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"It's just banter" seems to be said a lot.
When does it stop being banter and start being offensive? Who is the judge?
Do you think people need to be less touchy or do you take responsibility if you offend someone?
Do you ever use "banter" to make a point in an underhand way? |
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""It's just banter" seems to be said a lot.
When does it stop being banter and start being offensive? Who is the judge?
Do you think people need to be less touchy or do you take responsibility if you offend someone?
Do you ever use "banter" to make a point in an underhand way? "
It's banter until the other person breaks down in tears |
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over a year ago
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"Banter only really works between people who know each other really well, its too easy to misunderstand if you don't know each other"
 this. A stranger making derogatory remarks with a clever look on face usually is rather irritating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Banter only really works between people who know each other really well, its too easy to misunderstand if you don't know each other this. A stranger making derogatory remarks with a clever look on face usually is rather irritating."
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""It's just banter" seems to be said a lot.
When does it stop being banter and start being offensive? Who is the judge?
Do you think people need to be less touchy or do you take responsibility if you offend someone?
Do you ever use "banter" to make a point in an underhand way? "
It's only banter if both people see it that way. It stops being banter when it crosses the line in to bullying and I believe that people are very well aware of that but hide behind the laddish bants facade. At once being nasty to the person and implying that they don't understand humour.
I think people need to be less touchy but not in this situation. I will take responsibility if I've offended someone. |
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'It's just banter' is practically synonymous with 'I was only joking' and 'Where's your sense of humour' ... and are defensive responses from those who've been called out for being mean or spiteful.
You don't need to point out the bleeding obvious when *genuine* good natured banter is taking place between friends! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The5es having a laugh with friends and making fun of each other.That can be funny.
Then there's crossing the line and some do use the word banter as a excuse for crossing that line and going to far x |
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Banter is all well and good between people who know each other well and understand it is said without any malice, I have told people before that they don’t know me well enough to talk to me like that  |
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There's a guy who used to live in the same block of flats as me, and since he has moved up to Chesterfield we keep in touch and take the piss out of each other via texts. I think I'll have to upgrade him from Text Buddy to Banter Buddy  |
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""It's just banter" seems to be said a lot.
When does it stop being banter and start being offensive? Who is the judge?
Do you think people need to be less touchy or do you take responsibility if you offend someone?
Do you ever use "banter" to make a point in an underhand way? "
I think people use the word "banter" to to excuse being rude or offensive.
To me, banter is a type of jokey insult that is exchanged between people who know each other well enough to be sure that no offence will be caused... it's not an excuse for being a knob.
Cal |
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"The word "banter" offends me as much as "panties"
Shudder ...
Anyone that uses it obviously has a beard and a man bun and is under 30 
BANTS!"
NOOOOOOOOOO!
Are you the shadow I think you are?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The word "banter" offends me as much as "panties"
Shudder ...
Anyone that uses it obviously has a beard and a man bun and is under 30
BANTS!
NOOOOOOOOOO!
Are you the shadow I think you are?
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Ha yes, it’s me! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The word "banter" offends me as much as "panties"
Shudder ...
Anyone that uses it obviously has a beard and a man bun and is under 30
BANTS!
NOOOOOOOOOO!
Are you the shadow I think you are?
Ha yes, it’s me! X"
Welcome back gorgeous x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The word "banter" offends me as much as "panties"
Shudder ...
Anyone that uses it obviously has a beard and a man bun and is under 30
BANTS!
NOOOOOOOOOO!
Are you the shadow I think you are?
Ha yes, it’s me! X
Welcome back gorgeous x"
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""It's just banter" seems to be said a lot.
When does it stop being banter and start being offensive? Who is the judge?
Do you think people need to be less touchy or do you take responsibility if you offend someone?
Do you ever use "banter" to make a point in an underhand way?
I think people use the word "banter" to to excuse being rude or offensive.
To me, banter is a type of jokey insult that is exchanged between people who know each other well enough to be sure that no offence will be caused... it's not an excuse for being a knob.
Cal"
Spot on , a wink , or a green smiley emoji can’t cover up what’s often a distinctly rude or offensive remark |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Banter is this "  "
To friends it is totally inoffensive
But do it to someone you don't know and it's likely to lead to a block "
. very true. I think if some of the thibgs close friends and I have said to one another over the years. .. to anyone else they would be shockibg and poor taste. Within that friendship it's a source of entertainment and comradeship. Yet i think most people with emotional and social intelligence would not use the same language outside of those 'cliques'. And that's where you find the twats. |
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