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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? |
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
If it is someone who has pissed you off, my favoured action is a sweet smile and scheming eyes. It will drive them nuts wondering what you are plotting! |
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over a year ago
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At my work, there's a long corridor leading from the restaurant to the kitchen which is pretty soundproof... therefore I rant quietly in the kitchen (with lots of swears) count to ten then face the guests again. |
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over a year ago
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips?
If it is someone who has pissed you off, my favoured action is a sweet smile and scheming eyes. It will drive them nuts wondering what you are plotting! "
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"At my work, there's a long corridor leading from the restaurant to the kitchen which is pretty soundproof... therefore I rant quietly in the kitchen (with lots of swears) count to ten then face the guests again. "
I sometimes scream in the car, that feels good! 
I'm not actually in a bad mood right now, it's just a question I was talking about today. Trying to give teenagers an outlet for their hormonal anger. |
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips?
If it is someone who has pissed you off, my favoured action is a sweet smile and scheming eyes. It will drive them nuts wondering what you are plotting!
Love that! "
The only things I actually plot are whats for dinner and whens my next fuck!  |
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Emotional reactions are created in our subconscious they are not based on reality or even facts merely our own personal.interpretations of events based on our past experiences and triggered.
Anger and unmet expectations go hand in hand.
There are many 3rd wave therapies to help you understand your triggers and how to combat them..
The brain is an immensely powerful tool / machine it can be re programmed...
I am not asking you to imagine that you can remain calm..Merely to suspend the idea that you can not xx |
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"Emotional reactions are created in our subconscious they are not based on reality or even facts merely our own personal.interpretations of events based on our past experiences and triggered.
Anger and unmet expectations go hand in hand.
There are many 3rd wave therapies to help you understand your triggers and how to combat them..
The brain is an immensely powerful tool / machine it can be re programmed...
I am not asking you to imagine that you can remain calm..Merely to suspend the idea that you can not xx "
Welcome eloquence and very interesting. |
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"Emotional reactions are created in our subconscious they are not based on reality or even facts merely our own personal.interpretations of events based on our past experiences and triggered.
Anger and unmet expectations go hand in hand.
There are many 3rd wave therapies to help you understand your triggers and how to combat them..
The brain is an immensely powerful tool / machine it can be re programmed...
I am not asking you to imagine that you can remain calm..Merely to suspend the idea that you can not xx "
Well said. |
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over a year ago
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In the past I've screamed. Used to do this in a previous job. Go to the loos and scream like a banshee. Definitely helped as a release of tension.
Not always possible but I try to deal with situations that are pissing me off before I get to yo angry stage and this is actually more manageable than you may think. I think a lot of day to day anger comes from lack of communication and people feeling taken for granted. If you're not happy with a situation say so, if someone is pissing you off then tell them. If you don't want to do something,then don't. It sounds very simple but as someone who used to (sometimes still does) run around like a blue arsed fly after others, there is an immense feeling of relief and empowerment from simply saying "No". It means I'm less likely to feel resentful and angry towards others and, more importantly, less angry with myself.
Wee mindfulness apps like Headspace are good too. And massage and other relaxation therapies.
Oh,and wine helps too. |
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"At my work, there's a long corridor leading from the restaurant to the kitchen which is pretty soundproof... therefore I rant quietly in the kitchen (with lots of swears) count to ten then face the guests again.
I sometimes scream in the car, that feels good!
I'm not actually in a bad mood right now, it's just a question I was talking about today. Trying to give teenagers an outlet for their hormonal anger. "
Teens hormonal anything.. Exercise and fresh air. competitive anything swim- ice skate- gym- box. Get them into sport young. Never had any of that with my two as they never had time for temper or boredom. In bed by 9 up at 5 am skate at 6am 50 miles down the road 3 times a week.In school by 9am. Gym and skate after school 5 days. We were all too bloody exhausted for hormones lol |
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"In the past I've screamed. Used to do this in a previous job. Go to the loos and scream like a banshee. Definitely helped as a release of tension.
