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"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? " my child was being bullied in and out of school... school said they were dealing with it but outside of school that was my jurisdiction…. so I went to the police and they sorted it...  | |||
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"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? " I'm hoping they're better at sorting it than they were when I were a lad | |||
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"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? my child was being bullied in and out of school... school said they were dealing with it but outside of school that was my jurisdiction…. so I went to the police and they sorted it... "That's what we did. The police liaison officer paid the boy's family a visit. They then came and spoke to us and asked us how we wanted to take it forward. We chose to go with an off the record caution on the understanding that if it happened again we wouldn't be as understanding. It didn't completely solve the problem but it helped a great deal. In our experience schools are entirely hopeless at dealing with bullying in most cases. | |||
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"Councils have bullying policies and they should follow their procedures. If the school hasn’t done anything then it should be escalated. " They do no more than pay lip service to the situation. | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire " What does that teach the children? | |||
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"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? " That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again!" Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. | |||
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"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. " Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.." I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces. | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces. "Good for you... again my point is every kid does not have the physicalities to protect them selves.. not in their character to fight.. mentally and physically tortured.. | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces.
Good for you... again my point is every kid does not have the physicalities to protect them selves.. not in their character to fight.. mentally and physically tortured..
"My brother hates hurting people. Will avoid it at all cost. Its actually pretty cute. He had to put a kid down because he wouldn't leave him alone. Bust his mouth and eye. Took him to the nurse after as he felt bad for him. | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces. "Those 'lasses' are scarred physically and will probably remember it as them being bullied by your sister. | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces.
Those 'lasses' are scarred physically and will probably remember it as them being bullied by your sister.
"Their fault for jumping her. That will show as a physical reminder that they shouldn't be bitches every time they look in the mirror. Decent scar too. 2 or 3 stitches I think. | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces.
Good for you... again my point is every kid does not have the physicalities to protect them selves.. not in their character to fight.. mentally and physically tortured..
My brother hates hurting people. Will avoid it at all cost. Its actually pretty cute. He had to put a kid down because he wouldn't leave him alone. Bust his mouth and eye. Took him to the nurse after as he felt bad for him. "I thought martial arts taught that kind of self control anyway. | |||
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"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces.
Good for you... again my point is every kid does not have the physicalities to protect them selves.. not in their character to fight.. mentally and physically tortured..
My brother hates hurting people. Will avoid it at all cost. Its actually pretty cute. He had to put a kid down because he wouldn't leave him alone. Bust his mouth and eye. Took him to the nurse after as he felt bad for him.
I thought martial arts taught that kind of self control anyway."I taught him the technique, not the restraint and discipline. | |||
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"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart." Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. | |||
"I was bullied at school my mum refused me to go after that " Thats the completely wrong way of doing it. My aunt did it with my cousin. She resents her. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. " They really are! | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! " They're fucking worse. | |||
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"I was bullied at school my mum refused me to go after that Thats the completely wrong way of doing it. My aunt did it with my cousin. She resents her. " I don't resent my mum for nothing I had a good education and I adore my mum...she choose to do things differently and I certainly haven't turnt out wrong | |||
"I was bullied at school my mum refused me to go after that Thats the completely wrong way of doing it. My aunt did it with my cousin. She resents her. I don't resent my mum for nothing I had a good education and I adore my mum...she choose to do things differently and I certainly haven't turnt out wrong " Chose not choose | |||
"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? my child was being bullied in and out of school... school said they were dealing with it but outside of school that was my jurisdiction…. so I went to the police and they sorted it...
That's what we did. The police liaison officer paid the boy's family a visit. They then came and spoke to us and asked us how we wanted to take it forward. We chose to go with an off the record caution on the understanding that if it happened again we wouldn't be as understanding.
It didn't completely solve the problem but it helped a great deal.
