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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
Love receiving. Like all impact play at the hands of an experienced Dom.
The trouble is there are too many who have read or watched 50 Shades of Pish and believe that qualifies them as a Dom... thats how people get hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Taken a while for me to accept and get my head around the fact that it isn't hurting someone if the consent and desire is there. Now it's amazing if the trust is given and you can repay that trust with what your partner wants  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love to take it IF - and it's a BIG IF - they know what they are doing and Himself is there to keep an eye on things. But then only once we know them well. The odd slap is fine anytime obviously  |
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Perhaps our profile avatar says everything about our thoughts on this subject . . . 
We agree with others, beyond playful taps canes and other implements should only be used by people who know what they are doing. Be wary of the so-called experts who have no idea of the damage (sometimes permanent) that can be caused by these activities. If you do not know the other person and their ability well, it’s not worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love receiving. Like all impact play at the hands of an experienced Dom.
The trouble is there are too many who have read or watched 50 Shades of Pish and believe that qualifies them as a Dom... thats how people get hurt."
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I started this thread to see how many were into this
Having been on both sides I agree the giver must know what they're doing....I've been on the wrong end of a bad thrashing but also been the recipient of the most satisfying punishment |
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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago
Reading |
"I have a bendy ruler  An engineers steel rule may have featured in our play in the past, alongside wooden and plastic ones...."
Had a 'shatterproof' one in a kinky Secret Santa, was asked to prove it......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Spanking, cropping, paddled flogged.... but caned...  No."
Working up through those in order is good preparation for caning. Caning doesn't have to be hard. But it's nice if somebody wants it hard |
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"I have a bendy ruler An engineers steel rule may have featured in our play in the past, alongside wooden and plastic ones....
I have a big steel one at work - gets a tad uncontrollable though  "
I have a steel one for naughty bottoms...and a little steel one for naughty pussies  |
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"Love receiving. Like all impact play at the hands of an experienced Dom.
The trouble is there are too many who have read or watched 50 Shades of Pish and believe that qualifies them as a Dom... thats how people get hurt."
100% this!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued "
It is not the cane you need to worry about but the person wielding it. In the hands of the right person a cane is no more intense than spanking. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued
This, I think it's just the fear of it.   "
Have yet to experience being caned but can relate to the fear factor and the intrigue and interest - the "idea" of it is a major appeal and I wonder how much the fear factor is part of that appeal too.
As has been said here, and I've read elsewhere, it's more a question of the skill of the person wielding the cane that is key  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I'm used to the cane .I've had over 200 strokes in one session .last week I progressed to the canadian prison strap .that is one serious beast .definately not for any novice or dreamer "
Just the sight of that has made me go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued
This, I think it's just the fear of it.
Have yet to experience being caned but can relate to the fear factor and the intrigue and interest - the "idea" of it is a major appeal and I wonder how much the fear factor is part of that appeal too.
As has been said here, and I've read elsewhere, it's more a question of the skill of the person wielding the cane that is key "
Yes, it's just the fear...I enjoy cropping , 'the sting' effect I enjoy. I guess this can be said of the cane? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued
This, I think it's just the fear of it.
Have yet to experience being caned but can relate to the fear factor and the intrigue and interest - the "idea" of it is a major appeal and I wonder how much the fear factor is part of that appeal too.
As has been said here, and I've read elsewhere, it's more a question of the skill of the person wielding the cane that is key
Yes, it's just the fear...I enjoy cropping , 'the sting' effect I enjoy. I guess this can be said of the cane?"
From what I've read and heard it's very much about the 'sting' - coupled with the anticipation and things like just hearing the 'swish' that all collectively combine to make it what it is.
Regardless of the implement though, am I alone in enjoying looking afterwards to inspect the effect it's had - it's another element of the whole experience that I find a major turn on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like being spanked, with a preference to hand spanking, you cant beat the warmth of a hand.
Bare handed spanking is a firm favourite of mine "
Giving or recieving? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued
This, I think it's just the fear of it.
Have yet to experience being caned but can relate to the fear factor and the intrigue and interest - the "idea" of it is a major appeal and I wonder how much the fear factor is part of that appeal too.
As has been said here, and I've read elsewhere, it's more a question of the skill of the person wielding the cane that is key
Yes, it's just the fear...I enjoy cropping , 'the sting' effect I enjoy. I guess this can be said of the cane?
From what I've read and heard it's very much about the 'sting' - coupled with the anticipation and things like just hearing the 'swish' that all collectively combine to make it what it is.
