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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Half the time its because they send that many messages out in the first place that they forget you told them they werent your type..
I like to remind them just befor i block them  |
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today"
Probably because women get so many messages that they bulk delete, and some guys might think they've deleted thier message without reading? Maybe?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they think that persistence is the key to success. The Mrs Doyle approach to life
No idea what that is"
Go on
Go on
Go on
Go on
Go on
Arrrrr ya will
Yes ya will
Go on ya will
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"With the new mail system (grouping) it’s even funnier to see the same cut and paste messages one after another with weeks in between.  "
I never cut and paste, I read each profile and message individually. Because everyone is different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With the new mail system (grouping) it’s even funnier to see the same cut and paste messages one after another with weeks in between. "
Surely with such an abundance of tenacity and determination they have the decency to shuffle their templates?!  |
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By *hil39Man
over a year ago
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today"
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao"
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao"
One word: preferences.
Actually, two more: personal choice. |
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"With the new mail system (grouping) it’s even funnier to see the same cut and paste messages one after another with weeks in between.
Surely with such an abundance of tenacity and determination they have the decency to shuffle their templates?! "
If only |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao"
You can't have sex with a personality..... that's just me though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With the new mail system (grouping) it’s even funnier to see the same cut and paste messages one after another with weeks in between. I never cut and paste, I read each profile and message individually. Because everyone is different. "
Then I’m not referring to you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have one guy messaging the same two messages every 30 mins or so on and off all evening. Every day. Im just fascinated to see how long he'll go on for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have one guy messaging the same two messages every 30 mins or so on and off all evening. Every day. Im just fascinated to see how long he'll go on for. "
Fancy a fuck?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With the new mail system (grouping) it’s even funnier to see the same cut and paste messages one after another with weeks in between.
Surely with such an abundance of tenacity and determination they have the decency to shuffle their templates?! "
I know, right?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have one guy messaging the same two messages every 30 mins or so on and off all evening. Every day. Im just fascinated to see how long he'll go on for. "
I wonder if mine is the same one!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao"
it's, obviously, not all down to personality. I can usually tell as far as i need to whether i want to take a chat any further from a quick look at a profile. Surely thats the point of them? |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)"
You should duck... you got the looks but not the personality  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)
You should duck... you got the looks but not the personality "
Meh, I'll take it |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao"
Irrespective of personality I don't find men shorter than me attractive. Nor do i find obese attractive and whilst that person may be lovely I don't want to get jiggy with them |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)
You should duck... you got the looks but not the personality
Meh, I'll take it"
I think the fairies should return your personality  coco has more of it than you Hahah
(Jokes dear - before I get moaned at) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)
You should duck... you got the looks but not the personality
Meh, I'll take it
I think the fairies should return your personality coco has more of it than you Hahah
(Jokes dear - before I get moaned at)"
I think it's gone for good, damn fairies are long gone with it. Little bastards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got no issue with that as a reply and I'll happily move on.
However, when I've said the same to a couple of different women I got a tirade of abuse as if I should be thankful they fancied me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got no issue with that as a reply and I'll happily move on.
However, when I've said the same to a couple of different women I got a tirade of abuse as if I should be thankful they fancied me "
That's always fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today"
Wasnt me grumpy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have one guy messaging the same two messages every 30 mins or so on and off all evening. Every day. Im just fascinated to see how long he'll go on for.
I wonder if mine is the same one!!"
I must admit, I've done that with someone after forgetting to block. He was being very nice and I thought I'd see how many times he would get a no thanks before noticing it was me.
I realise that changing your main profile pic can confuse people. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Why don't people block when they say not my type? I don't understand bringing all this angst to your door, when there's a simple solution to it."
I don't block because I organise social events and it's pretty rude to block just because not my type |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My type changes from what I've noticed. Not that I message women though, they're safe  "
Good point 2 months ago i liked a welsh accent now i like irish i still like redheads tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a few thins that are important to me enough to mention them on my profile, height, hair, single and location.
Still doesn't stop people that don't fit any of those things messaging. Feel like saying if they didn't matter to me I wouldn't put them on my profile, please respect my preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They probably just forget they mailed already.
The ones having a go even when they don't fit the criteria probably aren't malicious, just being friendly.
Many get so fed up with getting no replies they just mail everyone within a 200 mile radius. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)
You should duck... you got the looks but not the personality
Meh, I'll take it
I think the fairies should return your personality coco has more of it than you Hahah
(Jokes dear - before I get moaned at)
I think it's gone for good, damn fairies are long gone with it. Little bastards "
I'll get a search party on the go!
