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over a year ago
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Is this a good idea or not we always had great sex and ill be honest a have slept with her since we split once or twice but feel like she wants me back wen I made it clear it was just fun! and we were over do I keep doing it for the sex or stop all together because we are done  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you want to mess up with your head and your feelings... Keep fucking her."
That's it I feel she is fucking with my head and I should just put a stop to it and I know this my self think I just wanted a great fuck for old times sake now sh wants more n more, im just gonna tell her we can't do it anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You'll be doing her a greater kindness by not sleeping with her again.
I've been there in the past on the receiving end, hoping that one more fuck will get them to want me properly oh and go on just another one and you're bound to start falling in love. It doesn't happen and you're just left with love bites all over your tits and neck as you try and jet wash their spunk out of your cunt with the shower head.
Don't go there unless your intentions are to get back with her. It's cruel and unnecessary. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Feel like she wants you back?
You shouldn’t assume. Ask her.
Then get the answer your looking for from your own intuition. "
I 99% certain she wants me back but I don't and if this continues she's gonna think deep down I want it to, I'll put a stop to it thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You'll be doing her a greater kindness by not sleeping with her again.
I've been there in the past on the receiving end, hoping that one more fuck will get them to want me properly oh and go on just another one and you're bound to start falling in love. It doesn't happen and you're just left with love bites all over your tits and neck as you try and jet wash their spunk out of your cunt with the shower head.
Don't go there unless your intentions are to get back with her. It's cruel and unnecessary. "
I know your right it did feel kind of weird and im sure I heard her say she loves me still iv gotta put an end to it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you want to mess up with your head and your feelings... Keep fucking her.
That's it I feel she is fucking with my head and I should just put a stop to it and I know this my self think I just wanted a great fuck for old times sake now sh wants more n more, im just gonna tell her we can't do it anymore."
It sounds like you’re the one doing the head fucking. If you think she wants you back then give the girl some closure and let her move on. The more times you have see with her the more she’ll think you’ll get back together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You'll be doing her a greater kindness by not sleeping with her again.
I've been there in the past on the receiving end, hoping that one more fuck will get them to want me properly oh and go on just another one and you're bound to start falling in love. It doesn't happen and you're just left with love bites all over your tits and neck as you try and jet wash their spunk out of your cunt with the shower head.
Don't go there unless your intentions are to get back with her. It's cruel and unnecessary.
I know your right it did feel kind of weird and im sure I heard her say she loves me still iv gotta put an end to it "
Out of interest why is she ok to fuck but not have a relationship with? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You'll be doing her a greater kindness by not sleeping with her again.
I've been there in the past on the receiving end, hoping that one more fuck will get them to want me properly oh and go on just another one and you're bound to start falling in love. It doesn't happen and you're just left with love bites all over your tits and neck as you try and jet wash their spunk out of your cunt with the shower head.
Don't go there unless your intentions are to get back with her. It's cruel and unnecessary.
I know your right it did feel kind of weird and im sure I heard her say she loves me still iv gotta put an end to it
Out of interest why is she ok to fuck but not have a relationship with?"
Long story short I found msg's on her phone from other lads while I was at work that she was responding to I'll leave the rest to your imagination, she lied about it all and I kept finding them for a bit couldn't trust her anymore and left |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this a good idea or not we always had great sex and ill be honest a have slept with her since we split once or twice but feel like she wants me back wen I made it clear it was just fun! and we were over do I keep doing it for the sex or stop all together because we are done "
Probably stop otherwise you’re a bit of a selfish tool, leading her on when you know/suspect she wants more. Even if you tell her how it is, your actions arent agreeing with that in her head.
Seems to be a lot of disrespectful of others threads lately? One guy wants to wank in public, one wants to text other people’s wives suspiciously and now someone wants to lead a girl up the garden path? I thought this was all about being open, liberated, open etc not being a selfish pervert? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You'll be doing her a greater kindness by not sleeping with her again.
I've been there in the past on the receiving end, hoping that one more fuck will get them to want me properly oh and go on just another one and you're bound to start falling in love. It doesn't happen and you're just left with love bites all over your tits and neck as you try and jet wash their spunk out of your cunt with the shower head.
Don't go there unless your intentions are to get back with her. It's cruel and unnecessary.
