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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If a meet didn't verify you?
I've not verified meets and they've not verified me.
Is it really that important?
How would you feel if you left someone a glowing veri and they didn't leave you one?
Do you talk about leaving veri's while still on a meet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have had meet and they left no veri . Thier choice we did have a fun time and I have met them again.
It's not the end of the world  "
My thoughts entirely  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met people repeatedly after the first meet - don’t feel the need to post verifications after each one - it only says what the frequency of my meets is, and that’s no ones business really |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Met people repeatedly after the first meet - don’t feel the need to post verifications after each one - it only says what the frequency of my meets is, and that’s no ones business really "
What if it was a first meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a meet didn't verify you?
I've not verified meets and they've not verified me.
Is it really that important?
How would you feel if you left someone a glowing veri and they didn't leave you one?
Do you talk about leaving veri's while still on a meet? "
People who beg for or expect veris are sickening, it is a bonus if you get one. |
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I quite like a veri as a sort of diary entry, a reminder if you will but I don’t display most of mine especially any graphic ones. I’m more than happy to give veris but I usually ask if they want one first.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are the person you've met still in touch with you ? "
Is that a question for me? If so, it's just a general question really. I'm not bothered to be honest. I've been seeing someone from here for almost 3 years and we've never left a veri for each other.
We were discussing it yesterday and thought it was probably time we did 
I guess that probably has something to do with the question.
Just gauging other people's thoughts on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I remember my first meet on here. He did t leave me a veri and I got a bit worried over it. Over-analysed the whole thing. I wouldn’t be bothered now. "
Those poached eggs though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first veri never left one, nor me for him, I've carried on meeting him for over two years now. Veris mean nothing to me anyway, so when people don't leave one, it doesn't matter, I only tend to verify people who are new or if a guy specifically asks me to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time meet with someone,yes we leave a verification,and yes we would feel somewhat perturbed if they didn't send one.
Someone we have met before and have verified before,no,wouldn't cost us a thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are the person you've met still in touch with you ?
Is that a question for me? If so, it's just a general question really. I'm not bothered to be honest. I've been seeing someone from here for almost 3 years and we've never left a veri for each other.
We were discussing it yesterday and thought it was probably time we did
I guess that probably has something to do with the question.
Just gauging other people's thoughts on it. "
Oh ok I see
I remember that (4years ago) I had to ask for my first verification. I didn't want to display it but just to have the verification arrow.
She got back to me few days after with 'You're a diamond in the rough' not sure how I should have taken it.
But once I got the arrow I wasn't bother about verifications at all.
However, as you mentioned, if you take time to write a nice verification to someone, you must feel like you wasted your time writing it, if they don't even acknowledge it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are the person you've met still in touch with you ?
Is that a question for me? If so, it's just a general question really. I'm not bothered to be honest. I've been seeing someone from here for almost 3 years and we've never left a veri for each other.
We were discussing it yesterday and thought it was probably time we did
I guess that probably has something to do with the question.
Just gauging other people's thoughts on it.
Oh ok I see
I remember that (4years ago) I had to ask for my first verification. I didn't want to display it but just to have the verification arrow.
She got back to me few days after with 'You're a diamond in the rough' not sure how I should have taken it.
But once I got the arrow I wasn't bother about verifications at all.
However, as you mentioned, if you take time to write a nice verification to someone, you must feel like you wasted your time writing it, if they don't even acknowledge it "
That's another point, especially for single guys. Would you just meet to get the green tick?
I had this at the very beginning of my career on here (tongue in cheek). I got the feeling he only met me for a veri, not a nice feeling.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are the person you've met still in touch with you ?
Is that a question for me? If so, it's just a general question really. I'm not bothered to be honest. I've been seeing someone from here for almost 3 years and we've never left a veri for each other.
We were discussing it yesterday and thought it was probably time we did
I guess that probably has something to do with the question.
Just gauging other people's thoughts on it.
Oh ok I see
I remember that (4years ago) I had to ask for my first verification. I didn't want to display it but just to have the verification arrow.
