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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Your gut feeling is telling you one thing but they keep saying things to contradict it.....
Could your gut feeling be right but for the wrong reasons?
For example you thought they were doing something for reason (a) when in fact it was because of reason (b).
Have you ever had a gut feeling that turned out to be half right in this way? |
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Gut feelings are useful in keeping us wary or indeed in pushing us forward but I tend to think they're often based on assumptions we've made about other's behaviour or intentions. |
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I can kinda relate to that. They say you should always trust your gut instincts and feelings. Sometimes though, there are things that kinda contradict that. It’s a tough one. At the end of the day you have to make a choice eventually |
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I'd say gut feeling is 99 per cent right.
Also if I'm undecided about something (and this can be anything) I actually toss a coin.
You do then have to go with whatever the coin indicates...and again it's usually the right thing to do.
Some of my friends skit me for this but cross the coin (and your gut) at your peril! |
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Usually - the brain picks up a ton of stuff subconsciously, so ‘gut feelings’ are often based in fact, because of the information we have picked up without realising it!
I think gut feelings are way more reliable than a lot of people give them credit for!!  |
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"Gut feelings are useful in keeping us wary or indeed in pushing us forward but I tend to think they're often based on assumptions we've made about other's behaviour or intentions. "
I agree. I've had one example where my assumption was very wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That's to heavy to think about on a Sunday,I want to think about fluffy little kittens playing in the snow."
Sorry! The kittens would get cold though.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd say gut feeling is 99 per cent right.
Also if I'm undecided about something (and this can be anything) I actually toss a coin.
You do then have to go with whatever the coin indicates...and again it's usually the right thing to do.
Some of my friends skit me for this but cross the coin (and your gut) at your peril!"
You know what you want when the coin is in the air- you know which way you want it to land.
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"That's to heavy to think about on a Sunday,I want to think about fluffy little kittens playing in the snow.
Sorry! The kittens would get cold though. "
No they have little booties and a woolly hat/coat on  |
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"That's to heavy to think about on a Sunday,I want to think about fluffy little kittens playing in the snow.
Sorry! The kittens would get cold though.
No they have little booties and a woolly hat/coat on "
Booties  they would slip with no claws....and i don't mean santaclaws steely  |
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"That's to heavy to think about on a Sunday,I want to think about fluffy little kittens playing in the snow.
Sorry! The kittens would get cold though.
No they have little booties and a woolly hat/coat on
Booties they would slip with no claws....and i don't mean santaclaws steely "
Oh my God just leave me to think about kittens in snow,that's as deep as it's getting today! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's to heavy to think about on a Sunday,I want to think about fluffy little kittens playing in the snow.
Sorry! The kittens would get cold though.
No they have little booties and a woolly hat/coat on
Booties they would slip with no claws....and i don't mean santaclaws steely
Oh my God just leave me to think about kittens in snow,that's as deep as it's getting today! "
Are you refferring to pussy cats? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's to heavy to think about on a Sunday,I want to think about fluffy little kittens playing in the snow.
Sorry! The kittens would get cold though.
No they have little booties and a woolly hat/coat on
Booties they would slip with no claws....and i don't mean santaclaws steely
Oh my God just leave me to think about kittens in snow,that's as deep as it's getting today! "
Ok I'm off to do a sudoko...that takes some thinking about |
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"That's to heavy to think about on a Sunday,I want to think about fluffy little kittens playing in the snow.
Sorry! The kittens would get cold though.
No they have little booties and a woolly hat/coat on
Booties they would slip with no claws....and i don't mean santaclaws steely
Oh my God just leave me to think about kittens in snow,that's as deep as it's getting today!
Are you refferring to pussy cats? "
No kitten heels Mr Banana...  |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct."
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct."
Are you sure this is ‘gut feeling’ or just the reputation of the site re no shows? |
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I trust my gut feelings, my sixth sense -
I've only ignored it a few times, given someone the benefit of the doubt, maybe a second chance, done something..
Each time, I've left telling myself how stupid I was for not listening.
My gut is never wrong
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I try and mostly trust my gut feeling, but being an overthinker also, it can lead to me jumping to wrong conclusions about situations unless I am fully aware of the facts, which in itself can be a dangerous thing  |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct.