I know your right it did feel kind of weird and im sure I heard her say she loves me still iv gotta put an end to it
Out of interest why is she ok to fuck but not have a relationship with?
Long story short I found msg's on her phone from other lads while I was at work that she was responding to I'll leave the rest to your imagination, she lied about it all and I kept finding them for a bit couldn't trust her anymore and left"
Do you still Iove her, do you think this break and thought of losing you is enough to make her see that it's you she wants as she clearly does, is there a chance of reconciliation on the basis that she knows one more strike and that's it for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you want to mess up with your head and your feelings... Keep fucking her.
That's it I feel she is fucking with my head and I should just put a stop to it and I know this my self think I just wanted a great fuck for old times sake now sh wants more n more, im just gonna tell her we can't do it anymore.
It sounds like you’re the one doing the head fucking. If you think she wants you back then give the girl some closure and let her move on. The more times you have see with her the more she’ll think you’ll get back together. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is this a good idea or not we always had great sex and ill be honest a have slept with her since we split once or twice but feel like she wants me back wen I made it clear it was just fun! and we were over do I keep doing it for the sex or stop all together because we are done
Probably stop otherwise you’re a bit of a selfish tool, leading her on when you know/suspect she wants more. Even if you tell her how it is, your actions arent agreeing with that in her head.
Seems to be a lot of disrespectful of others threads lately? One guy wants to wank in public, one wants to text other people’s wives suspiciously and now someone wants to lead a girl up the garden path? I thought this was all about being open, liberated, open etc not being a selfish pervert?"
hang on pal im leading know one up the garden path or Beeing a selfish pervert she wanted the sex like I did all im saying is should I put an and to it because I know it's not good for the both of us in the end and I don't want her to think im still interested like she is, she's playing games not me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes. What you’re doing is a bit of a twats trick. Like a carrot to a donkey.
Tell her you both need to move on and stop giving her false hope "
I don't feel like I'm giving her false hope but I can see where your coming from I make it very clear to her we are done and it's just sex and tells me she's knows that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this a good idea or not we always had great sex and ill be honest a have slept with her since we split once or twice but feel like she wants me back wen I made it clear it was just fun! and we were over do I keep doing it for the sex or stop all together because we are done
Probably stop otherwise you’re a bit of a selfish tool, leading her on when you know/suspect she wants more. Even if you tell her how it is, your actions arent agreeing with that in her head.
Seems to be a lot of disrespectful of others threads lately? One guy wants to wank in public, one wants to text other people’s wives suspiciously and now someone wants to lead a girl up the garden path? I thought this was all about being open, liberated, open etc not being a selfish pervert?
hang on pal im leading know one up the garden path or Beeing a selfish pervert she wanted the sex like I did all im saying is should I put an and to it because I know it's not good for the both of us in the end and I don't want her to think im still interested like she is, she's playing games not me"
I didn’t say you were a pervert, I was talking about the guy wanking in bushes or texting people’s wives.
Pretty much every reply is “stop fucking her” because the morale compass of the majority sees it’s a bad and sorry but yes, slightly selfish thing to do given the context you put it in? Surely your own morals or values come above what a bunch of strangers think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s like walking a fine line, being careful not to allow old feelings back but it’s comfortable yet that can leave me unsatisfied because it’s usually lazy sex which isn’t very exciting when there are new meets out there with new people to explore, it’s usually best left alone and moving on to others |
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"Yes. What you’re doing is a bit of a twats trick. Like a carrot to a donkey.
Tell her you both need to move on and stop giving her false hope
I don't feel like I'm giving her false hope but I can see where your coming from I make it very clear to her we are done and it's just sex and tells me she's knows that "
Thing is. You hold the cards. You dumped her. You’re the one that can take her back... she’s probably hoping spending time together will re-ignite a flame. You’ve told her no, but she’s probably hoping you’re just seeing how it goes.
It’s kinder just to cut ties |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You'll be doing her a greater kindness by not sleeping with her again.
I've been there in the past on the receiving end, hoping that one more fuck will get them to want me properly oh and go on just another one and you're bound to start falling in love. It doesn't happen and you're just left with love bites all over your tits and neck as you try and jet wash their spunk out of your cunt with the shower head.
Don't go there unless your intentions are to get back with her. It's cruel and unnecessary.
I know your right it did feel kind of weird and im sure I heard her say she loves me still iv gotta put an end to it
Out of interest why is she ok to fuck but not have a relationship with?
