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over a year ago
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I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now 
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Work stress is horrid, especially as we all need our jobs and simply walking away is rarely possible.
I have no advice but hope you get it sorted soon x"
Thank you! I adore my job, absolutely love it. It’s just this ongoing situation with one member of staff that’s making everything so bad. And I’m determined not to leave - I left my last job because of my manager, I’m not leaving this one for the same reason. Plus, I love the kids too much x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Work related stress is the devil, I've suffered this badly in the past. You have to realise that it's work and you cannot let it get to you. Easier said than done I know but if it gets that bad then leave. No job is worth risking health for. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a stress book .. anything my anxiety kicks off at I write in the book and slam the cover shut and shut it in a drawer. Then have a cuppa. It works for me  "
Im doing something similar - I take notes of how my morning shift went, and then my afternoon shift. What I felt went well, what I could have done better (difficult - I’m perfect ) and what I would like to change. Helps a bit, and keeps me up to date in case I need evidence for my manager (which I often do) and it keeps me right x |
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely "
If it hasn't already been done ask for a stress risk assessment to be completed, your employer has a duty of care to you.
Lots of great information about managing stress on Minds website that may help you. Hope it works out for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely "
have you spoken to this person? management? if someone else has asked these questions im sorry, hope all turns out well x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes management is aware - my managers, manager, has given me her number so I can chat to her at any time. But it’s a situation that has been on going for years - however I only joined the service in July 2017. We actually have an outside agency doing an inspection soon - we get sent out questionnaires and there is a comments box, which I have filled with all my concerns, complaints and worries, so I’m hoping this will speed up the process.
Just feel like I’m moaning all the time at home. Hubby doesn’t mind at all, he understands, but it just makes me feel so negative! |
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over a year ago
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Hot baths, jacuzzis, floating in a pool if you've got access to one, massage, going for walks in "nature", easy exercise bike work for 20 minutes followed by loads of stretching.
They all help to shut down any stress response you're going through.
Get your cortisol levels checked too, if you wake up in the middle of the night they may be high.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I don't have any advise except from wine I'm afraid.
I've been highly stressed for the last 7 months due to my home literally falling apart!
How I have not had a breakdown yet is beyond me, and to top it off, I was flooded during the last cold spell, I had a troop of firemen in my flat at 3.30am, my flooring and carpets were soaked through, they turned the water off at the mains, so I had to arrange for a plumber in the morning to come and switch my water back on. Has my work been supportive? Have they fuck, they have made me take the day as annual leave, but I am fighting it.
Sometimes you just have to find the strength from somewhere and hope for the best  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't have any advise except from wine I'm afraid.
I've been highly stressed for the last 7 months due to my home literally falling apart!
How I have not had a breakdown yet is beyond me, and to top it off, I was flooded during the last cold spell, I had a troop of firemen in my flat at 3.30am, my flooring and carpets were soaked through, they turned the water off at the mains, so I had to arrange for a plumber in the morning to come and switch my water back on. Has my work been supportive? Have they fuck, they have made me take the day as annual leave, but I am fighting it.
Sometimes you just have to find the strength from somewhere and hope for the best "
Oh fuck - that’s awful! God your problems seem so much worse compared to mine. I hope you get everything sorted soon - and that you succeed in your battle with the annual leave BS!
Unfortunately I don’t like wine - might have to move straight on to the gin... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hot baths, jacuzzis, floating in a pool if you've got access to one, massage, going for walks in "nature", easy exercise bike work for 20 minutes followed by loads of stretching.
They all help to shut down any stress response you're going through.
Get your cortisol levels checked too, if you wake up in the middle of the night they may be high.
Hope this helps."
