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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you had some nice regular sex for a couple of months but a couple of months have passed where you've not spoken, would you ever hit up past fucks? Does it depend on the circumstances in which you parted? |
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"If you had some nice regular sex for a couple of months but a couple of months have passed where you've not spoken, would you ever hit up past fucks? Does it depend on the circumstances in which you parted?"
Life's to short not to ask, worse thing that can happen is they say no thanks I've moved on etc |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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I get randomly contacted by several past POF and Fab contacts from years ago despite parting on bad terms.
They seem oblivious to the fact they were utter cunts previously and expect me to meet again. These men are known as Asshole Haunters at their worst! |
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Yep I’ve had it too. A guy I met on fabguys a few years back who was all completely one sided and selfish, who then wanted me to meet again a few weeks later and blocked me when I declined - then when I joined here he started messaging again completely contradicting his likes (when we met he didn’t like sucking dick and wouldn’t touch me properly, but on here was his favourite thing ever). Let him know who I was and then blocked him |
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"I get this all the time.....most recent from a guy I meet 3 years ago! "
But you don't say if you thought it a good thing or not.
Personally I see no harm if it was good the first time. People drift in to and out of our lives.
Sometimes for no reason, a bit of proactive work and they might like to drift back in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah, I have no way of contacting said person (he's no longer on here) so the onus would be on him to make contact.
Think I was looking for what would make you want to establish contact, sex drought, no other options so go back over people you've already met kind of thing.
Well I could contact him if I bought a new SIM card but that would just make him want to get an injunction against me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah, I have no way of contacting said person (he's no longer on here) so the onus would be on him to make contact.
Think I was looking for what would make you want to establish contact, sex drought, no other options so go back over people you've already met kind of thing.
Well I could contact him if I bought a new SIM card but that would just make him want to get an injunction against me. "
I would go with no don’t contact him OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah, I have no way of contacting said person (he's no longer on here) so the onus would be on him to make contact.
Think I was looking for what would make you want to establish contact, sex drought, no other options so go back over people you've already met kind of thing.
Well I could contact him if I bought a new SIM card but that would just make him want to get an injunction against me.
I would go with no don’t contact him OP "
I won't, I can't! I'm just putting it out there to the universe that I want him to get in touch. Any day now I'll hear the little popcorn alert tone going off on my WhatsApp! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great  "
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out. |
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out."
You are a nightmare woman!!!  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out."
Ok....bit different.
I'm not surprised he blocked you. I think you must of scared him!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out.
You are a nightmare woman!!! "
You know after the time I kicked off I said some horrific offensive shit I thought I'll never claw this back. Apologised and said we should meet again and he was like yeah ok but then I was messaging, when, when, when are you coming, when he didn't answer I was ringing and he was having to cancel my calls. Oh Jesus I laugh now but honestly it's like something takes over me when it's happening. I know now that when situations like that arise that's the time when you go in a bubble bath and listen to Stevie Nicks, this was before Xmas though and I hadnt had my portable BOSE Bluetooth speakers. But even after that he would come, think he liked the way I made his coffee |
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If you contact him he might come and fuck you.
I think you want a bit more than that though. I don’t think this guys good for you or you for him. Probably end in disaster. Will fuck your head and heart and not in a good way.
Sometimes you have to realise there’s more to life than just a shag. Let him go and focus on sorting your own shit out you crazy lovely human you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out.
You are a nightmare woman!!!
You know after the time I kicked off I said some horrific offensive shit I thought I'll never claw this back. Apologised and said we should meet again and he was like yeah ok but then I was messaging, when, when, when are you coming, when he didn't answer I was ringing and he was having to cancel my calls. Oh Jesus I laugh now but honestly it's like something takes over me when it's happening. I know now that when situations like that arise that's the time when you go in a bubble bath and listen to Stevie Nicks, this was before Xmas though and I hadnt had my portable BOSE Bluetooth speakers. But even after that he would come, think he liked the way I made his coffee "
I actually feel sorry for you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you contact him he might come and fuck you.
I think you want a bit more than that though. I don’t think this guys good for you or you for him. Probably end in disaster. Will fuck your head and heart and not in a good way.
Sometimes you have to realise there’s more to life than just a shag. Let him go and focus on sorting your own shit out you crazy lovely human you. "
Why would I not be good for someone? I'd adore them and be loyal and could be trusted with their heart!
Anyway thought you were gonna fix me up with Ross Barton off emmerdale.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always, called a woman last week id had a few meets with about 2 years ago lol at first told me she told me she was busy then called me back next day saying she was in a relationship but woukd still definitely love to see me so we met up that weekend,,,great day/night lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Always, called a woman last week id had a few meets with about 2 years ago lol at first told me she told me she was busy then called me back next day saying she was in a relationship but woukd still definitely love to see me so we met up that weekend,,,great day/night lol"
But what made you want to make that intital contact after so long? |
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out.
You are a nightmare woman!!!
