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As much as I'm a mouthy little shit I don't like confrontation. Purely based on the abusive ex. I don't mind having a pop don't get me wrong, but it takes all my self control not to explode when I get shouted at.
So, if I'm able to go full out with the person who's shouting then bring it on, if I'm not in a position where I can release the beast then I'd prefer to be ignored. |
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"Being ignored or being shouted at?"
It depends.
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Mostly, I’d rather be ignored. It’s rare for me to not know why somebody is pissed off with me. If it’s something I did wrong, somebody telling me what I already know is just going to piss me off. If it’s something practical, I can go about fixing it.
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If I have no idea what I’m supposed to have done wrong, and the other person is unwilling to tell me, then it really depends on my mood. Maybe I’m happy to let them sit there and have whatever it is eating away at them. Or maybe I want to know, so I know if I can fix it. In which case, shout away. |
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"As much as I'm a mouthy little shit I don't like confrontation. Purely based on the abusive ex. I don't mind having a pop don't get me wrong, but it takes all my self control not to explode when I get shouted at.
So, if I'm able to go full out with the person who's shouting then bring it on, if I'm not in a position where I can release the beast then I'd prefer to be ignored."
Who the fuck are you talking to?  |
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"As much as I'm a mouthy little shit I don't like confrontation. Purely based on the abusive ex. I don't mind having a pop don't get me wrong, but it takes all my self control not to explode when I get shouted at.
So, if I'm able to go full out with the person who's shouting then bring it on, if I'm not in a position where I can release the beast then I'd prefer to be ignored.
Who the fuck are you talking to? "
Mwahahahaaaaaa I'll kick your arse verbally and physically ya scrote  |
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"As much as I'm a mouthy little shit I don't like confrontation. Purely based on the abusive ex. I don't mind having a pop don't get me wrong, but it takes all my self control not to explode when I get shouted at.
So, if I'm able to go full out with the person who's shouting then bring it on, if I'm not in a position where I can release the beast then I'd prefer to be ignored.
Who the fuck are you talking to?
Mwahahahaaaaaa I'll kick your arse verbally and physically ya scrote "
Bring it on bellend. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As much as I'm a mouthy little shit I don't like confrontation. Purely based on the abusive ex. I don't mind having a pop don't get me wrong, but it takes all my self control not to explode when I get shouted at.
So, if I'm able to go full out with the person who's shouting then bring it on, if I'm not in a position where I can release the beast then I'd prefer to be ignored."
I sometimes wish I could hold my own like that. I'm more of a "I wish I'd said....." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Being ignored or being shouted at?
It depends.
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Mostly, I’d rather be ignored. It’s rare for me to not know why somebody is pissed off with me. If it’s something I did wrong, somebody telling me what I already know is just going to piss me off. If it’s something practical, I can go about fixing it.
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If I have no idea what I’m supposed to have done wrong, and the other person is unwilling to tell me, then it really depends on my mood. Maybe I’m happy to let them sit there and have whatever it is eating away at them. Or maybe I want to know, so I know if I can fix it. In which case, shout away."
Yeah I guess it depends the reasoning. For me I hate being ignored if I feel like I'm being misunderstood. I would prefer the chance to explain myself and my feelings.
But on the other hand I don't deal well with confrontation. If I feel I'm being attacked I'm more likely to retreat into myself and say nothing. |
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"What's worse is probably not understanding why you're being ignored or shouted at.
At least if they're shouting they're attempting to tell you? "
Maybe they have attempted to tell the person before but, always up in the same place? I can't see what shouting would achieve |
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"As much as I'm a mouthy little shit I don't like confrontation. Purely based on the abusive ex. I don't mind having a pop don't get me wrong, but it takes all my self control not to explode when I get shouted at.
So, if I'm able to go full out with the person who's shouting then bring it on, if I'm not in a position where I can release the beast then I'd prefer to be ignored.
I sometimes wish I could hold my own like that. I'm more of a "I wish I'd said....." "
Believe me, I still do the thing where you think "bollocks, I should have said...."
For me it's more about not allowing myself to be bullied and not allowing people to think I'm a walk over.
I also enjoy the "dude, if I gave a shit about what you think I'd stand here and listen, but I'm all out of fucks and I've already taken a dump this morning"
Turn and walk away |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being ignored, I don’t like arguing but after living with a man that used ignoring me as a form of mental torture I’d rather be shouted at x "
Yeah I find it more awkward being ignored, that heart sinking feeling each time they are close. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What's worse is probably not understanding why you're being ignored or shouted at.
At least if they're shouting they're attempting to tell you?
Maybe they have attempted to tell the person before but, always up in the same place? I can't see what shouting would achieve"
Yeah I guess it depends on the circumstances |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As much as I'm a mouthy little shit I don't like confrontation. Purely based on the abusive ex. I don't mind having a pop don't get me wrong, but it takes all my self control not to explode when I get shouted at.
So, if I'm able to go full out with the person who's shouting then bring it on, if I'm not in a position where I can release the beast then I'd prefer to be ignored.