Are you sure this is ‘gut feeling’ or just the reputation of the site re no shows? "
. Nonething to do with this site this was on a dating site.Just that gut feeling are good to have in life weather it's dating , work , relationships for me my attitude is I give it a go what is the worst that can happen |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I try and mostly trust my gut feeling, but being an overthinker also, it can lead to me jumping to wrong conclusions about situations unless I am fully aware of the facts, which in itself can be a dangerous thing "
How is knowing the facts a dangerous thing? Wouldn't that stop you overthinking it? |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct.
That sucks. "
. If I had gone yesterday I would not have hanged around for a hour like I did the week before it was very cold yesterday. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct.
That sucks. . If I had gone yesterday I would not have hanged around for a hour like I did the week before it was very cold yesterday."
That's something good that came from a bad situation. Pick a warm meet place so you can hang out and not have wasted time if they don't show. |
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct.
Are you sure this is ‘gut feeling’ or just the reputation of the site re no shows? . Nonething to do with this site this was on a dating site.Just that gut feeling are good to have in life weather it's dating , work , relationships for me my attitude is I give it a go what is the worst that can happen "
Aapologies I assumed it was from this site. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct.
Are you sure this is ‘gut feeling’ or just the reputation of the site re no shows? . Nonething to do with this site this was on a dating site.Just that gut feeling are good to have in life weather it's dating , work , relationships for me my attitude is I give it a go what is the worst that can happen
Aapologies I assumed it was from this site. "
. Nonething to apologise for I didn't make it clear I just feel gut feeling are good to have for me they are more right than wrong. |
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"Your gut feeling is telling you one thing but they keep saying things to contradict it.....
Could your gut feeling be right but for the wrong reasons?
For example you thought they were doing something for reason (a) when in fact it was because of reason (b).
Have you ever had a gut feeling that turned out to be half right in this way?"
I have been quick to dismiss my gut feelings before but they have always turned out to be right! |
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We have many different parts of our brain, responsible for various aspects of our experience and mind - our 'gut feeling' is an element of that, likely arising from our more ancient ancestors, who didn't have such complex conscious thinking abilities.
Basing decisions solely upon feelings can be a very limiting way to live, as it avoids assessment of many situations that have complexity - in fact, the very complexity may cause feelings of discomfort to arise, meaning that we could avoid something, just because it would involve investment of effort, even if it would be in our better interests.
Avoiding whatever we experience emotionally, as well as not using our mind's complex skills, would be just taking in part of a situation, deciding things based on a bit of information, so it's a limiting way to live. We'll get things 'right' some of the time, whichever approach we take, probabilities would indicate that. But often we'll not know the potential outcome of whatever it is that we've declined, in order to take a fuller evaluation of the whole picture, so we could merrily go on our way, thinking that we did the right thing, perhaps because in part we've habitually followed that pattern, without major risk. It could also be a self-fulfilling prophecy, that we'll not get many negative outcomes because we didn't take many riskier complex options to think about and pursue.
If there's time and the potential outcome may be worth it for me, I'll aim to evaluate whatever I can ascertain about something, including my gut feelings. But I don't let myself only decide things based upon gut feelings, as it's too limited a perspective for me. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"My gut feeling although not always right is mostly right.Last week a good example I arranged to meet someone last Saturday and by the Thursday time and place agreed.Then no response to my messages on Friday or Saturday nevertheless I turned up on Saturday messaged to say I arrived waiting just over a hour then left.Arranged to meet yesterday I was told they would message me on the Saturday morning no message but I did not travel up this time far too cold to be standing around in the park.On both occasions my gut feeling was they are not going to show both times I was correct.
That sucks. . If I had gone yesterday I would not have hanged around for a hour like I did the week before it was very cold yesterday.
That's something good that came from a bad situation. Pick a warm meet place so you can hang out and not have wasted time if they don't show. "
. On the plus side I went to a so called better part of London saw a nice park and it was not too cold and it only cost me £5.60 travel on my oyster. |
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"Your gut feeling is telling you one thing but they keep saying things to contradict it.....
Could your gut feeling be right but for the wrong reasons?
