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"I think you could be with someone for quite a while before finding they're always vanilla. Whereas if you start off on a similar page, it could be a big success ... relationship-wise"
I agree in some ways but what happens "when you are old and grey and full of sleep"?
I think being 100% honest from day one about the non negotiable aspects of any relationship you're getting in to is a good thing though. |
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"Does one think there are many on fab who want a 'proper' relationship, albeit with a bit of a kinkster? Seems logical, as one would be assured of at least some compatibility, wouldn't one?  "
Sure there are, me among them, I have always been upfront about that, but it doesn't stop me enjoying myself 'meanwhile'!   |
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Guessing quite a few. At least on here you can see if sexual compatibility is possible as well as what you would usually look for in a prospective partner. Not the sort of thing you can bring into conversation on general dating sites lol |
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"Indeed there are, there are many people who are open about finding a sexual liberated person to share adventures with."
I agree. I would love to find a full on lifetime partner on here where we share an adventurous sex life. One to make the most of what’s left. Keep it up as long as possible ( pun intended) mutual pleasure and fun with likeminded. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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There certainly seems to be more singles looking for love on here than there ever used to be. Im not entirely sure its the place to look for love when others may be just here for nsa fun, the mixture of the two groups too often leads to heartbreak. Thats not to say love cant be found, we are proof of that. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Plenty, but honesty about what they want is mentioned frequently around the forum. I don’t condone dishonesty but I appreciate why ppl are reluctant to say what they really want  "
This absolutely dont be charmed by the charmer!!!
Im not sure I'm specifically looking for anything, but I'm not refusing anything interesting either. I'm definitely not looking for a standard relationship, that's all I'm really certain of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We didn't want proper relationship, then I've fallen in love, then Cute realised he wants me too and here we are. Also Cute is a lot more kinky since he's with me and I love it. So it's possible to find a proper relationship on here, even when you don't know you're looking for one.
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I wasn't looking but I'm a little smitten by some dick of a sir that it just seems to make sense with. Caught me completely unaware. Wouldn't change it even though it's scary at times to feel that falling feeling. So even when you aren't looking it can happen. I think it's as good a place as any to find someone you click with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. Clearly stated in my profile, but I like people to be upfront from the off in what they're either looking for/openminded about. Apart from club meets I generally chat for a good while before meeting up anyway. Had some lovely cherished FWB off here so am hopeful eventually I'll find my proper partner. The other beauty about meeting off here is you can be honest about your kinks from the start, and see how things develop over time. |
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I'm not closed to it nor am I seaking it. If it comes my way and it feels right yes why not but for me it seams relationships just don't work. Think I've been single to long and to set in my ways now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m very open to it also and say so on my profile. Fab is not the only place I’m on but keeping an open mind that my kinky future lifetime partner is out there somewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im starting to think its what I want. But I need to know im sexually compatable with someone before investing emotionally with someone. (10 year relationship with someone I wasn't really compatable with. My fwb is pretty much prefect for me but I know he doesn't see me that way. So yes! Id love a relationship (cuck ideally  ) with a fellow kinkster! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im starting to think its what I want. But I need to know im sexually compatable with someone before investing emotionally with someone. (10 year relationship with someone I wasn't really compatable with. My fwb is pretty much prefect for me but I know he doesn't see me that way. So yes! Id love a relationship (cuck ideally ) with a fellow kinkster! "
Sounds like my life. 10 years with a great man but not sexually compatible and my on off fwb of 18 months wants kids etc and I don’t so was never going to be compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im starting to think its what I want. But I need to know im sexually compatable with someone before investing emotionally with someone. (10 year relationship with someone I wasn't really compatable with. My fwb is pretty much prefect for me but I know he doesn't see me that way. So yes! Id love a relationship (cuck ideally ) with a fellow kinkster!
Sounds like my life. 10 years with a great man but not sexually compatible and my on off fwb of 18 months wants kids etc and I don’t so was never going to be compatible. "
My on/off FWB turned out to be in a (hidden) long term relationship  winner  onwards and upwards for us all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im starting to think its what I want. But I need to know im sexually compatable with someone before investing emotionally with someone. (10 year relationship with someone I wasn't really compatable with. My fwb is pretty much prefect for me but I know he doesn't see me that way. So yes! Id love a relationship (cuck ideally ) with a fellow kinkster!
Sounds like my life. 10 years with a great man but not sexually compatible and my on off fwb of 18 months wants kids etc and I don’t so was never going to be compatible.
My on/off FWB turned out to be in a (hidden) long term relationship winner onwards and upwards for us all!"
