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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Of course I do. The other guy is vanilla. That's the thing. "
I had sex with my partner's friend and partner as a Christmas present to him. We were all vanilla. I doubt I would have done it on holiday, except perhaps at the end. If it didn't work out it would ruin the holiday.
We split about 6 months later and I did wonder if acquiescence to his desire for me to do that played a part.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't quite believe I'm having to type this but:
If you don't want to fuck someone, don't fuck them. Don't allow other people to coerce you into sex no matter who they are. "
Great to have a White Knight in....
OP said she doesn't mind !
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"I can't quite believe I'm having to type this but:
If you don't want to fuck someone, don't fuck them. Don't allow other people to coerce you into sex no matter who they are.
Great to have a White Knight in....
OP said she doesn't mind !
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How on earth is it "white Knighting" to advise someone to avoid being coerced into sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I actually want to fuck him, he has fancied me for 25 years. I'm just wondering about the repercussions with a vanilla guy actually. "
Is it worth risking a 25 year friendship? Vanilla types can behave oddly. |
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"I actually want to fuck him, he has fancied me for 25 years. I'm just wondering about the repercussions with a vanilla guy actually. "
Repercussions could be you fuck him on day one, neither of you really enjoy it, the rest of the holiday is ruined, your husband loses a friend.
Or you all thoroughly enjoy it and live happily ever after.
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"I actually want to fuck him, he has fancied me for 25 years. I'm just wondering about the repercussions with a vanilla guy actually. "
He's a man... vanilla or not. What repercussions might there be? |
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By *cot611Man
over a year ago
carterton |
Jayne Here's my early morning thoughts for you. I see how your husband would like to watch you and feel proud that his friends find you attractive, he's obviously a decent fella that knows the importance of sharing but I think you should in this case only agree to go as far with his friend add he is willing to go himself. A kiss for a kiss etc. What's good for the goose and all that. Will also help you keep some control of the situation and feel more relaxed. |
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"I don't know. That's the point. X"
If the guy has no idea of what you're planning I don't think it's fair. I think any repercussions would be recuced if you actually spoke to him about it as a couple and took it from there.
You said he fancies you but that is a far cry from fucking you in front of your husband. |
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"I actually want to fuck him, he has fancied me for 25 years. I'm just wondering about the repercussions with a vanilla guy actually. "
No no no no .you can fuck anyone you fancy .but finding a 25 year friendship is rare to find and is a good fuck worth destroying the trust built up over 25 years  |
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If you are going to do it, do it for you not to,please hubby.
If it’s just so he can watch you would be better off with someone at a club.
Less likelihood of any attachment issues after the event.  |
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"Of course I do. The other guy is vanilla. That's the thing.
I had sex with my partner's friend and partner as a Christmas present to him. We were all vanilla. I doubt I would have done it on holiday, except perhaps at the end. If it didn't work out it would ruin the holiday.
We split about 6 months later and I did wonder if acquiescence to his desire for me to do that played a part.
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I am tempted to slide to your suspicion. Sometimes we let our desires run away with us without considering the consequences. Your (ex) partner may have imagined how it would make him feel in his head, but, he forgot reality is often more brutal than mere imaginations.
Hope you've moved on by the way. |
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By *RayMan
over a year ago
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"If you are going to do it, do it for you not to,please hubby.
If it’s just so he can watch you would be better off with someone at a club.
Less likelihood of any attachment issues after the event. "
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Are you both not worried incase thing's go tits up,what if the guy forms feelings for you after sex. Is it not a bit to close to home,what if it gets awkward for your husband when he fucks you better than he does,he may get jealous.
Who knows it could be great and he moves in and you all live happily ever after... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Next month me. My husband and his best friend go on holiday, my husband wants me to fuck him, I don't mind. Give me some advice. X"
Wear Sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
Sunscreen would be it
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists. |
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Consider him, his feelings and situation, where he's solo with a couple for a holiday. And don't forget yourself op, as it's not your husband having sex with him.
Holidays should be great for us but it sounds like he could be set-up for an uncomfortable holiday, under pressure. Consider such an encounter whilst you are all more free, on home ground. |
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Have you asked your husband why he wants you to fuck him?
Is he hoping to watch? Join in?
I think there's a huge potential for things to go wrong and unless you've got a huge urge to fuck this mate I'd avoid it if I was you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Next month me. My husband and his best friend go on holiday, my husband wants me to fuck him, I don't mind. Give me some advice. X"
Well he is your husband, legally you're allowed to fuck him |
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Sorry that had to be said, go on holiday, pick a stranger, fuck him in front of hubby, keep your friend as a friend, don't open that particular can of worms. 