She got back to me few days after with 'You're a diamond in the rough' not sure how I should have taken it.
But once I got the arrow I wasn't bother about verifications at all.
However, as you mentioned, if you take time to write a nice verification to someone, you must feel like you wasted your time writing it, if they don't even acknowledge it
That's another point, especially for single guys. Would you just meet to get the green tick?
I had this at the very beginning of my career on here (tongue in cheek). I got the feeling he only met me for a veri, not a nice feeling.
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Oh no ! I only meet people I am attracted to and interested in. But still wanted a verification as it was my first meet. I realised now how it sounds stupid and needy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve verified people before and not had one back. Which really bothered me at the time as he said he would, it didn’t do much for my confidence I have to say but that’s life lol.
Mrs x |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
Verifications have become like TripAdvisor reviews. And they mostly say the same thing.
I thought originally they were there to verify that the person is genuine and is the same one that is in the profile.
Once that’s been done a couple of times, no others are needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I asked for one after our first meet for drinks as we need one to get on the list for a social we thought we might go to. But not sure if we even are now! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not fussed about veri's. If you've got at least one, which says you are genuine, that's all anyone should need.
Too many fabbers are obsessed about quantity (too few/too many) and freshness (won't meet if your last veri is over 6 months ago, etc).
My best meets are undocumented and I'm fine with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP- one of the things you asked was...”How would you feel if you left someone a glowing veri and they didn't leave you one? “
I appreciate not everyone is great at reading people but if you left a meet on a high and then was ignored I guess that would sting a bit looool |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not too fussed. The meets we have had either say can we verify them or can they verify us usually at the end of the meet as they are about to leave. If they said yes then didn't I would message them. If they said yes again then didn't I would take the hint and wouldn't ask again. I would still verify them tho either way x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP- one of the things you asked was...”How would you feel if you left someone a glowing veri and they didn't leave you one? “
I appreciate not everyone is great at reading people but if you left a meet on a high and then was ignored I guess that would sting a bit looool "
I guess it would. Unless I'm re-verifying someone or verifying after a second meet, it's totally basic. Only after I've got to know someone would I then give them a glowing veri!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Met people repeatedly after the first meet - don’t feel the need to post verifications after each one - it only says what the frequency of my meets is, and that’s no ones business really
What if it was a first meet? "
I don’t expect them to leave a verification- and if they do, I ask them, if they want me to make it public - some “fab straight” guys want to appear “straight straight” and I am cool with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP- one of the things you asked was...”How would you feel if you left someone a glowing veri and they didn't leave you one? “
I appreciate not everyone is great at reading people but if you left a meet on a high and then was ignored I guess that would sting a bit looool
I guess it would. Unless I'm re-verifying someone or verifying after a second meet, it's totally basic. Only after I've got to know someone would I then give them a glowing veri!! "
See that is fair logic. But made my head grow from my first time glowing veris Hahahah |
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Some people aren't into veris, that's fine, I'm not bothered, I have enough,though every time someone leaves the site they get fewer lol! I always offer if I have a good first meet, sometimes the guys need them. And yes, sometimes we've joked about it on a meet 'Well THAT'S going in the veri!!' usually if something funny happens. I like the system, I find them invaluable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing. "
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x |
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I understand the various reasons why some people aren't fussed about veris and wouldn't harangue someone for one. However, it's a bit rich when you write one following what you thought was an enjoyable enough encounter - which the other party is happy to display (presumably because they believe it'll benefit them and their profile in some way) - but who then fails to return the favour. Unless you've specifically said you don't want one that seems ill mannered to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x"
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work. "
No the problem started when you spoke about being exclusive. What did you think would happen when you asked him to verify you when in his head you had no intention of meeting anyone else. Poor show x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a meet didn't verify you?
I've not verified meets and they've not verified me.
Is it really that important?
How would you feel if you left someone a glowing veri and they didn't leave you one?
Do you talk about leaving veri's while still on a meet? "
The world won't end if no one leaves anyone a verification..
