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Spoke to a woman today who had posted they were looking to meet today.So after chatting 4 a bit and what i thought was getting on ok i tried to progress things by asking to exchange facepics.I got the ‘i dont send facepics because of my job’ excuse so enquired if they wore a mask or told their meets to keep their eyes shut during meets?.She of course replied we arent clicking and that was that! So what do other folk think of people who want to meet yet wont send facepics to people who take an interest? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Noones obliged to meet or message anyone?
Some people are genuinely worried about sending pics to relative strangers and rely on a social to find chemistry.
Just move on I guess. I have met once with someone who I hadn't seen prior...they turned out to be very attractive. |
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"Dodgy..
Especially now with direct pics but it may have been a man"
Direct pics are still an issue. If somebody is that way minded, they can still grab it. If someone has that much of an issue, I can absolutely understand the reticence.
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Equally, I’d struggle to meet without swapping face pics. It’s difficult, but people have to do what works for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh face pics are no indication anyway, as they may turn up and look nothing like them so you cant win anyway..
But the fact the OP was blocked for asking is a bit suspect..
I would see that as a narrow escape |
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Keep my face pics private cos of job but if I'm talking and plan to meet then id send a face pic and obviously want one in return.
Certainly wdnt meet anyone without a face pic and wdnt expect amyone else to do so either. Sounds dodgy to me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a load of bull I have a job that I have to be careful about so I just don't meet near where my job is. I also never look this glam in my job so I'm not recognisable |
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over a year ago
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I won't meet without seeing a face pic. However some people have had their pics stolen from sites such as this and posted on other sites so I absolutely understand why they would be cautious. |
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I haven't got time to chat to people on here to see if I like them as a person to then see I'm not physically attracted to them. That's why a face pic first off works best, saves wasting time to then find out they don't send face pics! |
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"We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway."
Daft question but how do you find each other if you don't know what each other looks like?  |
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Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely?? |
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"We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway.
Daft question but how do you find each other if you don't know what each other looks like? "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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There is not a chance in hell I would ever meet someone blind.
The amount of messages I get when a guy asks if I want to meet him, he has no public pictures and he hasn't attached one.
Those are just another class of message I add to my ignore list  |
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"We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway.
Daft question but how do you find each other if you don't know what each other looks like?
Daffodil in the buttonhole "
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"Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely??"
Some of us just don't want clientele, family, friends, neighbours, children, bosses ....... to know.
Do what you want. I do. |
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"We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway.
Daft question but how do you find each other if you don't know what each other looks like?
Daffodil in the buttonhole "
I thought that said "Daffodil in the butthole" the first time I read it : D |
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"We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway.
Daft question but how do you find each other if you don't know what each other looks like?
Daffodil in the buttonhole "
Red rose and a paper under their arm. |
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over a year ago
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There are certain people who obviously can't send face pics. Members of the Royal family, MPs etc. But then such people would probably be pretty foolish to be in the swing scene anyway. Then there are other famous people, who would have to decide if they mind this sort of thing getting to the press. But anybody who couldn’t send a face pic for these reasons also couldn’t set foot in a swing club, and would be risking rather a lot just having a meet. With regards to other jobs, I might get into trouble if it got out what I do, but again it could easily get out by me being seen in a swing club. I don’t worry about sending a picture of my face because nobody I send it too will know where I work anyway.
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"We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway.
Daft question but how do you find each other if you don't know what each other looks like?
Daffodil in the buttonhole
I thought that said "Daffodil in the butthole" the first time I read it : D"
So did I  only until I saw your comment. |
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Years ago I was told if you're going to meet someone for the 1st time .tell someone you trust 1st so that they know where you are etc. Or leave a note saying what you know about the person you are meeting somewhere safe at home.
And I would not go to a door unless I trust and phone tohave the door open when I call.keep yourself Safe |
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"If she said you weren't clicking then how would a meet happen?
If I wasn't clicking with a guy I wouldn't send a face pic either. "
we were getting on great until i asked for a facepic then when i said i didnt understand her excuse for not wanting to send a facepic decided we wudnt click anyway!! I wudnt have asked for a facepic if we hadnt been getting on so well...that would have just been stupid |
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"Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely??"