In our experience schools are entirely hopeless at dealing with bullying in most cases."In my childs case the police went to the bullies houses and spoke to the parents, then issued their kids with a yellow card which is similar to an ASBO but for under 16s and that also goes on their record at school... and that seems to be a deterrant for other kids too | |||
"My child is being bullied in school. She's 5. I have, at various times, notified each of her teachers and teaching assistants. One morning I saw one of the child's mothers and had a quiet polite word (My little one was still with me and was already upset enough at the notion of sharing air with the little cow). Said mother reacted with "I'll go and tell the little fucker now". I followed her into the classroom with my child to see her tearing into the teacher. Later that day I was called into the heads office (never when I was at school though. I was SUCH a good girl. She tried telling me they had not been informed of this previously (utter bollocks) but would now keep an extra close eye on it. To which I told her she was talking horsefeathers and if she were unable to sort it then I would. Fast forward to the following Tuesday, I saw said child giving mine grief at the window when she was waiting to wave to me, as I had left via the entrance near to that window I heard mine ask to be left alone. No teachers were monitoring the situation then. Both mothers have been attending school together, and bringing others up as reinforcements should I kick off. I rang school last Tuesday and spoke to the head. I simply said it was still happening and they were on their last warning. Anymore and id sort it. My ex told me on Sunday that our child had reported recent happenings to him. So, even though it's not my place - yes really, it's not my place to sort out something happening to MY child - on a regular basis - then, come a week on Monday there will be hell on. School have had since September and they ain't getting anymore. Little bastard needs boundaries - and to leave my kid the fuck alone. Incidentally, said kid has been in trouble for the same thing already. " Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. | |||
"My child is being bullied in school. She's 5. I have, at various times, notified each of her teachers and teaching assistants. One morning I saw one of the child's mothers and had a quiet polite word (My little one was still with me and was already upset enough at the notion of sharing air with the little cow). Said mother reacted with "I'll go and tell the little fucker now". I followed her into the classroom with my child to see her tearing into the teacher. Later that day I was called into the heads office (never when I was at school though. I was SUCH a good girl. She tried telling me they had not been informed of this previously (utter bollocks) but would now keep an extra close eye on it. To which I told her she was talking horsefeathers and if she were unable to sort it then I would. Fast forward to the following Tuesday, I saw said child giving mine grief at the window when she was waiting to wave to me, as I had left via the entrance near to that window I heard mine ask to be left alone. No teachers were monitoring the situation then. Both mothers have been attending school together, and bringing others up as reinforcements should I kick off. I rang school last Tuesday and spoke to the head. I simply said it was still happening and they were on their last warning. Anymore and id sort it. My ex told me on Sunday that our child had reported recent happenings to him. So, even though it's not my place - yes really, it's not my place to sort out something happening to MY child - on a regular basis - then, come a week on Monday there will be hell on. School have had since September and they ain't getting anymore. Little bastard needs boundaries - and to leave my kid the fuck alone. Incidentally, said kid has been in trouble for the same thing already. Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground." The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. | |||
"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? my child was being bullied in and out of school... school said they were dealing with it but outside of school that was my jurisdiction…. so I went to the police and they sorted it...
That's what we did. The police liaison officer paid the boy's family a visit. They then came and spoke to us and asked us how we wanted to take it forward. We chose to go with an off the record caution on the understanding that if it happened again we wouldn't be as understanding.
It didn't completely solve the problem but it helped a great deal.
In our experience schools are entirely hopeless at dealing with bullying in most cases.
In my childs case the police went to the bullies houses and spoke to the parents, then issued their kids with a yellow card which is similar to an ASBO but for under 16s and that also goes on their record at school... and that seems to be a deterrant for other kids too"Yes, they spoke to the parents and gave the kid a warning. It didn't stop him completely, but the final incident happened at secondary school and involved demanding money. The head came down on him like a ton of bricks...if that had happened five or six years earlier instead of having "no blame" circles and assemblies about being kind after our kid had come home with a bruise on his back of a shoe imprint maybe the little darling wouldn't have advanced to demanding cash. | |||
"My child is being bullied in school. She's 5. I have, at various times, notified each of her teachers and teaching assistants. One morning I saw one of the child's mothers and had a quiet polite word (My little one was still with me and was already upset enough at the notion of sharing air with the little cow). Said mother reacted with "I'll go and tell the little fucker now". I followed her into the classroom with my child to see her tearing into the teacher. Later that day I was called into the heads office (never when I was at school though. I was SUCH a good girl. She tried telling me they had not been informed of this previously (utter bollocks) but would now keep an extra close eye on it. To which I told her she was talking horsefeathers and if she were unable to sort it then I would. Fast forward to the following Tuesday, I saw said child giving mine grief at the window when she was waiting to wave to me, as I had left via the entrance near to that window I heard mine ask to be left alone. No teachers were monitoring the situation then. Both mothers have been attending school together, and bringing others up as reinforcements should I kick off. I rang school last Tuesday and spoke to the head. I simply said it was still happening and they were on their last warning. Anymore and id sort it. My ex told me on Sunday that our child had reported recent happenings to him. So, even though it's not my place - yes really, it's not my place to sort out something happening to MY child - on a regular basis - then, come a week on Monday there will be hell on. School have had since September and they ain't getting anymore. Little bastard needs boundaries - and to leave my kid the fuck alone. Incidentally, said kid has been in trouble for the same thing already. Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. " The parents often can't see their kids faults. I was quite happy for them to ignore me. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. " Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. | |||
" Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. " Children learn this behaviour, from parents and other influential people. They may have been bullied and are passing it on or they're insecure about something. The whole advocating an eye for an eye just perpetuates this for generations to come. I'm not suggesting it is easy to tackle, I know it's not and the effects are horrid and can be long-lasting, but turning into a bully or turning your child into a bully can't be the answer. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite." You seem proud of this and proud of teaching your siblings to fight without discipline. Did you learn the discipline required in martial arts or did you choose to ignore that side of it? | |||
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"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite." Schools are installing metal detectors to prevent knife crime in some areas. That's a pretty tough bite. | |||
" Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. Children learn this behaviour, from parents and other influential people. They may have been bullied and are passing it on or they're insecure about something. The whole advocating an eye for an eye just perpetuates this for generations to come. I'm not suggesting it is easy to tackle, I know it's not and the effects are horrid and can be long-lasting, but turning into a bully or turning your child into a bully can't be the answer. " I agree to an extent and we dealt with our situation by following the correct channels. However we have told both our kids since they were small if you're threatened put them on the ground first. I believe that's valuable advice particularly for girls who are often taught not to fight back. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite." That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. | |||
" Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. Children learn this behaviour, from parents and other influential people. They may have been bullied and are passing it on or they're insecure about something. The whole advocating an eye for an eye just perpetuates this for generations to come. I'm not suggesting it is easy to tackle, I know it's not and the effects are horrid and can be long-lasting, but turning into a bully or turning your child into a bully can't be the answer. I agree to an extent and we dealt with our situation by following the correct channels. However we have told both our kids since they were small if you're threatened put them on the ground first. I believe that's valuable advice particularly for girls who are often taught not to fight back." If they don't fight back they will keep being picked on. Taking your child to defend themself is not making them into a bully. I would defend myself if someone stared on me. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. Schools are installing metal detectors to prevent knife crime in some areas. That's a pretty tough bite." A 15 yr old I worked with took a gun to his work experience placement at JD sports. He didn't know they did random bag searches in case of theft. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. " My concern is the apparent pride that youngsters seem to take in violence. | |||
" Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. Children learn this behaviour, from parents and other influential people. They may have been bullied and are passing it on or they're insecure about something. The whole advocating an eye for an eye just perpetuates this for generations to come. I'm not suggesting it is easy to tackle, I know it's not and the effects are horrid and can be long-lasting, but turning into a bully or turning your child into a bully can't be the answer. I agree to an extent and we dealt with our situation by following the correct channels. However we have told both our kids since they were small if you're threatened put them on the ground first. I believe that's valuable advice particularly for girls who are often taught not to fight back. If they don't fight back they will keep being picked on. Taking your child to defend themself is not making them into a bully. I would defend myself if someone stared on me. " So would I...now. My parents were Quakers. | |||
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" Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. Children learn this behaviour, from parents and other influential people. They may have been bullied and are passing it on or they're insecure about something. The whole advocating an eye for an eye just perpetuates this for generations to come. I'm not suggesting it is easy to tackle, I know it's not and the effects are horrid and can be long-lasting, but turning into a bully or turning your child into a bully can't be the answer. I agree to an extent and we dealt with our situation by following the correct channels. However we have told both our kids since they were small if you're threatened put them on the ground first. I believe that's valuable advice particularly for girls who are often taught not to fight back. If they don't fight back they will keep being picked on. Taking your child to defend themself is not making them into a bully. I would defend myself if someone stared on me. So would I...now. My parents were Quakers." You say someone but bullies don't work like that now.I left school 3 years ago and bullies now have 2 3 4 5 6 7 people with them.One of them is always known for carrying a weapon.There never alone at school to get one on one it's you against there crew.fight back like i tryed to but when there's a group of them you don't stand a chance.so then tell your parents or the police and the rest of the school labels you a grass and your cards are marked for more beatings by everyone. The system now works in the favour of the bullie as the schools hands are tied by rules and all the police can do it basically tell them off. That then leaves you to face the conciquences when you see them again. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. " Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. My concern is the apparent pride that youngsters seem to take in violence. " I wouldn't call it pride. I always saw it as its either them or me. But most of my mates were football hooligans though. My mum kept me out of the actual firm though. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. " Weekly! Blimey. | |||
