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Hey all, exploring the idea of a gf of mine been introduced to the swinging world, I have mentioned it to her, just after any general advice to put her mind at ease? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You could get the lady that verified you to have a chat with her...
Ginger "
Yeah it's more about the terms it's something she's never done, not sure if she wants to meet another guy,girl,couple, just don't want to be pushy or say the wrong thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You could get the lady that verified you to have a chat with her...
Ginger
Yeah it's more about the terms it's something she's never done, not sure if she wants to meet another guy,girl,couple, just don't want to be pushy or say the wrong thing "
Talk to her is the only way, and more importantly listen to her answers, and how she responds in her body language. Set up a couples profile and let her explore fab, if she has a genuine interest she'll let you know.
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It's more in general discussion than anything, open to the idea but it's now a case of trying to find something in which she could be comfortable in... a club could be a bit overwhelmingly forward for someone so new, No? |
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"It's more in general discussion than anything, open to the idea but it's now a case of trying to find something in which she could be comfortable in... a club could be a bit overwhelmingly forward for someone so new, No?"
I'd say not, what's the alternative? A private meet where it might be more difficult for her to be able to change her mind.
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"It's more in general discussion than anything, open to the idea but it's now a case of trying to find something in which she could be comfortable in... a club could be a bit overwhelmingly forward for someone so new, No?"
The only person who can tell you what she will be likely to be comfortable with is her. Nobody else can possibly know.
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Go at her pace and stop at any point where she has no interest. Wait for her curiosity or interest to lead the way.
Just because you have an interest, doesn't mean that she will now or at any point. |
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"Thanks for the advice, I care about the lady in question so don't want to do anything to ruin that, all advice took on board, thanks for th3 advice "
I understand that. The problem is that unless you have open communication about this the potential for hurt is massive.
I say this a lot. Establish good sexual communication, work on discussing fantasies without judgement either way. You can only swing successfully if you can communicate. |
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"Thanks for the advice, I care about the lady in question so don't want to do anything to ruin that, all advice took on board, thanks for th3 advice
I understand that. The problem is that unless you have open communication about this the potential for hurt is massive.
I say this a lot. Establish good sexual communication, work on discussing fantasies without judgement either way. You can only swing successfully if you can communicate."
Thanks for the advice! Much obliged!! |
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Is it possible for conversation that starts with "I have been actively cheating/trying to cheat on you for some time.." to ever "put somone at ease".
As that seems like the kind of thing that destroys all trust in a partner, something that is kinda vital to any relationship that will survive swinging |
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"Is it possible for conversation that starts with "I have been actively cheating/trying to cheat on you for some time.." to ever "put somone at ease".
As that seems like the kind of thing that destroys all trust in a partner, something that is kinda vital to any relationship that will survive swinging "
You don't know how long the op has been seeing his gf. They could have met after his verification.
I've been dating someone for 6 months but have been on this site the whole time. Doesn't mean I'm actively cheating or trying to cheat on him. I've even been to chams 3 times since starting to date him.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it possible for conversation that starts with "I have been actively cheating/trying to cheat on you for some time.." to ever "put somone at ease".
As that seems like the kind of thing that destroys all trust in a partner, something that is kinda vital to any relationship that will survive swinging
You don't know how long the op has been seeing his gf. They could have met after his verification.
I've been dating someone for 6 months but have been on this site the whole time. Doesn't mean I'm actively cheating or trying to cheat on him. I've even been to chams 3 times since starting to date him.
Try not to judge so much "
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