Im not risking losing my job, nor is my husband risking his job by sending face pics. Our choice and being as our way of meeting works ok for us then we will continue to meet this way |
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"We never send face pics and dont ask guys to send theirs to us either. We always have a social before a play meet. It works well for us and no one has ever run away in fear once they have seen us. We usually know when chatting via Fab whether or not we like them anyway.
Daft question but how do you find each other if you don't know what each other looks like?
Daffodil in the buttonhole
I thought that said "Daffodil in the butthole" the first time I read it : D
So did I only until I saw your comment."
My first attempt said buttinhole |
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"Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely??
Im not risking losing my job, nor is my husband risking his job by sending face pics. Our choice and being as our way of meeting works ok for us then we will continue to meet this way "
how are you at risk of losing your job by sending facepics?? Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it? |
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‘A couple’ said to us they had no verifications for the last year being on the site for privacy reasons last week... still trying to work that one out?!  |
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"If she said you weren't clicking then how would a meet happen?
If I wasn't clicking with a guy I wouldn't send a face pic either. we were getting on great until i asked for a facepic then when i said i didnt understand her excuse for not wanting to send a facepic decided we wudnt click anyway!! I wudnt have asked for a facepic if we hadnt been getting on so well...that would have just been stupid"
I guess you don’t click on that particular area. My opinion is that she should have made it clear on her profile that face pics are out of the question. Then you would have been able to make an informed choice as to whether to pursue her on that basis.
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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago
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We always demand face photos swapping if the other party wants to meet for a social as it's a good way to out those not serious and also helps confirm any initial attraction... That said we respect if someone is unwilling to swap photos for whatever reason and in those instances we just move on... if someone is unable to trust us to swap photos we are unable to trust they will turn-up for a meet or will be who they say they are x |
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"I dont do face pics had my pics stolen by someone i knew who showed all the parents at my kids school"
really?? Were u single at the time?? Were u breaking any laws?and im assuming the person who showed ur pics had accessed them on fab??
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
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"Spoke to a woman today who had posted they were looking to meet today.So after chatting 4 a bit and what i thought was getting on ok i tried to progress things by asking to exchange facepics.I got the ‘i dont send facepics because of my job’ excuse so enquired if they wore a mask or told their meets to keep their eyes shut during meets?.She of course replied we arent clicking and that was that! So what do other folk think of people who want to meet yet wont send facepics to people who take an interest? "
Block - and find someone else who will, life's too short for games and demands etc |
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"If she said you weren't clicking then how would a meet happen?
If I wasn't clicking with a guy I wouldn't send a face pic either. we were getting on great until i asked for a facepic then when i said i didnt understand her excuse for not wanting to send a facepic decided we wudnt click anyway!! I wudnt have asked for a facepic if we hadnt been getting on so well...that would have just been stupid
I guess you don’t click on that particular area. My opinion is that she should have made it clear on her profile that face pics are out of the question. Then you would have been able to make an informed choice as to whether to pursue her on that basis. You totally missed the point i made which was we were getting on brilliantly until i asked for a facepic to which she replied we wouldnt click anyway so no!! So until i broached the subject their was no barrier to us meeting so therefore if she had indicated from the off that she wudnt send a facepic then i wud not have pursued her!! Get it now?
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Im not on here to whinge that the woman never met me..im a glass half full kind of guy and have never bitched or moaned about any1 not wanting to meet me lol its the i wont send a pic because of my job excuse that does my nut right in!! So just thought id post on the forum how and why an employer would/could sack you for being on here |
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"Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely??
Im not risking losing my job, nor is my husband risking his job by sending face pics. Our choice and being as our way of meeting works ok for us then we will continue to meet this way how are you at risk of losing your job by sending facepics?? Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it? "
Really! You don't need to name your employer to be seen as a representative of them. In a lot of professional jobs you could loose your job or the very least severely impact your image and perception. You don't have to break laws to be in conflict with an organisation's values... or policy! Most professional organisations have social media usage policy and as an employee your online persona can be seen as representative of your employer or at least an extension of the work place.
And for the record I don't think it's unreasonable to refuse a face picture to a guy on the internet that you've spoke to that day "for a bit". Nor is it unresonable to block someone that responds with attitude and sarcasm. |
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"If she said you weren't clicking then how would a meet happen?