You know after the time I kicked off I said some horrific offensive shit I thought I'll never claw this back. Apologised and said we should meet again and he was like yeah ok but then I was messaging, when, when, when are you coming, when he didn't answer I was ringing and he was having to cancel my calls. Oh Jesus I laugh now but honestly it's like something takes over me when it's happening. I know now that when situations like that arise that's the time when you go in a bubble bath and listen to Stevie Nicks, this was before Xmas though and I hadnt had my portable BOSE Bluetooth speakers. But even after that he would come, think he liked the way I made his coffee "
Or to double check whether you are really as mad as a box of frogs lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this specific to guys only?
Personally if I had some good sex with someone and there was no animosity between us I’d drop them a message. "
Same here |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out.
You are a nightmare woman!!!
You know after the time I kicked off I said some horrific offensive shit I thought I'll never claw this back. Apologised and said we should meet again and he was like yeah ok but then I was messaging, when, when, when are you coming, when he didn't answer I was ringing and he was having to cancel my calls. Oh Jesus I laugh now but honestly it's like something takes over me when it's happening. I know now that when situations like that arise that's the time when you go in a bubble bath and listen to Stevie Nicks, this was before Xmas though and I hadnt had my portable BOSE Bluetooth speakers. But even after that he would come, think he liked the way I made his coffee "
 Either that or the poor bloke was terrified what length you would go to next if he didnt meet you again! Jesus woman, grow some self respect... Needy bunny boiler is not a good look!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out.
You are a nightmare woman!!!
You know after the time I kicked off I said some horrific offensive shit I thought I'll never claw this back. Apologised and said we should meet again and he was like yeah ok but then I was messaging, when, when, when are you coming, when he didn't answer I was ringing and he was having to cancel my calls. Oh Jesus I laugh now but honestly it's like something takes over me when it's happening. I know now that when situations like that arise that's the time when you go in a bubble bath and listen to Stevie Nicks, this was before Xmas though and I hadnt had my portable BOSE Bluetooth speakers. But even after that he would come, think he liked the way I made his coffee
Either that or the poor bloke was terrified what length you would go to next if he didnt meet you again! Jesus woman, grow some self respect... Needy bunny boiler is not a good look! "
Well he's not met me again and I haven't done anything to him so he couldn't have been that scared. I wouldn't hurt a hair on his perfect little head.
I know it's not good is it being like this. Wish I could transfer the hundreds of guys that want to fuck me into him! I compare every guy I speak to to this dude, the bar is set so high, would take some extreme facial attractiveness combined with arrogance and being a bit of a mad cunt to replace him.
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"Is this specific to guys only?
Personally if I had some good sex with someone and there was no animosity between us I’d drop them a message.
Same here "
And here!
I know a few guys I get together with every few months and chat little to in between! To me that’s a large part of what the site is about - not having to have the ‘all or nothing ‘ that exists in the real world - but being able to have a casual, irregular friendship that works well! |
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In my experience, yes they do, not always the case but I find it's when they are not getting any elsewhere or they think of you when they're d*unk. But I've never had a sexual encounter end the way you go on describe.
Would you be happy for him to come back for sex when he fancies it and all on his terms when you clearly want more? I obviously don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better than that.
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"In my experience, yes they do, not always the case but I find it's when they are not getting any elsewhere or they think of you when they're d*unk. But I've never had a sexual encounter end the way you go on describe.
Would you be happy for him to come back for sex when he fancies it and all on his terms when you clearly want more? I obviously don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better than that.
Ginger "
I'd be happy with a Chinese and a film and some sex, just a nice night. If I'd known that the last time we met would be the last time we ever met I would be able to put this to bed a bit easier. Feel like he was ripped away. |
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"In my experience, yes they do, not always the case but I find it's when they are not getting any elsewhere or they think of you when they're d*unk. But I've never had a sexual encounter end the way you go on describe.
Would you be happy for him to come back for sex when he fancies it and all on his terms when you clearly want more? I obviously don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better than that.
Ginger
I'd be happy with a Chinese and a film and some sex, just a nice night. If I'd known that the last time we met would be the last time we ever met I would be able to put this to bed a bit easier. Feel like he was ripped away. "
It would be much harder if he was still your friend but didn't want to fuck you anymore. At least with no contact you will feel better in time.
Ask the universe to bring you a new fella and to give you peace so that you can let this guy go.
Even if he did come back for one last fuck it would mess you up even more and make you more unhappy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In my experience, yes they do, not always the case but I find it's when they are not getting any elsewhere or they think of you when they're d*unk. But I've never had a sexual encounter end the way you go on describe.
Would you be happy for him to come back for sex when he fancies it and all on his terms when you clearly want more? I obviously don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better than that.
Ginger
I'd be happy with a Chinese and a film and some sex, just a nice night. If I'd known that the last time we met would be the last time we ever met I would be able to put this to bed a bit easier. Feel like he was ripped away.
It would be much harder if he was still your friend but didn't want to fuck you anymore. At least with no contact you will feel better in time.
Ask the universe to bring you a new fella and to give you peace so that you can let this guy go.
Even if he did come back for one last fuck it would mess you up even more and make you more unhappy."
