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The Wink, so what!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The wink system,
Does anyone think its a useful feature?
Would it just be easier to mail someone?
Get to the point?
Most people ignore it, if they had a feature which disables people from winking you permanantly.
Would you use it?
Your thoughts. |
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I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."
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"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."
We've found quite a few profiles through the 'wink'. I think it's flattering.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back.
Well said "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We love a little wink every now and then. Use it as a first point of contact. Wink someone and if the wink back send a message, but if they don’t then you know not to bother them again. It can be disheartening sending a message only to have it deleted, where as a wink with no response doesn’t make you feel so bad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always understood it that if someone winked at you and you winked back then that was an invitation for them to follow it up with a message..
But also if someone winks and you dont wink back(because they are not what you are looking for) then nothing happens
But since my return there have been lots of followup messages from ignored winks, so i have to tell them im not interested rather than just ignoring than just ignoring them... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wink to show we may be interested and if they wink back after looking and reading our profile then we mail them . Our view it gives them the option to view our profile ,see we are interested in chatting , if they do not wink back they are not interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always understood it that if someone winked at you and you winked back then that was an invitation for them to follow it up with a message..
But also if someone winks and you dont wink back(because they are not what you are looking for) then nothing happens
But since my return there have been lots of followup messages from ignored winks, so i have to tell them im not interested rather than just ignoring than just ignoring them..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We wink to show we may be interested and if they wink back after looking and reading our profile then we mail them . Our view it gives them the option to view our profile ,see we are interested in chatting , if they do not wink back they are not interested "
Exactly this |
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"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."
Nail and head. Well said guys!!. You see common sense is like deodorant,the most who need it most never use it  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back.
Nail and head. Well said guys!!. You see common sense is like deodorant,the most who need it most never use it . "
Spot on! |
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"Never had a positive response to a wink  "
That's got less to do with the wink and more so you're not their type. Would be no different sending a detailed message to those said profiles you'd winked at |
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"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.
We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...
Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back.
Nail and head. Well said guys!!. You see common sense is like deodorant,the most who need it most never use it .
Spot on!"
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"I always understood it that if someone winked at you and you winked back then that was an invitation for them to follow it up with a message..
But also if someone winks and you dont wink back(because they are not what you are looking for) then nothing happens
But since my return there have been lots of followup messages from ignored winks, so i have to tell them im not interested rather than just ignoring than just ignoring them..."
That's true and so it should work like that but that's not to do with winking that's people trying their luck no? |
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"We don't wink but may wink back if someone winks at us."
That's how it works lol. Only wink back if you like what you see. Don't wink for the sake of winking lol. Nobody would do it in the real world. |
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Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.
Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile.... |
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"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.
Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile.... "
What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one  ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink |
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I like it.. ok fair point some delete them.
Sometimes after sending a few 1st messages and no response.. sometimes a wink is quicker and easier. Yes its lazy but these are tools provided by site for use  |
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"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.
Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....
What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink"
Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort |
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"I like it.. ok fair point some delete them.
Sometimes after sending a few 1st messages and no response.. sometimes a wink is quicker and easier. Yes its lazy but these are tools provided by site for use "
It's quoted lazy by those who get a lot of mail and responses. For those who don't it saves a hell of a lot of 1st messages that juat get deleted. All tools are here to use as each person sees fit. What one does,another doesn't for personal reasons |
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"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.
Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....
What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink
Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort "
You've gone onto another subject now. Start a thread . I wink you to show I like you is no different to me looking over a bar and smiling initially. You smile back I come over and talk to you,you don't and i stay where I am. What exactly am I making an effort for before i know you even like the look of me  . Makes no sense in the busy world of fab at all and neither would it in the real world. Think that's the difference |
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"I would turn this feature off, and friend invites should only be allowed to be sent once you have each messaged one another "
Why bcz you attract pic collectors?. That doesn't happen to me hardly lol |
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"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.
Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....
What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink
Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort
You've gone onto another subject now. Start a thread . I wink you to show I like you is no different to me looking over a bar and smiling initially. You smile back I come over and talk to you,you don't and i stay where I am. What exactly am I making an effort for before i know you even like the look of me . Makes no sense in the busy world of fab at all and neither would it in the real world. Think that's the difference "
I answered the OP with my opinion and my experience... it was, after all, her question... her thread... but nice to see you've taken the burden of responding to everyone off her shoulders... so thoughtful
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"I would turn this feature off, and friend invites should only be allowed to be sent once you have each messaged one another
Why bcz you attract pic collectors?. That doesn't happen to me hardly lol "
if it works for you, use it, I personally would turn it off as a feature if I could |
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"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.
Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....
What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink
Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort
You've gone onto another subject now. Start a thread . I wink you to show I like you is no different to me looking over a bar and smiling initially. You smile back I come over and talk to you,you don't and i stay where I am. What exactly am I making an effort for before i know you even like the look of me . Makes no sense in the busy world of fab at all and neither would it in the real world. Think that's the difference
I answered the OP with my opinion and my experience... it was, after all, her question... her thread... but nice to see you've taken the burden of responding to everyone off her shoulders... so thoughtful
*wanders off to other end of the bar*"
Not sure I have responded to everyone?. If so show me please. I respond to posts that interest me. Isn't that how a forum works?. Or do you believe that I should use it how you would?. Yeah think you've got a bit carried away as most do on here. There isn't really a bar,so not sure where you can go?  . Hope you find wherever it is  |
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"I would turn this feature off, and friend invites should only be allowed to be sent once you have each messaged one another
Why bcz you attract pic collectors?. That doesn't happen to me hardly lol
if it works for you, use it, I personally would turn it off as a feature if I could"
Yeah i get that. You must get a lot that don't come of anything which can get very annoying so i hear what you're saying totally hun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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for me, they are a complete waste of time, so i ignore them..but thats no reason to get rid of the feature if others find it useful obviously, im sure everyone uses various features differently.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not the first time it has worked..obviously nobody chooses to shag someone over a wink ffs.It can be used as a small gesture to lead to conversation..simple.
Personally I think a lot of profiles are taking things far too seriously...just like a message,if you dont like it dont message back, or in this case dont wink back.
not that bloody difficult |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't remember when I had my last wink. So am just happy to even get one x
Sure you'll get a few after posting on here "
no not one from anyone in or near Belfast  |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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We don't mind winks in theory, and will return the compliment if the profile warrants it. However usually the wink is from a blank profile.
If we do wink back we'll either then get a friends request (which we make clear we don't accept) or a 'how's u' type message. |
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By *ilNdoCouple
over a year ago
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I like the wink option!
I understand it as ~
I like what I see, have a nose at my profile...if you like what you see, wink back and I'll initiate convo!
If no wink comes back then it's taken as a hint - not to bother with message!
Saves on typing out the same thing over and over! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple, winks work really well for us! It's a little step towards saying we like you, what do you think? No response is a totally acceptable, no offence taken, no thanks. If we get a wink back, we send a message and take it from there 
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