If I wasn't clicking with a guy I wouldn't send a face pic either. we were getting on great until i asked for a facepic then when i said i didnt understand her excuse for not wanting to send a facepic decided we wudnt click anyway!! I wudnt have asked for a facepic if we hadnt been getting on so well...that would have just been stupid
I guess you don’t click on that particular area. My opinion is that she should have made it clear on her profile that face pics are out of the question. Then you would have been able to make an informed choice as to whether to pursue her on that basis.
You totally missed the point i made which was we were getting on brilliantly until i asked for a facepic to which she replied we wouldnt click anyway so no!! So until i broached the subject their was no barrier to us meeting so therefore if she had indicated from the off that she wudnt send a facepic then i wud not have pursued her!! Get it now?
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"Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely??
Im not risking losing my job, nor is my husband risking his job by sending face pics. Our choice and being as our way of meeting works ok for us then we will continue to meet this way how are you at risk of losing your job by sending facepics?? Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it?
Really! You don't need to name your employer to be seen as a representative of them. In a lot of professional jobs you could loose your job or the very least severely impact your image and perception. You don't have to break laws to be in conflict with an organisation's values... or policy! Most professional organisations have social media usage policy and as an employee your online persona can be seen as representative of your employer or at least an extension of the work place.
And for the record I don't think it's unreasonable to refuse a face picture to a guy on the internet that you've spoke to that day "for a bit". Nor is it unresonable to block someone that responds with attitude and sarcasm."
do u mean me?? Im genuinely lost for words!! I cant understand how employers can actually impact on how u live your life even if its ourside social norms is all im trying to debate here and no sarcasm or attitude is meant so dont know where ur getting that from? |
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"Spoke to a woman today who had posted they were looking to meet today.So after chatting 4 a bit and what i thought was getting on ok i tried to progress things by asking to exchange facepics.I got the ‘i dont send facepics because of my job’ excuse so enquired if they wore a mask or told their meets to keep their eyes shut during meets?.She of course replied we arent clicking and that was that! So what do other folk think of people who want to meet yet wont send facepics to people who take an interest? "
A bit difficult when you're the PM and in charge of negotiating Brexit...and can you imagine what Boris would say?
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"Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it? "
The fact that a couple who met through the swinging-scene recently got married and crlebrated it at a swinging club recently made national press. A lot of people really, really don’t approve of this lifestyle. And there are associated risks of meeting people.
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It could be seen as putting yourself in a compromising position, it could be seen as poor decision-making. You don’t have to be naming your employer; if details of your employment are leaked along with your lifestyle, your actions have brought your employer into disrepute.
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People on here not thinking employers should let anyone go for what they do with their private life means fuck all to me or anyone else who knows the reality of their job better and what could lose them it.
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It makes me roll my eyes when I see somebody dismissing it as nonsense. Don’t be so small-minded. There’s a bigger world out there, and it doesn’t play nice. |
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"Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it? The fact that a couple who met through the swinging-scene recently got married and crlebrated it at a swinging club recently made national press. A lot of people really, really don’t approve of this lifestyle. And there are associated risks of meeting people.
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It could be seen as putting yourself in a compromising position, it could be seen as poor decision-making. You don’t have to be naming your employer; if details of your employment are leaked along with your lifestyle, your actions have brought your employer into disrepute.
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People on here not thinking employers should let anyone go for what they do with their private life means fuck all to me or anyone else who knows the reality of their job better and what could lose them it.
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It makes me roll my eyes when I see somebody dismissing it as nonsense. Don’t be so small-minded. There’s a bigger world out there, and it doesn’t play nice."
im not being small minded im genuinely perplexed that employers can sack people for having the fab lifestyle shall we say? U dont need to be on a swinging site to go out shagging everyday allday and as long as it doesnt stoo u being a peoductive employee see no reason to sack u??? |
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"Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely??
Im not risking losing my job, nor is my husband risking his job by sending face pics. Our choice and being as our way of meeting works ok for us then we will continue to meet this way how are you at risk of losing your job by sending facepics?? Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it?
Really! You don't need to name your employer to be seen as a representative of them. In a lot of professional jobs you could loose your job or the very least severely impact your image and perception. You don't have to break laws to be in conflict with an organisation's values... or policy! Most professional organisations have social media usage policy and as an employee your online persona can be seen as representative of your employer or at least an extension of the work place.