Yes, fingers crossed. Sorry to hear about that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been advised to leave here, join POF and hide any hint of a naughty past. I can't imagine having to do that to find a partner but then finding an honest available man on here is a long shot (yes I've been burnt by a 'hidden' relationship too). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been advised to leave here, join POF and hide any hint of a naughty past. I can't imagine having to do that to find a partner but then finding an honest available man on here is a long shot (yes I've been burnt by a 'hidden' relationship too). "
it ruins the faith you have in your judgement of character doesn't it? I think it's a risk wherever you meet though, at least on here the misogynists who are frightened by sexually confident women are easily filtered out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im starting to think its what I want. But I need to know im sexually compatable with someone before investing emotionally with someone. (10 year relationship with someone I wasn't really compatable with. My fwb is pretty much prefect for me but I know he doesn't see me that way. So yes! Id love a relationship (cuck ideally ) with a fellow kinkster!
Sounds like my life. 10 years with a great man but not sexually compatible and my on off fwb of 18 months wants kids etc and I don’t so was never going to be compatible.
My on/off FWB turned out to be in a (hidden) long term relationship winner onwards and upwards for us all!
Yes, fingers crossed. Sorry to hear about that x"
Thank you lovely.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does one think there are many on fab who want a 'proper' relationship, albeit with a bit of a kinkster? Seems logical, as one would be assured of at least some compatibility, wouldn't one? "
Yes, me! And I’m clear on my profile that I am. And I’m hoping I might have found someone to investigate the potential of this with, and we met on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, me! And I’m clear on my profile that I am. And I’m hoping I might have found someone to investigate the potential of this with, and we met on here. "
Exciting times... Good luck x |
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"Does one think there are many on fab who want a 'proper' relationship, albeit with a bit of a kinkster? Seems logical, as one would be assured of at least some compatibility, wouldn't one?
Yes, me! And I’m clear on my profile that I am. And I’m hoping I might have found someone to investigate the potential of this with, and we met on here. "
I say: well done old thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can say with evidence that their are lots and lots in here looking for a ‘relationship of sorts’.
The ratio is debatable, but I think with the amount of single profiles, you’ll be more likely to find another single than anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would live to find something more serious on here!
Atleast you then know the person is more open about sex and experimentation and that to me is a huge part of a relationship |
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I’m sure there are MANY who come on fab looking for sex, but needing something more. And eventually start looking for just that! I would wish them all the very very best of luck, after all, it’s unlike any dating site... where else would you get to “check them out” naked etc before actually meeting! Lol
Being compatible with potential partner sexually is so important, and I guess here you’d find that fairly quickly... initial lust is what brings us all together in the first place doesn’t it...
It’s a hard one to judge however, meeting on such a site, would you fully ever be able to trust that they don’t have a secret profile still if you were to enter into what you had hoped was a monogamous Relationship.
Rose coloured glasses makes me say, I really do hope that those people do find what they’re looking for in here... at the very least, have fun trying!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m sure there are MANY who come on fab looking for sex, but needing something more. And eventually start looking for just that! I would wish them all the very very best of luck, after all, it’s unlike any dating site... where else would you get to “check them out” naked etc before actually meeting! Lol
Being compatible with potential partner sexually is so important, and I guess here you’d find that fairly quickly... initial lust is what brings us all together in the first place doesn’t it...
It’s a hard one to judge however, meeting on such a site, would you fully ever be able to trust that they don’t have a secret profile still if you were to enter into what you had hoped was a monogamous Relationship.
Rose coloured glasses makes me say, I really do hope that those people do find what they’re looking for in here... at the very least, have fun trying!!! "
One of my reasons for looking on here is because ideally I'd like any future relationship to include swinging together. Not everyone wants a monogamous relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m sure there are MANY who come on fab looking for sex, but needing something more. And eventually start looking for just that! I would wish them all the very very best of luck, after all, it’s unlike any dating site... where else would you get to “check them out” naked etc before actually meeting! Lol
Being compatible with potential partner sexually is so important, and I guess here you’d find that fairly quickly... initial lust is what brings us all together in the first place doesn’t it...
It’s a hard one to judge however, meeting on such a site, would you fully ever be able to trust that they don’t have a secret profile still if you were to enter into what you had hoped was a monogamous Relationship.
Rose coloured glasses makes me say, I really do hope that those people do find what they’re looking for in here... at the very least, have fun trying!!! "
Well said |
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"I’m sure there are MANY who come on fab looking for sex, but needing something more. And eventually start looking for just that! I would wish them all the very very best of luck, after all, it’s unlike any dating site... where else would you get to “check them out” naked etc before actually meeting! Lol
Being compatible with potential partner sexually is so important, and I guess here you’d find that fairly quickly... initial lust is what brings us all together in the first place doesn’t it...
It’s a hard one to judge however, meeting on such a site, would you fully ever be able to trust that they don’t have a secret profile still if you were to enter into what you had hoped was a monogamous Relationship.
Rose coloured glasses makes me say, I really do hope that those people do find what they’re looking for in here... at the very least, have fun trying!!!
