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helping gf relax for her ogasm
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi there,
As the subject suggests my gf has told me that with me and her past boyfriends shes always found it difficult to relax when she has an orgasm and not cumming as she would like to.
What usually happens is that just before she orgams her body spasms and tightens up which makes it hard for her to relax and doesn't know how to stop her body from having these spasms.
Was wondering if anybody had any ideas on how to help her relax.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have my best orgasms when everything seems to clench... My thighs won't stay apart. Every muscle tenses...
But I find it very hard to relax enough to let others give me an orgasm.
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it sounds like you could benefit from buying a book on tantric massage.
it teaches you how to breath and control your body, helping you to relax
once you have mastered this you can orgasm whenever you want.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just an idea and i'm sorry if i'm wrong but i get the feeling from your profile that she is unaware of what you do on here
Women are very perceptive and she may not be relaxing as much as she should if she suspects you are playing away
None of my business i know and what you do is your affair but i'm just giving you a reason why maybe she don't relax |
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That happens to me too but it is the start of me having an orgasm. All my muscles spasm and sometimes gives me cramp and on occasions I have kicked someone in the throws of a good one!
Was told the other day I actually stop breathing when I cum, I never noticed before but am conscious of it now!...I must have orgasm apnea!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 18/10/11 22:29:55]"
Actually the french fa orgasm is li morte (May have spelt it wrong) which translates to little death because that's what appears ta happen ta some women lol xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i had that happen with a bloke once
one of them momentary wtf situations - i thought he was having a stroke or a seizure or summat
and that was before sheila grant did the FACT adverts ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"[Removed by poster at 18/10/11 22:29:55]
Actually the french fa orgasm is li morte (May have spelt it wrong) which translates to little death because that's what appears ta happen ta some women lol xx "
look at soapy gettin all continental
i always thought you had a look of charles aznavour about ya x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"[Removed by poster at 18/10/11 22:29:55]
Actually the french fa orgasm is li morte (May have spelt it wrong) which translates to little death because that's what appears ta happen ta some women lol xx
look at soapy gettin all continental
i always thought you had a look of charles aznavour about ya x"
ohhh la la xx |
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Well done Soapy
Just looked it up in the Urban Dictionary...
The little death is translation from the French "la petite mort", a popular reference for a sexual orgasm. The term has been broadly expanded to include specific instances of blacking out after orgasm and other supposed spiritual releases that come with orgasm.
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"I stopped breathing once during orgasm, scared the bejabers out of the peeps I was with  "
This happens to me too,it was scary for kev
OP...i have to agree with soapy,womens intuition is a wonderful thing,to relax she needs to trust you 100% |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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really enjoyed this thread, made me relive a few orgasms to analyse. Yes I think the tension is needed at first and then at a certain point you can just feel it's gonna go. Dunno about relaxing during though, I think focussing on the feeling is more to the point. Relaxing is something you need for activities to begin in my opinion, then the excitement and tension mount.
Guess everyone is different though. ho hum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women like men can have a "challenge" with a full orgasm for a number of reasons, however unlike men it isn't so obvious (erection issues, or rather doesn't).
It may be that you are too focussed on making her cum, and your anxiousness to perform is transferring, trust me this happens (sorry, you know who you are).
Don't be so hasty (once said a talking tree), in essence she may feel you are "bullying" her into orgasm, as she starts too tense and experience a clenching, kiss other parts of her body, around the kidney region, nipples, neck, back of the ear etc, slowly retiming to flicking her clit with your Tongue once in a while.
Keep her building, teasing and tempting without forceful movements or motions, talk to her softly, she is your partner both physically and mentally, don't make demands soothe her into releasing.....
Well that's how I would do it...... If it were I |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can always time when Mrs BW has had a good orgasm.
One of these days, she'll let me be there !
They're usually on a Sunday morning whilst I'm down at Tesco fetching her the papers, croissants and pecan danishes !
Funnily enough after she's had a read and had her fill of coffee and pastries she passes out again - usually til about half 1 ! |
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