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People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to. |
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My ex-sister-in-law does this, a lot.
I sometimes feel sorry for the guys she's constantly messing around.
Although if they are too daft to notice what's going on... meh |
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"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."
So it’s just one step away from ‘ghosting’? I’d never heard of it, but I suppose that friendship will fizzle out eventually if communication is like that. |
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'Hi again? I've got some free time to meet in a couple of years. My gift list has some lovely platinum and diamond pieces from Tiffany's, if you'd like to free up some of my time to possibly meet a little earlier  . I'll chat on cam wearing them, once they have arrived. What's your name again?' |
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"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."
Ah, thanks for the explanation, it's being done to me I just didn't know there was a name for it. Should move on but like you say they then do something incredibly nice that lures you back in! |
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So they've given it a name, that's interesting.
I have a friend who does this to men. In her case it seems to lead to the men behaving in an obssessive way e.g. sending endless messages until she eventually answers one. It's a kind of co-dependent thing that if one stopped the other would eventually be forced to. |
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"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."
bad. |
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If someone isn't interested enough to give you their full attention don't hang about waiting for them.
As I said my friend does this to men. One of them hung on for over twenty years being thrown the odd bone. He eventually came to his senses, met another woman and married her. My friend was absolutely furious.  I still can't understand the way either of them think. |
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"Interesting... Ive never been ghosted but have a feeling im being breadcrumbed.... Never knew there was a name for it.... "
There is a name for everything nowadays |
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"Interesting... Ive never been ghosted but have a feeling im being breadcrumbed.... Never knew there was a name for it....
There is a name for everything nowadays "
So.it seems... Although i have been calling it shitty friend syndrome. |
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"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."
Not some Hansel and Gretel paedophilia sex ring scandal then.  |
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"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose "
I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up. |
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"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose
I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up."
Yes! |
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"See now I thought this was going to be some kinky food related thing. Damn
Interesting to read the article about it though. Anyone else come across it before or, had first hand experience of it? "
We just call it “left dangling on a string”  |
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"See now I thought this was going to be some kinky food related thing. Damn
Interesting to read the article about it though. Anyone else come across it before or, had first hand experience of it?
We just call it “left dangling on a string” "
The other term is "back up plan". Keep you around, but never actually have any interest of having a relationship with you. |
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"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose
I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up."
Now have to google what gas lighting is. |
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"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose
I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up.
Now have to google what gas lighting is. "
It comes from a film where the tactic was deliberately used to make someone think they were going insane - it's usually reflecting back their own flaws and failings so convincingly they start to make the victim question their own judgement. |
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