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50+ and Divorced

By *ribsa OP Man over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

I do believe that I am about to join part of a growing group of the 50 something divorcees according to figures we have the highest divorce rate of any age group.

Only been married once do not think I will do it again.

Are you a 50+ divorcee what's your views on life after divorce and did you or would you remarry again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been divorced 12 year and single for 5..i dont think anyone is interested in you once youre over 50..ive tried for a while to find someone on here and pof but not had any success..i just get ignored all the time arrrrr haha..i dont think i would marry again but never say never..the trouble is on these sites people make a decision on a split second glance at a pic..i must be a right ugly fucker haha..my beauty is on the inside

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

They do make quick decisions because it's sex and the women on here have so many options so you can't blame them.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket like fab, a couple of my mates are 50 plus and divorced and get loads of sex in real life, try finding the right pub club etc as plenty of divorced older lady's love sex to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been divorced 12 year and single for 5..i dont think anyone is interested in you once youre over 50..ive tried for a while to find someone on here and pof but not had any success..i just get ignored all the time arrrrr haha..i dont think i would marry again but never say never..the trouble is on these sites people make a decision on a split second glance at a pic..i must be a right ugly fucker haha..my beauty is on the inside"

Are you rich though?

Do you have a big penis?

Have you tried going on first dates?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m 50+ but never married. I don’t find it any more difficult to meet women now but then again it was never easy. A hell of a lot of profiles state that the age is up to 50 or more commonly 45. That’s life !!

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

I would guess... most divorced women in their 50s would find themselves in what I would describe as ‘ caged bird, set FREE’ syndrome. They need to know they still attractive/attracted to men. Just a case of finding the right one.

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guys,

Can I see you are all potential sugar daddies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women. "

Which is “hey wanna fuck”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women. "

Not all men will fuck anyone . Just because I am on here it doesn’t affect my own personal standards .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I finally got divorced last year after a long separation, but i always thought of myself as divorced anyway...

After that experience i wouldnt get married agai

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must admit that suddenly finding myself single at 50 was a bit of a shock. I had some time getting my head together then started dating it was an eye opener in terms of who was single of the same age. I didn’t date much before I met the current mr but I certainly wasn’t looking for what I found. I’m not divorced yet but not sure I’d get married again but never say never x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married twice ...divorced 5yrs well over 50

Agree with caged birds and wouldn't get married again ...like my space freedom and choice. Can have fun when I want and peace when I want that too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv been divorced 12 years.i was 43.had a few not so serious relationships.im now 54.and have never been happier.if the right man along I would consider a relationship.but don't think I'd live with them..i love my independence too much.i just have friends with benefits till Mr right comes along.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women.

Not all men will fuck anyone . Just because I am on here it doesn’t affect my own personal standards . "

Doesn’t matter.. you are a man. A disgusting creature. We will tar you with the same brush

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is that people who divorced in their 50s? I was divorced in 1999 and still am.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is that people who divorced in their 50s? I was divorced in 1999 and still am. "

I don't and never have needed to know that I'm attractive to men.

I don't need attention from a man to validate myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is that people who divorced in their 50s? I was divorced in 1999 and still am.

I don't and never have needed to know that I'm attractive to men.

I don't need attention from a man to validate myself. "

In other words.. I’m a strong independent woman who need no man! I have dildos

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve been single for 13 years and divorced for the last 8 of those. I was married for 13 years and was with ex for 20 years in total.

I’m enjoying life, mynkids are now all over 18 although still at home I do have my freedom. Can’t complain too much I have lovely Fab friends and enjoying lots of fun times.

I wouldn’t get remarried or even live permanently with anyone. Would be nice to have a significant other for holidays, meals, etc.

You never know what’s around the corner for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve been single for 13 years and divorced for the last 8 of those. I was married for 13 years and was with ex for 20 years in total.

I’m enjoying life, mynkids are now all over 18 although still at home I do have my freedom. Can’t complain too much I have lovely Fab friends and enjoying lots of fun times.

I wouldn’t get remarried or even live permanently with anyone. Would be nice to have a significant other for holidays, meals, etc.

You never know what’s around the corner for you. "

You can just rent one for holidays & meals etc lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women.

Not all men will fuck anyone . Just because I am on here it doesn’t affect my own personal standards .

Doesn’t matter.. you are a man. A disgusting creature. We will tar you with the same brush

If you all at the same way, I'll treat you the same way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women.

Not all men will fuck anyone . Just because I am on here it doesn’t affect my own personal standards .

Doesn’t matter.. you are a man. A disgusting creature. We will tar you with the same brush

If you all at the same way, I'll treat you the same way."

You are right

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I have nothing against remarrying per se, but I would be very careful about it and want to live together for a year or two at least before!

My social life and my sex life is way better than when I was married, but I would still prefer to have that in a full time relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got divorced at 23.

Took over 20 years before I married again.

Probably doesn’t help much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Divorced for many years, quite frankly almost giving up...on everything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

been divorced 14 years did meet someone a couple years later though he sadly passed away 3 years ago

and this is the longest I've been single since I was 17 and I'm happy being so ,I won't marry again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I,m a widow and staying single, it's much more fun XXX

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Never married and never intend to get married.

I did, however, live with someone for 15 years and have kids with her. I found myself single in my mid forties and found that, as a bloke, if you were in reasonable shape, not an arse and (crucially) willing to date women around your own age, you didn't lack for female company. A big mistake lots of middle aged men single men make is that they want younger women. If you don't, you clean up

I am 51 now and in a relationship again with the lovely Katie. It's difficult now for me to get sex dates, but because women generally want younger men and there is generally a queue of them. However, if I were looking for a relationship, I don't think I would have much of a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do believe that I am about to join part of a growing group of the 50 something divorcees according to figures we have the highest divorce rate of any age group.

Only been married once do not think I will do it again.

Are you a 50+ divorcee what's your views on life after divorce and did you or would you remarry again.

"
welcome to the club

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women. "

Fair point!

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Married twice ...divorced 5yrs well over 50

Agree with caged birds and wouldn't get married again ...like my space freedom and choice. Can have fun when I want and peace when I want that too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is that people who divorced in their 50s? I was divorced in 1999 and still am.

I don't and never have needed to know that I'm attractive to men.

I don't need attention from a man to validate myself.

In other words.. I’m a strong independent woman who need no man! I have dildos

I don't use my toys on me unless my partner is watching.

I want men for sex.

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By *entkevMan over a year ago

Dover

Im freshly separated (2 months), divorce filed.

Im 53 and shitting myself about living alone. (We are still both in the marital home but i leave for new pastures in 3 weeks).

I feel washed up but want to be positive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was married for over 20 years, most of them very happy. It was a marriage that just didn't work out in the end. I have been single 10 years now, not 'damaged' by what happened by marriage. I just love being single, I have never been so happy in my life. I am finally myself', and have no desire to ever be a couple again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not divorced ( I’m a career girl and thoroughly enjoy my single life - and so far not found the right guy!)

Indeed us girls here do have the pick and chose option and because we can - we do!

But don't you think it means nothing, as it seems that on here men will fuck anything?

I get a lot of offers, but I know they don't necessarily find me attractive, or want me more than anyone else, they'll have said the same thing they've said to me, to a hundred other women.

Not all men will fuck anyone . Just because I am on here it doesn’t affect my own personal standards .

Doesn’t matter.. you are a man. A disgusting creature. We will tar you with the same brush

Bananaman what is your proble? Why are you hell bent on annoying people? Please stay off the forums

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Im freshly separated (2 months), divorce filed.

Im 53 and shitting myself about living alone. (We are still both in the marital home but i leave for new pastures in 3 weeks).

I feel washed up but want to be positive. "

Good Luck

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By *entkevMan over a year ago

Dover

"Im freshly separated (2 months), divorce filed.

Im 53 and shitting myself about living alone. (We are still both in the marital home but i leave for new pastures in 3 weeks).

I feel washed up but want to be positive.

Good Luck

Thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm remarrying the same woman

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By *ribsa OP Man over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

"Im freshly separated (2 months), divorce filed.

Im 53 and shitting myself about living alone. (We are still both in the marital home but i leave for new pastures in 3 weeks).

I feel washed up but want to be positive. "

I know where your at and coming from I see the divorce lawyers tomorrow to file paper work it only 4 weeks since I found out wife was having a affair. To be honest our marrage has been over for years, she told me years ago to go find sex somewhere else that is why I joined this site but I have never had any meets. maybe you could call me a time waster or fake profile but I did enjoy coming on and chatting to people and talking sex.

Like you I to move out the family home in 3/4 weeks time leaving my 10 year old son and pets, this is ripping me up inside I too am shitting myself about living alone. But there is that bit of excitement there also may join the local swingers club can now accommodate in my own home if I ever get my first meet on from this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im freshly separated (2 months), divorce filed.

Im 53 and shitting myself about living alone. (We are still both in the marital home but i leave for new pastures in 3 weeks).

I feel washed up but want to be positive. "
It seems hard at first but think of it as a new start and do the things you always wanted to ...good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm remarrying the same woman

Your just a masochist

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By *ambslass48Woman over a year ago

Peterborough

I'm 52 but a widow and seems to be frowned on more being a young widow. When make appts for people to do stuff always asked is my hubby going to be there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 52 but a widow and seems to be frowned on more being a young widow. When make appts for people to do stuff always asked is my hubby going to be there."

Ave you took your wedding ring off yet?