Might find it at the bottom of an espresso cup |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)
You should duck... you got the looks but not the personality
Meh, I'll take it
I think the fairies should return your personality coco has more of it than you Hahah
(Jokes dear - before I get moaned at)
I think it's gone for good, damn fairies are long gone with it. Little bastards
I'll get a search party on the go!
Might find it at the bottom of an espresso cup "
Or a rum and |
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"With the new mail system (grouping) it’s even funnier to see the same cut and paste messages one after another with weeks in between. I never cut and paste, I read each profile and message individually. Because everyone is different. "
We're not |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)"
For me I' m afraid it's looks first, followed by profile and then content/tone of first message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)
For me I' m afraid it's looks first, followed by profile and then content/tone of first message. "
Don't be affraid. We're allowed to only get naked with people we want to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why don't people block when they say not my type? I don't understand bringing all this angst to your door, when there's a simple solution to it.
I don't block because I organise social events and it's pretty rude to block just because not my type "
It's not rude, it's sensible. But, as you say, you organise socials, so you don't want to be blocking men who might want to go to one.
So, you have to put up with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can't say Coke!? I mean cola fabswingers over zealous blocking program thing! Coca Cola!
Ooh cola Mmmm
I’m on wine! 
Me too, Malbec this evening"
I prefer Rioja however I’m drinking white tonight, saying that I spent the afternoon drinking prosecco with a fab friend! |
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"You can't say Coke!? I mean cola fabswingers over zealous blocking program thing! Coca Cola!
Ooh cola Mmmm
I’m on wine!
Me too, Malbec this evening
I prefer Rioja however I’m drinking white tonight, saying that I spent the afternoon drinking prosecco with a fab friend! "
Prosecco makes me forget what I've done.
Never really got the taste for Rioja. But more Malbec for me I suppose |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"You can't say Coke!? I mean cola fabswingers over zealous blocking program thing! Coca Cola!
Ooh cola Mmmm
I’m on wine!
Me too, Malbec this evening
I prefer Rioja however I’m drinking white tonight, saying that I spent the afternoon drinking prosecco with a fab friend!
Prosecco makes me forget what I've done.
Never really got the taste for Rioja. But more Malbec for me I suppose "
Drinking makes me forget what i do and I end up in bizarre places |
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"You can't say Coke!? I mean cola fabswingers over zealous blocking program thing! Coca Cola!
Ooh cola Mmmm
I’m on wine!
Me too, Malbec this evening
I prefer Rioja however I’m drinking white tonight, saying that I spent the afternoon drinking prosecco with a fab friend!
Prosecco makes me forget what I've done.
Never really got the taste for Rioja. But more Malbec for me I suppose
Drinking makes me forget what i do and I end up in bizarre places "
Hehe you still are yet to end up at my house! |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"You can't say Coke!? I mean cola fabswingers over zealous blocking program thing! Coca Cola!
Ooh cola Mmmm
I’m on wine!
Me too, Malbec this evening
I prefer Rioja however I’m drinking white tonight, saying that I spent the afternoon drinking prosecco with a fab friend!
Prosecco makes me forget what I've done.
Never really got the taste for Rioja. But more Malbec for me I suppose
Drinking makes me forget what i do and I end up in bizarre places
Hehe you still are yet to end up at my house! "
That's on the cards tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can't say Coke!? I mean cola fabswingers over zealous blocking program thing! Coca Cola!
Ooh cola Mmmm
I’m on wine!
Me too, Malbec this evening
I prefer Rioja however I’m drinking white tonight, saying that I spent the afternoon drinking prosecco with a fab friend!
Prosecco makes me forget what I've done.
Never really got the taste for Rioja. But more Malbec for me I suppose
Drinking makes me forget what i do and I end up in bizarre places
Hehe you still are yet to end up at my house!
That's on the cards tho "
Indeed it is  |
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There are times I delete all my messages without reading. Times when I'm not on the mood. Others when that person doesn't tickle my pickle at that exact moment. They tried again and I've changed my mind.
If you don't want them creeping up your drainpipe again, block em? |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Half the time its because they send that many messages out in the first place that they forget you told them they werent your type..
I like to remind them just befor i block them "
Or remind them they sent you that message two weeka ago ....copy and paste. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today"
Having seen you in a club look straight past me when searching for another guy to join your greedy girl sessions, it’s easy to feel sympathy for those guys you have turned down but your absolutely right , why would you choose a person that doesn’t turn you on instantly or fit your self made check list?