Long story short I found msg's on her phone from other lads while I was at work that she was responding to I'll leave the rest to your imagination, she lied about it all and I kept finding them for a bit couldn't trust her anymore and left
Do you still Iove her, do you think this break and thought of losing you is enough to make her see that it's you she wants as she clearly does, is there a chance of reconciliation on the basis that she knows one more strike and that's it for you?"
no I don't love her anymore I am gonna put an end to it because I have moved on and she needs to and if this is making her feel that way that's not what I wanted from this, I care about her enough to not want her feelings messed with so I'll talk to her and end it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes. What you’re doing is a bit of a twats trick. Like a carrot to a donkey.
Tell her you both need to move on and stop giving her false hope
I don't feel like I'm giving her false hope but I can see where your coming from I make it very clear to her we are done and it's just sex and tells me she's knows that
Thing is. You hold the cards. You dumped her. You’re the one that can take her back... she’s probably hoping spending time together will re-ignite a flame. You’ve told her no, but she’s probably hoping you’re just seeing how it goes.
It’s kinder just to cut ties"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh for gods sake, so the guy had sex with an ex, making it clear it was nothing more. Kill him. Kill him dead. "
With fire!
He asked, he’s getting opinions. Why ask then cry when you get a few disproving comments? And I think most agreed it was the context of carrying on doing it, knowing she felt and wanted more? This is where “liberated attitudes” cross the line or get a bit messy. Respect for feelings is important. Being open doesn’t just mean fucking your way round as much as you can regardless? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. What you’re doing is a bit of a twats trick. Like a carrot to a donkey.
Tell her you both need to move on and stop giving her false hope
I don't feel like I'm giving her false hope but I can see where your coming from I make it very clear to her we are done and it's just sex and tells me she's knows that "
I know you don't feel like you're giving her false hope but by seeing her for sex it still is. I've been there, even with the guy telling me it was just casual I still thought that if he kept sleeping with me he's bound to change his mind. She'll pretend she's cool with it but she's just taking the crumbs you're throwing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh for gods sake, so the guy had sex with an ex, making it clear it was nothing more. Kill him. Kill him dead. "
I know this kind of thing must happen a lot and iv not intended to lead her on in anyway shape or form i made very clear to her what we were doing if she feels otherwise surely she should be honest with me about how she feels |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. What you’re doing is a bit of a twats trick. Like a carrot to a donkey.
Tell her you both need to move on and stop giving her false hope
I don't feel like I'm giving her false hope but I can see where your coming from I make it very clear to her we are done and it's just sex and tells me she's knows that
I know you don't feel like you're giving her false hope but by seeing her for sex it still is. I've been there, even with the guy telling me it was just casual I still thought that if he kept sleeping with me he's bound to change his mind. She'll pretend she's cool with it but she's just taking the crumbs you're throwing. "
Of course it’s givung her false hope? You’d have to be a total knuckle dragger not to realise that? Regardless of what you tell her? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes. What you’re doing is a bit of a twats trick. Like a carrot to a donkey.
Tell her you both need to move on and stop giving her false hope
I don't feel like I'm giving her false hope but I can see where your coming from I make it very clear to her we are done and it's just sex and tells me she's knows that
I know you don't feel like you're giving her false hope but by seeing her for sex it still is. I've been there, even with the guy telling me it was just casual I still thought that if he kept sleeping with me he's bound to change his mind. She'll pretend she's cool with it but she's just taking the crumbs you're throwing. "
yeah I understand that and I will end it cheers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had sex loads with my ex husband after we split, I would say the sex was better to be honest but when I met Ads and stopped it all, he got stroppy with me and wanted me to carry on saying ‘it’s only sex’ and it wasn’t very nice, I saw a side of him I never knew existed.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Leave her alone...it’s like you men have a sixth sense...they know when you’re doing ok without them and starting to get used to not being with them and BANG....they appear again, it’s like you men know!!! Ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm the one who's ex crawled out of the woodwork for exactly this recently. I don't want a relationship with him but I do still love him. Sex is sex for me... But the mind fuck that comes with shagging the ex, whether I think I can deal with it or not, is damaging!
We shared a life together. We were building a future together. We don't have that now and to dismiss all those memories for the sake of a meaningless fuck seems distasteful to me. |
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