"A boy kept hitting and biting my daughter in class yet school did f**k all, i told my daughter to tell him that next time he hit her i was gonna go to his house and beat his dad, he hit her again a few days later and i went round to talj to his parents, when he seen me coming up the drive he burst out crying thinking i had come to teach his dad a lesson, he never went near my daughter again" Thats something I'd do but wouldn't be so polite about it. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. Weekly! Blimey." Maybe monthly at that scale. But was about 100 to 150 on a weekly. | |||
" Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. Children learn this behaviour, from parents and other influential people. They may have been bullied and are passing it on or they're insecure about something. The whole advocating an eye for an eye just perpetuates this for generations to come. I'm not suggesting it is easy to tackle, I know it's not and the effects are horrid and can be long-lasting, but turning into a bully or turning your child into a bully can't be the answer. I agree to an extent and we dealt with our situation by following the correct channels. However we have told both our kids since they were small if you're threatened put them on the ground first. I believe that's valuable advice particularly for girls who are often taught not to fight back. If they don't fight back they will keep being picked on. Taking your child to defend themself is not making them into a bully. I would defend myself if someone stared on me. So would I...now. My parents were Quakers. You say someone but bullies don't work like that now.I left school 3 years ago and bullies now have 2 3 4 5 6 7 people with them.One of them is always known for carrying a weapon.There never alone at school to get one on one it's you against there crew.fight back like i tryed to but when there's a group of them you don't stand a chance.so then tell your parents or the police and the rest of the school labels you a grass and your cards are marked for more beatings by everyone. The system now works in the favour of the bullie as the schools hands are tied by rules and all the police can do it basically tell them off. That then leaves you to face the conciquences when you see them again." I learnt this when I began Upper school 10 years ago. Always ended up jumping in the middle of about 20 people after 1 guy. | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. Weekly! Blimey. Maybe monthly at that scale. But was about 100 to 150 on a weekly. " That's awful. My school days are like Mallory Towers compared to that. I went to quite a sedate all girls school and remember being quite surprised when my youngest brother watched Grange Hill and said it was realistic  . | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. " That's a school gang fight. They have out of school gang vendettas now and they can't go into another gang's area. Didn't the police cotton on to your regular fighting? | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. That's a school gang fight. They have out of school gang vendettas now and they can't go into another gang's area. Didn't the police cotton on to your regular fighting? " I am genuinely way out of touch with this kind of stuff. | |||
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"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. Weekly! Blimey. Maybe monthly at that scale. But was about 100 to 150 on a weekly. That's awful. My school days are like Mallory Towers compared to that. I went to quite a sedate all girls school and remember being quite surprised when my youngest brother watched Grange Hill and said it was realistic ."I'm from Bradford. Thats all you need to know. | |||
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"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. That's a school gang fight. They have out of school gang vendettas now and they can't go into another gang's area. Didn't the police cotton on to your regular fighting? " Thats when the police had to watch the school every we had lunch or break. Police were there before and after school. Never stopped it much though. Usually ended up meeting in the fields near the school. Was still about a 100 fghting. | |||
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"I think I'd honestly freak out firstly! If the school done nothing I would then go see the parent in person. This visit would make sure they knew if nothing was done they'd be sorry! If the parent did nothing I would make sure the bully was scared the crap out of. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but, the world we live in now - its us or them! Sometimes bully's only understand aggression! Sad but true!! I would make sure they understood!! Btw, my 10 yr old child is a black belt in Tkwd so hopefully the above won't happen or at least give her some level of protection! I'm hoping she kicks ass before it got to a bullying stage!!! She's a great kick ass kid!!!! "Sounds like a fun kid. Personally I'd put her in mma. Makes her alot more well rounded. Tkd is mostly attach. Its great but if someone pins you you don't know what to do. Mma teaches you both attack and defence in the form of bjj (Brazilian ju jitsu). | |||
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"I think I'd honestly freak out firstly! If the school done nothing I would then go see the parent in person. This visit would make sure they knew if nothing was done they'd be sorry! If the parent did nothing I would make sure the bully was scared the crap out of. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but, the world we live in now - its us or them! Sometimes bully's only understand aggression! Sad but true!! I would make sure they understood!! Btw, my 10 yr old child is a black belt in Tkwd so hopefully the above won't happen or at least give her some level of protection! I'm hoping she kicks ass before it got to a bullying stage!!! She's a great kick ass kid!!!!