That same night I also witnessed poetic justice as a I guy you picked said “ no thanks “ and the guy you had picked had little to no stamina.
I have my own personal preference to what I find attractive and I’m so happy it never clouds my judgement or I would of missed out on some amazing meets.
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
Having seen you in a club look straight past me when searching for another guy to join your greedy girl sessions, it’s easy to feel sympathy for those guys you have turned down but your absolutely right , why would you choose a person that doesn’t turn you on instantly or fit your self made check list?
That same night I also witnessed poetic justice as a I guy you picked said “ no thanks “ and the guy you had picked had little to no stamina.
I have my own personal preference to what I find attractive and I’m so happy it never clouds my judgement or I would of missed out on some amazing meets.
Sx "
I would look past you as I look for tall men which is my preference. I don't believe for one minute that I'm everyone's type. The world would be a boring place if that were the case but you continue to try and slag me off..... water off a ducks back really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
Having seen you in a club look straight past me when searching for another guy to join your greedy girl sessions, it’s easy to feel sympathy for those guys you have turned down but your absolutely right , why would you choose a person that doesn’t turn you on instantly or fit your self made check list?
That same night I also witnessed poetic justice as a I guy you picked said “ no thanks “ and the guy you had picked had little to no stamina.
I have my own personal preference to what I find attractive and I’m so happy it never clouds my judgement or I would of missed out on some amazing meets.
Sx
I would look past you as I look for tall men which is my preference. I don't believe for one minute that I'm everyone's type. The world would be a boring place if that were the case but you continue to try and slag me off..... water off a ducks back really."
Wow wow I’m not slagging you off ? I have nothing but respect for you I’m just speaking out for those that have tried to connect with you? Your a stunning looking lady for every guy you look past a hundred others will step forward so you get to be a picky as you like where as other don’t and because of that you have no way to understand why they tried to message you again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are times I delete all my messages without reading. Times when I'm not on the mood. Others when that person doesn't tickle my pickle at that exact moment. They tried again and I've changed my mind.
If you don't want them creeping up your drainpipe again, block em?"
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
Having seen you in a club look straight past me when searching for another guy to join your greedy girl sessions, it’s easy to feel sympathy for those guys you have turned down but your absolutely right , why would you choose a person that doesn’t turn you on instantly or fit your self made check list?
That same night I also witnessed poetic justice as a I guy you picked said “ no thanks “ and the guy you had picked had little to no stamina.
I have my own personal preference to what I find attractive and I’m so happy it never clouds my judgement or I would of missed out on some amazing meets.
Sx
I would look past you as I look for tall men which is my preference. I don't believe for one minute that I'm everyone's type. The world would be a boring place if that were the case but you continue to try and slag me off..... water off a ducks back really.
Wow wow I’m not slagging you off ? I have nothing but respect for you I’m just speaking out for those that have tried to connect with you? Your a stunning looking lady for every guy you look past a hundred others will step forward so you get to be a picky as you like where as other don’t and because of that you have no way to understand why they tried to message you again? "
"That same night I also witnessed poetic justice as a I guy you picked said “ no thanks “ and the guy you had picked had little to no stamina"
That is slagging me off or at least trying to belittle me. I've messaged ppl for it to be just deleted or a no thanks and I accept it for that
I wouldn't continue to message them tho or hope they change their mind. I speak to everyone.... That doesn't mean I would have sex with them!!! |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"There are times I delete all my messages without reading. Times when I'm not on the mood. Others when that person doesn't tickle my pickle at that exact moment. They tried again and I've changed my mind.
If you don't want them creeping up your drainpipe again, block em?"
Again .... I host events so blocking someone cos they aren't my type isn't fair as that would automatically exclude them from attending future events. |
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
Having seen you in a club look straight past me when searching for another guy to join your greedy girl sessions, it’s easy to feel sympathy for those guys you have turned down but your absolutely right , why would you choose a person that doesn’t turn you on instantly or fit your self made check list?
That same night I also witnessed poetic justice as a I guy you picked said “ no thanks “ and the guy you had picked had little to no stamina.
I have my own personal preference to what I find attractive and I’m so happy it never clouds my judgement or I would of missed out on some amazing meets.
Sx
I would look past you as I look for tall men which is my preference. I don't believe for one minute that I'm everyone's type. The world would be a boring place if that were the case but you continue to try and slag me off..... water off a ducks back really.
