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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.? |
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"Nothing wrong with being fussy.
Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!"
How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
as a couple you both need to fancy that person, so it is very hard to find someone whom you both got to agree..
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
You have every right to be fussy! I won’t meet just anyone either. Mind you, you guys look saucy! And close by (I am in hessle) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nothing wrong with being fussy.
Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!
How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing. "
Steve I think they’re not for us. Seem quite seedy (sorry!) and not what we’re looking for or needing? And maybe not brave enough haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?
You have every right to be fussy! I won’t meet just anyone either. Mind you, you guys look saucy! And close by (I am in hessle)"
Hahah. Cheeky!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
I would use the word discerning rather than fussy xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can never be too fussy .... why settle for something that you might regret  . It is harder trying to find 4 people who are all attracted and for us personality plays a massive part too . If you are here for the long haul rather than just a few months to get a few meets , take your time and find the right people you really like .
Clubs are good and we enjoy them but I will say that we arnt by any means shy but sometimes find it hard to start chatting to people so go expecting to push yourself a little and start the conversations first . Xx
Mrs xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s not always possible to know whether there would be a sexual connection from a profile. If we were actively looking, and had the time to meet, we would probably get a shortlist together from about 50 profiles and see where that goes. You can always say no after meeting in person.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time  |
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"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time "
Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there. |
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"Nothing wrong with being fussy.
Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!
How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing.
Steve I think they’re not for us. Seem quite seedy (sorry!) and not what we’re looking for or needing? And maybe not brave enough haha"
We love clubs because it is hard to find mutual attraction between 4 people. Clubs massively increase you chance of meeting the right couple.
There's some rather nice clubs about... we've busted several and very few could be labelled seedy.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time
Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there. "
So funny as MrHs family are there  |
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"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time
Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there.
So funny as MrHs family are there "
My social skills are a tad below par this evening (see Busted comment)  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time
Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there.
So funny as MrHs family are there
My social skills are a tad below par this evening (see Busted comment) "
Haha mine too. Wine before dark is lethal. Or fun hahh  |
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"I like being fussy why not ?
We’re still new and wasn’t sure if we were discounting a whole raft of people!"
Yes, you probably are - they are adrift on the sea of unsuitability, but look yonder! Here come more people.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s good to be picky and have standards. Why meet someone you don’t fancy?
A lot of people have sex with anything with a pulse just for the sake of having sex. |
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"Nothing wrong with being fussy.
Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!"
Agreed,this is why we mainly use this profile for clubs and socials and have seperate profiles to meet alone on too.
Miss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
U are what u are no likey no lighty simples |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You all make sense! Thank you!
MrH and I have AMAZING sex and just want to explore boundaries. You’re right. We can wait for the right ones.
Nor saying we’ve not met some already mind you |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I haven't had sex in over a year! If I am not attracted to somebody body and mind then it is not going to happen, am I happy about it? Fuck No, would I change my process? I'd love to be able to say yes, but alas my brain knows what my body wants so I am stuck with not having sex |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
i hate to be the pragmatist here.... but just because they looked, it doesn't mean they wanted to swing with you either...
they may be just as fussy as you.... 
so unless you got 50+ replies, you can't presume anything.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Out of the 50+ views, how many approached you with a message, wink or friend request?
If they all did at least one of the above, fair enough for you being fussy. If they didn't initiate any contact... weeeellll... that's not you being fussy. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Out of the 50+ views, how many approached you with a message, wink or friend request?
If they all did at least one of the above, fair enough for you being fussy. If they didn't initiate any contact... weeeellll... that's not you being fussy. "
Totally agree, views mean Sweet FA, they looked they weren't interested in messaging, no idea why people use 'views' as any sort of measurement |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too far away
No veris
Too short
Looks like a Viking
Too old
Too young
Profile full of cock pics
Text speak
Graphic pictures attached to message
Too thin
Too fat
I think I may be a teeny weeny bit fussy hence 8 months of "me time"
I'm not sure being fussy is always such a good thing?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
Imagine if the ratio of men to women was reversed, how many women would make the cut?
Not many judging but your own standards |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with being fussy.
Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!
How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing.
Steve I think they’re not for us. Seem quite seedy (sorry!) and not what we’re looking for or needing? And maybe not brave enough haha"
A social is pretty much going to a pub for a drink and a chat. Having a stranger in your home to fuck and go imo is far more seedy.
I think also you should be as choosy as you like..... I know I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
Views are not messages. Maybe the people viewing you are being too fussy? |
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
Only you know if you’re being too fussy .
Do you get pissed off at the lack of opportunity coming your way ?
As others have said a view means nothing , it’s when you get 50 messages that it means anything . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.
Are we too fussy?
We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
nothing wrong with being fussy it's a good thing! Not everyone is someone's type and when you connect with someone you like and they like you it's well worth the wait  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all forgot I posted this oops!
I know views mean nothing but I don’t really go searching for people, I’ll look at folk on the forums and ones that have looked at ya or dabbed our pics but that’s all. It was just an example of numbers if that makes sense.
We’re still very new to this and one of us isn’t as naturally sociable as the other  so taking things really slowly and definitely not up for clubs. Always do a social first anyway, so wouldn’t change that.
I’m glad others are fussy and our filters don’t allow certain groups to message us anyway. I’d be horrified to receive hundreds of messages, we get enough really!
I was just curious as to what others do, wondered if your “standards” changed as you became more experienced.
Have a good day!
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