FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > How many times do you contact someone before you give up
How many times do you contact someone before you give up
Jump to: Newest in thread
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
In a sleepy little village |
"Interesting tactics... Don't you worry about missing someone who could be a possibility
Don’t you worry about coming across a little harassing?"
This
If they don't like my face the first time I can hardly grow another ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Not really as Im usually just friendly lol.. "
I’m sure you are. You do realise though that you may intend to be friendly, but if could still feel invasive to someone who’s not solicited it and has already not responded once. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Not really as Im usually just friendly lol..
I’m sure you are. You do realise though that you may intend to be friendly, but it could still feel invasive to someone who’s not solicited it and has already not responded once...? "
*corrected typos |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By *htcMan
over a year ago
MK |
one or two normally, usually one, rarely try number two unless i see read and not deleted but really want to meet that person so will give a reattempt.
if your not interested and not going to reply at least click delete. it means alot more than see read and no reply. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I've got one guy messages me every day, about 3 or 4 times.I never reply, I should block really but its become a battle of wills
Yeah sorry Shirley "
I think I replied to you eventually lol .And your messages at least had more than 2 syllables! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Depends on the circumstances. Someone I've met and have their personal number I have double messaged people in the past but I don't like to send another message if the previous one hasn't been responded to. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago
Iceland, but Aldi is closer.. |
I do only ever message once..
That said,
I have had replies from weeks later when the recipient has been clearing our their in box and found my message lurking way down the list, so perhaps there may be some milage in a second message to those where the message has not been read...
Still undecided on that though.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I've got one guy messages me every day, about 3 or 4 times.I never reply, I should block really but its become a battle of wills "
I had one of those. I left it to see how many times he would message before getting bored. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
just because some say no thanks it dont mean they dont want to meet most couples and women get 100s of mail can only say yes to one ? if i did not want to meet someone its block ..no thanks is me saying im sorted thanks ![](/icons/s/twisted.gif) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
After ignoring his first message 3wks ago, he sent the exact same a week later, I explained I'd ignored the first, so no thanks.
I've just received the exact same message again.
I wasn't so polite this time & then hit the block button.
I should have done it after the first |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I always look through the messages sent to my Mrs. She replies to virtually none. And in fact sometimes only if i point out good looking guys to her. It makes no difference how many times you messsge her, unless she likes the look of you, or i do, you're getting nowhere. So if you want to fill the server with unread mail, crack on! ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
This thread is the reason a popular dating site was created.... it doesn’t allow men to message first..
I found not sending messages first is the best way to find success online... but be prepared for some shocking responses if you tell a couple or female no thank you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I keep messaging and begging until I'm blocked. Then I get another profile and start again. I'm hoping I'll wear them down eventually and then when they agree to meet, I'll not turn up and block them
Just joking. Once is plenty! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Once if they say no, then I accept and move on.
Isnt that what you are supposed to do "
I'd go as far to say if they don't reply at all/delete unread then consider it to be a no also. Leave it at that and chances are you won't be blocked. The reason why you'll never know, but it could be as simple as its bad timing.
Stay classy and just accept the implied rejection and move on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I usually take silence to mean ‘no’ and don’t usually try again. I might message again if someone posts a witty or interesting status and this has been successful for me; sometimes a long time after the original message. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
So, what I'm saying is, if you don't block them you only have yourself to blame.
I have the memory of a goldfish; I wouldn't remember everyone I messaged. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Once if they say no, then I accept and move on.
Isnt that what you are supposed to do
I'd go as far to say if they don't reply at all/delete unread then consider it to be a no also. Leave it at that and chances are you won't be blocked. The reason why you'll never know, but it could be as simple as its bad timing.
Stay classy and just accept the implied rejection and move on."
![](/icons/thumb_up.png) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
![](https://fabs-as.fabswingers.com/images/default.jpg) |
By *appytochatMan
over a year ago
Deep in the New Forest |
Send a first message. Then if I have no reply I can tell from their profile at the top. So don't bother again unless it's been a few months and a year in some cases. Tends to be slim pickings in the neck of the woods at times so thinking further afield might be the next course of action. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic