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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
My lovely Fabsters,
I’ve been musing this morning about lingerie being given as a gift, chosen by a man who is not your life/current partner. What are your thoughts on this?
Would you be happy with it?
Would you wear it for him?
Would you think he has gifted it so you will wear it for him?
Would you be happy to be told to wear it?
So many questions.....
I’m intrigued to hear your thoughts about this subject.
Open to both the ladies and gentlemen.
Answers in the forum only please.
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I guess it really depends on how you want the relationship to evolve.
Accepting it could imply several things for him.
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I certainly would not wear it if he bought it so I would wear it for him! That would seem him being dominant to me...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess it really depends on how you want the relationship to evolve.
Accepting it could imply several things for him.
I certainly would not wear it if he bought it so I would wear it for him! That would seem him being dominant to me... "
Or making him believe that you have a certain emotional connection with him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess it really depends on how you want the relationship to evolve.
Accepting it could imply several things for him.
I certainly would not wear it if he bought it so I would wear it for him! That would seem him being dominant to me... "
Nowt wrong with a bit of dominance from the right man  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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personally, this type of offers on fab have always freaked me out. I'm an independent girl who doesn't want to feel like I've got to give something in return. If I know the person (after a few meets for examples), then that's different. |
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"I certainly would not wear it if he bought it so I would wear it for him! That would seem him being dominant to me... "
Not long after we met, my partner made a point of telling me that under no circumstances was I to buy her underwear for similar reasons. |
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If someone I barely knew bought me lingerie I would ask him to give his head a bit of a wobble. He'd have no idea of size for a start.
Mr N frequently buys me lingerie and other clothing. It doesn't imply dominance to me. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"If someone I barely knew bought me lingerie I would ask him to give his head a bit of a wobble. He'd have no idea of size for a start.
Mr N frequently buys me lingerie and other clothing. It doesn't imply dominance to me. "
No I didn’t mean dominance from life partner I meant the other guy. To me it’s like this ‘here is a gift I have chosen and you will wear it for me’. It’s no issue if it’s life partner as he would know you well and what you like. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I guess it really depends on how you want the relationship to evolve.
Accepting it could imply several things for him.
I certainly would not wear it if he bought it so I would wear it for him! That would seem him being dominant to me...
Or making him believe that you have a certain emotional connection with him "
Yes well that is what I thought but would he get emotional ideas about her? |
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By *huckzMan
over a year ago
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"I guess it really depends on how you want the relationship to evolve.
Accepting it could imply several things for him.
I certainly would not wear it if he bought it so I would wear it for him! That would seem him being dominant to me... "
.... put it on and be quiet |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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If it was from a fab meet, even if after a few meets, I think I would struggle to accept it. I don't like the gifts for sex thing. If I wanted gifts for it Id go on the game and have done with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had this yesterday. He asked me where I buy my lingerie so he could buy me some. I haven't heard from him since telling him honey Birdette  "
Had to look up Honey Birdette, it's bloody expensive in there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had this yesterday. He asked me where I buy my lingerie so he could buy me some. I haven't heard from him since telling him honey Birdette
Had to look up Honey Birdette, it's bloody expensive in there "
Exactly my point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was from a fab meet, even if after a few meets, I think I would struggle to accept it. I don't like the gifts for sex thing. If I wanted gifts for it Id go on the game and have done with it."
This for me too.
I wouldn't like it if anyone bought me lingerie. A life partner would know not to buy me any. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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If I had met someone a few times then yes. I don't make a big thing out of something small or read into something which may not be there. Why over complicate everything.
Yes I would wear it and have lots of fun doing so. I also like flowers hint hint hah  |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I had this yesterday. He asked me where I buy my lingerie so he could buy me some. I haven't heard from him since telling him honey Birdette
Had to look up Honey Birdette, it's bloody expensive in there "
So is Agent Provocatour |
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"If someone I barely knew bought me lingerie I would ask him to give his head a bit of a wobble. He'd have no idea of size for a start.
Mr N frequently buys me lingerie and other clothing. It doesn't imply dominance to me.
No I didn’t mean dominance from life partner I meant the other guy. To me it’s like this ‘here is a gift I have chosen and you will wear it for me’. It’s no issue if it’s life partner as he would know you well and what you like. "
Dominance maybe, arrogance definitely. To assume that I would be happy to wear his choice of lingerie...nah. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Really would a guy who does not know you turn up with lingerie for you to wear on a meet without asking if it was appropriate to do so? I would be amazed."
And also a bit creepy that he knew what sizes to get! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had this yesterday. He asked me where I buy my lingerie so he could buy me some. I haven't heard from him since telling him honey Birdette
Had to look up Honey Birdette, it's bloody expensive in there
Exactly my point "
I think I will get some free paper ones from the hospital instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really would a guy who does not know you turn up with lingerie for you to wear on a meet without asking if it was appropriate to do so? I would be amazed.
And also a bit creepy that he knew what sizes to get! "
If his username is Procrustes size wouldn't matter  |
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"Really would a guy who does not know you turn up with lingerie for you to wear on a meet without asking if it was appropriate to do so? I would be amazed.
And also a bit creepy that he knew what sizes to get! "
Indeed. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Really would a guy who does not know you turn up with lingerie for you to wear on a meet without asking if it was appropriate to do so? I would be amazed.
And also a bit creepy that he knew what sizes to get!
If his username is Procrustes size wouldn't matter "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a regular meet years ago that liked me dressed a certain way so he bought me shoes, lingerie and lipstick to wear when we played, I had no objection to it as I know it was his kink and I suppose it suited my submissive nature to want to please him that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had a man buy me lingerie before i had even met him but felr like i was being bought and told him to return it.if it was someone I knew very well and it was his kink then I would be comfortable with that |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Really would a guy who does not know you turn up with lingerie for you to wear on a meet without asking if it was appropriate to do so? I would be amazed.
And also a bit creepy that he knew what sizes to get!
Indeed."
Let’s just say if the guy had ‘obtained’ the sizes! My point is that he has chosen what he likes and wants her to wear it for him! Stinks a bit of dominance to me! |
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"Would you be happy with it?
Would you wear it for him?"
Am I the only one who would find it odd if a woman accepted lingerie from a man, then wore it with everyone BUT him?!
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As with all things, it seems context is key. As a man, I would never buy lingerie for a woman unless I knew for sure that she was happy to receive it.
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It would appear that, for some women, that’s a blanket ‘no’ in any situation, and that’s fair enough.
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I could imagine a situation like MtaH describes. If I was keen for a woman to wear a certain style or item of lingerie, and she was happy to, but it was nevertheless based on my desires, I wouldn’t expect her to be out of pocket. Equally, if she insisted that she was paying so there was no sense of anything ‘owed’, then fair enough.
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To each his own. |
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"Let’s just say if the guy had ‘obtained’ the sizes! My point is that he has chosen what he likes and wants her to wear it for him! Stinks a bit of dominance to me! "
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‘Stinks’ is quite emotive language, like you’re trying to sway the story your way. Some women like that kind of assertiveness. It’s not the way I’d do things, but neither would I try to present it as unquestionable awfulness. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Let’s just say if the guy had ‘obtained’ the sizes! My point is that he has chosen what he likes and wants her to wear it for him! Stinks a bit of dominance to me!
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‘Stinks’ is quite emotive language, like you’re trying to sway the story your way. Some women like that kind of assertiveness. It’s not the way I’d do things, but neither would I try to present it as unquestionable awfulness."
Ha ha no ‘Stinks’ is not emotive in my dictionary. I’m a down to earth, strong, northern woman and I say it how it is. You’re right some women do like that assertiveness, not me though. I just find it uncomfortable. I’m only asking for people’s thoughts on the subject. If they are comfortable with it that’s up to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally no man has ever bought me underwear and I also struggle when guys want to buy me anything at all even guys I’m
In relationships with I always feel I have to buy them something in return or feel like I owe them something, it’s just my way I’ve always been fiercely independent, working and buying my own clothes since I was 15. If guys try to tell me to wear certain underwear to meet them well I go with granny pants ! Sorry I’ll wear sexy lingerie when I choose not when I’m told to |
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"Let’s just say if the guy had ‘obtained’ the sizes! My point is that he has chosen what he likes and wants her to wear it for him! Stinks a bit of dominance to me!
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‘Stinks’ is quite emotive language, like you’re trying to sway the story your way. Some women like that kind of assertiveness. It’s not the way I’d do things, but neither would I try to present it as unquestionable awfulness."
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"You’re right some women do like that assertiveness, not me though. I just find it uncomfortable. I’m only asking for people’s thoughts on the subject. If they are comfortable with it that’s up to them. "
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Which is exactly why ‘it stinks’ is emotive. (You need to replace your dictionary, btw, because its entry for either ‘stinks’ or ‘emotive’ is incorrect.) It’s attempting to apply universal negativity to an action which others see as a positive. “It’s not my thing,” is fairly neutral. “It stinks,” certainly isn’t. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"You’re right some women do like that assertiveness, not me though. I just find it uncomfortable. I’m only asking for people’s thoughts on the subject. If they are comfortable with it that’s up to them.
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Which is exactly why ‘it stinks’ is emotive. (You need to replace your dictionary, btw, because its entry for either ‘stinks’ or ‘emotive’ is incorrect.) It’s attempting to apply universal negativity to an action which others see as a positive. “It’s not my thing,” is fairly neutral. “It stinks,” certainly isn’t."
In my book and for this thread it was not meant as emotive and I do not want a lecture on my diction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have been gifted some right old shit from a few fab guys over the years... cheap, I’ll fitting, poorly thought through from the T perspective and inevitably ends up in the bin...
I’d only feel comfortable with someone I knew pretty well to be honest, I’d also hope they’d consult prior to purchase |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You’re right some women do like that assertiveness, not me though. I just find it uncomfortable. I’m only asking for people’s thoughts on the subject. If they are comfortable with it that’s up to them.
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Which is exactly why ‘it stinks’ is emotive. (You need to replace your dictionary, btw, because its entry for either ‘stinks’ or ‘emotive’ is incorrect.) It’s attempting to apply universal negativity to an action which others see as a positive. “It’s not my thing,” is fairly neutral. “It stinks,” certainly isn’t."
C’mon seriously... |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"You’re right some women do like that assertiveness, not me though. I just find it uncomfortable. I’m only asking for people’s thoughts on the subject. If they are comfortable with it that’s up to them.
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Which is exactly why ‘it stinks’ is emotive. (You need to replace your dictionary, btw, because its entry for either ‘stinks’ or ‘emotive’ is incorrect.) It’s attempting to apply universal negativity to an action which others see as a positive. “It’s not my thing,” is fairly neutral. “It stinks,” certainly isn’t.
C’mon seriously..."
I know honey |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let’s just say if the guy had ‘obtained’ the sizes! My point is that he has chosen what he likes and wants her to wear it for him! Stinks a bit of dominance to me!
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‘Stinks’ is quite emotive language, like you’re trying to sway the story your way. Some women like that kind of assertiveness. It’s not the way I’d do things, but neither would I try to present it as unquestionable awfulness."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get the dominance thing being suggested, I've bought 3 different women from this site lingerie and has all been gratefully accepted, I didn't spring it on them, it was discussed first and sizes supplied, none of them were under pressure to wear it for me, it's nice to be nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs"
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed? |
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"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed? "
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed?
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that"
I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought. To me it’s like buying her and being dominant. |
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"I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed? "
Well, you’ve not given many specifics at all, so it leaves it open to a wide range of circumstances, from almost stranger to lifelong intimate partner, which would likely result in a range of responses, even from the same individual. It’s fair enough for people to apply certain specifics in order to provide responses.
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"I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought."
Maybe make that clear in the OP, then. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought.
Maybe make that clear in the OP, then."
I have done if you read it. I said non life/current partner and I did not mention lover. It’s very clear. People always assume things on threads as they liken it to their situation rather than actually read the opening thread....
Anyway back to the thread please.
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"I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought.
Maybe make that clear in the OP, then."
I found it clear enough... |
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"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed?
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that
I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought. To me it’s like buying her and being dominant. "
Tbh ‘lover’ is just a word I use for someone I’m sleeping with on a regular basis. FWB might be a better word. It’s true I don’t know the extent of your friendship with this guy so hard to make a judgement |
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"I have done if you read it. I said non life/current partner and I did not mention lover. It’s very clear."
Saying it’s not your life or current partner leaves a lot of room for other things that it could be. You don’t say ‘lover’, but nor do you say ‘stranger’, ‘friend’, ‘acquaintence’, ‘boss’, or ‘postie’. We’re left to guess.
Your OP suggests that your asking a hypothetical question, and people will hypothesise in answer to that. If you want answers for your specific situation, then post a more specific question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess it really depends on how you want the relationship to evolve.
Accepting it could imply several things for him.
I certainly would not wear it if he bought it so I would wear it for him! That would seem him being dominant to me... "
What!? |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed?
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that
I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought. To me it’s like buying her and being dominant.
Tbh ‘lover’ is just a word I use for someone I’m sleeping with on a regular basis. FWB might be a better word. It’s true I don’t know the extent of your friendship with this guy so hard to make a judgement"
This thread is not about a ‘friendship’ I have with any guy! I refer you back to the start of the thread to read my opening words, this should make it clearer as to my musing about the topic. No offence |
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"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed?
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that
I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought. To me it’s like buying her and being dominant.
Tbh ‘lover’ is just a word I use for someone I’m sleeping with on a regular basis. FWB might be a better word. It’s true I don’t know the extent of your friendship with this guy so hard to make a judgement
This thread is not about a ‘friendship’ I have with any guy! I refer you back to the start of the thread to read my opening words, this should make it clearer as to my musing about the topic. No offence "
My apologies. It’s not obvious to me what you mean in that case  |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed?
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that
I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought. To me it’s like buying her and being dominant.
Tbh ‘lover’ is just a word I use for someone I’m sleeping with on a regular basis. FWB might be a better word. It’s true I don’t know the extent of your friendship with this guy so hard to make a judgement
This thread is not about a ‘friendship’ I have with any guy! I refer you back to the start of the thread to read my opening words, this should make it clearer as to my musing about the topic. No offence
My apologies. It’s not obvious to me what you mean in that case "
Sorry if I have confused you. Obviously with confidentiality on the forums I do not want to mention all aspects of why I am musing the topic. Basically my question is would a woman be happy if a man, who is not her husband or lover, buy her lingerie and expect her to wear it for him? I’m not judging anyone, if they want to it’s up to them but I was simply musing the topic. Some people here make things extremely difficult with their judgemental comments when it’s not needed. |
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"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
Mrs
I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed?
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that
I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought. To me it’s like buying her and being dominant.
Tbh ‘lover’ is just a word I use for someone I’m sleeping with on a regular basis. FWB might be a better word. It’s true I don’t know the extent of your friendship with this guy so hard to make a judgement
This thread is not about a ‘friendship’ I have with any guy! I refer you back to the start of the thread to read my opening words, this should make it clearer as to my musing about the topic. No offence
My apologies. It’s not obvious to me what you mean in that case
Sorry if I have confused you. Obviously with confidentiality on the forums I do not want to mention all aspects of why I am musing the topic. Basically my question is would a woman be happy if a man, who is not her husband or lover, buy her lingerie and expect her to wear it for him? I’m not judging anyone, if they want to it’s up to them but I was simply musing the topic. Some people here make things extremely difficult with their judgemental comments when it’s not needed. "
Me personally. No, if I’m not sleeping with him, no if I only play with him in clubs/parties, no if we’ve only met once or twice. If it’s more regular then possibly depending on the intensity and the dynamic. |
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"Basically my question is would a woman be happy if a man, who is not her husband or lover, buy her lingerie and expect her to wear it for him?"
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I appreciate that you can’t reveal exactly who this is, but some idea of the relationship would help. Is this someone who messaged for the first time asking to buy you lingerie? Someone you’ve exchanged various messsges with? Discussed meeting with? Actually met? Socially? Ever been intimate with in the past? Discussed how intimate you’ll be in the future? Someone not on Fab that you know in real life? A friend? Colleague?
For all we know, it could be any one of these, and each would warrant a different response. (And, indeed, people have offered a variety of responses pertaining to a variety of circumstances throughout the thread, which didn’t seem an issue before.) |
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"Basically my question is would a woman be happy if a man, who is not her husband or lover, buy her lingerie and expect her to wear it for him?
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I appreciate that you can’t reveal exactly who this is, but some idea of the relationship would help. Is this someone who messaged for the first time asking to buy you lingerie? Someone you’ve exchanged various messsges with? Discussed meeting with? Actually met? Socially? Ever been intimate with in the past? Discussed how intimate you’ll be in the future? Someone not on Fab that you know in real life? A friend? Colleague?
For all we know, it could be any one of these, and each would warrant a different response. (And, indeed, people have offered a variety of responses pertaining to a variety of circumstances throughout the thread, which didn’t seem an issue before.)"
Nah. Same response. Inappropriate. |
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I might be in the minority here but I don’t think it’s appropriate to buy anyone I’m meeting off a casual sex site anything....
Drinks and food are the exception.....
I live by the motto nothing in life is for free...
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"No issues with being bought lingerie by a lover, and for the duration of the relationship wearing it just for him. Dominance? That’s even better. Owing him? What am I supposed to owe him given that I’m sleeping with him anyway?
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I didn’t say he was a ‘lover’, not sure why that was assumed?
I didn’t assume he was your lover. I said I would have no issues if a man who was my lover did that
I can understand that but my thread was not about lovers buying lingerie, it’s about men who aren’t lovers doing it and expecting a woman to wear it for him, the lingerie he has chosen and bought. To me it’s like buying her and being dominant.
Tbh ‘lover’ is just a word I use for someone I’m sleeping with on a regular basis. FWB might be a better word. It’s true I don’t know the extent of your friendship with this guy so hard to make a judgement
This thread is not about a ‘friendship’ I have with any guy! I refer you back to the start of the thread to read my opening words, this should make it clearer as to my musing about the topic. No offence
My apologies. It’s not obvious to me what you mean in that case
Sorry if I have confused you. Obviously with confidentiality on the forums I do not want to mention all aspects of why I am musing the topic. Basically my question is would a woman be happy if a man, who is not her husband or lover, buy her lingerie and expect her to wear it for him? I’m not judging anyone, if they want to it’s up to them but I was simply musing the topic. Some people here make things extremely difficult with their judgemental comments when it’s not needed.
Me personally. No, if I’m not sleeping with him, no if I only play with him in clubs/parties, no if we’ve only met once or twice. If it’s more regular then possibly depending on the intensity and the dynamic. "
I would be the same. I’ve been offered by a couple of guys before meeting them or they wanted to take me underwear shopping as a first date but I said no. A regular or more then yes, I wouldn’t have a problem. |
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"I might be in the minority here but I don’t think it’s appropriate to buy anyone I’m meeting off a casual sex site anything....
Drinks and food are the exception.....
I live by the motto nothing in life is for free...
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I would agree with you where swinging is concerned.
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"I might be in the minority here but I don’t think it’s appropriate to buy anyone I’m meeting off a casual sex site anything....
Drinks and food are the exception.....
I live by the motto nothing in life is for free...
I would agree with you where swinging is concerned.
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Completely agree! |
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"Nah. Same response. Inappropriate. "
Posdibly. Probably. Hard to tell without the specifics. If there’s been chat about getting intimate, and chat about what each likes the other to wear, then it’s not dissimilar to situations above where some women have said they’d be happy to receive and wear. We just don’t know.
But since the OP has made it clear she’d never like it ever, it all seems moot. |
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"Nah. Same response. Inappropriate.
Posdibly. Probably. Hard to tell without the specifics. If there’s been chat about getting intimate, and chat about what each likes the other to wear, then it’s not dissimilar to situations above where some women have said they’d be happy to receive and wear. We just don’t know.
But since the OP has made it clear she’d never like it ever, it all seems moot."
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over a year ago
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"Basically my question is would a woman be happy if a man, who is not her husband or lover, buy her lingerie and expect her to wear it for him?
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I appreciate that you can’t reveal exactly who this is, but some idea of the relationship would help. Is this someone who messaged for the first time asking to buy you lingerie? Someone you’ve exchanged various messsges with? Discussed meeting with? Actually met? Socially? Ever been intimate with in the past? Discussed how intimate you’ll be in the future? Someone not on Fab that you know in real life? A friend? Colleague?
For all we know, it could be any one of these, and each would warrant a different response. (And, indeed, people have offered a variety of responses pertaining to a variety of circumstances throughout the thread, which didn’t seem an issue before.)"
I am not going into specifics as I am keeping within Fab forum rules, plus my opening post says it all. Not many responders have been confused or demanded ‘specifics’ about it. I feel you are turning my thread how you want it as in me divulging specific personal information to you which I’ll not divulge, not even in a private message.
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I think the OP was asking a general question about gift acceptance not specific to any person in her life, that's my take on it anyway. I'm old school and like to buy a lady a gift, it's not every lady that wants anything these days of course but I'd have no issue buying flowers etc for a first meet. |
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"I think the OP was asking a general question about gift acceptance not specific to any person in her life, that's my take on it anyway. I'm old school and like to buy a lady a gift, it's not every lady that wants anything these days of course but I'd have no issue buying flowers etc for a first meet."
I'm not sure where I stand on this with the guys we meet for casual sex. On the rare occasion we've invited a man to our home they've always offered to bring a drink of our choice (we usually say it's not necessary). However if we're meeting at their home I would find any sort of gift inappropriate. I don't need to be wooed, I'm there for the same reason they are and any gift make we feel that we aren't on an equal footing. |
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It depend on the st since if the relationship with the person who had bought me the gift. If for instance it was on a first meet then I wouldn't really want it, but I would accept it as I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.
If it was from someone I was very friendly with, then hell yes, I'd accept it, and wear it straight away and give him one hell of a good session |
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Flowers on a first meet, yes. Coffee and cake, yes. Lunch and a drink, yes. Not lingerie.
After a couple of meets then yes definitely, not a problem. I'd happily wear something just for them provided it's comfortable and suits me.
I have no issue with it being a so called dominance thing. In fact I like that very much. |
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I've give lingerie as s gift to a previous naughty playmate.
I think lingerie is a very personal gift and not something that should be taken lightly. It can be very exciting and sexy and rewarding but if you get it wrong my god you have royally fucked up!
This is were the shop assistants come in and in the more finer establishments they ask about tastes and stuff like that.
Such good fun when shopping for it though |
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"I am not going into specifics as I am keeping within Fab forum rules, plus my opening post says it all. Not many responders have been confused or demanded ‘specifics’ about it. I feel you are turning my thread how you want it as in me divulging specific personal information to you which I’ll not divulge, not even in a private message."
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I’m not asking for those kind of specifics. I haven’t asked for personal info, I don’t want personal info, so I don’t know why you’re bringing that up.
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I’m fully aware that people have answered without specifics. You’ll notice that people are still responding with ‘if this then that’ answers, which indicate they’re not entirely sure which exact situation you want an answer to.
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My main issue was, last night, you jumping on one contributor just because they made a perfectly valid assumption.
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I don’t know how much more clearly I can demostrate that your opening post is ambiguous. That’s fine, it opens up discussion, which you’re supposedly ‘intrigued’ to hear about. Just don’t jump on people for discussing it.
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As I’ve already said, though, it doesn’t matter. You’ve made your mind up, and were never intrigued, you just wanted validation. You’ve got it, well done. |
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