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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm probably talking to the wrong crowd, but do you think it's okay for a partner to flirt with someone else if you're in a relationship (monogamous or not)?
Is it just a bit of harmless fun, or is there more to it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d usually reverse the question on myself and see if it would make me comfortable. If it was done in front of me it probably wouldn’t bother me, if behind my back I’d be worried. Just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the circumstances.
I'm naturally flirty, it's often not intentional. I enjoy being around flirty people so a partner of mine might be that way too.
I'd be concerned if it wasn't a normal way for them to behave and they suddenly started. Especially if it's just with one person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't flirt with someone else if I was in a monogamous relationship. So I definitely would not expect my partner to do it either. Friendly is fine, but once it turned to flirting, I would definitely have issues. If it was non monogamous, then I would be fine with them flirting.... They would be having sex with others after all  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’d usually reverse the question on myself and see if it would make me comfortable. If it was done in front of me it probably wouldn’t bother me, if behind my back I’d be worried. Just my opinion "
Would you be able to tell the difference if it was just harmless or if there was something going on? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It depends on the circumstances.
I'm naturally flirty, it's often not intentional. I enjoy being around flirty people so a partner of mine might be that way too.
I'd be concerned if it wasn't a normal way for them to behave and they suddenly started. Especially if it's just with one person. "
If you did see them be flirty, would you see it as a blatant act of mistrust or nothing at all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends on the circumstances.
I'm naturally flirty, it's often not intentional. I enjoy being around flirty people so a partner of mine might be that way too.
I'd be concerned if it wasn't a normal way for them to behave and they suddenly started. Especially if it's just with one person. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldn't flirt with someone else if I was in a monogamous relationship. So I definitely would not expect my partner to do it either. Friendly is fine, but once it turned to flirting, I would definitely have issues. If it was non monogamous, then I would be fine with them flirting.... They would be having sex with others after all "
Probably a no-brainer, but would you openly flirt with someone if your non-monogamous partner were also around |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't flirt with someone else if I was in a monogamous relationship. So I definitely would not expect my partner to do it either. Friendly is fine, but once it turned to flirting, I would definitely have issues. If it was non monogamous, then I would be fine with them flirting.... They would be having sex with others after all
Probably a no-brainer, but would you openly flirt with someone if your non-monogamous partner were also around"
Only if we were meeting someone together. If we were out together without that intention? No, I wouldnt. I would personally find it very disrespectful to them. They'd be the one getting my attention  |
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"I'm probably talking to the wrong crowd, but do you think it's okay for a partner to flirt with someone else if you're in a relationship (monogamous or not)?
Is it just a bit of harmless fun, or is there more to it..."
In my view it would be disrespectful and grossly disloyal, so I would never do it.  |
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By *eejay2015Woman
over a year ago
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My ex regularly had cheeky flirty banter with others in front of me, it pissed me off greatly despite his plea that it was only ever innocent.
Bastard turned out to be a lying cheating narcissistic sociopath.  |
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Gomez & I love hearing about each other’s play meets - and the messages are always via Fab so we can both be a part of the initial build up & flirting that goes on!
It depends on the dynamic of the relationship, but certainly for us it adds to it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’d usually reverse the question on myself and see if it would make me comfortable. If it was done in front of me it probably wouldn’t bother me, if behind my back I’d be worried. Just my opinion
Would you be able to tell the difference if it was just harmless or if there was something going on?"
I’ve a good gut and it’s usually pretty spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So the general consensus is:
1) Definitely not if you're monogamous
2) If you're both open, preferably not in front of each other
3) A-OK if you're both going to blink the person you're flirting with |
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