Regardless of the implement though, am I alone in enjoying looking afterwards to inspect the effect it's had - it's another element of the whole experience that I find a major turn on"
Goodness no, I like to see the pretty marks that have been left on me. And I somewhat enjoy them for days after if they are that way.
You're certainly not on your own there
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued
This, I think it's just the fear of it.
Have yet to experience being caned but can relate to the fear factor and the intrigue and interest - the "idea" of it is a major appeal and I wonder how much the fear factor is part of that appeal too.
As has been said here, and I've read elsewhere, it's more a question of the skill of the person wielding the cane that is key
Yes, it's just the fear...I enjoy cropping , 'the sting' effect I enjoy. I guess this can be said of the cane?
From what I've read and heard it's very much about the 'sting' - coupled with the anticipation and things like just hearing the 'swish' that all collectively combine to make it what it is.
Regardless of the implement though, am I alone in enjoying looking afterwards to inspect the effect it's had - it's another element of the whole experience that I find a major turn on
Goodness no, I like to see the pretty marks that have been left on me. And I somewhat enjoy them for days after if they are that way.
You're certainly not on your own there
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Good to know - there really is something about reddened bum cheeks that's very |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like being spanked, with a preference to hand spanking, you cant beat the warmth of a hand.
Bare handed spanking is a firm favourite of mine
Giving or recieving? "
Both. I like the sound (giving) and receiving the impact...the thud that is or can be delivered |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued
This, I think it's just the fear of it.
Have yet to experience being caned but can relate to the fear factor and the intrigue and interest - the "idea" of it is a major appeal and I wonder how much the fear factor is part of that appeal too.
As has been said here, and I've read elsewhere, it's more a question of the skill of the person wielding the cane that is key
Yes, it's just the fear...I enjoy cropping , 'the sting' effect I enjoy. I guess this can be said of the cane?
From what I've read and heard it's very much about the 'sting' - coupled with the anticipation and things like just hearing the 'swish' that all collectively combine to make it what it is.
Regardless of the implement though, am I alone in enjoying looking afterwards to inspect the effect it's had - it's another element of the whole experience that I find a major turn on
Goodness no, I like to see the pretty marks that have been left on me. And I somewhat enjoy them for days after if they are that way.
You're certainly not on your own there
Good to know - there really is something about reddened bum cheeks that's very "
A nice visual reminder for the person that put the marks there too |
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I have a bit of a collection of implements. I love the variety of effects and impact you can have with different methods, implements and play. Sometimes it about setting the atmosphere than it is about the physical spanking its self. For example the sound and visual effects of taking your belt off to someone has certain connotations. It's far more than simply spanking someone.
My favourite is a heavy leather spanker with a car tyre sort of grippy rubber tread on one side. You have to have good judgement as it's weight means you don't need much force to make an impact. Although a lot of excitement for me is the pre spanking teasing with it. It's pretty intimidating. Letting them see it, smell it, rubbing the grippy rubber side across their face or nipple. Building that anticipation and fear. It's so hot. And the imprint/pattern/bruises it leaves are superb to see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a bit of a collection of implements. I love the variety of effects and impact you can have with different methods, implements and play. Sometimes it about setting the atmosphere than it is about the physical spanking its self. For example the sound and visual effects of taking your belt off to someone has certain connotations. It's far more than simply spanking someone.
My favourite is a heavy leather spanker with a car tyre sort of grippy rubber tread on one side. You have to have good judgement as it's weight means you don't need much force to make an impact. Although a lot of excitement for me is the pre spanking teasing with it. It's pretty intimidating. Letting them see it, smell it, rubbing the grippy rubber side across their face or nipple. Building that anticipation and fear. It's so hot. And the imprint/pattern/bruises it leaves are superb to see."
cough cough... ... after reading that can you ask your lovely lady if she minds if I borrow you and your whips |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a bit of a collection of implements. I love the variety of effects and impact you can have with different methods, implements and play. Sometimes it about setting the atmosphere than it is about the physical spanking its self. For example the sound and visual effects of taking your belt off to someone has certain connotations. It's far more than simply spanking someone.
My favourite is a heavy leather spanker with a car tyre sort of grippy rubber tread on one side. You have to have good judgement as it's weight means you don't need much force to make an impact. Although a lot of excitement for me is the pre spanking teasing with it. It's pretty intimidating. Letting them see it, smell it, rubbing the grippy rubber side across their face or nipple. Building that anticipation and fear. It's so hot. And the imprint/pattern/bruises it leaves are superb to see."