For example you thought they were doing something for reason (a) when in fact it was because of reason (b).
Have you ever had a gut feeling that turned out to be half right in this way?"
Always go with gut feelings.
Gut feelings are about YOU not about the other person.
If you get a gut feeling you are telling yourself that YOU are not happy/ready/able to go with what's on offer.
Trust the way you feel. Doesn't mean the other is a bastard. Just means you know something isn't right.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We have many different parts of our brain, responsible for various aspects of our experience and mind - our 'gut feeling' is an element of that, likely arising from our more ancient ancestors, who didn't have such complex conscious thinking abilities.
Basing decisions solely upon feelings can be a very limiting way to live, as it avoids assessment of many situations that have complexity - in fact, the very complexity may cause feelings of discomfort to arise, meaning that we could avoid something, just because it would involve investment of effort, even if it would be in our better interests.
Avoiding whatever we experience emotionally, as well as not using our mind's complex skills, would be just taking in part of a situation, deciding things based on a bit of information, so it's a limiting way to live. We'll get things 'right' some of the time, whichever approach we take, probabilities would indicate that. But often we'll not know the potential outcome of whatever it is that we've declined, in order to take a fuller evaluation of the whole picture, so we could merrily go on our way, thinking that we did the right thing, perhaps because in part we've habitually followed that pattern, without major risk. It could also be a self-fulfilling prophecy, that we'll not get many negative outcomes because we didn't take many riskier complex options to think about and pursue.
If there's time and the potential outcome may be worth it for me, I'll aim to evaluate whatever I can ascertain about something, including my gut feelings. But I don't let myself only decide things based upon gut feelings, as it's too limited a perspective for me."
Ahh Sophie.  Good points. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your gut feeling is telling you one thing but they keep saying things to contradict it.....
Could your gut feeling be right but for the wrong reasons?
For example you thought they were doing something for reason (a) when in fact it was because of reason (b).
Have you ever had a gut feeling that turned out to be half right in this way?
Always go with gut feelings.
Gut feelings are about YOU not about the other person.
If you get a gut feeling you are telling yourself that YOU are not happy/ready/able to go with what's on offer.
Trust the way you feel. Doesn't mean the other is a bastard. Just means you know something isn't right.
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You're right Granny. But I'm the bastard, not them.  |
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"Gut feeling" is a throwback, it's part of the "fight or flight" instinct that kept your ancestors alive way back when fur and skins were day to day wear.
You should never ignore it, instead try and figure out what it is that has triggered it... a word out of place, a facial expression, body language... or something more ethereal, an instinct beyond words. Its a warning from your subconscious, never ignore it. |
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My gut feeling is telling me that my Sir just can't be bothered any more, but then he'll say the right words and I'll hang on for another few months. Yes, it's time to trust my gut feeling now - it's far more reliable. |
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Just about every post on this thread infers people rely on gut feelings only in a negative context.
Perhaps it's just the nature of fab to be cynical negative always second guessing looking for the downside to our interactions on here.
Or maybe it's just a way to insulate us from the world. After all if we only ever expect negative outcomes and use our "gut" to rationalise such negativity then it becomes a self fulfilling exercise.
Nothing is ever this simple.
Like everyone here I come as a package. Gut heart head. We do not switch them on and off like a magic detector unit they all work as one as part of the whole of us.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just about every post on this thread infers people rely on gut feelings only in a negative context.
Perhaps it's just the nature of fab to be cynical negative always second guessing looking for the downside to our interactions on here.
Or maybe it's just a way to insulate us from the world. After all if we only ever expect negative outcomes and use our "gut" to rationalise such negativity then it becomes a self fulfilling exercise.
Nothing is ever this simple.
Like everyone here I come as a package. Gut heart head. We do not switch them on and off like a magic detector unit they all work as one as part of the whole of us.
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I use mine for good too.
If something feels right then generally it is |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I try and mostly trust my gut feeling, but being an overthinker also, it can lead to me jumping to wrong conclusions about situations unless I am fully aware of the facts, which in itself can be a dangerous thing
How is knowing the facts a dangerous thing? Wouldn't that stop you overthinking it?"
