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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I recently informed someone of something that is of a personal nature which is not general knowledge, and discovered this person has since informed someone else about it without my knowledge within 48h.
Although in time, I would have informed this other person myself the nature of this personal matter, however, it still leaves a slight sour taste in my mouth, as I would have preferred the information to have come from me and not via another person.
I shall, from now on, be more cagey about sharing information with this person, unless I want the info to be spread like wild fire in no time, of course! 
Perhaps I am being sensitive, however, when I tell someone something in private, I do not expect it to be repeated without my knowledge.
I am one of those who do not give out other people's mobile numbers without consulting them first!
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I agreed sometimes indescression is annoying,
i have seen both sides of the coin...hearing things from others and also telling certain people stuff for it to spread like wild fire.
pearl it happens sometimes, its not right but... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a bit low, I'm rubbish at keeping my own secrets but will take anyone else's to the grave. I told a really good friend of mine about my swinging antics, she's pretty open minded and found it hilarious but her bf is not quite so liberal, she told him and is now not allowed to speak to me! On one hand I feel like I've lost a really good friend but then on the other hand, have I really? |
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Totally agree with you Pearl, If I tell someone something I and stated it was private I would in no way expect them to then broadcast it even if only to one person.
I am lucky to have been trusted by quite a few people on here and in life in general and treat people how I would want to be treated myself.
A friend of mine did tell another of something in my private life that to me was totally private. Luckily the person it was told to as let it go no further. But I was horrified when I found out she knew and she was sympatheic about it
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just have to be more careful about what I say to this person from now on.
In a way, it is good job I found this out so soon before I let on more information that is of a personal nature.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Perhaps I made the mistake of not telling this person the information is "private".
However, I did not offer the information in an open room for all to hear at the time, and there were others in the room.
May be one person's idea of what constitutes as "private" is different from another person.
Or this person is just one big gossipper!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once got into a real mess at work as in I had a boss who would tell me things about other members of staff and then staff telling me things about boss ended up with me as piggy in the middle stressed to hell because I couldnt say anything to anyone about anything . The matter was only resolved when boss was sacked , then and only then did I go to the big boss to tell her what I knew . So I can be very that word that I best not spell as will probably get the wrong 1 lol even if it means I end up as the piggy again . |
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What is said in the room stays in the room is my motto.
I really dislike being gossiped about and because of that don't gossip myself. I can count the ones I really trust on one hand.
Maybe your friend will have learnt her lesson but trust is a fragile thing once broken
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This person is unlikely to make it as a "friend", as to be a friend, I have to trust the person, and I cannot trust this person to be discreet anymore.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Devious b'stard that I am, I sometimes tell people things I don't mind being public knowledge but ask them to keep it secret, just to find out if I ever hear it back from anyone else.
Most of the people in my social circle failed that test miserably.
Bottom line is, you can't keep a secret by sharing it. |
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If I am told something it remains with me.
Similarly if I feel I have something to tell a person I don't tell someone else.
If someone feels the need to offload so will the person they offloaded to. If someone is going to be the mouth , they should take it estuary and avoid the tributaries. It's a lot less leaky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only tell people things I don't mind being in the public domain as I don't trust people. The only person I can really talk to about "stuff" is my sister.
What will get my goat is if friends use something I've told them against me, I've cut people off for that! |
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If I wanted to tell someone something that someone said about them , I would.
Using the 'discretion' gag when being indiscreet isn't moral or morally binding.
If people want to tell someone something themselves they should do so or accept responsibility for their own actions. |
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im a very private person and as such i treat things told to me as such . im known for beinag able to keep a confidence. id be very pissed off if aftr telling someone this was to go no further, they blabed .id be having a curt word with them and then cutting them free ,as wouldnt be given any oppertunity be trusted with anything to do with me again. if i didnt make clear i wanted the information kept quiet then i would hadly be shocked if someone else was told . if you really dont wish inforamtion to be talked about or passed on then you make that very clear at that time if its that vital. OR you just dont discuss it . as been said what people can regard as private information can be subjective . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have some bosses who used to play a game by getting the one personal secretary to shred something which was totally made up and marked 'confidential' and timing how long it took the other one's secretary to hear about it lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Uhmmmm what I mean is ..... The person cannot pass on what has not been said to them. Look for the original leaker. THAT is the problem. More so than the blabber. "
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Eh? That would be me! Now I am confused, not difficult with my wee brain, I know!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure if this is on the same level...But I once heard a saying..
'Those who discuss others with you, will discuss you with others'
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Excellent! So true too xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all seriousness, I had something similar happen to me very recently, and it does make you feel betrayed.
Its a hard lesson when you learn that you cannot trust someone, sorry it has happened to you Pearl xx |
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"I recently informed someone of something that is of a personal nature which is not general knowledge, and discovered this person has since informed someone else about it without my knowledge within 48h.
Although in time, I would have informed this other person myself the nature of this personal matter, however, it still leaves a slight sour taste in my mouth, as I would have preferred the information to have come from me and not via another person.
I shall, from now on, be more cagey about sharing information with this person, unless I want the info to be spread like wild fire in no time, of course!
Perhaps I am being sensitive, however, when I tell someone something in private, I do not expect it to be repeated without my knowledge.
I am one of those who do not give out other people's mobile numbers without consulting them first!
How do you feel about other people's indiscretion at your expense? "
Private means just that,i trust very few people and if someone abused that trust i would loose all respect for them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I recently informed someone of something that is of a personal nature which is not general knowledge, and discovered this person has since informed someone else about it without my knowledge within 48h.
Although in time, I would have informed this other person myself the nature of this personal matter, however, it still leaves a slight sour taste in my mouth, as I would have preferred the information to have come from me and not via another person.
I shall, from now on, be more cagey about sharing information with this person, unless I want the info to be spread like wild fire in no time, of course!
Perhaps I am being sensitive, however, when I tell someone something in private, I do not expect it to be repeated without my knowledge.
I am one of those who do not give out other people's mobile numbers without consulting them first!
How do you feel about other people's indiscretion at your expense? "
 I know who you are now! But don't worry I'm not like that blabbermouth Kelly Rowland, your baby's sex is safe with me ....... mum's the word Beyon....er ......Pearl.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No its certainly not very nice but at least you now know that the person is not as discreet as you once thought and you'll be wary in the future of them. Shame when this happens  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Leaves a very sour taste when it happens. I hope you let the individual know what you felt.
The only way to protect your privacy is not to share it in the first place. |
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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago
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"Its the way of the world gossip travels faster then email. Be careful who tell your secrets to.
S&D X"
Life is one big facebook wall nowadays. people post and spread anything without considering the harm or consequences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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mmmmmm minor or major a trust is a trust and should not be broken for what ever reason, personaly i would detatch myself from this person for betraying a trust !!!!! |
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