. I really don't care who knows I'm on here though, I kinda work along the lines of it's the most fun I've had in years and everyone else is really missing out.  |
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I'd be out to you op - and the other one sounds like a creep like you I've been here the same time, those who matter know and those who don't probably imagine worse about me. A neighbor took me to a meet and back up again as well as another waited in public, watching who met me for safety.
We don't need creeps and anyone trying to play power games etc |
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"I don't show my face initially as I hope my amazing sense of humour and my intellect may win them over before I have to show a face pic. I really don't care who knows I'm on here though, I kinda work along the lines of it's the most fun I've had in years and everyone else is really missing out. "
Love that outlook xx |
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I'll bet it's simple jealousy.
Probably someone who wishes their partner and friends would be accepting of the lifestyle, but probably a married guy on here in secret and needing to make himself feel powerful by holding it over you.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I'll bet it's simple jealousy.
Probably someone who wishes their partner and friends would be accepting of the lifestyle, but probably a married guy on here in secret and needing to make himself feel powerful by holding it over you.
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Exactly this. I'd out to you OP |
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When we first started out on here around 9 months ago we were very nervous to be found out in case we were outed as we live in a rather large area where everyone knows each other . We panicked after being contacted by someone we recognised who are close to us and made excuses to cut contact . Since then we have told the couple who we are as we rather be friends than bump into each other at a club that we both go to lol . If it wasn't for us having children we wouldn't be bothered about people knowing and be more open but I always remember a girl at school being bullied so badly for her parents being swingers and that's my only fear that our children might suffer for us doing this . Not everybody on here are as discreet as others sadly  .xx
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I've been here 8 years and during that time I have had face pics public and I too have had messages from blank profiles that use my real name and say they know me but won't say who they are.
It's annoying and it's like I don't even give a fuck who you are or why you're here just if you're going to the trouble of letting me know you know me then at least say who you are.
If I ever get those messages I just block them. There's a guy who works in a cafe where I frequently go for breakfast and after I blocked him here he messaged me via Facebook and so I blocked him there too. When I go for breakfast I stand by the counter and watch him cook my breakfast to make sure he doesn't wank, spit or fart into my food. |
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"When we first started out on here around 9 months ago we were very nervous to be found out in case we were outed as we live in a rather large area where everyone knows each other . We panicked after being contacted by someone we recognised who are close to us and made excuses to cut contact . Since then we have told the couple who we are as we rather be friends than bump into each other at a club that we both go to lol . If it wasn't for us having children we wouldn't be bothered about people knowing and be more open but I always remember a girl at school being bullied so badly for her parents being swingers and that's my only fear that our children might suffer for us doing this . Not everybody on here are as discreet as others sadly .xx
Mrs xx "
That’s my worry, not truly worried how I would deal with things, but those impacted around me. And i think those things need to be taken into account. Kids are viscous. |
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"When we first started out on here around 9 months ago we were very nervous to be found out in case we were outed as we live in a rather large area where everyone knows each other . We panicked after being contacted by someone we recognised who are close to us and made excuses to cut contact . Since then we have told the couple who we are as we rather be friends than bump into each other at a club that we both go to lol . If it wasn't for us having children we wouldn't be bothered about people knowing and be more open but I always remember a girl at school being bullied so badly for her parents being swingers and that's my only fear that our children might suffer for us doing this . Not everybody on here are as discreet as others sadly .xx
Mrs xx "
Your exactly right about the non-discretion and that’s the sad thing about it. I suppose I have taken the opposite approach and thought ‘if you already own something they can’t call you for it’.
That’s horrible about the bullied kid though, no wonder it plays on your mind. My mates parents used to own a swingers club when we were high school age and we were allowed in the bar area one night when it was shut!! Think maybe that’s why I see it as more ‘acceptable’ than many xx |
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On my first profile, I messaged a woman who was verified with face pictures. We started talking and soon swapped numbers, she used my number to find my Facebook profile and started threatening to tell my ex and parents I was on here.
I called her bluff and nothing happened. But it was a lesson learnt in privacy and I've been sceptical ever since |
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"On my first profile, I messaged a woman who was verified with face pictures. We started talking and soon swapped numbers, she used my number to find my Facebook profile and started threatening to tell my ex and parents I was on here.
I called her bluff and nothing happened. But it was a lesson learnt in privacy and I've been sceptical ever since"
That was my go-to trick when I had Facebook. All them twats on tinder with a mrs! Tell ya. It’s unreal |
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"On my first profile, I messaged a woman who was verified with face pictures. We started talking and soon swapped numbers, she used my number to find my Facebook profile and started threatening to tell my ex and parents I was on here.
I called her bluff and nothing happened. But it was a lesson learnt in privacy and I've been sceptical ever since
That was my go-to trick when I had Facebook. All them twats on tinder with a mrs! Tell ya. It’s unreal "
I didn't have a misses. But she was going to tell the mother of my kids and my parents anyway.
Different scenario to if I was cheating |
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We recognise alot of people from our area and would never contact or approach them in case they didn't like it and felt awkward. We just avoid them or block unless like we say ...we know they go to clubs as it's easier to chat on here than legs mid air  .
Yeah the girl got so much stick for it but as kids you just don't understand these things and even as adults alot don't find it acceptable either so it's easier for us to just keep quiet ...although we are sure my cousin knows we are on here as she drops the odd hint but one of her best friends and partner are ( they are open about it ) and we had spoken to them with the view to meet until we realised who they were by seeing pics of them together on fb  . Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have my face all over fab and tbh it's no one else's business why I'm on fab and yes I've been reconised loads of times
one guy sent me a load of crap about telling my kids extra and I just told him to do his worst then blocked him |
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