Not always possible but I try to deal with situations that are pissing me off before I get to yo angry stage and this is actually more manageable than you may think. I think a lot of day to day anger comes from lack of communication and people feeling taken for granted. If you're not happy with a situation say so, if someone is pissing you off then tell them. If you don't want to do something,then don't. It sounds very simple but as someone who used to (sometimes still does) run around like a blue arsed fly after others, there is an immense feeling of relief and empowerment from simply saying "No". It means I'm less likely to feel resentful and angry towards others and, more importantly, less angry with myself.
Wee mindfulness apps like Headspace are good too. And massage and other relaxation therapies.
Oh,and wine helps too."
what does your wife do to calm? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"At my work, there's a long corridor leading from the restaurant to the kitchen which is pretty soundproof... therefore I rant quietly in the kitchen (with lots of swears) count to ten then face the guests again.
I sometimes scream in the car, that feels good!
I'm not actually in a bad mood right now, it's just a question I was talking about today. Trying to give teenagers an outlet for their hormonal anger. "
I bought one of those blow up figures that you punch for one hormonal teenager. It's so silly that seeing me demonstrating hitting it changed anger to laughter. It wasn't needed for long and now we talk about what is making them angry.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When my son was a teenager he went through terrible anger tantrums. I had to wait until he was in the right frame of mind then we discussed it. Wrote triggers and made plan. It worked"
Great idea.
I wish I had you around in my teens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I feel like I’m getting angry I count to ten,
and then ask the question is it really worth being angry over this situation, 9 times out of ten it really isn’t worth the hassle
If the one out of 10 times situation causes anger it’s probably justified go crazy lol
Failing that have a herbal cigarette  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Give yourself five minutes to be alone, deep breaths, and most of all, NEVER text anyone when you’re angry. Wait half an hour, the likelihood is that you won’t feel the same 30 minutes later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
I take a fitbaw and boot fuck out it onto the fence |
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"If it is someone who has pissed you off, my favoured action is a sweet smile and scheming eyes. It will drive them nuts wondering what you are plotting! "
I prefer to tell the person why I’m not happy with them, and then resolve it. Scheming eyes are for soap operas and teenagers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve spent a long time dealing with it, when I was a teenager the answer was punching someone, as I got older it moved to working out, now I’ve got to the point where I tell myself it almost certainly doesn’t matter, be it what made you made, the person or situation...
Maybe not the healthiest but it works for me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Give yourself five minutes to be alone, deep breaths, and most of all, NEVER text anyone when you’re angry. Wait half an hour, the likelihood is that you won’t feel the same 30 minutes later."
Or email if a work environment! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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My first reaction is get sweary so long as there's no little ears around. Maybe a cry if it's really got to me....
Then I'll put some music on, deep breathes, bit of single, single, doubling in the kitchen. Or a walk with some music on Portishead or something like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've been very curious about lots of things lately, OP.
I spend time with my dogs when I'm angry. No one could stay angry when they're messing around with their dogs. I don't think it's possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Give yourself five minutes to be alone, deep breaths, and most of all, NEVER text anyone when you’re angry. Wait half an hour, the likelihood is that you won’t feel the same 30 minutes later.
Or email if a work environment!"
Yes!
If I’m super pissed, I just finish it with ‘regards’. Haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I control my mind it does not control me, I simply decide I am not angry and it is done."
I talk to myself too. Out loud sometimes. My grandchildren think I'm mad. |
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If it's at work my mouse or phone usually gets slammed on my desk (if on my own, I don't do it in front of colleagues) or some excessively loud rock music goes on in the car on the way home. Breathing exercises help too.  |
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I used to shout and smash a room up but then you've just got a headache and a mess to deal with.
Was angry about an ex trying get back in my life earlier today. Had a little cry, did some breathing, had a cheese toastie and now watching Die Hard. Not the most relaxing of films I grant you but nice distraction |
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
Pause
Pause a little more.
Reflect
Why are you angry?
Seek a space where you don't have to speak, or type, or perform
Reflect
Check out whether your anger is valid, or just an emotional reaction
Then get even, with extreme prejudice, if required.
Or apologize.
Both outcomes are equally likely.
Carter |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the past I've screamed. Used to do this in a previous job. Go to the loos and scream like a banshee. Definitely helped as a release of tension.