People see that and make assumptions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

nearly 56 - been divorced 13 years and had the time of my life ever since -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve been married 3 times, I’ve finally learned my lesson. Never again! I’m really enjoying being single, being over 50 is working well for me

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By *ribsa OP Man over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

It does seem to be the women who are having the time of their lives since a divorce. Not seeing any men posting here.

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"It does seem to be the women who are having the time of their lives since a divorce. Not seeing any men posting here."

I read an article a while back that what typically happens after divorce of a mature couple let’s say, 12 months on she’s dropped a stone or two, got a new haircut and wardrobe and looks fantastic. He’s gained weight through a shit diet and drink, wears old badly or non ironed clothes, looks a mess.

She starts having the time of her life, he can’t get a shag for the life of him - then he joins fabswingers, still can’t get a shag. Starts posting in the forum.

Oh my god! What’s happened to me?

Probably an element of thruth in all that.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive been divorced since 1995. Ive been with my partner 12 years. Hes my soulmate and the love of my life but we live seperatly. Im not cut out to live with people i like my space and freedom

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"Ive been divorced since 1995. Ive been with my partner 12 years. Hes my soulmate and the love of my life but we live seperatly. Im not cut out to live with people i like my space and freedom"

To me that sounds like the perfect solution.

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By *ribsa OP Man over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

"It does seem to be the women who are having the time of their lives since a divorce. Not seeing any men posting here.

She starts having the time of her life, he can’t get a shag for the life of him - then he joins fabswingers, still can’t get a shag. Starts posting in the forum.

Oh my god! What’s happened to me?

Probably an element of thruth in all that."

Lol Your so right about the woman's side of that well my wife and we not separated yet.

As for me I have lost 3 stones not been this weight since my early twenty's. I think I look fair to good and can scrub up ok even if I say so myself. As for the shag part your probably right on that part it's so sad but so true.

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS over a year ago

Sheffield

Been happily divorced for 24 years, it’s my silver divorced anniversary next year......

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By *agicman2010Man over a year ago

nottingham

Ditto

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By *entkevMan over a year ago

Dover

"Im freshly separated (2 months), divorce filed.

Im 53 and shitting myself about living alone. (We are still both in the marital home but i leave for new pastures in 3 weeks).

I feel washed up but want to be positive.

I wish you all the very best.

And i mirror your back story. I found out she was having an affair 8 weeks ago.

Fingers crossed for you.

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By *entkevMan over a year ago

Dover

"Im freshly separated (2 months), divorce filed.

Im 53 and shitting myself about living alone. (We are still both in the marital home but i leave for new pastures in 3 weeks).

I feel washed up but want to be positive. It seems hard at first but think of it as a new start and do the things you always wanted to ...good luck x"

Thank you. X

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By *agicman2010Man over a year ago

nottingham

You got the nail straight on the head there my friend. I have exactly the same issue.

Ladies on here just tend to judge you by a picture and not the real person. There are so many guys on here offering themself to the woman. They just chose the ones who look the nicest.

Doesn't leave us average looking guys much of a chance unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Optimism is all time low on this thread.. guys, there are ladies in their 48s who are divorced.. go get them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got married at 21 and divorced at 31. The last 5 years of being single living on my own have been the best of my life. Living on your own is great. The freedom to do what you want when you want and see who you want and when you want is far better than being stuck in a shit marriage and not wanting to leave for the fear of the unknown.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

"I'm 52 but a widow and seems to be frowned on more being a young widow. When make appts for people to do stuff always asked is my hubby going to be there.

Ave you took your wedding ring off yet?

People see that and make assumptions

Widows and widowers usually keep their wedding rings on. They don’t stop loving those they’ve lost.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Sorry to say but it's way easier for guys in their 50's than woman. You're near your peak earnings, most the available women you want to date have baggage and will lower their standards accordingly and you've got a much wider range of acceptable ages to date.

So sorry, but if you can't get a date in your 50's then it's time for radical change.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Divorced 14 years did meet a guy a few years later but he sadly passed away

Being single in your 50s is hard

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Divorced 14 years did meet a guy a few years later but he sadly passed away

Being single in your 50s is hard"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is here just for the newly divorcees

joking

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

I'm not 50 plus but instead of marrying again i think the next time i will just meet a woman that I can't stand and give her my house

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"Sorry to say but it's way easier for guys in their 50's than woman. You're near your peak earnings, most the available women you want to date have baggage and will lower their standards accordingly and you've got a much wider range of acceptable ages to date.

So sorry, but if you can't get a date in your 50's then it's time for radical change. "

Depends what you want. If you are looking for a relationship with women you're own age, you're right.

If you are looking for casual sex, you're wrong. Women in their fifties up for casual sex will the loads of offers and many of the guts offering will be younger and hotter than a bloke in his fifties.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

So sorry, but if you can't get a date in your 50's then it's time for radical change.

Depends what you want. If you are looking for a relationship with women you're own age, you're right.

Agreed. There are also an alarmingly high number of women who thinking sex is redundant after procreation

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