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"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am" Definitely irreparable? | |||
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"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am" Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.  | |||
"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend. "Do you really think thats all it takes not all women are that easy | |||
"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.
Do you really think thats all it takes
not all women are that easy
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"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.
Do you really think thats all it takes
not all women are that easy
"I don't think many women will forgive irreparable damage just because someone admits to being a twat then takes her out. | |||
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"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.
Do you really think thats all it takes
not all women are that easy
"Totally agree. The sooner men realise a pint and a tandoori aren't the panacea for all ills, the better. | |||
"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am" Well all depends on what you did and does your wife accept your apology.. | |||
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"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.
Do you really think thats all it takes
not all women are that easy
Totally agree. The sooner men realise a pint and a tandoori aren't the panacea for all ills, the better."Well in that case dry your eyes and put the kettle on while doing it. Can't win, all I made was a suggestion nothing more. | |||
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"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.
Do you really think thats all it takes
not all women are that easy
Totally agree. The sooner men realise a pint and a tandoori aren't the panacea for all ills, the better.
Well in that case dry your eyes and put the kettle on while doing it. Can't win, all I made was a suggestion nothing more. "If you meant ‘treat her like a princess’ as in buy her things till she’s not mad anymore then I disagree but if you meant as in make her the center of your universe then maybe they’ll realise how sorry you are and start to forgive | |||
"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.
Do you really think thats all it takes
not all women are that easy
Totally agree. The sooner men realise a pint and a tandoori aren't the panacea for all ills, the better.
Well in that case dry your eyes and put the kettle on while doing it. Can't win, all I made was a suggestion nothing more.
If you meant ‘treat her like a princess’ as in buy her things till she’s not mad anymore then I disagree but if you meant as in make her the center of your universe then maybe they’ll realise how sorry you are and start to forgive "Ask yourself these questions. 1 did I purposefully commit the sin?. 2 At the time did I know what the end result would be?. 3 Do I think I'm a twat because I got caught out. If the answer is yes to any then just say sorry pack your gear and let her find someone who isn't a prick. And you'll find someone that you'll never dream of hurting. That's called being a man.  | |||
"Humble pie it is then." With or without custard ? Hot or cold pie ? Cream ? Or ice cream ? Hot pie cold custard ? Cold pie hot custard ? | |||
"What did you do?" Tried some parallel parking and pranged the motor? | |||
"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Definitely irreparable? " Yep | |||
"Do you drink " Not last night sober | |||
"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend. "Thanks but it was my last chance | |||
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"What did you do?" She had her sister over yesterday I was working 5:45 to 2pm Got back was social they were watching recorded off sky the wedding, anyway I had a few jobs to do, re- fitting shower was one, so did some of that, later I was doing the bbq and I felt she had too much to drink as she dropped a few things,, so took it on myself to do all cooking. Daughter made a comment, I said well if I don’t do it who will? Wasn’t annoyed or anything, then wife picked up a load of plates almost dropped them all so I picked them up took them inside, she followed, as she was going to turn music back on, as she went passed said thought you were going to put music back on? She didn’t... So I said ok want me to do it? She said may as well as you want to do everything, so responded you got the strop now? What you think! So then I just said fuck you then and went and watched tv Not a good move, sister in law, brother in law, daughter and wife all had a go, as I never went back out.. last night was awful I have been accused of putting her through hell as am a miserable bastard, she doesn’t want me here anymore and her marriage is over. She’s told her father not to come out as the marriage is over, he was coming out today.. Daughter is fully on board and gave me hell.. One thing you should know a couple of years ago I pushed the wife in an argument I was d*unk at the time, never hurt her, but I admitted I was suffering issues and sought help after, they claim I am back to the same again, I’m selfish and only think of myself. I don’t know maybe their right? Last six months have been hard I changed jobs and hated it, it did make me depressed, but last week I started somewhere new and am ok. I have been having health issues that I am told is likely I have spinal stenosis, no energy can’t walk very far without being in agony! Maybe all of this has made me miserable and difficult! I love my wife to bits, she knows, but I don’t think it’s enough this time, perhaps o should let it all go?? | |||