Yes , the belt. It's the whole I like both watching one being taken off to bending over waiting in anticipation of when it's going to touch my skin ! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Yes , the belt. It's the whole I like both watching one being taken off to bending over waiting in anticipation of when it's going to touch my skin ! "
Or that whole thing with a crop where the leather band at the end is used to tease and flicker over your skin...your eyes following it ...waiting ..anticipating ..tensing |
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"I have a bit of a collection of implements. I love the variety of effects and impact you can have with different methods, implements and play. Sometimes it about setting the atmosphere than it is about the physical spanking its self. For example the sound and visual effects of taking your belt off to someone has certain connotations. It's far more than simply spanking someone.
My favourite is a heavy leather spanker with a car tyre sort of grippy rubber tread on one side. You have to have good judgement as it's weight means you don't need much force to make an impact. Although a lot of excitement for me is the pre spanking teasing with it. It's pretty intimidating. Letting them see it, smell it, rubbing the grippy rubber side across their face or nipple. Building that anticipation and fear. It's so hot. And the imprint/pattern/bruises it leaves are superb to see.
cough cough... ... after reading that can you ask your lovely lady if she minds if I borrow you and your whips "
Well I know my girl and she doesn't always like to share her toys. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Yes , the belt. It's the whole I like both watching one being taken off to bending over waiting in anticipation of when it's going to touch my skin !
Or that whole thing with a crop where the leather band at the end is used to tease and flicker over your skin...your eyes following it ...waiting ..anticipating ..tensing "
...a dressage whip?...
Mine is deliciously mean |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By the right person, I love being spanked and caned. Such a variety of ways in which spanking can be used...mmmm.
I occassionally give out the spankings but that's increasingly rarely these days apart from two select people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes , the belt. It's the whole I like both watching one being taken off to bending over waiting in anticipation of when it's going to touch my skin !
Or that whole thing with a crop where the leather band at the end is used to tease and flicker over your skin...your eyes following it ...waiting ..anticipating ..tensing "
Mhmm yes |
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I received a public spanking in a club the other night from a very sexy and intriguing woman whilst stood up and bent over holding onto sirs knees and looking into his eyes. That was so sensual and sexy. Seriously turned me on. He's only ever been behind me for a spanking before and I loved sharing the moment with him. Got me all twitchy just thinking about it again |
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"I received a public spanking in a club the other night from a very sexy and intriguing woman whilst stood up and bent over holding onto sirs knees and looking into his eyes. That was so sensual and sexy. Seriously turned me on. He's only ever been behind me for a spanking before and I loved sharing the moment with him. Got me all twitchy just thinking about it again "
You made me so proud my girl taking such a good spanking with so much grace and dignity in front of all those people. I can still feel you gripping onto my legs. It was such a pleasure to look you in the eyes as willingly took each strike. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had my first experience this weekend of being flogged and then a paddle been used to me I didn't like it I don't understand it it's sore. Ouch"
At least you tried it and can now say for sure you don't like it
10/10 for effort |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love spanking...the crop and a belt. Its a all about the person you are with...the mood...your connection. At least thats how I remember it because its been a while.
I love the tactileness of a hand spanking...the bending over either me or a table....feeling the delicious smooth round skin of her buttocks / bum / ass....the view....the anticipation....making her pull her knickers down or yanking them down myself....do I want them around her knees or hanging off one ankle in a slightly slutty sort of way....the aesthetics of the scene are important to me 
....stroking her hair....whispering what Im going tondo with her....gently teasing the soft skin I'm going make rosey red.....that I'm going ripen...slowley or quickly this ripening? and don't we all prefer a ripened fruit ...dosn't that make us want it even more.....I'm digressing.....there's a lot more to spanking than a few slaps of an arse....and I havn't even started lol |
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"I love spanking...the crop and a belt. Its a all about the person you are with...the mood...your connection. At least thats how I remember it because its been a while.
I love the tactileness of a hand spanking...the bending over either me or a table....feeling the delicious smooth round skin of her buttocks / bum / ass....the view....the anticipation....making her pull her knickers down or yanking them down myself....do I want them around her knees or hanging off one ankle in a slightly slutty sort of way....the aesthetics of the scene are important to me
....stroking her hair....whispering what Im going tondo with her....gently teasing the soft skin I'm going make rosey red.....that I'm going ripen...slowley or quickly this ripening? and don't we all prefer a ripened fruit ...dosn't that make us want it even more.....I'm digressing.....there's a lot more to spanking than a few slaps of an arse....and I havn't even started lol"
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"I enjoy a good old spanking until my bum hurts. Caning scares me
Hmm same here. Scared,but intrigued
This, I think it's just the fear of it.