I sometimes wish I could hold my own like that. I'm more of a "I wish I'd said....."
Believe me, I still do the thing where you think "bollocks, I should have said...."
For me it's more about not allowing myself to be bullied and not allowing people to think I'm a walk over.
I also enjoy the "dude, if I gave a shit about what you think I'd stand here and listen, but I'm all out of fucks and I've already taken a dump this morning"
Turn and walk away "
Haha! I like it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being ignored, I don’t like arguing but after living with a man that used ignoring me as a form of mental torture I’d rather be shouted at x
Yeah I find it more awkward being ignored, that heart sinking feeling each time they are close. "
Yes, I endured it for days and I always apologised despite it not being my fault. It’s soul destroying x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The silent treatment, always gets to me.
Especially if they go out of their way to show they're ignoring you? "
Very rare though!
Not so bad though enjoy the making up its the best x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being ignored is way worse, being ignored actually does things to me, with no explanation my little brain goes into overdrive and thinks of thousands of things I may have done to warrant being ignored.
Being shouted at doesn't bother me in the slightest no matter what context. I remember Xmas 2016 when I was in iceland (the shop) and some woman tried taking the last box of sticky chicken skewers out of my actual hand, she started screaming at me that she saw them first and calling me an f'ing cheeky bitch, I had to put the box under my armpit to stop her clawing at it and just said to her (quietly cos I was embarrassed) I'll stick you in that freezer now you mad cunt, I picked them up first now fuck off. Situation went under control then when one of the workers came running down the aisle with the metal trolley to restock the sticky chicken skewers. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I've not been in any form of relationship within the last 10 years to endure either.
I wasn’t exclusively thinking about relationships when I answered. Family, friends, colleagues..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually if someone shouted at me - I would just ignore them. If and when they calmed down, I may consider unignoring them
I don’t give anyone the right to shout at me. They can disagree in a conversational tone. Shooting no no |
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Depends on the situation, and the person.
In my job I often have to shout, be quite aggressive & forceful.
I'll be the loudest person going if I'm defending something, but in my personal life, as someone who spent many many years being shouted at I hate it.
It scares me.
But being ignored, can be much worse.
Shouting isn't the best way to deal with anything, but you can't resolve any issue if you don't communicate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I lived in the same house as my step-father and when he had an argument with my mum and it looked like it was going to get physical i shouted at him which he took exception to and told me to fuck off. He made up with my mum but i ignored him for a year. Just totally blanked him and looked through him. It was awful for my mum, made things awkward, but i wasn’t having any of it.
I’m also capable of shouting when i have to, but takes a lot for me to get shouty unless i’m hormonal.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With the people closest to you and the ones you care about, then nothing can ever be sorted by sitting in silence and being ignored. I'm not saying shouting can help sort it either, but at least they are acknowledging that you are there.
With anyone who I don't really care about, I would rather be ignored than shouted at. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the issue with that comparison is that both sides of it are conditional. As in being ignored by a distant friend isn’t like being ignored by a loved one. And being shouted at by a stranger doesn’t hurt anything like being shouted at by a loved one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I ignore people who ignore me and if they can't speak to me in a civilised fashion, I'll ignore them until they can!!
Don't think I've been properly shouted at since I was at school. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's worse is probably not understanding why you're being ignored or shouted at.
Yep. Especially when they won't listen."
That’s why I shout. They’ll hear me at least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being ignored or being shouted at?
Being shouted about. But nobody noticed you were there to hear it.
Oh. Now that sounds bad.  "
Makes you feel worthless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Neither are pleasant to have directed at you. If you're ignoring me, I'll go and do my own thing until you're ready to communicate with me in a productive way. Ignoring me has already conveyed to me that your pissed off. If you're shouting, I might let you shout at me until you run out of steam. Some people need to shout and get it out of their system. Hopefully we can then concerntrate on the solution.
If I had to choose, I'll go for being ignored. It's so much easier to get on with other things while being ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ignored i like to know where i stand i can take a bollocking (no pun intended) but will quickly loose interest in something and get bored if ignored so come shout at me see if i care ner ner n ner ner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both are pretty awful. I probably don’t like being ignored a bit more than being shouted at.
We could have the makings of a dream team. Well, kinda. "
Ha, ahh hi you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both are pretty awful. I probably don’t like being ignored a bit more than being shouted at.
We could have the makings of a dream team. Well, kinda.
Ha, ahh hi you! "
Hello |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too laid back as a rule to give a shit.
Had some weak moments the last couple of weeks, and barred a customer for seriously taking the piss after specifically being ask not to do so, so would probably have burst into tears if someone shouted at me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Shouted at. Ignored is bliss
It certainly can be, right?"
I used to love it when my husband ignored me. When he decided to finally talk to me I ignored him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Shouted at. Ignored is bliss
It certainly can be, right?
I used to love it when my husband ignored me. When he decided to finally talk to me I ignored him."
And so the cycle was complete. Well almost I guess. |
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