And for the record I don't think it's unreasonable to refuse a face picture to a guy on the internet that you've spoke to that day "for a bit". Nor is it unresonable to block someone that responds with attitude and sarcasm. do u mean me?? Im genuinely lost for words!! I cant understand how employers can actually impact on how u live your life even if its ourside social norms is all im trying to debate here and no sarcasm or attitude is meant so dont know where ur getting that from?"
Not toward me. I've tried to enlighten you on the question you have raised about employment (which is what you're asking and has for the most part been missed).
Sarcasm toward her... you said "so enquired if they wore a mask or told their meets to keep their eyes shut during meets?". I think it's reasonable for her not to want to send a face pic after talking for "a bit" and reasonable for her to move on after a reply like that. |
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"im not being small minded im genuinely perplexed that employers can sack people for having the fab lifestyle shall we say? U dont need to be on a swinging site to go out shagging everyday allday and as long as it doesnt stoo u being a peoductive employee see no reason to sack u???"
There’s a difference between the two. If you can’t see that, I can’t help you.
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My job involves making decisions that can change people’s lives. I’d like to think it’s generally for the better, but other times people don’t like those decisions. They might want to make me change my mind, or influence me before I’ve made a decision. Now, my employer might think that my profile makes me corruptable; that it gives people fuel for bla©kmail. It doesn’t need to happen, there just needs to be a risk. It’s a risk my employer doesn’t need to take. Bang, job gone.
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And all because somebody ‘needs’ to know if they fancy me before they’ll even exchange a few messages? No, thanks. I’ll wait until I’ve got a better idea who I’m talking to. |
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"Question. Genuinely curious. Is sending a face pic riskier to ones job than being seen in a club and it being reported to ones employer?
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Of course it is. That’s partly why clubs don’t allow cameras in certain areas. A photograph of your face is physical evidence that you’re engaging in the lifestyle. |
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"Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it? The fact that a couple who met through the swinging-scene recently got married and crlebrated it at a swinging club recently made national press. A lot of people really, really don’t approve of this lifestyle. And there are associated risks of meeting people.
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It could be seen as putting yourself in a compromising position, it could be seen as poor decision-making. You don’t have to be naming your employer; if details of your employment are leaked along with your lifestyle, your actions have brought your employer into disrepute.
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People on here not thinking employers should let anyone go for what they do with their private life means fuck all to me or anyone else who knows the reality of their job better and what could lose them it.
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It makes me roll my eyes when I see somebody dismissing it as nonsense. Don’t be so small-minded. There’s a bigger world out there, and it doesn’t play nice. im not being small minded im genuinely perplexed that employers can sack people for having the fab lifestyle shall we say? U dont need to be on a swinging site to go out shagging everyday allday and as long as it doesnt stoo u being a peoductive employee see no reason to sack u???"
I accept that employers can make life very different if a swinging lifestyle were to get out, and in certain circumstances for certain jobs there would be a risk of losing ones job. But I don’t really understand how a picture of a face is more risky than meeting someone who later blabs, or maybe being seen in a club and it being blabbed. And people have to know where you work in order to do anything dodgy with a picture of a face. We’ve taken calculated risks because the swinging lifestyle is important to us, and we’d rather encourage trust. But if we really felt that losing our jobs were such a huge risk, I don’t think we’d be here. Cos let’s face, meeting us a risk.
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"Wow i had no idea it was such a bad idea to ask for a facepic to see if i was attracted to some1 b4 making a roundtrip of 80 miles..guess thats me been telt"
It's not a bad idea, it's generally standard practice.
But they said no and your response is rather petulant if your forum comments are anything to go by.
People can be sacked for bringing organisations into disrepute. Imagine a teacher on the front page of a newspaper on a Monday morning as you deliver your 6 year old to school?
There's numerous examples.
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"Question. Genuinely curious. Is sending a face pic riskier to ones job than being seen in a club and it being reported to ones employer?
Mrs
Of course it is. That’s partly why clubs don’t allow cameras in certain areas. A photograph of your face is physical evidence that you’re engaging in the lifestyle."
That’s true. If someone is seen in a club, it cannot be proven if blabbed. But sending an ordinary photo of a face via text message is not physical evidence of indulging in the lifestyle. I do get that a screenshot of a face pic from the website is a different matter. That could indeed be used as evidence. Although I would deny it and say my photo was stolen. |
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"I accept that employers can make life very different if a swinging lifestyle were to get out, and in certain circumstances for certain jobs there would be a risk of losing ones job. But I don’t really understand how a picture of a face is more risky than meeting someone who later blabs, or maybe being seen in a club and it being blabbed."