Not always possible but I try to deal with situations that are pissing me off before I get to yo angry stage and this is actually more manageable than you may think. I think a lot of day to day anger comes from lack of communication and people feeling taken for granted. If you're not happy with a situation say so, if someone is pissing you off then tell them. If you don't want to do something,then don't. It sounds very simple but as someone who used to (sometimes still does) run around like a blue arsed fly after others, there is an immense feeling of relief and empowerment from simply saying "No". It means I'm less likely to feel resentful and angry towards others and, more importantly, less angry with myself.
Wee mindfulness apps like Headspace are good too. And massage and other relaxation therapies.
Oh,and wine helps too.what does your wife do to calm?"
Looks at dick pics on here. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
Quote from GOT
Fuck me like there is is the last day on earth.
Kind of changes the perspective when you have finished. |
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"Emotional reactions are created in our subconscious they are not based on reality or even facts merely our own personal.interpretations of events based on our past experiences and triggered.
Anger and unmet expectations go hand in hand.
There are many 3rd wave therapies to help you understand your triggers and how to combat them..
The brain is an immensely powerful tool / machine it can be re programmed...
I am not asking you to imagine that you can remain calm..Merely to suspend the idea that you can not xx "
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I used throw heavy objects at the offender lol, was a bit hot-headed in my youth! 
I don't do that anymore, but I will express my anger honestly sometimes, then get over it quickly, or channel the energy into something useful. ... like sex!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Emotional reactions are created in our subconscious they are not based on reality or even facts merely our own personal.interpretations of events based on our past experiences and triggered.
Anger and unmet expectations go hand in hand.
There are many 3rd wave therapies to help you understand your triggers and how to combat them..
The brain is an immensely powerful tool / machine it can be re programmed...
I am not asking you to imagine that you can remain calm..Merely to suspend the idea that you can not xx "
CBT 101?  |
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but for me my anger builds up without signs inside in the sense I get pissed at something but as soon as I get angry it bottles up before I can react then after a while it snaps and goes either one of 2 ways....
the first way is I lose my temper and start hitting things and normally after 1 or 2 hits I'm all calm and anger reserves are empty haha it's like I channel all the anger into my fists and when it connects with something it feels like the anger gets expelled.
Or the other way is I get really vocally aggressive but the thing is to people who don't really know me it looks really nasty but in reality I would never actually be aggressive to someone it's just everyone gets the brunt of it but I don't actually mean it if that makes sense..
but I do also have a short fuse and get reactive to being snapped at in situations like an argument haha it's a pain in the arse but I can't actually help it lol just part of my nature haha...
sorry if this isn't helpfull o just wanted to throw my 2pence in haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
I'm guessing it would help in the short term though? also keep away from anyone who you know would probably tell you to 'chillax' as that would tip you over the edge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
I'm not an angry person. Just tend to grump it out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to shout and smash a room up but then you've just got a headache and a mess to deal with.
Was angry about an ex trying get back in my life earlier today. Had a little cry, did some breathing, had a cheese toastie and now watching Die Hard. Not the most relaxing of films I grant you but nice distraction "
A cheese toastie makes everything better! |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
A long slow walk on the cost normally works.
If not
Boxing a boxing bag
Wii boxing
Shooting games.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the level of rage
Pushups
Sometimes i store it up
Go for a drive
Go to the gym
Mainly try exhaust myself
Or act like a spoiled baby and go start an argument |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Realise you are losing your shit, get a grip and move on. No need for anger. Everybody has bad days etc but it’s upto you to control your emotions.
Not having a dig etc, just our view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
I grew out of angry, it is completely pointless. Practice some relaxation or meditation techniques and you might be the last one in the shopping queue to get pissed off. By the way high blood pressure causes anger, not the other way round. Get your BP down before it kills you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I flare up pretty quickly and it’s best to just leave me be to cool off and calm down. Then i can discuss things more rationally.
If you don’t leave me to cool off then you’re pretty much going to get my unedited thoughts and feelings and i make no apologies for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
Haha before my operation I would go for walk or go to gaming or bedroom an listen to music. Now I can’t walk as great so just play games haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think in my adult life I've lost my temper about 5 times. I only lose it when it's been a built up for a long period of time. I think the best thing to do is get it all out and don't hold back so you can draw a line under it and move on. It's weird because I don't raise my voice when I'm angry and have been told it's quite scary to watch as I'm so laid back and easy going. I lost my temper in work and my colleague said she's never in her life saw someone be so angry while still talking in the same tone then so calm so quickly. Being angry and holding back doesn't do you any good in the long run x |
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To be honest, a long walk does it for me.
