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What is a wink to you?
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"To me its for someone too lazy to type a message. And too lazy to make the effort to get my attention and sell themselves , to me, means they're probably lazy in bed. " That is one tremendous leap of logic (or more likely, imagination) to suggest that someone who sends a wink is lazy in bed. Winks are a nice ice-breaker, and also save on the frustration of having a carefully worded message deleted on arrival. | |||
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"Winks are a nice ice-breaker, and also save on the frustration of having a carefully worded message deleted on arrival." Also saves on the thanks but no thanks response if you're not interested in them | |||
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"i never send and i delete all i receive without even looking whats the point? if you like the look of someone take the time to introduce yourself "Same here. | |||
"I guess if you are getting 10 or more winks a day then it does become a chore having to click and look, when actually what you want is someone to send you a message that you can delete instantly, instead.... I think winks are a great way of finding out whether someone is interested.....What other purpose could they be for??? What is the point of trying to send something personal and original in a message if you don't know whether the recipient would plump for John McCririck, over you, if you were the last 3 people on earth..... unless that other person is 'the booby'..... I'll be having nightmares for a week...... " Hmm, hadnt considered it like that, another site im no you can wink everyone in your choosen area that meets your search choice.... so, the site does it for you, guess here its different as they actually have to be on your profile page to wink you, i will look at them from now on, i could be missing out! | |||
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"A wink is a form of communication on here to let you know someone liked the look of you. It's no insult. If you like the look of them you can wink back. " +1 | |||
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"To me its for someone too lazy to type a message. And too lazy to make the effort to get my attention and sell themselves , to me, means they're probably lazy in bed. That is one tremendous leap of logic (or more likely, imagination) to suggest that someone who sends a wink is lazy in bed. + 2 Winks are a nice ice-breaker, and also save on the frustration of having a carefully worded message deleted on arrival."  | |||
"Winks are something i very very rarely look at. Once a week or even less often if i am honest so if someone is winking they are frankly wasting their time." sorry i winked at u a wee while ago..it int cos im lazy, i was on a top secret government mission searching for ruthless dictators in foreign lands...now my jobs done I have more time to send a msg | |||
"A wink is a form of communication on here to let you know someone liked the look of you. It's no insult. If you like the look of them you can wink back. +1" +2 | |||
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"I don't mind them, easy to delete if you don't want to respond! We sometimes wink but prefer to send a message. What makes me laugh is those that wink then don't send a message when you wink back! Z" Thats true! I sometimes send a message back starting with 'Thanks for the wink.........', but other times just wink back, yet most don't respond. Thats why I now feel it is a lazier version of a 'cut & paste', and they have 'winked' a host of people | |||
"A thing i never check...if they are really interested they will mail me "True, but if they really interested you, wouldn't you find it hard not to respond? | |||
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"i never send and i delete all i receive without even looking whats the point? if you like the look of someone take the time to introduce yourself
Same here."Me too | |||
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"You cant beat a good wink every now and then ,really dont see the harm in them "Ive heard it can make ya go blind xx  | |||
"You cant beat a good wink every now and then ,really dont see the harm in them
Ive heard it can make ya go blind xx "lol - and it stunts your growth! Z | |||
"You cant beat a good wink every now and then ,really dont see the harm in them
Ive heard it can make ya go blind xx
lol - and it stunts your growth! Z" xx | |||
"i bulk delete each week..... personally think its lazy to wink when you could write a message at 1st contact... they usually come hand in hand with a random friends request, grrrrr dont mind winks from friends x" +1 I feel exactly the same about winks | |||
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"Its a friendly hello "Hello xx | |||
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"A thing i never check...if they are really interested they will mail me
True, but if they really interested you, wouldn't you find it hard not to respond?"As i never check them,i dont know if i would or not...i just bulk delete every few weeks | |||
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"You cant beat a good wink every now and then ,really dont see the harm in them
Ive heard it can make ya go blind xx "Who said that | |||
"If we wink at someone we do not expect to get a message back, but it is nice if we do. Usually, we would expect a wink back if they are interested in us and then we can message them. If we don't get one back, no harm done and we move on. Yes we send out perhaps 3 or 4 at a time, but it is to say. "We like your profile, if you like ours wink back". Trying to find out if they like you without going to all the trouble to write a personal message. Certainly doesn't make us lazy in bed!! "Yup! Couldn't agree more with that. This whole notion that winking is "lazy" is pretensious nonsense in my view. There is no logical connect. It's simply another way of communicating, and if you choose to ignore it thanks fine. Afterall you're entitled to do so, but to assume the sender is one thing or another makes no sense. I'm also puzzled by the people who constantly repeat the "if you're truly interested then you should send a message" mantra, who mostly do not reply when one is sent. Or equally believe they have more time to scythe though the vast amounts of messages, but are unable to cope with winks. Perhaps it's a terminology thing? What if they weren't called a "wink", but something less sleazy like a "hello"? Or a "hi"? Or a "hi there"? | |||
"If we wink at someone we do not expect to get a message back, but it is nice if we do. Usually, we would expect a wink back if they are interested in us and then we can message them. If we don't get one back, no harm done and we move on. Yes we send out perhaps 3 or 4 at a time, but it is to say. "We like your profile, if you like ours wink back". Trying to find out if they like you without going to all the trouble to write a personal message. Certainly doesn't make us lazy in bed!!