Thank you! I actually go to a boxing class, so punching helps me releave some of this stress  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Stand up if they are talking to you whilst you are sat. If you are working, advise you'll get back in a moment. If they email, don't open it until you have time to respond as it may have a 'time seen' returned to them. If there are any meetings ask if you can have notes, it's a statutory right. If a conversation is getting tricky take stock and realise they probably fucked over 100 others before you. |
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"Stand up if they are talking to you whilst you are sat. If you are working, advise you'll get back in a moment. If they email, don't open it until you have time to respond as it may have a 'time seen' returned to them. If there are any meetings ask if you can have notes, it's a statutory right. If a conversation is getting tricky take stock and realise they probably fucked over 100 others before you. "
And you’re right - they have fucked over 100 others before me. I’m determined not to be number 101! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meditation....I'm a bit of a fanatical convert, I've had some issues around managing work induced stress and I downloaded the 'head space' app. I'm a month in now, I've bought the companion book and for me personally it's made a real difference. I'm also getting some lovely support from some lovely people on here in relation to a specific issue. So if I can help in any way or you want to chat about my meditation experience feel to say hi ! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't have any advise except from wine I'm afraid.
I've been highly stressed for the last 7 months due to my home literally falling apart!
How I have not had a breakdown yet is beyond me, and to top it off, I was flooded during the last cold spell, I had a troop of firemen in my flat at 3.30am, my flooring and carpets were soaked through, they turned the water off at the mains, so I had to arrange for a plumber in the morning to come and switch my water back on. Has my work been supportive? Have they fuck, they have made me take the day as annual leave, but I am fighting it.
Sometimes you just have to find the strength from somewhere and hope for the best
Oh fuck - that’s awful! God your problems seem so much worse compared to mine. I hope you get everything sorted soon - and that you succeed in your battle with the annual leave BS!
Unfortunately I don’t like wine - might have to move straight on to the gin..."
I'm sure that will work as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Meditation....I'm a bit of a fanatical convert, I've had some issues around managing work induced stress and I downloaded the 'head space' app. I'm a month in now, I've bought the companion book and for me personally it's made a real difference. I'm also getting some lovely support from some lovely people on here in relation to a specific issue. So if I can help in any way or you want to chat about my meditation experience feel to say hi ! "
Oh I will definitely look into that! |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Eat healthy. Up the green veg and chicken as they contain a substance that help you deal with stress (tryptophan if I recall).
Relaxation. Try those adult colouring in books. It helps take your mind off what is stressing you. Do some deep breathing and relaxing your body.
Have a massage or pleasant warm bath with candles and relaxing music.
Do some exercise and get rid of the tension.
I hope that management sort put the situation. Is there anyone else at work you can talk to about it.
If you cannot change the situation, then you need to change how you react to it.
I use to teach stress management, so contact me if you want to talk privately x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Eat healthy. Up the green veg and chicken as they contain a substance that help you deal with stress (tryptophan if I recall).
Relaxation. Try those adult colouring in books. It helps take your mind off what is stressing you. Do some deep breathing and relaxing your body.
Have a massage or pleasant warm bath with candles and relaxing music.
Do some exercise and get rid of the tension.
I hope that management sort put the situation. Is there anyone else at work you can talk to about it.
If you cannot change the situation, then you need to change how you react to it.
I use to teach stress management, so contact me if you want to talk privately x"
I speak with another member of staff about the situation - well, we moan. She’s going through it too - but she only does the morning shift, so doesn’t put up with it as much as I do. And thank you for the advice! Think I’ll hunt out my Harry Potter colouring book and run myself a bath, see if I can chill for the night xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I try my absolute best to let things wash straight over me.
Stress is the biggest trigger for me in flaring my Crohn’s disease back up, I taught myself to completely zone out and go into auto pilot when things get stressful.
I go for regular massage and walks with the dog if I want to clear my head and just chill out.
And never underestimate the helpfulness of doing nothing. Just chill out on the sofa at home with some music or a book.
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"I try my absolute best to let things wash straight over me.
Stress is the biggest trigger for me in flaring my Crohn’s disease back up, I taught myself to completely zone out and go into auto pilot when things get stressful.
I go for regular massage and walks with the dog if I want to clear my head and just chill out.
And never underestimate the helpfulness of doing nothing. Just chill out on the sofa at home with some music or a book.
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I’ve got four wee dogs so I take them out during the day in between my shifts at work, and then in the evening with my hubby . |
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely "
Workplace stress is terrible, I suffered myself a few years ago.
Best advice I can give you is taljk to someone, a friend, anyone that'll listen. It doesnt matter if you "just seem to be moaning" all the time.
Its best (for me at least) to get it out.
For me, just talking to someone who would simply listen was a huge help.
