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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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www.metro.co.uk/2018/05/02/people-conflicted-whether-tfl-sign-encourages-sexual-harassment-7515268/
"A woman has sparked debate on Twitter by posting a picture of a potentially offensive TFL sign.
London Underground staff often use the service information boards in tube stations to write funny or inspirational quotes, but some people think this particular one has missed the mark.
Dina Rickman tweeted a photo of the sign – which read:
‘Thought of the day: When you see something beautiful in someone, tell them. It may take a second to say but for them it could last a lifetime’
– with the caption: ‘Thought of the day: why not take the time to sexually harass a stranger’."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can see the point she is making but don't agree with it, she has jumped to the conclusion that beauty must be a physical entity.
The people that would take that as an invitation to harass would be the people who would harass people anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can see the point she is making but don't agree with it, she has jumped to the conclusion that beauty must be a physical entity.
The people that would take that as an invitation to harass would be the people who would harass people anyway. "
I thought the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can see the point she is making but don't agree with it, she has jumped to the conclusion that beauty must be a physical entity.
The people that would take that as an invitation to harass would be the people who would harass people anyway. "
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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The quote was meant well but there is a huge crack-down on sexual harassment on public transport in London at the moment, encouraging people to speak out.
Sometimes we want/can accept attention at other times not. Rush hour is probably one of those times when I, and others, don't want someone (who may appear creepy) offering a compliment.
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It's ridiculous and a sad sign of where we are heading. It also trivialises actual sexual harassment.
People are becoming so wary of talking to people in case they get accused of harassment or shaming or triggering of whatever new term someone comes up with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just clicked on the link and read and then got immediately distracted by the advertised link to the another article below the story entitled:
“Straight women explain what sex feels like when you have a vagina” 
BikeMonkey has made the point I would have made. So I’ll endorse that. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Just clicked on the link and read and then got immediately distracted by the advertised link to the another article below the story entitled:
“Straight women explain what sex feels like when you have a vagina”
BikeMonkey has made the point I would have made. So I’ll endorse that. "
What does sex feel like when you have a vagina?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just clicked on the link and read and then got immediately distracted by the advertised link to the another article below the story entitled:
“Straight women explain what sex feels like when you have a vagina”
BikeMonkey has made the point I would have made. So I’ll endorse that.
What does sex feel like when you have a vagina?
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Read the article, there’s some ace opinion. I’m going to start a thread. Thanks Steels |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
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"www.metro.co.uk/2018/05/02/people-conflicted-whether-tfl-sign-encourages-sexual-harassment-7515268/
"A woman has sparked debate on Twitter by posting a picture of a potentially offensive TFL sign.
London Underground staff often use the service information boards in tube stations to write funny or inspirational quotes, but some people think this particular one has missed the mark.
Dina Rickman tweeted a photo of the sign – which read:
‘Thought of the day: When you see something beautiful in someone, tell them. It may take a second to say but for them it could last a lifetime’
– with the caption: ‘Thought of the day: why not take the time to sexually harass a stranger’."
What do you think? Inspirational or not?"
Recognising a beautiful aspect of someone’s personality isn’t harassment, it’s a compliment.
So long as it is said authentically and without a sleazy dribble at the mouth  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Paying someone a compliment is not sexual harrassment.. I agree that some thoughts are probably best left to yourself, but a compliment can completely brighten someone's day and I think that it's sad we're creating a culture where people are too scared to give them for fear of being accused of doing something they aren't  .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such. "
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such.
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day. "
She shouldn't be so bloody beautiful then should she. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I can see the point she is making but don't agree with it, she has jumped to the conclusion that beauty must be a physical entity.
The people that would take that as an invitation to harass would be the people who would harass people anyway. "
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such.
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day. "
She brought a lot of the sexual harassment debate to a head too. There is another video that looks at the streets she walks down, they are the same streets or streets that are the lower end of NY. People have commented if she would have walked around NY as a whole, she might not have gained the number (or type) of comments as she did. |
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I think it would depend on what was said and how it was said would be the decider, I think there was no harm meant and as implied may just make someone's day brighter.
But they also ran boards saying about stroke signs and symptoms so should we just ignore everyone at the risk of unwanted attention? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such.
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day.
