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over a year ago
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I have.
Meeting and falling in love with someone who truly loves me back for exactly who I am has been life changing.
Just accepts me as I am, and supports me in all I do, my confidence has grown massively because of that! He has shown me happiness I never thought I'd feel, not everyday but for the most part. I'm a lucky girl  |
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Made me realise that just because you may love someone they can be bad for you.
Made me open to loving again but weary and my walls are high as far as giving second chances. I ain't got the time or strength to go through bullshit. I'd rather not bother.
I love seeing others in love. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have.
Meeting and falling in love with someone who truly loves me back for exactly who I am has been life changing.
Just accepts me as I am, and supports me in all I do, my confidence has grown massively because of that! He has shown me happiness I never thought I'd feel, not everyday but for the most part. I'm a lucky girl "
Fabulous! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It broke me and made me scared of relationships. "
This would've been my answer a few years back...it may change
Also....unrelated but I love your new hat!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It broke me and made me scared of relationships.
This would've been my answer a few years back...it may change
Also....unrelated but I love your new hat! "
Aww thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love currently is making me feel safe.
Safe from what do you think?"
My own feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. It’s not just the receiving of love, being able to give love is making me feel safe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The reason why I said love blinded me is because a couple of years ago, I was in a relationship with my former best friend who lived in Blackpool.
It looked like a perfectly normal relationship but during that time, she had me brainwashed into thinking that my family (mum, dad and brother) had me trapped and wanted me to leave home, quit my job and move to Blackpool to live with her and her mum and start a family. I was afraid that if I had said no, she would have dumped me there and then.
It nearly tore my family apart at Christmas as it led to an argument. After a chat with her on the phone about it, she sent me a text saying it was over and didn't want to go back to being friends. It broke my heart very badly that Christmas.
Since then, I had focused on myself by making new friends who have helped me regain my confidence and I am so grateful of them as if it weren't for them, I wouldn't be here. |
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I fell in love once, it nearly destroyed me.
I'm grateful for the lesson though.
I'm the person I am today because if it.
I survived, I rebuilt my life.
I'm a better stronger person for it, and I know nothing will ever break me again.
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Love currently is making me feel safe.
Safe from what do you think?
My own feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. It’s not just the receiving of love, being able to give love is making me feel safe. "
Yes, that is massively important I agree! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So who has been changed by love, and how did it change you??  "
Love makes you vulnerable. You open up a part of you that you wouldn't to other people. That means when things are good is fantastic and when it's bad it feels like shit because it's a rejection of who you are. I love being in love. Hate when the person I love hurts me. Your have to risk the lows to get the awesome highs though.
The one that got me the worst though was becoming a parent. All of a sudden I had someone in my life who if they were hurt or worse would cause me as much pain or more psychologically than if it happened to me. That was a mind fuck for me.
Worth it though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I fell in love once, it nearly destroyed me.
I'm grateful for the lesson though.
I'm the person I am today because if it.
I survived, I rebuilt my life.
I'm a better stronger person for it, and I know nothing will ever break me again.
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That is the same for me except it nearly destroyed my family |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you love me or love the idea of me?
I think love doesn't really exist per se.
As most descriptions above shown that it is more abt how the other person makes them feel.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you love me or love the idea of me?
I think love doesn't really exist per se.
As most descriptions above shown that it is more abt how the other person makes them feel.
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I love you x |
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Dunno. We've been rubbing along together for 37 odd years, both of us have changed in certain respects how much of that it down to love is debatable. I think if love changes your basic personality theres something not quite wholesome about that love. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Dunno. We've been rubbing along together for 37 odd years, both of us have changed in certain respects how much of that it down to love is debatable. I think if love changes your basic personality theres something not quite wholesome about that love."
Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s scary, with the wrong person it can be manipulated and used against you. It can break you and leave you doubting it’s worth. But with the right person it’s the best thing ever, suddenly the world seems brighter and life much happier. Still a scary thing but slowly being shown that not everyone is out to hurt me x |
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"Dunno. We've been rubbing along together for 37 odd years, both of us have changed in certain respects how much of that it down to love is debatable. I think if love changes your basic personality theres something not quite wholesome about that love.
Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love. "
Can love put personality traits into a person that weren't there before or bring out latent ones? |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
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"Dunno. We've been rubbing along together for 37 odd years, both of us have changed in certain respects how much of that it down to love is debatable. I think if love changes your basic personality theres something not quite wholesome about that love.
Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love.
Can love put personality traits into a person that weren't there before or bring out latent ones?"