Yup! Couldn't agree more with that.
This whole notion that winking is "lazy" is pretensious nonsense in my view. There is no logical connect. It's simply another way of communicating, and if you choose to ignore it thanks fine. Afterall you're entitled to do so, but to assume the sender is one thing or another makes no sense.
I'm also puzzled by the people who constantly repeat the "if you're truly interested then you should send a message" mantra, who mostly do not reply when one is sent. Or equally believe they have more time to scythe though the vast amounts of messages, but are unable to cope with winks.
Perhaps it's a terminology thing? What if they weren't called a "wink", but something less sleazy like a "hello"? Or a "hi"? Or a "hi there"?"I totally agree its hard to please people . The ones who complain about winks I dont wink them ,I just leave them to go through their multitude of messages which most admit they delete anyways . Some people  | |||
"i never send and i delete all i receive without even looking whats the point? if you like the look of someone take the time to introduce yourself "Busy lives, 5 mins in the morning before you must set off for work, no time to type but you have found a profile you like, so do you click a wink or be late for work sending a message? I've taken the time out to introduce myself, gained the healthy interest then messaged the person on obviously a "wrong time" for them and had the whole nine yards, guessing as to why i have'nt re-messaged sooner, blocked and ignored because? Well because i chat to other swingers and dont do the pushy persistant messaging. Winks, messages, they are all the same lottery on here, nowt to do with when you wink, or how you word a message, if you are unlucky enough to contact someone who cant get over themselves then your f***ed from the word go. | |||
"To me its for someone too lazy to type a message. And too lazy to make the effort to get my attention and sell themselves , to me, means they're probably lazy in bed. I sometimes check out the profile of people who wink me but I very rarely reply because it means they haven't read my profile. Having said that I get winks from people on my friends list as a sort of "hello I was perving you're profile sort of thing" and I don't mind that at all "Is that not the same thing(being lazy?) | |||
"To me its for someone too lazy to type a message. And too lazy to make the effort to get my attention and sell themselves , to me, means they're probably lazy in bed. That is one tremendous leap of logic (or more likely, imagination) to suggest that someone who sends a wink is lazy in bed. Winks are a nice ice-breaker, and also save on the frustration of having a carefully worded message deleted on arrival." Totally agree mate,you spend ages typing out a message and you get your message deleted with no reply(very frustrating and very ignorant)! | |||
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My reasoning is that if you're part of the "in-demand" group at the time, you're less likely to explore the use of winks as a form of communication with someone you'd like to meet whereas someone on the other end of the spectrum will use it to increase their chances of getting attention.
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"They're just a cheeky hello to me Id rather have a wink than a message sometimes,easier to deal with,respond if you want without all the agro of someone thinking they're being ignored Its only a little compliment that you don't have to take any notice of if you don't like them "take my wank honeypot... this fucking keyboard..I do apologise!!! | |||
"They're just a cheeky hello to me Id rather have a wink than a message sometimes,easier to deal with,respond if you want without all the agro of someone thinking they're being ignored Its only a little compliment that you don't have to take any notice of if you don't like them
take my wank honeypot... this fucking keyboard..I do apologise!!!"Just keep banging away at it,it does'nt hurt after a while | |||
"They're just a cheeky hello to me Id rather have a wink than a message sometimes,easier to deal with,respond if you want without all the agro of someone thinking they're being ignored Its only a little compliment that you don't have to take any notice of if you don't like them
take my wank honeypot... this fucking keyboard..I do apologise!!!
Just keep banging away at it,it does'nt hurt after a while "thats why they call me the ultimate keyboard warrior... I beat up defenceless keyboards.. | |||
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"A wink - if I'm out and about in town, then a wink is an appreciative indication. - on here, well I'm up to 143, and I just ignore them!!! " Think ya will find thats 144 xx | |||
"A wink - if I'm out and about in town, then a wink is an appreciative indication. - on here, well I'm up to 143, and I just ignore them!!! Think ya will find thats 144 xx "You made me go look, and now it says none!!!!! I was holding out for a record!!!! | |||
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"A wink - if I'm out and about in town, then a wink is an appreciative indication. - on here, well I'm up to 143, and I just ignore them!!! Think ya will find thats 144 xx
You made me go look, and now it says none!!!!!
I was holding out for a record!!!! "Well im holding out fa a hero xx Know any???? xx | |||
"A wink - if I'm out and about in town, then a wink is an appreciative indication. - on here, well I'm up to 143, and I just ignore them!!! Think ya will find thats 144 xx "Gross!!!! | |||
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