I don't usually and I'm not bothered if i dont get left one either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although I'm not sure why someone wouldn't be able to just say "turned up on time, looked like their pictures""
If i leave one for anyone i usually say something like.. yes he turned up, and thats all you need to know!  |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"If a meet didn't verify you?
I've not verified meets and they've not verified me.
Is it really that important?
How would you feel if you left someone a glowing veri and they didn't leave you one?
Do you talk about leaving veri's while still on a meet? "
If it wos a 1 off meet (social in my case) and i spent a lot getting to it. i probably wood be a bit disappointed if i didn't get a very back.
But that sed you carnt make people send a very. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't be bothered if someone didn't leave me a veri. I've had a few that haven't.
I only tend to do veris if someone has left me one first, mostly because I don't like writing them. |
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If it was a first meet I’d feel like maybe they weren’t really ‘into it’ in a ‘if you haven’t anything nice to say’ kind of a way.
I wouldn’t leave one or expect one on any further meets though... infact I find that a tad weird! Xx |
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I think its naff to talk about leaving verifications while on a meet. Ive not bothered with them for iver two years.
I have long term.people that neither of us have verified each other. I have one friend on here ive known way before gab that i refuse to verify as hes profile is so shit on here |
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"Although I'm not sure why someone wouldn't be able to just say "turned up on time, looked like their pictures"
If i leave one for anyone i usually say something like.. yes he turned up, and thats all you need to know! "
That and whether or not they were able to behave appropriately. A break down of the action and scores out of ten aren't necessary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I remember my first meet on here. He did t leave me a veri and I got a bit worried over it. Over-analysed the whole thing. I wouldn’t be bothered now.
Those poached eggs though "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I like to give and receive veris as a reminder of meets I've had but wouldn't get too hung up if I didn't get one.
It's happened to me a couple of times off the back of organised socials where I've left someone a veri and not received one in return (despite the people leaving veris for others) and I've just assumed I was either overlooked in the flood of veris that those events usually generate, or that I didn't make that big of an impression - either way no big deal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I left someone a verification and they didn't leave me one in return then I would wonder.
I often ask if they would like one leaving.
I don't do repeat verifications for people, that just seems a little pointless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We think verifications are fun and enjoy giving and receiving them. We go to parties, and verifications seem to be all part of the afterglow of the fun everybody had. We probably would be a bit miffed if we didn’t get a return verification after having some fun. Unless it was understood that they just don’t do verifications. But we’ve never come across that situation. My view might be different if I were single and only meeting one-on-one - get that a bit of privacy is probably required for those type of meets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's important to get your first, as some people on here will not meet if you are not verified.
As a rule, I will leave one, but have not had a return one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’d like a first one to show I’m genuine and not a time waster.
Others would just be a bonus to show if they think it went well.
I would hate to have any that didn’t actually reflect what happened and you felt obliged to do one as they gave you a glowing verification. |
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"We think verifications are fun and enjoy giving and receiving them. We go to parties, and verifications seem to be all part of the afterglow of the fun everybody had. We probably would be a bit miffed if we didn’t get a return verification after having some fun. Unless it was understood that they just don’t do verifications. But we’ve never come across that situation. My view might be different if I were single and only meeting one-on-one - get that a bit of privacy is probably required for those type of meets.
Mrs
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I've never understood people who get verifications at parties. I've seen profiles where people have literally been verified by ten people they met at a party.
What do they do? Exchange fab names with everyone they meet and confirm mutual exchange of verifications?
Surely the point of verifications for couples and single women are to confirm they are who they say they are and for men that they are not ravenous sex beasts with no social skills.
Surely you only need a few to confirm that. Isn't anything else just "look how popular I am" bragging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We think verifications are fun and enjoy giving and receiving them. We go to parties, and verifications seem to be all part of the afterglow of the fun everybody had. We probably would be a bit miffed if we didn’t get a return verification after having some fun. Unless it was understood that they just don’t do verifications. But we’ve never come across that situation. My view might be different if I were single and only meeting one-on-one - get that a bit of privacy is probably required for those type of meets.