"What did you do? She had her sister over yesterday I was working 5:45 to 2pm Got back was social they were watching recorded off sky the wedding, anyway I had a few jobs to do, re- fitting shower was one, so did some of that, later I was doing the bbq and I felt she had too much to drink as she dropped a few things,, so took it on myself to do all cooking. Daughter made a comment, I said well if I don’t do it who will? Wasn’t annoyed or anything, then wife picked up a load of plates almost dropped them all so I picked them up took them inside, she followed, as she was going to turn music back on, as she went passed said thought you were going to put music back on? She didn’t... So I said ok want me to do it? She said may as well as you want to do everything, so responded you got the strop now? What you think! So then I just said fuck you then and went and watched tv Not a good move, sister in law, brother in law, daughter and wife all had a go, as I never went back out.. last night was awful I have been accused of putting her through hell as am a miserable bastard, she doesn’t want me here anymore and her marriage is over. She’s told her father not to come out as the marriage is over, he was coming out today.. Daughter is fully on board and gave me hell.. One thing you should know a couple of years ago I pushed the wife in an argument I was d*unk at the time, never hurt her, but I admitted I was suffering issues and sought help after, they claim I am back to the same again, I’m selfish and only think of myself. I don’t know maybe their right? Last six months have been hard I changed jobs and hated it, it did make me depressed, but last week I started somewhere new and am ok. I have been having health issues that I am told is likely I have spinal stenosis, no energy can’t walk very far without being in agony! Maybe all of this has made me miserable and difficult! I love my wife to bits, she knows, but I don’t think it’s enough this time, perhaps o should let it all go??" you really need to seek help for yourself OP give your wife some space get the help you need then sit down with your wife and talk, I wish you well xx | |||
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"Difficult to comment without knowing the background but if you're both unhappy could you try counselling together to speak freely in front of an impartial third party to find the best way forward? Good luck" Things have to change, try counseling, and be honest,say how you feel, not what you think they want to hear. | |||
"You wake up at stupid O'clock in the morning and spent all day at work just to come home to more chores and then go on to cook a meal for your wife and her family whilst they spend the day doing nothing but drinking, when she gets too d*unk you try to look out for her and help out before she trashes your home, and you have the stupidity to call your actions selfish? I think its you that should be mad with her and not the other way around. Its easy for someone to play the victim when their the one doing the crying about it but dont let that fool you. " Quite nicely put ,mmmm tend to agree with you there fella | |||
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"Nothing is irreparable.... Unless you let it be " ^this Good luck OP............ | |||
"Sit her down with her (when not d*unk, tipsy or tired) and have a good chat. Just you and her. Last night may have just been the drink talking and she was putting on a show for her family. " I think you need to chat with her on neutral ground, where there is less likely for interruptions from family or friends, but ultimately its clear that decisions have to be made about your relationship. You said in your op that you had screwed up, on this occasion in the context you have described I don't see it that way, it could be the drink talking, it could be something more deeper but one things for sure you can't carry on like this, it's unhealthy for you both and can result in more serious problems if allowed to rumble on. I hope it gets sorted for you x | |||
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"What did you do? She had her sister over yesterday I was working 5:45 to 2pm Got back was social they were watching recorded off sky the wedding, anyway I had a few jobs to do, re- fitting shower was one, so did some of that, later I was doing the bbq and I felt she had too much to drink as she dropped a few things,, so took it on myself to do all cooking. Daughter made a comment, I said well if I don’t do it who will? Wasn’t annoyed or anything, then wife picked up a load of plates almost dropped them all so I picked them up took them inside, she followed, as she was going to turn music back on, as she went passed said thought you were going to put music back on? She didn’t... So I said ok want me to do it? She said may as well as you want to do