Yes, I agree suppressed traits are latent, which nonetheless maybe have never been seen or known of, so there is a transformation - you just become more you! |
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"Dunno. We've been rubbing along together for 37 odd years, both of us have changed in certain respects how much of that it down to love is debatable. I think if love changes your basic personality theres something not quite wholesome about that love.
Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love.
Can love put personality traits into a person that weren't there before or bring out latent ones?
Yes, I agree suppressed traits are latent, which nonetheless maybe have never been seen or known of, so there is a transformation - you just become more you! "
Ah, got you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s scary, with the wrong person it can be manipulated and used against you. It can break you and leave you doubting it’s worth. But with the right person it’s the best thing ever, suddenly the world seems brighter and life much happier. Still a scary thing but slowly being shown that not everyone is out to hurt me x "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about the love of friends or peers??? "
Now that boosts my confidence! I can be very insecure about my worth as a friend or colleague/Voss. But I have amazing friends and a fantastic team working for me as well as a wonderful manager who has actually told me she loves me, so I figure I’m a very lucky lady! |
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Changed my life completly. I was a complete loose cannon when i met him. His kindness, love and patience inspired me to make all the changes. Not once has he asked me not to do something or do something but has nurtered me through all my changes. He loves me inconditionly. Has been beside me through out my illness
He would never turn his back or leave me. In return i cherish and love him unconditionly and could never hurt him. Hes taught me its ok to be me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Loving a toxic man destroyed me. I lost myself. For two years I became unrecognisable and fought so hard just to survive.
But love wasn't responsible for that. He was!
If I could find such comfort in loving the wrong man... I look forward to the day I find the right one who takes that love, treasures it, and returns it. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What about the love of friends or peers???
Now that boosts my confidence! I can be very insecure about my worth as a friend or colleague/Voss. But I have amazing friends and a fantastic team working for me as well as a wonderful manager who has actually told me she loves me, so I figure I’m a very lucky lady!"
Yes, love from unexpected quarters can be deeply touching. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good question. It initially blinded me, having lived through a relationship where adolescent love dictated my actions. I now understand and appreciate it so much more. It’s about being, believing and becoming. It gives you strength, focus and belief that anything is possible. We’re not together today but that gift remains and I’m thankful for receiving and giving it!
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
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"Good question. It initially blinded me, having lived through a relationship where adolescent love dictated my actions. I now understand and appreciate it so much more. It’s about being, believing and becoming. It gives you strength, focus and belief that anything is possible. We’re not together today but that gift remains and I’m thankful for receiving and giving it!
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Good stuff - a gift that keeps on giving! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Even though love in a relationship blinded me, the love from all the friends I've made here on fab has made me a better, happier and more confident person that I am today. It has made me explore and gain new experiences which I am glad to have experienced.
I once again am grateful for everything they have done to help me get back on my feet and get out of a very dark place which probably would have taken my life. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
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"Even though love in a relationship blinded me, the love from all the friends I've made here on fab has made me a better, happier and more confident person that I am today. It has made me explore and gain new experiences which I am glad to have experienced.
I once again am grateful for everything they have done to help me get back on my feet and get out of a very dark place which probably would have taken my life."
Aww bless you, can't argue with that!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It has allowed (and encouraged) me to be me. To express my feelings and to give myself completely. Open all the boxes and let things out
Oh Swing! That's adorable. "
She isn’t my angel for no reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Loving a toxic man destroyed me. I lost myself. For two years I became unrecognisable and fought so hard just to survive.
But love wasn't responsible for that. He was!
If I could find such comfort in loving the wrong man... I look forward to the day I find the right one who takes that love, treasures it, and returns it. "
Love that. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
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"Loving a toxic man destroyed me. I lost myself. For two years I became unrecognisable and fought so hard just to survive.
But love wasn't responsible for that. He was!
If I could find such comfort in loving the wrong man... I look forward to the day I find the right one who takes that love, treasures it, and returns it. "
I missed replying to this - so happy that could see the truth, separate the man from the emotion, and retain your hope instead of entrenching!!
Hope springs eternal!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Even though love in a relationship blinded me, the love from all the friends I've made here on fab has made me a better, happier and more confident person that I am today. It has made me explore and gain new experiences which I am glad to have experienced.
I once again am grateful for everything they have done to help me get back on my feet and get out of a very dark place which probably would have taken my life.
Aww bless you, can't argue with that! "
Yeah. The friends I've made are definitely a blessing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about the love of friends or peers??? "
That can be powerful too. I had two close friends in my youth. I lost them both to violent deaths.I stopped making friends after that. |
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