One of my reasons for looking on here is because ideally I'd like any future relationship to include swinging together. Not everyone wants a monogamous relationship "
And that’s great, I was referring to the op’s “proper relationship “ quote. And if a swinging partner relationship is what your looking for I wish you all the very best of luck finding that honey, I was presuming the OP was referring to the happy ever after scenario.... I have my happy ever after man, we were together for 15 years before we discovered swinging, and it has enhanced our relationship on and very off for the last 10 years, we dip in and out as we feel we want to. I personally feel very lucky to have both in my life, and I would wish anyone the very same in their lives.... swinging is great! Horny as arse at times, but it’s also nice to have that one connection that lasts throughout and past the fleeting ones we encounter from time to time x |
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"I’m sure there are MANY who come on fab looking for sex, but needing something more. And eventually start looking for just that! I would wish them all the very very best of luck, after all, it’s unlike any dating site... where else would you get to “check them out” naked etc before actually meeting! Lol
Being compatible with potential partner sexually is so important, and I guess here you’d find that fairly quickly... initial lust is what brings us all together in the first place doesn’t it...
It’s a hard one to judge however, meeting on such a site, would you fully ever be able to trust that they don’t have a secret profile still if you were to enter into what you had hoped was a monogamous Relationship.
Rose coloured glasses makes me say, I really do hope that those people do find what they’re looking for in here... at the very least, have fun trying!!!
Well said "
Thankyou x best wishes x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I did meet someone off fab started off as just a meet.. we met again and ended up Falling madly in love... the sex was out of this world but unfortunately he turned out to be a cheating lying b**tard... and broke my heart...
So unfortunately my cynical side would find it hard to fully trust one someone from here for a relationship again even though it would be great to be open and honest about the kink side... although the same could happen off any of the other dating sites!!!
So I guess it depends on the individuals... never say never... and if it’s what they want!! X |
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"I did meet someone off fab started off as just a meet.. we met again and ended up Falling madly in love... the sex was out of this world but unfortunately he turned out to be a cheating lying b**tard... and broke my heart...
So unfortunately my cynical side would find it hard to fully trust one someone from here for a relationship again even though it would be great to be open and honest about the kink side... although the same could happen off any of the other dating sites!!!
So I guess it depends on the individuals... never say never... and if it’s what they want!! X"
That's most unfortunate, but could happen with literally anyone - not just someone off a swinger site x |
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A relationship just for tonight would be a start. Instead I'm sat in a pub car park in a extremely flash Q7 shame it's broke down but at least I'm taking a rather large wedge out of this stuck up pricks wallet. Funny old thing life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think from all the recent ‘dating’ threads etc that some people do want to find relationship... although to different people that means different things...
I think it’s been open to things and to people... and being honest about what you would like! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im starting to think its what I want. But I need to know im sexually compatable with someone before investing emotionally with someone. (10 year relationship with someone I wasn't really compatable with. My fwb is pretty much prefect for me but I know he doesn't see me that way. So yes! Id love a relationship (cuck ideally ) with a fellow kinkster! "
Turns out he did! |
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"Im starting to think its what I want. But I need to know im sexually compatable with someone before investing emotionally with someone. (10 year relationship with someone I wasn't really compatable with. My fwb is pretty much prefect for me but I know he doesn't see me that way. So yes! Id love a relationship (cuck ideally ) with a fellow kinkster!
Turns out he did! "
Awwwww that’s wonderful |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
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looking for someone to share a connection with yes and hopefully a great friendship too. As to whether I want a relationship, that's another matter entirely -to be honest it would be nice but it is something that usually happens organically.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it happens it happens, that’s life, usually when you least expect it "
I do think that’s kind of key, I’m often reminded of a quote; “if you search for happiness the long will it elude you. But if you busy yourself about other things, then; when you least expect it, happiness will come and sit quietly on your shoulder.”
I often think that it’s true of many things in life... |
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By *ediMan
over a year ago
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"I think you could be with someone for quite a while before finding they're always vanilla. Whereas if you start off on a similar page, it could be a big success ... relationship-wise
I agree in some ways but what happens "when you are old and grey and full of sleep"?
I think being 100% honest from day one about the non negotiable aspects of any relationship you're getting in to is a good thing though."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does one think there are many on fab who want a 'proper' relationship, albeit with a bit of a kinkster? Seems logical, as one would be assured of at least some compatibility, wouldn't one? "
One would but think about it most if not all human beings love sex at some point so here or there makes no difference really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would be the ideal for me, hopefully meet someone amazing x
Amazing is a dream surely "
I'm amazing. I may not be amazing in the way women want, but I'm still amazing |
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I’ve had a couple of messages since being here, telling me I should be looking on other websites for what I’m seeking. However I do find the people here more sexually liberated and I think there is every chance I may find a long term kink heavy relationship.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Myself and M met on here. Made things much easier when it came to the kinky side of sex. None of those awkward conversations. Best of all I’ve found a best friend, soul mate and someone I love with all my heart.
L x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Would be the ideal for me, hopefully meet someone amazing x
Amazing is a dream surely
I'm amazing. I may not be amazing in the way women want, but I'm still amazing
Everyone is amazing in their own special way |
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