Wow wow I’m not slagging you off ? I have nothing but respect for you I’m just speaking out for those that have tried to connect with you? Your a stunning looking lady for every guy you look past a hundred others will step forward so you get to be a picky as you like where as other don’t and because of that you have no way to understand why they tried to message you again?
"That same night I also witnessed poetic justice as a I guy you picked said “ no thanks “ and the guy you had picked had little to no stamina"
That is slagging me off or at least trying to belittle me. I've messaged ppl for it to be just deleted or a no thanks and I accept it for that
I wouldn't continue to message them tho or hope they change their mind. I speak to everyone.... That doesn't mean I would have sex with them!!! "
No ? That’s me licking my wounds and finding a way to bounce back from a knock back maybe not the best place to mention it but like I say your never going to get the perspective with unlimited offers so you will never understand why guys send you endless messages after a no from you. |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
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I would never re-message someone who didn’t reply until one day when I read on someone’s profile that she gets so many messages, it’s sometimes worth messaging her again if she doesn’t reply...
I thought about it a bit... and I then decided to re-message a few of the local hotties in my area, who hadn’t replied to me...
To my surprise, most of them replied...
A couple of them said they might be interested in the future..., I’m not ashamed to admit that the majority said no...
But some of them actually wanted to meet...
None actually turned into meets, due to time wasting, one got into a relationship, and one was a bit weird... bit the rest are still on my hot/hit list
I genuinely don’t like to pester, because I know how much some guys bombard the girls on these kinds of sites...
but I have changed my mind on whether of not you should message the same person more than once, even if they don’t reply...
So long as your message is polite, to the point, and you don’t get arsey, I think it should be ok...
Remember, you can always politely decline, or block them |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
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"I read the profile. If I'm not what they are looking for then I don't waste my time and send a message just to get a nil response. Perhaps I'm weird lol"
I used to do that...
But, I have realised that not everyone knows what they want... and I have fancied loads of ladies that weren’t my type...
So I just politely message...
Even if it’s to say something like...
“Great pics, might not be what you’re looking for, but if I am... let me know”
If they get offended, that’s their problem...
But the amount of positive responses I’ve had in that last month or so from messaging anyway, has made it worthwhile...
I’ll be honest, it’s a low percentage...
But there’s been one or two really nice girls who have responded positively... which is all I’m bothered about
I’d just say, be brave, give it a go, and you never know what will happen... |
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"I read the profile. If I'm not what they are looking for then I don't waste my time and send a message just to get a nil response. Perhaps I'm weird lol
I used to do that...
But, I have realised that not everyone knows what they want... and I have fancied loads of ladies that weren’t my type...
So I just politely message...
Even if it’s to say something like...
“Great pics, might not be what you’re looking for, but if I am... let me know”
If they get offended, that’s their problem...
But the amount of positive responses I’ve had in that last month or so from messaging anyway, has made it worthwhile...
I’ll be honest, it’s a low percentage...
But there’s been one or two really nice girls who have responded positively... which is all I’m bothered about
I’d just say, be brave, give it a go, and you never know what will happen... "
Wow I never knew men did this... interesting approach.
Do you think you would have more success if you put out a meet now and let them find you.
I’m asking because I have never sent a first message on any website.
I’d rather be the hunted than the hunter... |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
Manchester City Centre |
"I read the profile. If I'm not what they are looking for then I don't waste my time and send a message just to get a nil response. Perhaps I'm weird lol
I used to do that...
But, I have realised that not everyone knows what they want... and I have fancied loads of ladies that weren’t my type...
So I just politely message...
Even if it’s to say something like...
“Great pics, might not be what you’re looking for, but if I am... let me know”
If they get offended, that’s their problem...
But the amount of positive responses I’ve had in that last month or so from messaging anyway, has made it worthwhile...
I’ll be honest, it’s a low percentage...
But there’s been one or two really nice girls who have responded positively... which is all I’m bothered about
I’d just say, be brave, give it a go, and you never know what will happen...
Wow I never knew men did this... interesting approach.
Do you think you would have more success if you put out a meet now and let them find you.
I’m asking because I have never sent a first message on any website.
I’d rather be the hunted than the hunter..."
In my personal life... over the last few years... I have never chased women...
I usually end up in bed or in relationships with them because they have initiated something...
I prefer not to do the chasing
However... recently, in that last 12-18 months, I’ve changed my approach on online dating...
only for casual meets and hookups...
Don’t get me wrong... I’m not getting swarms of women...