Sounds like a fun kid. Personally I'd put her in mma. Makes her alot more well rounded. Tkd is mostly attach. Its great but if someone pins you you don't know what to do. Mma teaches you both attack and defence in the form of bjj (Brazilian ju jitsu). "Yeah I agree and that's the plan but when she's a little older! She's likes boxing at the min but not really that aggressive yet! She's a little princess who can kick ass but only if people push the right buttons! Couple more years before big school and hopefully well on her way (insert praying emoji) ha. | |||
"I think I'd honestly freak out firstly! If the school done nothing I would then go see the parent in person. This visit would make sure they knew if nothing was done they'd be sorry! If the parent did nothing I would make sure the bully was scared the crap out of. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but, the world we live in now - its us or them! Sometimes bully's only understand aggression! Sad but true!! I would make sure they understood!! Btw, my 10 yr old child is a black belt in Tkwd so hopefully the above won't happen or at least give her some level of protection! I'm hoping she kicks ass before it got to a bullying stage!!! She's a great kick ass kid!!!!
Sounds like a fun kid. Personally I'd put her in mma. Makes her alot more well rounded. Tkd is mostly attach. Its great but if someone pins you you don't know what to do. Mma teaches you both attack and defence in the form of bjj (Brazilian ju jitsu).
Yeah I agree and that's the plan but when she's a little older! She's likes boxing at the min but not really that aggressive yet!
She's a little princess who can kick ass but only if people push the right buttons!
Couple more years before big school and hopefully well on her way (insert praying emoji) ha. "Start her now. She'll be the master of the mats in no time. Maybe get her in a few competitions, maybe the next ronda rousy. | |||
"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? " i approached the parents, my 7 year old daughter has been getting bullied for the past couple of years by the same 3 kids in her class, i won’t go in to details but i was in tears when she told me some of the things that happened, i did wonder whether the school was actually trying to sort it out but in the end, my daughter pointed out the parents to one of the kids when i was collecting her, let’s just say the entire yard of parents heard my thoughts on their dear little angel and what needs doing to him. | |||
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"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? my child was being bullied in and out of school... school said they were dealing with it but outside of school that was my jurisdiction…. so I went to the police and they sorted it... "If only schools and the police had had this attitude when I was at school. | |||
"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? " I remember when mine were in primary school and I rang in to speak to the head teacher for the umpteeth time after my child came out in tears again,to be told by the headteacher well Mrs ...... it could be five children hitting her not just one! The next time she came out in tears I bypassed the 'useless good for nothing should have retired year's before' headteacher and knocked on the child's door and told the child in front of his mother in no uncertain terms if he touches either of my children again I'll go straight to the police. Thankfully shortly after the child and headteacher left. I seriously felt like going into school everyday to thump the headteacher in the stomach or push her against the wall and tell her I'm going to burn your mum and see how long she put up with it. | |||
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"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? " Go round and demand that they sort it out; every school has an anti-bullying policy and a duty of care to adhere to it. Trust me, they will do something if you show up and speak with the head of school. | |||
"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? Go round and demand that they sort it out; every school has an anti-bullying policy and a duty of care to adhere to it. Trust me, they will do something if you show up and speak with the head of school." i tried that approach when my daughter who is in year two was grabbed round the neck by a boy from year 4 who done it because the bully from year two told him to do it, i went fucking mental at them!! have things changed? sadly not, she is still telling me stories of what’s happening to her by these other kids. only monday i was told by the after school club that she fell over in the yard and needed an ice pack, wasn’t till i got home that she told me she was tackled to the floor by two boys, one of them 2 years older than her 
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"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again!" That's a horrible position to put the child you are paying in, what's that teaching them, it's okay to give someone a kicking if you are being paid too? What sort of adult do you think that you're helping to shape. Ginger | |||
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"My daughter had a thing on her Snapchat story of a group of kids taking it in turns to pour water on some kid at the bus stop. I cried. I bought the mum some flowers and dragged my daughter to his house to apologise. For the mum to tell me they had been playing the same ‘game’ on the street outside her house the day before and it was just a game. I felt a bit harsh but you know what, they might be gay, they might be a tree hugging hippy, they might be ANYTHING they want to in this world BUT no child of mine Is gonna be a bully. Xx" xx | |||