My GP was awesome, my counsellor was OK, my employer was a cnut.
Good luck with it, the good thing is, you'll come out of it stronger.
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely
Workplace stress is terrible, I suffered myself a few years ago.
Best advice I can give you is taljk to someone, a friend, anyone that'll listen. It doesnt matter if you "just seem to be moaning" all the time.
Its best (for me at least) to get it out.
For me, just talking to someone who would simply listen was a huge help.
My GP was awesome, my counsellor was OK, my employer was a cnut.
Good luck with it, the good thing is, you'll come out of it stronger.
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Thank you so much. I used to see a therapist last year but I’m ‘all better’ now  . Moaning to my hubby, who due to another situation and his family is now signed off work, so I feel like I’m dragging him down some days. I have two work friends who I can moan too and they understand because they are also going through it and moaning - and it does make me feel better! X |
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"Meditation....I'm a bit of a fanatical convert, I've had some issues around managing work induced stress and I downloaded the 'head space' app. I'm a month in now, I've bought the companion book and for me personally it's made a real difference. I'm also getting some lovely support from some lovely people on here in relation to a specific issue. So if I can help in any way or you want to chat about my meditation experience feel to say hi ! "
Ditto. My life has changed so much since starting to meditate. There are a million and one resources, but UCLA MARC have some free guided meditations which are good. Jon Kabat Zinn's stuff is supposed to be really good too.
You still have to deal with the stuff, but being with your body in the present moment means you can train yourself to let it go sometimes.
It can also heighten physical sensations. I keep meaning to try it during sex |
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Before September I was working 40h a week (fairly stressful job) and studying full time for 4 years. That stress was released when I got to the gym and just took it out on the wights. |
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"Before September I was working 40h a week (fairly stressful job) and studying full time for 4 years. That stress was released when I got to the gym and just took it out on the wights. "
I used to work 50 hours and eventually got signed off due to stress and depression (amongst a whole lot of other things) which is why I currently only work 22.5 hours a week - I don’t think I could mentally handle anything more than that. I do a boxing class and do excercise at home, I go for walks and jogs which does work, to a degree |
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"Before September I was working 40h a week (fairly stressful job) and studying full time for 4 years. That stress was released when I got to the gym and just took it out on the wights.
I used to work 50 hours and eventually got signed off due to stress and depression (amongst a whole lot of other things) which is why I currently only work 22.5 hours a week - I don’t think I could mentally handle anything more than that. I do a boxing class and do excercise at home, I go for walks and jogs which does work, to a degree "
Have you thought about taking the jogging out and being more intense in the gym?
Stress, anger and frustration can make you work harder in the gym and can work as a stress reliever. Thats what it did for me. |
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely "
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Write it down - write down what you like and why. Do a SWOT analysis of yourself. Think about small achievable changes that could make you happier and things easier. Try not to stress about the big stuff you can’t change. Go to the beach. Very relaxing. |
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"Before September I was working 40h a week (fairly stressful job) and studying full time for 4 years. That stress was released when I got to the gym and just took it out on the wights.
I used to work 50 hours and eventually got signed off due to stress and depression (amongst a whole lot of other things) which is why I currently only work 22.5 hours a week - I don’t think I could mentally handle anything more than that. I do a boxing class and do excercise at home, I go for walks and jogs which does work, to a degree
Have you thought about taking the jogging out and being more intense in the gym?
Stress, anger and frustration can make you work harder in the gym and can work as a stress reliever. Thats what it did for me. "
These kinds of things are sometimes a double edged sword. Before I injured myself I'd started getting into quite hard workouts and was pushing myself with weight lifting. And yes, absolutely it works. But if you're already exhausted and overwhelmed, even thinking about doing it is too much, and you don't see the results straight away (so it might get worse before it gets better).
I'm very much a convert to the gym (and am looking forward to returning when my injury allows), but it won't work for everyone and it's an investment in energy not everyone can make. |
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"Write it down - write down what you like and why. Do a SWOT analysis of yourself. Think about small achievable changes that could make you happier and things easier. Try not to stress about the big stuff you can’t change. Go to the beach. Very relaxing. "
Oooh, will do x |
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There are quite a few things you can try but they take practice.
Wipe your feet at your front door, imagine you are wiping the stress away. You leave your stress outside.