As I’ve said, a photograph is solid evidence. It’s something that somebody can viably offer a newspaper. Or put in an envelope and deliver to my employer.
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"And people have to know where you work in order to do anything dodgy with a picture of a face."
Some of is work in public facing jobs, and are more likely to be recognised by more people.
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"We’ve taken calculated risks because the swinging lifestyle is important to us, and we’d rather encourage trust. But if we really felt that losing our jobs were such a huge risk, I don’t think we’d be here. Cos let’s face, meeting us a risk."
You know, there is a middle ground. It’s one where you’re still on the site, but are more careful than others.
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Honestly, if some of you could see beyond your own lives and experiences, this wouldn’t be so difficult. |
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"Wow i had no idea it was such a bad idea to ask for a facepic to see if i was attracted to some1 b4 making a roundtrip of 80 miles..guess thats me been telt"
It’s not bad. We wouldn’t even need to be asked. Pursue those who share your view. |
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"That’s true. If someone is seen in a club, it cannot be proven if blabbed. But sending an ordinary photo of a face via text message is not physical evidence of indulging in the lifestyle. I do get that a screenshot of a face pic from the website is a different matter. That could indeed be used as evidence. Although I would deny it and say my photo was stolen. "
Please, stop just hitting your keyboard without thinking. Stop, and think about what you’re saying. Now, your adding in an identifiable phone number. A single face pic on its own doesn’t mean anything, but can be combined with screengrabs of your initial contact messages, your profile which contains more photos linked back to you.
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Trust me, people for whom this is a concern have thought about this a lot more than you have as you grace us with what you reckon, on a topic, you have barely considered, and clearly have difficulty grasping. |
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"Spoke to a woman today who had posted they were looking to meet today.So after chatting 4 a bit and what i thought was getting on ok i tried to progress things by asking to exchange facepics.I got the ‘i dont send facepics because of my job’ excuse so enquired if they wore a mask or told their meets to keep their eyes shut during meets?.She of course replied we arent clicking and that was that! So what do other folk think of people who want to meet yet wont send facepics to people who take an interest? "
I won't send my face pic on here. Nothing to do with a job though. I think that's a joke lol.
As a genuine single woman, I do it for safety reasons and the fact I have teenage son's. If one is on here, I don't want him seeing me! 
However, like many others, I have the kik app. My face pic is my kik profile pic. Kik is safer and more secure then giving your number out to a complete stranger on a site like this.
Giving your number out is dodgy for anyone due to so many placing their number on all of their social networking sites. Kik only requires a username. Keep safe at all times! |
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"That’s true. If someone is seen in a club, it cannot be proven if blabbed. But sending an ordinary photo of a face via text message is not physical evidence of indulging in the lifestyle. I do get that a screenshot of a face pic from the website is a different matter. That could indeed be used as evidence. Although I would deny it and say my photo was stolen. Please, stop just hitting your keyboard without thinking. Stop, and think about what you’re saying. Now, your adding in an identifiable phone number. A single face pic on its own doesn’t mean anything, but can be combined with screengrabs of your initial contact messages, your profile which contains more photos linked back to you.
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Trust me, people for whom this is a concern have thought about this a lot more than you have as you grace us with what you reckon, on a topic, you have barely considered, and clearly have difficulty grasping."
You make some very good points. But please don’t tell me that I’m not thinking or have barely considered this stuff, because that’s not true. And it is a concern to us and our jobs. |
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As others have said, some professions have social media policies and you have to be careful what you post online about yourself. If found on a site like FAB, it would be considered gross misconduct and employment probably would be terminated. It's bringing your employers reputation into disrepute. |
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We don't show our face pics publicly because of our jobs, but when we are looking to meet with someone, we wouldn't expect them to go in blind. We generally send a face pic fairly early in our conversations, there's no point wasting all of our times if they thing we're "mingers"
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"Why would being on here bring your employer into disrepute?"
For us, I work in education and t' missus is customer facing within a local council office. There are definitely opportunities to embarrass our employers.
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"Why would being on here bring your employer into disrepute?"