It takes time...
But I have met more women in the last 12 months than I have done in the last few years
I’m not sure I’d like to meet a future partner in this way... but itvhas worked for like-minded women who are looking for a casual relationship, or nothing serious
Putting out a meet hasn’t ever worked for me...
However... I have had a few messages from women too far away... some maybe it’ll just take a bit of time
All I will say is this
Be polite, be interesting, be honest, and don’t come across as easy or needy... and you will be surprised at how well women respond... even if it’s a ‘No’ |
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"Half the time its because they send that many messages out in the first place that they forget you told them they werent your type..
I like to remind them just befor i block them "
I'd have to agree there |
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"With the new mail system (grouping) it’s even funnier to see the same cut and paste messages one after another with weeks in between. "
Funny I never thought of this putting effort in message paying off. |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
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"Half the time its because they send that many messages out in the first place that they forget you told them they werent your type..
I like to remind them just befor i block them
I'd have to agree there "
Ha... that’s the type of guys that give is guys a bad name...
You can add notes to peoples profiles on here (in case you didn’t know)
So I usually put “Wasn’t interested” or “Not meeting until...” etc.
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"Maybe they think that if they keep trying then eventually they will wear us down until we finally give in and say "Oh go on then"
NOT "
Yes stop bombarding me M .... I won’t crack !! |
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today"
Someone messages me every week and has done so since Xmas ... I always delete but don't block because he's not rude ... But I would have thought he would have got the message by now ... 10 out of 10 for persistence though  |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
Masked and Distant |
"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
Someone messages me every week and has done so since Xmas ... I always delete but don't block because he's not rude ... But I would have thought he would have got the message by now ... 10 out of 10 for persistence though "
I'll stop sending them then
Don't types change as time goes by though? |
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
Someone messages me every week and has done so since Xmas ... I always delete but don't block because he's not rude ... But I would have thought he would have got the message by now ... 10 out of 10 for persistence though
I'll stop sending them then
Don't types change as time goes by though?"
You don't send me enough Tee
Agree that types do change, but not usually in less than four months |
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today"
Because we have all seen the romantic comedies where the woman starts out hating the guy but ends up falling for him |
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"Maybe they think that if they keep trying then eventually they will wear us down until we finally give in and say "Oh go on then"
NOT
Yes stop bombarding me M .... I won’t crack !!"
Note to self; switch on stealth mode before perving in future.
I will crack you 
Mx |
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By *hil39Man
over a year ago
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"Why do people think ... "here I'll wait a couple weeks then message again in the hope that they've changed their type".
Or the yeah I saw you don't like X,y or z but I thought for me you would..... grrrrr in a right grump today
My question is if (as is correct) it's personality what matters, how the hell can you decide someone is not your type just by a message on here, for me initially it is about making contact with someone and then seeing if they are "your type". I have been told I'm not someone's type and I only said "hello" lmao
Personality is only part of it though. It may be shallow but people judge other based on looks. and without mutual attraction then no amount of personality is likely to change that.
(Ducks for cover)
For me I' m afraid it's looks first, followed by profile and then content/tone of first message. "
I'm fucked then, too fugly to be on here |
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"Maybe they think that if they keep trying then eventually they will wear us down until we finally give in and say "Oh go on then"
NOT
Yes stop bombarding me M .... I won’t crack !!
Note to self; switch on stealth mode before perving in future.
I will crack you
Mx"
You need to try harder .... I don’t think you realise how many other fit sexy women you are in competition with... up your game !!! |
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"I read the profile. If I'm not what they are looking for then I don't waste my time and send a message just to get a nil response. Perhaps I'm weird lol
I used to do that...
But, I have realised that not everyone knows what they want... and I have fancied loads of ladies that weren’t my type...
So I just politely message...
Even if it’s to say something like...
“Great pics, might not be what you’re looking for, but if I am... let me know”
If they get offended, that’s their problem...
But the amount of positive responses I’ve had in that last month or so from messaging anyway, has made it worthwhile...
I’ll be honest, it’s a low percentage...
But there’s been one or two really nice girls who have responded positively... which is all I’m bothered about
I’d just say, be brave, give it a go, and you never know what will happen...
Wow I never knew men did this... interesting approach.
Do you think you would have more success if you put out a meet now and let them find you.
I’m asking because I have never sent a first message on any website.
I’d rather be the hunted than the hunter...
In my personal life... over the last few years... I have never chased women...
I usually end up in bed or in relationships with them because they have initiated something...