Mrs
I've never understood people who get verifications at parties. I've seen profiles where people have literally been verified by ten people they met at a party.
What do they do? Exchange fab names with everyone they meet and confirm mutual exchange of verifications?
Surely the point of verifications for couples and single women are to confirm they are who they say they are and for men that they are not ravenous sex beasts with no social skills.
Surely you only need a few to confirm that. Isn't anything else just "look how popular I am" bragging? "
A verification can serve whatever point people like. For us, as already stated, we find the whole thing fun. We enjoy reading about what happened at a party where we may know various people. If others wish to just have a few in order to confirm they are who they say they are, that’s cool. Us personally we don’t usually display a verification just because we had a brief chat with someone at a party. Our verifications tell a story that is significant to us.
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I like a veri and I would be disappointed if a meet never left one.
I think for men veri's are a little bit more important than for a woman, we all know a woman get hounded with messages and offers of meets so veri's are pretty irrelevant, but for guy it proves that he isnt a time waster and does meet. |
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"We think verifications are fun and enjoy giving and receiving them. We go to parties, and verifications seem to be all part of the afterglow of the fun everybody had. We probably would be a bit miffed if we didn’t get a return verification after having some fun. Unless it was understood that they just don’t do verifications. But we’ve never come across that situation. My view might be different if I were single and only meeting one-on-one - get that a bit of privacy is probably required for those type of meets.
Mrs
I've never understood people who get verifications at parties. I've seen profiles where people have literally been verified by ten people they met at a party.
What do they do? Exchange fab names with everyone they meet and confirm mutual exchange of verifications?
Surely the point of verifications for couples and single women are to confirm they are who they say they are and for men that they are not ravenous sex beasts with no social skills.
Surely you only need a few to confirm that. Isn't anything else just "look how popular I am" bragging?
A verification can serve whatever point people like. For us, as already stated, we find the whole thing fun. We enjoy reading about what happened at a party where we may know various people. If others wish to just have a few in order to confirm they are who they say they are, that’s cool. Us personally we don’t usually display a verification just because we had a brief chat with someone at a party. Our verifications tell a story that is significant to us.
Mrs"
Fair enough. I'm just a crotechy old man who strongly disapproves of the whole on line. "friends" culture... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lots of different points of view which is great (and almost no snide comments or arguing)
Thanks for the input.
Almost an overwhelming "not bothered" response but I feel most of those have been swinging for a while. I think newbies seem to pay way too much attention to them.
I do read them sometimes and have found it strange when the veri isn't returned. But it's always horses for courses.
I think we should have the opportunity to accept or decline a veri when we receive one. As the system (like lots) is slightly flawed, by which I mean that I've had it recently where someone I met ages ago left the site and when he came back he verified me. He didn't ask first and I didn't even know he was back. I couldn't really report it because technically we had met previously but not since. It now shows on my summary and I can't get rid of it!! He's done this twice now.
What do you lot think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work.
No the problem started when you spoke about being exclusive. What did you think would happen when you asked him to verify you when in his head you had no intention of meeting anyone else. Poor show x"
But I said I wanted someone that was exclusive to me the very first time I spoke to him on the phone and before even meeting. He was fully aware that I wasn't looking for a one off. Me leaving a veri was my way of pissing on him, me changing my profile pic was not to entice guys to message me but to look better to the women who looked at his verification. It sounds stupid but that was the thought process. |
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"Lots of different points of view which is great (and almost no snide comments or arguing)
Thanks for the input.
Almost an overwhelming "not bothered" response but I feel most of those have been swinging for a while. I think newbies seem to pay way too much attention to them.
I do read them sometimes and have found it strange when the veri isn't returned. But it's always horses for courses.
I think we should have the opportunity to accept or decline a veri when we receive one. As the system (like lots) is slightly flawed, by which I mean that I've had it recently where someone I met ages ago left the site and when he came back he verified me. He didn't ask first and I didn't even know he was back. I couldn't really report it because technically we had met previously but not since. It now shows on my summary and I can't get rid of it!! He's done this twice now.