It wasn't knowing the facts which I was suggesting is a dangerous thing, but the over thinking and jumping to wrong conclusions  |
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There's no wrong choice as I believe everything is a lesson. You may suffer on the back of a 'wrong' choice but I just see them all as lessons learned & for every lesson I have learned I feel my decision making is a lot better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I try and mostly trust my gut feeling, but being an overthinker also, it can lead to me jumping to wrong conclusions about situations unless I am fully aware of the facts, which in itself can be a dangerous thing
How is knowing the facts a dangerous thing? Wouldn't that stop you overthinking it?
It wasn't knowing the facts which I was suggesting is a dangerous thing, but the over thinking and jumping to wrong conclusions "
Sorry I misunderstood.
I do the same.  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Look up the science of intuition.
I trust my gut feelings most of the time but I usually try to pin down a reason that I can explain to someone else, particularly for business decisions.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Look up the science of intuition.
I trust my gut feelings most of the time but I usually try to pin down a reason that I can explain to someone else, particularly for business decisions.
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Ah that jogged my memory! You told me a couple of years ago about a BBC4 programme on gut instinct. I just found the note I saved, thank you.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Look up the science of intuition.
I trust my gut feelings most of the time but I usually try to pin down a reason that I can explain to someone else, particularly for business decisions.
Ah that jogged my memory! You told me a couple of years ago about a BBC4 programme on gut instinct. I just found the note I saved, thank you.
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I couldn't find the thread.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Look up the science of intuition.
I trust my gut feelings most of the time but I usually try to pin down a reason that I can explain to someone else, particularly for business decisions.
Ah that jogged my memory! You told me a couple of years ago about a BBC4 programme on gut instinct. I just found the note I saved, thank you.
I couldn't find the thread.
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I have a crap memory, I saved the info as a note on my phone.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I trust mine implicitly. I don't know if I've been wrong about those I've had a niggling suspicion about but I've never been wrong about those I've gone on to meet so I don't really care |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My gut is never wrong, sometimes I ignore it anyway just to enjoy the ride, but it is the one thing I know to trust in every situation. "
Did it tell you I was a wrongun?? |
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Ok sooooo.... Gut feelings are a thing due to our anatomic nervous system and how our brain works. Our amygdala triggers our 'flight or fight' mode and signals are sent through our vagus nerve to all our organs. Where this backfires is how our brain and nervous system stores this information for future reference. Our brain builds schemas which are our building blocks of understanding or our model of the world. The brain then seeks familar patterns
and anything which sits outside that can cause discomfort. You have adaptuve and maladaptive schemas... Maladaptive schemas are things like reoccurring jealousy or possessiveness for example. Also familiar situations can trigger similar responses as the brain has already set up that pattern of response.. In extreme instances you get PTSD, in less extreme instances you get anxiety. Those with anxiety have a heightened response system that is easily triggered. So as a psychotherapist I would say pay heed to your gut response but try to objectively analyse why you've responded that way and why you've been triggered. |
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"Ok sooooo.... Gut feelings are a thing due to our anatomic nervous system and how our brain works. Our amygdala triggers our 'flight or fight' mode and signals are sent through our vagus nerve to all our organs. Where this backfires is how our brain and nervous system stores this information for future reference. Our brain builds schemas which are our building blocks of understanding or our model of the world. The brain then seeks familar patterns
and anything which sits outside that can cause discomfort. You have adaptuve and maladaptive schemas... Maladaptive schemas are things like reoccurring jealousy or possessiveness for example. Also familiar situations can trigger similar responses as the brain has already set up that pattern of response.. In extreme instances you get PTSD, in less extreme instances you get anxiety. Those with anxiety have a heightened response system that is easily triggered. So as a psychotherapist I would say pay heed to your gut response but try to objectively analyse why you've responded that way and why you've been triggered."
Yawn... say what now??  |
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"Ok sooooo.... Gut feelings are a thing due to our anatomic nervous system and how our brain works. Our amygdala triggers our 'flight or fight' mode and signals are sent through our vagus nerve to all our organs. Where this backfires is how our brain and nervous system stores this information for future reference. Our brain builds schemas which are our building blocks of understanding or our model of the world. The brain then seeks familar patterns
and anything which sits outside that can cause discomfort. You have adaptuve and maladaptive schemas... Maladaptive schemas are things like reoccurring jealousy or possessiveness for example. Also familiar situations can trigger similar responses as the brain has already set up that pattern of response.. In extreme instances you get PTSD, in less extreme instances you get anxiety. Those with anxiety have a heightened response system that is easily triggered. So as a psychotherapist I would say pay heed to your gut response but try to objectively analyse why you've responded that way and why you've been triggered.