"I went to the parent outside the school and said if she doesn't stop her child I would do exactly the same to her. It stopped" that’s gunna be my next step i think. | |||
"Councils have bullying policies and they should follow their procedures. If the school hasn’t done anything then it should be escalated. They do no more than pay lip service to the situation." I’ve had a successful outcome. It depends on the Head Teacher. My son ended up with a concussion so it wasn’t just pushing about. | |||
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"I’d discuss the issue with teacher Then i’d write to the Headteacher. If nothing improved i would write to the Headteacher and tell them that i’d be writing to anyone and everyone to let them know that their Schools Anti Bullying Policy was not worth a shit. I’d couldn’t do it in person else i’d lose my temper. If you put it in writing you have a written record and they should have to action it. If nothing happened i would then open a can of whup arse and if needed remove my child from that School. " ^this | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire " ^but not this........ | |||
"If you go through the authorities and still nothing gets done.. what do you do? You’re child is physically and mentally tortured.. I couldn’t hit another child.. But what I would do is go around to all the rough schools in the city.. find the hardest kids in the schools.. get them together and pay them and go and teach those bullies a lesson.. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire What does that teach the children? That there is always a bigger bully out there.. what it feels like to get bullied... do not bully another kid again! Pay kids to do their shit? Just get your kid to do it themselves. Some kids do not have the physicalities to protect them selves... what if it’s a young girl getting bullied by older kids... bigger kids.. gang of kids against one.. I was always a tiny kid. Was under 5ft4 until around year 9. My mum put me into martial arts as I was a hyperactive kid. 6 against 1 still did nothing for them. And also if you fight you get respect from the other kids. They will stand up for you. My sister at 12 got ganged up on by 3 girls bigger than her. I was teaching her mma from when she could crawl, Same with my brother. She smached them all in, 2 lasses had to get stitches in there faces. "The ultimate aim of martial arts is not having to use them. Miyamoto Musashi. He knew a bit about fighting....... | |||
"My son was getting bullied by his uncle for over 4 years before he cracked and told me what was going on. His uncle suffered from an unexplained assault one night which left him with a fractured skull and impaired vision and my son no longer gets bullied " An uncle bullying his nephew who was left with a fractured skull and impaired vision. Equally hideous on both accounts,was it you that left him with the fractured skull? | |||
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"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart." Are the 'bullies' 5 too ? | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. " Kids are twats...... lovely. That should put a stop to poor behaviour. Wonder where these 5 year old bullying twats pick up their behaviour from. | |||
"My son was getting bullied by his uncle for over 4 years before he cracked and told me what was going on. His uncle suffered from an unexplained assault one night which left him with a fractured skull and impaired vision and my son no longer gets bullied An uncle bullying his nephew who was left with a fractured skull and impaired vision. Equally hideous on both accounts,was it you that left him with the fractured skull? " Like I said it was an unexplained assault. Just one of life's happy coincidences | |||
"It's never your kid. Don't forget that you raised a gentle angel. Your kid never said or did anything. " I certainly never raised a gentle 'Angel' and that's quite an annoying thing for you to say. I didn't expect to drop my children off when they were in primary school though for them to have to tolerate physical and mental abuse from another child. Would you tolerate that everyday yourself? | |||
"My child is being bullied in school. She's 5. I have, at various times, notified each of her teachers and teaching assistants. One morning I saw one of the child's mothers and had a quiet polite word (My little one was still with me and was already upset enough at the notion of sharing air with the little cow). Said mother reacted with "I'll go and tell the little fucker now". I followed her into the classroom with my child to see her tearing into the teacher. Later that day I was called into the heads office (never when I was at school though. I was SUCH a good girl. She tried telling me they had not been informed of this previously (utter bollocks) but would now keep an extra close eye on it. To which I told her she was talking horsefeathers and if she were unable to sort it then I would. Fast forward to the following Tuesday, I saw said child giving mine grief at the window when she was waiting to wave to me, as I had left via the entrance near to that window I heard mine ask to be left alone. No teachers were monitoring the situation then. Both mothers have been attending school together, and bringing others up as reinforcements should I kick off. I rang school last Tuesday and spoke to the head. I simply said it was still happening and they were on their last warning. Anymore and id sort it. My ex told me on Sunday that our child had reported recent happenings to him. So, even though it's not my place - yes really, it's not my place to sort out something happening to MY child - on a regular basis - then, come a week on Monday there will be hell on. School have had since September and they ain't getting anymore. Little bastard needs boundaries - and to leave my kid the fuck alone. Incidentally, said kid has been in trouble for the same thing already. Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground. The mothers are sometimes worse, which is why I still keep myself to myself in the playground. The parents often can't see their kids faults. I was quite happy for them to ignore me." Sometimes I read things or hear things and it's as plain as the nose on my face that some parents are nightmares. Solve everything with bad language ( even against little children) and violence, then consider themselves great examples. | |||
"It's never your kid. Don't forget that you raised a gentle angel. Your kid never said or did anything. I certainly never raised a gentle 'Angel' and that's quite an annoying thing for you to say. I didn't expect to drop my children off when they were in primary school though for them to have to tolerate physical and mental abuse from another child. Would you tolerate that everyday yourself?" You're entitled to feel annoyed if you want to. No I don't tolerate violence and wouldn't expect a child to. | |||
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"I absolutely hate bullies so this is what I did when my son was being bullied. I first approached the parents and kindly asked them to address this issue. They never so it continued, I then had a meeting with the head master. Still carried On, after finding a video on you tube these little fuckers had put on I decided to go round to the house and kick the fuckin shit out of the dad. Most satisfying and guess What? End of problem. " I can see why you did that. I can’t believe any parent would just let it ‘carry on’. I don’t get involved in ‘kid squabbles’ as they are usually friends again the next day and make you look a dick but that is something else. Bastards. | |||
"I absolutely hate bullies so this is what I did when my son was being bullied. I first approached the parents and kindly asked them to address this issue. They never so it continued, I then had a meeting with the head master. Still carried On, after finding a video on you tube these little fuckers had put on I decided to go round to the house and kick the fuckin shit out of the dad. Most satisfying and guess What? End of problem. I can see why you did that. I can’t believe any parent would just let it ‘carry on’. I don’t get involved in ‘kid squabbles’ as they are usually friends again the next day and make you look a dick but that is something else. Bastards. " Believe me I didn't want to resort to that, was disgusted with myself but after them putting a video on you tube holding a knife saying they were going to kill my son I lost all sense of reason. The little bastard watched as I kicked his dad all over the street. | |||
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"My daughter had a thing on her Snapchat story of a group of kids taking it in turns to pour water on some kid at the bus stop. I cried. I bought the mum some flowers and dragged my daughter to his house to apologise. For the mum to tell me they had been playing the same ‘game’ on the street outside her house the day before and it was just a game. I felt a bit harsh but you know what, they might be gay, they might be a tree hugging hippy, they might be ANYTHING they want to in this world BUT no child of mine Is gonna be a bully. Xx" I respect that. x | |||
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"I'm ashamed to say I was a bully, not physically but mentally. there was a boy at school who was really poor and I used to join in the name calling with the other kids just to make me popular with them. He lived in my street too. I didn't mean no harm by it and was too young to realise what I was doing was wrong. 8 or 9 I think I was, but a few of the other kids at school ganged up on him once and I stepped in to help him as 3 onto one boy wasn't fair and they were hurting him. We became good friends and he was actually my best man when me and Ali married. I'm ashamed of what I called him and how upset I made him but pleased I correct my wrongs, and got to know him. He's a diamond of a bloke. " Thanks for that. Don't forget you were 8 or 9. You did have morals but the moral courage to stand by them took maturity. The man you are is not the child you were...... xx | |||
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"My child is being bullied in school. She's 5. I have, at various times, notified each of her teachers and teaching assistants. One morning I saw one of the child's mothers and had a quiet polite word (My little one was still with me and was already upset enough at the notion of sharing air with the little cow). Said mother reacted with "I'll go and tell the little fucker now". I followed her into the classroom with my child to see her tearing into the teacher. Later that day I was called into the heads office (never when I was at school though. I was SUCH a good girl. She tried telling me they had not been informed of this previously (utter bollocks) but would now keep an extra close eye on it. To which I told her she was talking horsefeathers and if she were unable to sort it then I would. Fast forward to the following Tuesday, I saw said child giving mine grief at the window