What do you lot think? "
I had a guy verify me saying he saw me on the self serve till in Asda, that was on one of my old profiles. I didn't display it which led to another guy I was speaking to asking who I'd met recently so I displayed it to show that it wasn't a veri from a fuck meet. |
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"Lots of different points of view which is great (and almost no snide comments or arguing)
Thanks for the input.
Almost an overwhelming "not bothered" response but I feel most of those have been swinging for a while. I think newbies seem to pay way too much attention to them.
I do read them sometimes and have found it strange when the veri isn't returned. But it's always horses for courses.
I think we should have the opportunity to accept or decline a veri when we receive one. As the system (like lots) is slightly flawed, by which I mean that I've had it recently where someone I met ages ago left the site and when he came back he verified me. He didn't ask first and I didn't even know he was back. I couldn't really report it because technically we had met previously but not since. It now shows on my summary and I can't get rid of it!! He's done this twice now.
What do you lot think? "
Does it matter? You don't even show your summary. |
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"Lots of different points of view which is great (and almost no snide comments or arguing)
Thanks for the input.
Almost an overwhelming "not bothered" response but I feel most of those have been swinging for a while. I think newbies seem to pay way too much attention to them.
I do read them sometimes and have found it strange when the veri isn't returned. But it's always horses for courses.
I think we should have the opportunity to accept or decline a veri when we receive one. As the system (like lots) is slightly flawed, by which I mean that I've had it recently where someone I met ages ago left the site and when he came back he verified me. He didn't ask first and I didn't even know he was back. I couldn't really report it because technically we had met previously but not since. It now shows on my summary and I can't get rid of it!! He's done this twice now.
What do you lot think? "
There’s not much you can do to stop people you have met at some point from verifying you. We have loads of verifications we didn’t particularly want, and are permanently there on our summary if we were to display our summary. If a friend left and came back we’d be happy to receive a verification from them, and then decide for ourselves if we want to display it.
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work.
No the problem started when you spoke about being exclusive. What did you think would happen when you asked him to verify you when in his head you had no intention of meeting anyone else. Poor show x
But I said I wanted someone that was exclusive to me the very first time I spoke to him on the phone and before even meeting. He was fully aware that I wasn't looking for a one off. Me leaving a veri was my way of pissing on him, me changing my profile pic was not to entice guys to message me but to look better to the women who looked at his verification. It sounds stupid but that was the thought process. "
If you’ve both agreed to be exclusive to each other, then wouldn’t it be better for you both to surpress your profiles so you can concentrate on your new relationship without temptation from Fab?
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work.
No the problem started when you spoke about being exclusive. What did you think would happen when you asked him to verify you when in his head you had no intention of meeting anyone else. Poor show x
But I said I wanted someone that was exclusive to me the very first time I spoke to him on the phone and before even meeting. He was fully aware that I wasn't looking for a one off. Me leaving a veri was my way of pissing on him, me changing my profile pic was not to entice guys to message me but to look better to the women who looked at his verification. It sounds stupid but that was the thought process. "
you are a one in a million young lady and your posts always make me smile. I guess it's because I can see some of me in you!!! You certainly see things in a way only a women can understand. You know what you want and your not afraid to say so!!!
I think you're a little off the wall sometimes but I think you probably have a heart of gold. I'll be so happy for you when you finally find "the one". |
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work.
No the problem started when you spoke about being exclusive. What did you think would happen when you asked him to verify you when in his head you had no intention of meeting anyone else. Poor show x
But I said I wanted someone that was exclusive to me the very first time I spoke to him on the phone and before even meeting. He was fully aware that I wasn't looking for a one off. Me leaving a veri was my way of pissing on him, me changing my profile pic was not to entice guys to message me but to look better to the women who looked at his verification. It sounds stupid but that was the thought process.
If you’ve both agreed to be exclusive to each other, then wouldn’t it be better for you both to surpress your profiles so you can concentrate on your new relationship without temptation from Fab?