Ahhh just having a quick search and I've seen a guy that is beautiful, I've just messaged him my pics! |
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"In my experience, yes they do, not always the case but I find it's when they are not getting any elsewhere or they think of you when they're d*unk. But I've never had a sexual encounter end the way you go on describe.
Would you be happy for him to come back for sex when he fancies it and all on his terms when you clearly want more? I obviously don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better than that.
Ginger
I'd be happy with a Chinese and a film and some sex, just a nice night. If I'd known that the last time we met would be the last time we ever met I would be able to put this to bed a bit easier. Feel like he was ripped away.
It would be much harder if he was still your friend but didn't want to fuck you anymore. At least with no contact you will feel better in time.
Ask the universe to bring you a new fella and to give you peace so that you can let this guy go.
Even if he did come back for one last fuck it would mess you up even more and make you more unhappy.
Ahhh just having a quick search and I've seen a guy that is beautiful, I've just messaged him my pics!"
Fuck him senseless!!! 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In my experience, yes they do, not always the case but I find it's when they are not getting any elsewhere or they think of you when they're d*unk. But I've never had a sexual encounter end the way you go on describe.
Would you be happy for him to come back for sex when he fancies it and all on his terms when you clearly want more? I obviously don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better than that.
Ginger
I'd be happy with a Chinese and a film and some sex, just a nice night. If I'd known that the last time we met would be the last time we ever met I would be able to put this to bed a bit easier. Feel like he was ripped away.
It would be much harder if he was still your friend but didn't want to fuck you anymore. At least with no contact you will feel better in time.
Ask the universe to bring you a new fella and to give you peace so that you can let this guy go.
Even if he did come back for one last fuck it would mess you up even more and make you more unhappy.
Ahhh just having a quick search and I've seen a guy that is beautiful, I've just messaged him my pics!
Fuck him senseless!!!
The non contact thing only works if they want to contact you. "
He's messaged back. I'd say this guy is more handsome than the first guy! I'm gonna pm you to have a peep! |
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"Isn't that what people refer to 'ghosting'?
Having said that I became reacquainted with someone I'd not seen for months....and it was great
Ghosting is when they blank you and disappear without any explanation at all, you never know what you did or why they cut contact they just disappear like a fart in the wind.
This guy I met 7 times over the space of 3 months, had a slight kick off after the second meeting, I kicked off and gave him loads of abuse via text which earned my block! Anyway got over that with an apology from myself and met him again but then I took it from breezy casual to demanding and nagging to know when he was coming again. If I was to write a how to guide of things not to do then I did all the things you shouldn't do, nag, was dramatic, poor fucker still met me another 5 times before I drained any tolerance out of him where he eventually said think it's best we don't meet again.
I don't blame him at all and if a guy acted like I did then I'd cut them out.
You are a nightmare woman!!!
You know after the time I kicked off I said some horrific offensive shit I thought I'll never claw this back. Apologised and said we should meet again and he was like yeah ok but then I was messaging, when, when, when are you coming, when he didn't answer I was ringing and he was having to cancel my calls. Oh Jesus I laugh now but honestly it's like something takes over me when it's happening. I know now that when situations like that arise that's the time when you go in a bubble bath and listen to Stevie Nicks, this was before Xmas though and I hadnt had my portable BOSE Bluetooth speakers. But even after that he would come, think he liked the way I made his coffee "
Lady, for your own self worth please get some therapy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get this all the time.....most recent from a guy I meet 3 years ago! "
Me too and it kind of pisses me off to be put down and picked up like a doll whenever it suits them. I always refuse if they don't keep in touch as friends |
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"In my experience, yes they do, not always the case but I find it's when they are not getting any elsewhere or they think of you when they're d*unk. But I've never had a sexual encounter end the way you go on describe.
Would you be happy for him to come back for sex when he fancies it and all on his terms when you clearly want more? I obviously don't know you, but I'd say you deserve better than that.
Ginger
I'd be happy with a Chinese and a film and some sex, just a nice night. If I'd known that the last time we met would be the last time we ever met I would be able to put this to bed a bit easier. Feel like he was ripped away.
It would be much harder if he was still your friend but didn't want to fuck you anymore. At least with no contact you will feel better in time.
Ask the universe to bring you a new fella and to give you peace so that you can let this guy go.
Even if he did come back for one last fuck it would mess you up even more and make you more unhappy.
Ahhh just having a quick search and I've seen a guy that is beautiful, I've just messaged him my pics!"
Funny, I can’t see them ...  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I get this all the time.....most recent from a guy I meet 3 years ago!
Me too and it kind of pisses me off to be put down and picked up like a doll whenever it suits them. I always refuse if they don't keep in touch as friends"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always, called a woman last week id had a few meets with about 2 years ago lol at first told me she told me she was busy then called me back next day saying she was in a relationship but woukd still definitely love to see me so we met up that weekend,,,great day/night lol
But what made you want to make that intital contact after so long?"
Because she is a fantastic woman very funny very sexual we always have a good time but nothing serious |
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why shouldn't you if things didn't work out why would we cross the road if we meet etc 