Grounding. 5 things you can see. 4 things you can feel. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste. Say them out loud.
Think about your stress on the way home. Thinking that the closer you get to home the further away you are, imagine the stress getting smaller.
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"There are quite a few things you can try but they take practice.
Wipe your feet at your front door, imagine you are wiping the stress away. You leave your stress outside.
Grounding. 5 things you can see. 4 things you can feel. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste. Say them out loud.
Think about your stress on the way home. Thinking that the closer you get to home the further away you are, imagine the stress getting smaller.
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Oh I do the grounding thing already! Was told to do that last year by my therapist. But I will 100% try the other things too! |
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"Have you tried mindfulness. Helps me a great deal xx
I second using this.
I've just recently found out about it, in my second week of using it.
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Oh what is it? X |
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"Have you tried mindfulness. Helps me a great deal xx
I second using this.
I've just recently found out about it, in my second week of using it.
Oh what is it? X"
At its most very basic, focus on your breathing. The physical sensations of your breath going in and out of your nose or mouth. When you get distracted, which you will, bring yourself back to the breathing without judgement. It's a practice. It can be used to separate yourself from your feelings so you can realise that they're temporary and part of your experience, to allow you to, as they say, live in the present moment. |
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"Have you tried mindfulness. Helps me a great deal xx
I second using this.
I've just recently found out about it, in my second week of using it.
Oh what is it? X
At its most very basic, focus on your breathing. The physical sensations of your breath going in and out of your nose or mouth. When you get distracted, which you will, bring yourself back to the breathing without judgement. It's a practice. It can be used to separate yourself from your feelings so you can realise that they're temporary and part of your experience, to allow you to, as they say, live in the present moment. "
I shall try it x |
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"There are quite a few things you can try but they take practice.
Wipe your feet at your front door, imagine you are wiping the stress away. You leave your stress outside.
Grounding. 5 things you can see. 4 things you can feel. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste. Say them out loud.
Think about your stress on the way home. Thinking that the closer you get to home the further away you are, imagine the stress getting smaller.
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That’s a good one. Visualisation can work well. It creates different neuron paths in your brain. |
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Firstly you have management involved, so that helps.
Ask if the company has an employee assistance program in place, if they do use it.
For me I try to switch off from work, I try to leave work issues behind. In all honesty it works sometimes. I also find if you have something that you enjoy doing, wether it is helps me to have something to concentrate on when out of work, a hobby, past time or interest. |
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"Write it down - write down what you like and why. Do a SWOT analysis of yourself. Think about small achievable changes that could make you happier and things easier. Try not to stress about the big stuff you can’t change. Go to the beach. Very relaxing. "
*this!!! |
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely
Workplace stress is terrible, I suffered myself a few years ago.
Best advice I can give you is taljk to someone, a friend, anyone that'll listen. It doesnt matter if you "just seem to be moaning" all the time.
Its best (for me at least) to get it out.
For me, just talking to someone who would simply listen was a huge help.
My GP was awesome, my counsellor was OK, my employer was a cnut.
Good luck with it, the good thing is, you'll come out of it stronger.
Thank you so much. I used to see a therapist last year but I’m ‘all better’ now . Moaning to my hubby, who due to another situation and his family is now signed off work, so I feel like I’m dragging him down some days. I have two work friends who I can moan too and they understand because they are also going through it and moaning - and it does make me feel better! X"
There are plenty of people on fab who have or currently suffer from stress and/or depression.
Your fellow Fabbers can be a great support network.
Whilst everyones situation is different, we at least have an inkling of what you are going through and can be a sounding board, for bright ideas or a great ranty moany whinge.
no-ones going to turn their back on you, or judge you because we are like minded souls.
You're among friends here. |
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"I try my absolute best to let things wash straight over me.
Stress is the biggest trigger for me in flaring my Crohn’s disease back up, I taught myself to completely zone out and go into auto pilot when things get stressful.
I go for regular massage and walks with the dog if I want to clear my head and just chill out.
And never underestimate the helpfulness of doing nothing. Just chill out on the sofa at home with some music or a book.