Have yet to experience being caned but can relate to the fear factor and the intrigue and interest - the "idea" of it is a major appeal and I wonder how much the fear factor is part of that appeal too.
As has been said here, and I've read elsewhere, it's more a question of the skill of the person wielding the cane that is key
Yes, it's just the fear...I enjoy cropping , 'the sting' effect I enjoy. I guess this can be said of the cane?
From what I've read and heard it's very much about the 'sting' - coupled with the anticipation and things like just hearing the 'swish' that all collectively combine to make it what it is.
Regardless of the implement though, am I alone in enjoying looking afterwards to inspect the effect it's had - it's another element of the whole experience that I find a major turn on"
You are not alone, love my bum being coloured and feeling the ridges left by a good canning |
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"Love receiving. Like all impact play at the hands of an experienced Dom.
The trouble is there are too many who have read or watched 50 Shades of Pish and believe that qualifies them as a Dom... thats how people get hurt."
We said 50shades is an issue for anyone serious about this play |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Both spanking and caning needs the element of trust, as does all bdsm.
It becomes better after the first meeting because both sides have had time to assess limits, timings, fantasy progression. |
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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago
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"Try the Canadian prison strap. That will sort out any true submissive . "
No, that will just find a hardcore masochist. It's not a competition to see who can take the hardest blow. Sometimes less is more..... |
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"Try the Canadian prison strap. That will sort out any true submissive .
No, that will just find a hardcore masochist. It's not a competition to see who can take the hardest blow. Sometimes less is more..... "
you are talking to someone who has 35 years bdsm experience .yes,we,all have different levels . I know that I'm not stupid .I never said it was a competition |
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"Try the Canadian prison strap. That will sort out any true submissive .
No, that will just find a hardcore masochist. It's not a competition to see who can take the hardest blow. Sometimes less is more..... "
well said. It's laughable to suggest that someone is more or less of a submissive based on their pain threshold.
And I'd advise anyone to run a mile from a Dom that cant distinguish between submission and masochism |
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"Try the Canadian prison strap. That will sort out any true submissive .
No, that will just find a hardcore masochist. It's not a competition to see who can take the hardest blow. Sometimes less is more..... "
Agreed. A feather can be torture
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"Try the Canadian prison strap. That will sort out any true submissive .
No, that will just find a hardcore masochist. It's not a competition to see who can take the hardest blow. Sometimes less is more.....
well said. It's laughable to suggest that someone is more or less of a submissive based on their pain threshold.
And I'd advise anyone to run a mile from a Dom that cant distinguish between submission and masochism "
Wise words |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Try the Canadian prison strap. That will sort out any true submissive .
No, that will just find a hardcore masochist. It's not a competition to see who can take the hardest blow. Sometimes less is more.....
you are talking to someone who has 35 years bdsm experience .yes,we,all have different levels . I know that I'm not stupid .I never said it was a competition "
I think the problem is your suggestion that a Canadian prison strap would sort out "any true submissive", which does indicate that you think someone can't be a true submissive if they can't take it - and that couldn't be further from the truth.
In fact I'd go as far as to say there's no such thing as a "true" submissive any more than there's such a thing as a "true" Dom/me - it's a unique and subjective thing that can only be defined on an individual basis by the two (or more) people entering into a D/s dynamic |
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"Try the Canadian prison strap. That will sort out any true submissive .
No, that will just find a hardcore masochist. It's not a competition to see who can take the hardest blow. Sometimes less is more.....
you are talking to someone who has 35 years bdsm experience .yes,we,all have different levels . I know that I'm not stupid .I never said it was a competition
I think the problem is your suggestion that a Canadian prison strap would sort out "any true submissive", which does indicate that you think someone can't be a true submissive if they can't take it - and that couldn't be further from the truth.
In fact I'd go as far as to say there's no such thing as a "true" submissive any more than there's such a thing as a "true" Dom/me - it's a unique and subjective thing that can only be defined on an individual basis by the two (or more) people entering into a D/s dynamic"
I have to agree with this.
Each and every D/s dynamic is unique.
I don't like the cane it scares me...it doesn't make me any less of a submissive as does A Dominant/Domme that doesn't want to inflict extreme amounts of pain into his/her submissive.
A previous dominant/master I had was completely like this and was into masochism and really wanted to inflict pain on me.
I didn't let that happen. I said no.
That didn't and hasn't made me any less of a submissive in fact I think quite the opposite.
So many Dominants(fake Doms) think that inflicting pain is what a D/s dynamic is all about where in real life it couldn't be anything further from the truth.
Safe.
Sane.
Consensual.
Ss
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