I prefer not to do the chasing
However... recently, in that last 12-18 months, I’ve changed my approach on online dating...
only for casual meets and hookups...
Don’t get me wrong... I’m not getting swarms of women...
It takes time...
But I have met more women in the last 12 months than I have done in the last few years
I’m not sure I’d like to meet a future partner in this way... but itvhas worked for like-minded women who are looking for a casual relationship, or nothing serious
Putting out a meet hasn’t ever worked for me...
However... I have had a few messages from women too far away... some maybe it’ll just take a bit of time
All I will say is this
Be polite, be interesting, be honest, and don’t come across as easy or needy... and you will be surprised at how well women respond... even if it’s a ‘No’ "
Maybe it’s because you’re so modest. |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe it’s because you’re so modest.
I've snorted coffee over my dress now.
"
Hey guys, I was being genuine...
I wasn’t one for making first contact to begin with... and I get a lot more ‘no’s’ that ‘yes’s’...
Like I explained...
I can’t see what the problem with that is? Especially considering that I explained that most people still said no...
All I was saying to the guy was that I have been surprised by how positively most ladies have responded to me since I started being a bit more forward... and less like a wallflower
You girls do have it much easier on this site... all you have to do is update your status and say ‘bored’, and you’ll get an inbox full...
It doesn’t work like that for us guys, unfortunately...
Nowt wrong with sharing a bit of advice
And like I said...
It’s resulted in one or two more meets and a few extra interesting chats... which can only be a positive |
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"I have one guy messaging the same two messages every 30 mins or so on and off all evening. Every day. Im just fascinated to see how long he'll go on for. "
I'm the same. I told the guy in question I had no interest. Within an hour he sent the same message again and has been doing so since. I'll just leave it and see how long he keeps it up for |
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"I have one guy messaging the same two messages every 30 mins or so on and off all evening. Every day. Im just fascinated to see how long he'll go on for.
I'm the same. I told the guy in question I had no interest. Within an hour he sent the same message again and has been doing so since. I'll just leave it and see how long he keeps it up for "
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"Maybe it’s because you’re so modest.
I've snorted coffee over my dress now.
Hey guys, I was being genuine...
I wasn’t one for making first contact to begin with... and I get a lot more ‘no’s’ that ‘yes’s’...
Like I explained...
I can’t see what the problem with that is? Especially considering that I explained that most people still said no...
All I was saying to the guy was that I have been surprised by how positively most ladies have responded to me since I started being a bit more forward... and less like a wallflower
You girls do have it much easier on this site... all you have to do is update your status and say ‘bored’, and you’ll get an inbox full...
It doesn’t work like that for us guys, unfortunately...
Nowt wrong with sharing a bit of advice
And like I said...
It’s resulted in one or two more meets and a few extra interesting chats... which can only be a positive"
That wouldn't attract the men I want to spend time with though.
If it were so easy I'd have a different man every week. |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe it’s because you’re so modest.
I've snorted coffee over my dress now.
Hey guys, I was being genuine...
I wasn’t one for making first contact to begin with... and I get a lot more ‘no’s’ that ‘yes’s’...
Like I explained...
I can’t see what the problem with that is? Especially considering that I explained that most people still said no...
All I was saying to the guy was that I have been surprised by how positively most ladies have responded to me since I started being a bit more forward... and less like a wallflower
You girls do have it much easier on this site... all you have to do is update your status and say ‘bored’, and you’ll get an inbox full...
It doesn’t work like that for us guys, unfortunately...
Nowt wrong with sharing a bit of advice
And like I said...
It’s resulted in one or two more meets and a few extra interesting chats... which can only be a positive
That wouldn't attract the men I want to spend time with though.
If it were so easy I'd have a different man every week. "
Still... if we did that... 90% of the time... we’d still be bored |
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NOT
Yes stop bombarding me M .... I won’t crack !!
Note to self; switch on stealth mode before perving in future.
I will crack you
Mx
You need to try harder .... I don’t think you realise how many other fit sexy women you are in competition with... up your game !!! "
Monopoly?
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"I have one guy messaging the same two messages every 30 mins or so on and off all evening. Every day. Im just fascinated to see how long he'll go on for.
I'm the same. I told the guy in question I had no interest. Within an hour he sent the same message again and has been doing so since. I'll just leave it and see how long he keeps it up for "
Mines still going |
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I’ve seen me sending a second message some time after a first one, usually if I’ve altered my profile a lot but only usually if the message wasn’t read rather than replied to. |
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