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Hi Guys, I’ve Crohns also. And stressed. How do you cope |
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Hi folks. I just seen this topic. I’m
Reallly stressed In work. I simply cannot break
It. I’m not sleeping. My sex drive is gone. Its down to one person. He’s been in the company near 20 years. He’s very career driven and excellent at his job. He checks everything I do. I do it not bad but I need help and guidance from him and when I approach him for help he just says “ have you read all the back up documents”. If I answer yes and he finds something I’ve missed he belittlles me. If I say no I’ve not read them he says “ go read the documents”.. I’ve spoke to boss/owner of company and I’ve got a few replies. One being “ oh he’s rubbed a lot of ppl up the wrong way over the years” or “ that’s him don’t take it personal”.. I’m completely lost. My minds drained |
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"Hi folks. I just seen this topic. I’m
Reallly stressed In work. I simply cannot break
It. I’m not sleeping. My sex drive is gone. Its down to one person. He’s been in the company near 20 years. He’s very career driven and excellent at his job. He checks everything I do. I do it not bad but I need help and guidance from him and when I approach him for help he just says “ have you read all the back up documents”. If I answer yes and he finds something I’ve missed he belittlles me. If I say no I’ve not read them he says “ go read the documents”.. I’ve spoke to boss/owner of company and I’ve got a few replies. One being “ oh he’s rubbed a lot of ppl up the wrong way over the years” or “ that’s him don’t take it personal”.. I’m completely lost. My minds drained "
Do you have an HR department that you can talk to? Have you tried asking the guy if he will 'train' you? Sometimes if you pander to a bully's ego they will be nicer to you.
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"Hi folks. I just seen this topic. I’m
Reallly stressed In work. I simply cannot break
It. I’m not sleeping. My sex drive is gone. Its down to one person. He’s been in the company near 20 years. He’s very career driven and excellent at his job. He checks everything I do. I do it not bad but I need help and guidance from him and when I approach him for help he just says “ have you read all the back up documents”. If I answer yes and he finds something I’ve missed he belittlles me. If I say no I’ve not read them he says “ go read the documents”.. I’ve spoke to boss/owner of company and I’ve got a few replies. One being “ oh he’s rubbed a lot of ppl up the wrong way over the years” or “ that’s him don’t take it personal”.. I’m completely lost. My minds drained "
Apply elsewhere. There's no reason to stay somewhere you are not enjoying or is hostile. There reason so many have left before you. |
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Try breathing exercises, a good one is to take a really deep breath through your nose and hold it, count slowly to ten and then blow out through your mouth with some force. Repeat a few times and you'll feel yourself relaxing |
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"Hi folks. I just seen this topic. I’m
Reallly stressed In work. I simply cannot break
It. I’m not sleeping. My sex drive is gone. Its down to one person. He’s been in the company near 20 years. He’s very career driven and excellent at his job. He checks everything I do. I do it not bad but I need help and guidance from him and when I approach him for help he just says “ have you read all the back up documents”. If I answer yes and he finds something I’ve missed he belittlles me. If I say no I’ve not read them he says “ go read the documents”.. I’ve spoke to boss/owner of company and I’ve got a few replies. One being “ oh he’s rubbed a lot of ppl up the wrong way over the years” or “ that’s him don’t take it personal”.. I’m completely lost. My minds drained
Do you have an HR department that you can talk to? Have you tried asking the guy if he will 'train' you? Sometimes if you pander to a bully's ego they will be nicer to you.