when she was waiting to wave to me, as I had left via the entrance near to that window I heard mine ask to be left alone. No teachers were monitoring the situation then. Both mothers have been attending school together, and bringing others up as reinforcements should I kick off. I rang school last Tuesday and spoke to the head. I simply said it was still happening and they were on their last warning. Anymore and id sort it. My ex told me on Sunday that our child had reported recent happenings to him. So, even though it's not my place - yes really, it's not my place to sort out something happening to MY child - on a regular basis - then, come a week on Monday there will be hell on. School have had since September and they ain't getting anymore. Little bastard needs boundaries - and to leave my kid the fuck alone. Incidentally, said kid has been in trouble for the same thing already. Ask for the schools bullying policy. Put your concerns in writing to the teachers, head and chair of governors. Ask for a meeting with them all and at that meeting tell them if it isn't sorted you will refer your concerns upwards (it should tell you where and who in the anti bullying policy). As a last resort with children so young approach the police schools liaison officer. If you do this be prepared to be persona non grata in certain sections of the playground." Thank you - played nice for 7 months now though. I am going to be having words with the child's mothers when they go back. Actually. I'm going to ask the head to ask them to come in so we can all have a chat together, if that request is refused then I'll just bawl them out at pickup time. I'm sick of it | |||
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"Start with the senco, who should, depending on the size of the school start sorting things. If not., bring it to the SLT, if that doesn’t work, the head. If nothing happens, inform the chair of governors. If nothing happens, change school." Oh, and Ofsted have a whistleblowing dashboard, make yourself known. | |||
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Being bullied,You either develop a heart of stone to ignore it or become good with your fists. Neither is ideal
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"I read somewhere if you want an official route go straight to the board of governers and bypass teachers and the head if nothing has been done. It has to be dealt with along a different route then Kids are vile and have been forever. I remember the whole school gang wars when I was there. Dealt with by police but was like a badge of honour and still had to be done every once in a while by the 'tough' lads
Being bullied,You either develop a heart of stone to ignore it or become good with your fists. Neither is ideal
"We went to the governors and received a letter from the chair explaining that as our son had been seen playing football with the boy who we claimed was bullying him he wasn't being bullied. We then requested a face to face meeting and were asked patronisingly if it was high spirits. I rarely get angry but I did that day. When your child is being bullied it's nearly impossible to get it dealt with by the school or governors. | |||
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"My 5 year old grandaughter us being bullied at school. He has cut her hair, burst her lip, pour juice on her lunch pushed her numerous times in the playground resulting in cuts bruises and banged head. The schools answer?? His mum is dead I don't think he is targeting her. His dad's answer?? Kids will be kids. Being escalated to education department now but very hard to keep ur temper x" Bloody hell. Sounds like shawshank. Poor little love. | |||
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"Bullying in school... if you’re child was being bullied at school.. how would you deal with it..? If you notified the school and made a complaint, but yet they say they can’t do anything.. what would you do..? " I'd bully the bully's dad | |||
"My Niece is currently being bullied. She’s 5 and teeny tiny for her age. It breaks my heart. Kids are twats now a days. Not quite as bad as when I was in school though. They really are! They're fucking worse. Trust me they aren't. At my school they'd be weekly riots in the school group because me and a Pakistani lad would start fighting. He started on me btw. Riot police would have to come and split it up. Got to the point where the police would have sit outside of the school for before school, break, lunch and after school. Kids now are all mouth and no bite. That still happens. I was caught up in an incident with my granddaughter and some girls recently. There were 3 of them trying to beat her up with a mob of about 30 behind them. The 3 girls (one huge and bigger than me) kept rushing at me trying to get to her. 4 men and a plain clothes police officer struggled to keep them off, with me. The worry now is whether they are carrying knives. She said nan, if you weren't there they would have fucked me up. Thats nothing I'm talking 4 to 500 students fighting with metal, woods, glass and whatever. Weekly! Blimey. Maybe monthly at that scale. But was about 100 to 150 on a weekly. That's awful. My school days are like Mallory Towers compared to that. I went to quite a sedate all girls school and remember being quite surprised when my youngest brother watched Grange Hill and said it was realistic .
I'm from Bradford. Thats all you need to know. "I was teaching in schools in Bradford around the time you'd have been there... Only riot I ever heard of was at St Bede's Catholic school. Is that where you went? | |||