Yawn... say what now?? "
Lol well ya know... If people will insist on asking this stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just about every post on this thread infers people rely on gut feelings only in a negative context.
Perhaps it's just the nature of fab to be cynical negative always second guessing looking for the downside to our interactions on here.
Or maybe it's just a way to insulate us from the world. After all if we only ever expect negative outcomes and use our "gut" to rationalise such negativity then it becomes a self fulfilling exercise.
Nothing is ever this simple.
Like everyone here I come as a package. Gut heart head. We do not switch them on and off like a magic detector unit they all work as one as part of the whole of us.
I use mine for good too.
If something feels right then generally it is "
Have a quick feel of this and see what you think...........  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's actually thought to be a second "brain" in your stomach...look it up..makes interesting reading."
Its fascinating isnt it! Linked to the brain via the vagus nerve and autonomic nervous system |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My gut is never wrong, sometimes I ignore it anyway just to enjoy the ride, but it is the one thing I know to trust in every situation.
Did it tell you I was a wrongun?? "
One the times I've decided to ignore it and enjoy the ride, only time will tell whether it was wrong or right on this occasion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My gut is never wrong, sometimes I ignore it anyway just to enjoy the ride, but it is the one thing I know to trust in every situation.
Did it tell you I was a wrongun??
One the times I've decided to ignore it and enjoy the ride, only time will tell whether it was wrong or right on this occasion. "
Oh I can tell you now you're wrong |
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By *pal2Man
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Its not as simple as that. Yes you can write some people off straight away but if you instantly dismissed say 50% of people you are limiting your choice and life experience andfor the ones you arent sure about.....surely the fun is iin finding out? |
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"My gut is never wrong, sometimes I ignore it anyway just to enjoy the ride, but it is the one thing I know to trust in every situation.
Did it tell you I was a wrongun??
One the times I've decided to ignore it and enjoy the ride, only time will tell whether it was wrong or right on this occasion.
Oh I can tell you now you're wrong "
What part of me the gut or the other part guiding me through our interactions. |
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"Ok sooooo.... Gut feelings are a thing due to our anatomic nervous system and how our brain works. Our amygdala triggers our 'flight or fight' mode and signals are sent through our vagus nerve to all our organs. Where this backfires is how our brain and nervous system stores this information for future reference. Our brain builds schemas which are our building blocks of understanding or our model of the world. The brain then seeks familar patterns
and anything which sits outside that can cause discomfort. You have adaptuve and maladaptive schemas... Maladaptive schemas are things like reoccurring jealousy or possessiveness for example. Also familiar situations can trigger similar responses as the brain has already set up that pattern of response.. In extreme instances you get PTSD, in less extreme instances you get anxiety. Those with anxiety have a heightened response system that is easily triggered. So as a psychotherapist I would say pay heed to your gut response but try to objectively analyse why you've responded that way and why you've been triggered."
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"Its not as simple as that. Yes you can write some people off straight away but if you instantly dismissed say 50% of people you are limiting your choice and life experience andfor the ones you arent sure about.....surely the fun is iin finding out?"
Sometimes it can be fun yes. |
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Our minds and lives are often too complex to just follow a gut instinct. And our memories afterwards will be unreliably biased, so that we will only get a biased perspective of how reliable it has been.
People are creatures of habit too, so the simple option is to potentially keep repeating the easy options, where gut instinct lets you feel fine. (You'd probably feel uneasy if that type of choice had gone wrong before), so wouldn't pick it.
Some of us also find it hard to differentiate between excitement and anxiety/nervousness - we could even avoid things that could have fantastic excitement.
Sure, fine tune your expertise at listening to your gut feeling -we can improve this.
I add that we can benefit from using this in conjunction with our other expertise and incredible powers of the human mind. |
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