Hope you can get it sorted. x"
Hi. No HR department no. It’s a small to medium family run firm. Ref training I have asked and he said to me “ have you looked at YouTube videos” . I was in shock. Comepelte shock! |
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"Try breathing exercises, a good one is to take a really deep breath through your nose and hold it, count slowly to ten and then blow out through your mouth with some force. Repeat a few times and you'll feel yourself relaxing "
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely "
Are you in a Union? This is a classic case of bullying. Unfortunately wasters like that are in control of lots of people up and down the country. They need to be hung up by their Buster Browns. I've seen it happen, snd I'm glad to say I've helped it happen.  |
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely
Are you in a Union? This is a classic case of bullying. Unfortunately wasters like that are in control of lots of people up and down the country. They need to be hung up by their Buster Browns. I've seen it happen, snd I'm glad to say I've helped it happen. "
Yes. And it’s been taken further. A lot has gone on behind the scenes, but action has been taken. All it took was me going to three outside agencies and telling my manager’s manager! |
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"Hi folks. I just seen this topic. I’m
Reallly stressed In work. I simply cannot break
It. I’m not sleeping. My sex drive is gone. Its down to one person. He’s been in the company near 20 years. He’s very career driven and excellent at his job. He checks everything I do. I do it not bad but I need help and guidance from him and when I approach him for help he just says “ have you read all the back up documents”. If I answer yes and he finds something I’ve missed he belittlles me. If I say no I’ve not read them he says “ go read the documents”.. I’ve spoke to boss/owner of company and I’ve got a few replies. One being “ oh he’s rubbed a lot of ppl up the wrong way over the years” or “ that’s him don’t take it personal”.. I’m completely lost. My minds drained
Do you have an HR department that you can talk to? Have you tried asking the guy if he will 'train' you? Sometimes if you pander to a bully's ego they will be nicer to you.
Hope you can get it sorted. x Hi. No HR department no. It’s a small to medium family run firm. Ref training I have asked and he said to me “ have you looked at YouTube videos” . I was in shock. Comepelte shock! "
Sounds like a crap place to work. Can you find something else? Smile in the meantime and don't let him get you down. Remember he's done it to many people before you- it's not your fault.
He's probably scared that people will realise how crap he is at his job, and that's why he won't train you- he doesn't know how! |
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In the end if you feel you have tried everything possible to resolve the situation and your still getting stressed pre and post work , rise above all the sh8 and go somewhere that you will be fully appreciated!!!!
One fabulous way to de stress is a long hot bath launching yourself into bed closing your eyes , enter a fantasy land and reach for the toys or hubster !! Which ever is closer !! |
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely "
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"Hi folks. I just seen this topic. I’m
Reallly stressed In work. I simply cannot break
It. I’m not sleeping. My sex drive is gone. Its down to one person. He’s been in the company near 20 years. He’s very career driven and excellent at his job. He checks everything I do. I do it not bad but I need help and guidance from him and when I approach him for help he just says “ have you read all the back up documents”. If I answer yes and he finds something I’ve missed he belittlles me. If I say no I’ve not read them he says “ go read the documents”.. I’ve spoke to boss/owner of company and I’ve got a few replies. One being “ oh he’s rubbed a lot of ppl up the wrong way over the years” or “ that’s him don’t take it personal”.. I’m completely lost. My minds drained
Do you have an HR department that you can talk to? Have you tried asking the guy if he will 'train' you? Sometimes if you pander to a bully's ego they will be nicer to you.
Hope you can get it sorted. x Hi. No HR department no. It’s a small to medium family run firm. Ref training I have asked and he said to me “ have you looked at YouTube videos” . I was in shock. Comepelte shock!
Sounds like a crap place to work. Can you find something else? Smile in the meantime and don't let him get you down. Remember he's done it to many people before you- it's not your fault.
He's probably scared that people will realise how crap he is at his job, and that's why he won't train you- he doesn't know how! "
yes he has done it to many many ppl before me! No doubt in that. What bothers me and is most upsetting is I said to Owner of the company that I could not understand this guy and his behaviour. The owners reponse was “he had rubbed many ppl up the wrong way”.. but as I was speaking to an ex employee of there today and as he said This guy delivers! That’s why he is where he is |
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"I’m extremely stressed due to work. It’s a situation that is currently being dealt with by management, but isn’t going to go away any time soon, and affects me directly.
I only work 7.45-9am and the. 2.45-6pm every weekday. But because of this situation (and I’ll be honest, one member of staff) I’m constantly stressed, worried, and my anxiety is a bitch at the best of times, let alone now
How does everyone relax? I’m trying to leave my work problems at work, but it’s difficult....any advice on living a stress free life would be lovely
Are you in a Union? This is a classic case of bullying. Unfortunately wasters like that are in control of lots of people up and down the country. They need to be hung up by their Buster Browns. I've seen it happen, snd I'm glad to say I've helped it happen.
Yes. And it’s been taken further. A lot has gone on behind the scenes, but action has been taken. All it took was me going to three outside agencies and telling my manager’s manager! "
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