Because you represent your employer and being found on a swinging site where you arrange casual sex would be an embarrassment for them. Depending what company or profession it is, it could make the local news.
Some school staff in our local area were sacked over hen do photos that appeared on Facebook! It was a big scandal in the newspaper |
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"Spoke to a woman today who had posted they were looking to meet today.So after chatting 4 a bit and what i thought was getting on ok i tried to progress things by asking to exchange facepics.I got the ‘i dont send facepics because of my job’ excuse so enquired if they wore a mask or told their meets to keep their eyes shut during meets?.She of course replied we arent clicking and that was that! So what do other folk think of people who want to meet yet wont send facepics to people who take an interest?
A bit difficult when you're the PM and in charge of negotiating Brexit...and can you imagine what Boris would say?
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When I was Pm Borris positively encouraged it even though he preferred dogging |
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"Ive just never understood the whole because of my job excuse!! Ur employer cant tell u what to or not what to do in ur private life unless of course ur bringing said employer into disrepute my naming them on social media platforms surely??
Im not risking losing my job, nor is my husband risking his job by sending face pics. Our choice and being as our way of meeting works ok for us then we will continue to meet this way how are you at risk of losing your job by sending facepics?? Not being argumentative im genuinely interested how ur employer could sack you for living your life and not breaking any laws while doing it?
Really! You don't need to name your employer to be seen as a representative of them. In a lot of professional jobs you could loose your job or the very least severely impact your image and perception. You don't have to break laws to be in conflict with an organisation's values... or policy! Most professional organisations have social media usage policy and as an employee your online persona can be seen as representative of your employer or at least an extension of the work place.
And for the record I don't think it's unreasonable to refuse a face picture to a guy on the internet that you've spoke to that day "for a bit". Nor is it unresonable to block someone that responds with attitude and sarcasm."
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"Wow i had no idea it was such a bad idea to ask for a facepic to see if i was attracted to some1 b4 making a roundtrip of 80 miles..guess thats me been telt
It's not a bad idea, it's generally standard practice.
But they said no and your response is rather petulant if your forum comments are anything to go by.
People can be sacked for bringing organisations into disrepute. Imagine a teacher on the front page of a newspaper on a Monday morning as you deliver your 6 year old to school?
There's numerous examples.
For some people, FAB is part of their life not all of it!!"
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I think people have different perceptions of the level of risk. There is someone on Fab who does the same job as me, but unlike me won’t send face pics because of her job. Who’s right and who’s wrong regarding the job? Probably neither. I guess I worry less about the risk (rightly or wrongly). Or maybe I’m just too trusting of people. |
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"Why would being on here bring your employer into disrepute?"
It has been explained to you already. I see that some more patient people have been kind enough to explain again. Hopefully you’ll read it this time.
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"Or maybe I’m just too trusting of people. "
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" Noones obliged to meet or message anyone?
Some people are genuinely worried about sending pics to relative strangers and rely on a social to find chemistry.
Just move on I guess. I have met once with someone who I hadn't seen prior...they turned out to be very attractive."
That can happen but is quite rare |
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"Dodgy..
Especially now with direct pics but it may have been a man"
This!
I just think it’s too much to expect anyone to meet without seeing face pictures. |
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"I still think 'she' was a fella"
i probably miss out on alot of meets because i wont chat long without a fone conversation very early on, if i lkke someone and they like me i like a fone call soon as possible to be sure im speaking to someone genuine |
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"I still think 'she' was a fella
i probably miss out on alot of meets because i wont chat long without a fone conversation very early on, if i lkke someone and they like me i like a fone call soon as possible to be sure im speaking to someone genuine "
Me too, usually.
If someone isn’t willing to talk on the phone, then I’d never expect them to turn up to a meet! |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn’t meet anyone without seeing their face. You would like to know who you are meeting. Imagine going to someone’s house and knocking on the wrong door. Or talking to the wrong person at the bar - it could all get a bit embarrassing |
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"I still think 'she' was a fella
i probably miss out on alot of meets because i wont chat long without a fone conversation very early on, if i lkke someone and they like me i like a fone call soon as possible to be sure im speaking to someone genuine
Me too, usually.
If someone isn’t willing to talk on the phone, then I’d never expect them to turn up to a meet!"
I like to talk on the phone before a meet also. |
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