She brought a lot of the sexual harassment debate to a head too. There is another video that looks at the streets she walks down, they are the same streets or streets that are the lower end of NY. People have commented if she would have walked around NY as a whole, she might not have gained the number (or type) of comments as she did. "
That's interesting. I hadnt seen the updates. Very good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such.
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day. "
Yeah, I remember that too. I’d say there’s a difference between cat calling, which if I recall, she mostly got, and someone giving a compliment.
Ideally, I’d always suggest not going up to a stranger and giving them a compliment, but it definitely can’t be classed as harassment. Good point though, if you receive them in high numbers on a daily basis, then are you being harassed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such.
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day.
Yeah, I remember that too. I’d say there’s a difference between cat calling, which if I recall, she mostly got, and someone giving a compliment.
Ideally, I’d always suggest not going up to a stranger and giving them a compliment, but it definitely can’t be classed as harassment. Good point though, if you receive them in high numbers on a daily basis, then are you being harassed? "
If it's all from the same person yes, if it's from a hundred different people then no. Be a bit harsh if you're the 100th person and get pulled up for it. |
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"I can see the point she is making but don't agree with it, she has jumped to the conclusion that beauty must be a physical entity.
The people that would take that as an invitation to harass would be the people who would harass people anyway. "
Pretty much my thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such.
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day.
Yeah, I remember that too. I’d say there’s a difference between cat calling, which if I recall, she mostly got, and someone giving a compliment.
Ideally, I’d always suggest not going up to a stranger and giving them a compliment, but it definitely can’t be classed as harassment. Good point though, if you receive them in high numbers on a daily basis, then are you being harassed?
If it's all from the same person yes, if it's from a hundred different people then no. Be a bit harsh if you're the 100th person and get pulled up for it."
No, I’m not saying that. I meant she would be a victim of harassment due to it happening repetitively to her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, I’m not saying that. I meant she would be a victim of harassment due to it happening repetitively to her. "
I have never heard of someone being sexually harassed by Society in general.
It will be a world not worth living in if we have to moderate our good natured intentions towards others just in case other people have already done the same as you that day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, I’m not saying that. I meant she would be a victim of harassment due to it happening repetitively to her.
I have never heard of someone being sexually harassed by Society in general.
It will be a world not worth living in if we have to moderate our good natured intentions towards others just in case other people have already done the same as you that day. "
Celebrities can be harassed by the media in general, so I’m wondering if it’s the same if one woman has repeated cat calls, and compliments. I’d say so. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"See, harassment is classed as a repetitive behaviour. So, going up to someone and giving them a compliment shouldn’t be considered as such.
I agree with this too.
But I remember the story last year of the woman that videoed herself being complimented many times in one day. So I really can't decide. That poor bloke that says something nice might be the 100th that day.
Yeah, I remember that too. I’d say there’s a difference between cat calling, which if I recall, she mostly got, and someone giving a compliment.
Ideally, I’d always suggest not going up to a stranger and giving them a compliment, but it definitely can’t be classed as harassment. Good point though, if you receive them in high numbers on a daily basis, then are you being harassed?
If it's all from the same person yes, if it's from a hundred different people then no. Be a bit harsh if you're the 100th person and get pulled up for it."
It is what eventually led to a change in how the Commons/Westminster look at harassment I think - or at least women being more vocal about it. A majority male to female population, with some women feeling or receiving comments on how they dress when they're turning up to work, in some cases more. |
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"It's ridiculous and a sad sign of where we are heading. It also trivialises actual sexual harassment.
People are becoming so wary of talking to people in case they get accused of harassment or shaming or triggering of whatever new term someone comes up with. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No, I’m not saying that. I meant she would be a victim of harassment due to it happening repetitively to her.
I have never heard of someone being sexually harassed by Society in general.
It will be a world not worth living in if we have to moderate our good natured intentions towards others just in case other people have already done the same as you that day.
Celebrities can be harassed by the media in general, so I’m wondering if it’s the same if one woman has repeated cat calls, and compliments. I’d say so. "
I agree. But if the 99 other people thought they were just being nice....
I know if it's 99 leery men it's different. But if a load of people said "ooh nice blouse" (for example) I'd start wondering if it was see through or what the heck was wrong that so many people would be commenting.
And if no-one said anything I'd think I looked dog rough.
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