If it's something that can be pushed to one side and given time to come back to even better.
Don't act on anger, don't decide anything when your angry.
Have a good friend to talk to
Hope this helps a little x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lay down, take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it untill you feel your chest hurting! Then SLOWY breath out through your mouth! Concentrate on the feeling of the relief of the stress leaving your body as you breath out! Then lay still a little longer as you rerun to gentle breathing again.
After trying this a few times you should find that each time you encounter a stressfull situation you will subconsciously hold your breath and breath out taking the stress with it! It does work! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lay down, take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it untill you feel your chest hurting! Then SLOWY breath out through your mouth! Concentrate on the feeling of the relief of the stress leaving your body as you breath out! Then lay still a little longer as you rerun to gentle breathing again.
After trying this a few times you should find that each time you encounter a stressfull situation you will subconsciously hold your breath and breath out taking the stress with it! It does work! "
That sounds helpful. Might work for stress too. |
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By *aycambsMan
over a year ago
kettering-ish |
If you have access to a computer, and have children, look through your old pictures and videos to where they were really young....should put a smile on your face!
No access to a computer...then fuck it, its going to take at least 4 min to boil the kettle! |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
I go for a drive and play loud music but it's very rare for me to get angry.
Anger is a very negative and draining emotion. I try to turn whatever is making me angry into something positive or I breath through it, chanting in my head or out loud if I can. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do something that requires lots of concentration (to block out whatever made me mad) like playing something loud and complex on the piano.
Or I take it out on the garden. Shrubs have been massacred after a bad day at work.
I hope you're feeling more serene now, OP. |
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I just take things slowly, as it's too easy to rush and do things that may make stress and anger worse.
I'll leave people for a while, if it's a problem being with them.
Exercise is my favorite way of getting my anger out with a vengeance. Or I relax and meditate. I spend time around nature - it's very calming and grounds me.
I may also shout and scream, if there's something to get out too |
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"I do something that requires lots of concentration (to block out whatever made me mad) like playing something loud and complex on the piano.
Or I take it out on the garden. Shrubs have been massacred after a bad day at work.
I hope you're feeling more serene now, OP. "
Shrub massacre sounds good. 
I'm ok thank you. |
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"I do something that requires lots of concentration (to block out whatever made me mad) like playing something loud and complex on the piano.
Or I take it out on the garden. Shrubs have been massacred after a bad day at work.
I hope you're feeling more serene now, OP.
Shrub massacre sounds good.
I'm ok thank you. "
I was thinking that, hopefully it was a machete massacre |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
I'm chilled at most when out exploring, so walking in countryisde does it for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to find your release.
For me it's a physical activity. Run, punch bag, some dips or something.
I've recently taken up boxing again and I'm a lot more relaxed day to day too.
I used to let myself get so, so wound up but what's the point?
It solves nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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heyheyhey chill man whatever the issue it will eventualy go as life carries on just remember to take something from the situation learn from it no point in anger it doesn't make you happy x |
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"How do you deal with feeling angry? How do you get it out of your system?
Slamming doors or smashing things might feel good but it doesn't seem to help.
Do you have any anger management tips? "
EFT = Emotional Freedom Technique is great for anger. EFT is very easy to learn and costs nothing to do. You can learn the basics in minutes.
Do Google and YouTube searches for
EFT
What can EFT help with
EFT and anger |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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OP.
Strange as it sounds, my dentist showed me a way earlier this year of defusing my stress and anger.
She picked up on the fact my jaws don't align properly. When angry, my upper and lower front teeth crash on each other putting me in the possible danger of fracturing my two top front teeth.
The risk of doing that and all the pain and repair costs has worked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a punch bag in the garden works for me and hormonal teenagers lol x
Where do you punch the teenagers? "
Lol they have boxing gloves and pads lol it does get the aggression out they don't hit each other lol x |
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"I have a punch bag in the garden works for me and hormonal teenagers lol x
Where do you punch the teenagers?
Lol they have boxing gloves and pads lol it does get the aggression out they don't hit each other lol x"
Controlled aggression is good, if you know how to handle it  |
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