Mrs"
This is past tense, that guy has long gone, I'm still holding a torch, if he wanted a relationship with me I'd be gone from here so fast there'd be smoke coming off my UNLOS |
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"Lots of different points of view which is great (and almost no snide comments or arguing)
Thanks for the input.
Almost an overwhelming "not bothered" response but I feel most of those have been swinging for a while. I think newbies seem to pay way too much attention to them.
I do read them sometimes and have found it strange when the veri isn't returned. But it's always horses for courses.
I think we should have the opportunity to accept or decline a veri when we receive one. As the system (like lots) is slightly flawed, by which I mean that I've had it recently where someone I met ages ago left the site and when he came back he verified me. He didn't ask first and I didn't even know he was back. I couldn't really report it because technically we had met previously but not since. It now shows on my summary and I can't get rid of it!! He's done this twice now.
What do you lot think?
Does it matter? You don't even show your summary. "
That's why I don't show my summary!!!
We didn't part as "friends". He just thought that by verifying me he would get a fuck!! |
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work.
No the problem started when you spoke about being exclusive. What did you think would happen when you asked him to verify you when in his head you had no intention of meeting anyone else. Poor show x
But I said I wanted someone that was exclusive to me the very first time I spoke to him on the phone and before even meeting. He was fully aware that I wasn't looking for a one off. Me leaving a veri was my way of pissing on him, me changing my profile pic was not to entice guys to message me but to look better to the women who looked at his verification. It sounds stupid but that was the thought process.
you are a one in a million young lady and your posts always make me smile. I guess it's because I can see some of me in you!!! You certainly see things in a way only a women can understand. You know what you want and your not afraid to say so!!!
I think you're a little off the wall sometimes but I think you probably have a heart of gold. I'll be so happy for you when you finally find "the one". "
Aww thank you, yeah people will always know where they stand with me. Maybe I should be more aloof and keep them guessing. Sometimes I wish I had Bernard's watch and I could go back and redo situations and see if the outcome would be different.
I hope I find the one too! |
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"Verifications can cause all kinds of bother. That guy I met back in novemeber, first time we met we didn't leave feedback and all was fine. Second time we met after he left I wrote him a veri and asked for one in return which led to him saying oh right you want feedback, but I thought you didn't want to meet anyone else, that led to a squabble because apparently asking for a verification is to big you up and set you up for your next meet. Squabble quashed and friends again, both leave feedback, then after 2 months he didn't display my veri anymore, led to me asking why and another argument ensued.
It's a bit of a strange one for me because I'm not looking for casual sex, if I slept with a guy then he slept with someone else, despite knowing that the guy had a past where he'd slept with people, to know he'd met someone after me would make me not want to meet him again. I wouldn't know if it was dating in the real world so I'm more into what I don't know can't hurt me kind of thing.
I really don't think it was the veri that caused all that drama x
But it was catalyst to the argument we had. He said that within 20 mins of him leaving my house I was back on the site asking for feedback and changing my profile picture then said if I want someone to be exclusive to me try not being on a sex site with pictures of myself with my fanny out! Was a case of a scratched ego! But yeah I gave off warning signs that I would be head work.
No the problem started when you spoke about being exclusive. What did you think would happen when you asked him to verify you when in his head you had no intention of meeting anyone else. Poor show x
But I said I wanted someone that was exclusive to me the very first time I spoke to him on the phone and before even meeting. He was fully aware that I wasn't looking for a one off. Me leaving a veri was my way of pissing on him, me changing my profile pic was not to entice guys to message me but to look better to the women who looked at his verification. It sounds stupid but that was the thought process.
you are a one in a million young lady and your posts always make me smile. I guess it's because I can see some of me in you!!! You certainly see things in a way only a women can understand. You know what you want and your not afraid to say so!!!
I think you're a little off the wall sometimes but I think you probably have a heart of gold. I'll be so happy for you when you finally find "the one".
Aww thank you, yeah people will always know where they stand with me. Maybe I should be more aloof and keep them guessing. Sometimes I wish I had Bernard's watch and I could go back and redo situations and see if the outcome would be different.
I hope I find the one too!"
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