everything, so responded you got the strop now? What you think! So then I just said fuck you then and went and watched tv Not a good move, sister in law, brother in law, daughter and wife all had a go, as I never went back out.. last night was awful I have been accused of putting her through hell as am a miserable bastard, she doesn’t want me here anymore and her marriage is over. She’s told her father not to come out as the marriage is over, he was coming out today.. Daughter is fully on board and gave me hell.. One thing you should know a couple of years ago I pushed the wife in an argument I was d*unk at the time, never hurt her, but I admitted I was suffering issues and sought help after, they claim I am back to the same again, I’m selfish and only think of myself. I don’t know maybe their right? Last six months have been hard I changed jobs and hated it, it did make me depressed, but last week I started somewhere new and am ok. I have been having health issues that I am told is likely I have spinal stenosis, no energy can’t walk very far without being in agony! Maybe all of this has made me miserable and difficult! I love my wife to bits, she knows, but I don’t think it’s enough this time, perhaps o should let it all go??" Without actually being there it is tough to pass comment however, it sounds to me that there has been somewhat of an over reaction on their part, not yours. | |||
"What did you do? She had her sister over yesterday I was working 5:45 to 2pm Got back was social they were watching recorded off sky the wedding, anyway I had a few jobs to do, re- fitting shower was one, so did some of that, later I was doing the bbq and I felt she had too much to drink as she dropped a few things,, so took it on myself to do all cooking. Daughter made a comment, I said well if I don’t do it who will? Wasn’t annoyed or anything, then wife picked up a load of plates almost dropped them all so I picked them up took them inside, she followed, as she was going to turn music back on, as she went passed said thought you were going to put music back on? She didn’t... So I said ok want me to do it? She said may as well as you want to do everything, so responded you got the strop now? What you think! So then I just said fuck you then and went and watched tv Not a good move, sister in law, brother in law, daughter and wife all had a go, as I never went back out.. last night was awful I have been accused of putting her through hell as am a miserable bastard, she doesn’t want me here anymore and her marriage is over. She’s told her father not to come out as the marriage is over, he was coming out today.. Daughter is fully on board and gave me hell.. One thing you should know a couple of years ago I pushed the wife in an argument I was d*unk at the time, never hurt her, but I admitted I was suffering issues and sought help after, they claim I am back to the same again, I’m selfish and only think of myself. I don’t know maybe their right? Last six months have been hard I changed jobs and hated it, it did make me depressed, but last week I started somewhere new and am ok. I have been having health issues that I am told is likely I have spinal stenosis, no energy can’t walk very far without being in agony! Maybe all of this has made me miserable and difficult! I love my wife to bits, she knows, but I don’t think it’s enough this time, perhaps o should let it all go??" This is your take on what happened but there are always at least two sides to any story and I wonder what your wife's version of it would be. Regardless of that your choices as I see them are couples counselling to see if you are both willing to work at repairing your relationship or if things have gone past the point of no return then you still need to talk in order to seperate amicably. It must be a horrible situation to be in for all concerned (including your daughter who is stuck in the middle) and I do feel for you. Which ever way this goes I would also say it might be helpful/healing to get some counselling for yourself also. Hug of support and good luck. | |||
"Today I have been a total twat, I have hurt the most important people in the world. My stupid childish actions have caused a rift between my wife and I that is irreparable What an absolute twat I am Us men are twats and by admitting that makes you a good man. Now admit to your wife that you've been a twat and take her out and treat her like a fuckin princess and it will be all good. Good luck my friend.
Do you really think thats all it takes
not all women are that easy
I don't think many women will forgive irreparable damage just because someone admits to being a twat then takes her out.
"Possibly the admission of responsibility will do more good than the evening out. Adults,in a grown up relationship,who value that relationship,will find a way to work through problems. Nobody really expects their partner to be perfect,do they? What really counts is the ability to move forward. | |||
"Have to stay off the booze and talk. Both of you." I wasn’t drinking | |||
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"Have to stay off the booze and talk. Both of you. I wasn’t drinking" You've done nothing wrong, it's her that was pissed acting the goat, she should be apologising to you. | |||
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