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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
Is there no sites available for those who just want to text without ever meeting up etc??
Why do these wasters join here and other dating sites when all they want to do is send endless text messages...
I was in contact with a girl who was 35 miles away who loved driving, long journeys, getting out in the country bla dee fukin blaa...
Her excuse for not meeting..
Guess??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe she was just taking her time getting to know you a little to see if there was chemistry and a connection there before being ready to meet OP - which is what I prefer to do  "
I prefer this too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After seeing your face pic or more of other pics, maybe she decided she didn't fancy you after all.
Common issue. We all take at least one great photo of ourselves. May be you just aren't her type after all. That's entirely upto her.
Doesn't mean you were talking to a man and it doesn't mean she's a time waster.
Long as people stick to the rules, they can use fab however they wish. Some even come here because they're exhibitionists. Some like to look at pics and talk on the forums. Some are here for the FAB part of this site...Friends And Benefits. Some are here for the Swingers part.
If you aren't happy with how someone else uses Fab, move on. Plenty of others on here.
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...  "
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it..."
But maybe they joined with a different idea of what they want from the site. It doesn't make them wrong it makes you incompatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it..."
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it..."
Waaaaahhhhh. Stamps foot.
Instashag, it’s not fair! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for "
Ooooh me too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it..."
People are free to use the site as they please. You're never guaranteed a meet! |
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
The girl who loved driving and taking long journeys out in the country didnt want to meet because 35 miles was too far away.. it is laughable...
Maybe she found out i was just a moaning bastard and she didn't want to be honest and hurt my feelings...
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!"
Me three |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The girl who loved driving and taking long journeys out in the country didnt want to meet because 35 miles was too far away.. it is laughable...
Maybe she found out i was just a moaning bastard and she didn't want to be honest and hurt my feelings...
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Everyone has their limit so please respect that.
I will not travel further than 30 minutes from my town. If someone is even 5 or 10 further away, hmm well I'm still not interested In them.
Like that lady, I travel. So it's upto me how far I want to spend on driving there and back. How much petrol I'm prepared to "waste". As said, we all have our preferences and or limits. Instead of laughing at her and instead of publically shaming her, try respecting her wishes which are in place for her time and her body. Not everything is about what you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" She was your mum?
Are you looking a cum back??
I suggest you lick your own cum back off your mums face!
Boom!!"
That joke would've been funny if Jimmy Carr hadn't told a better version of it first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" She was your mum?
Are you looking a cum back??
I suggest you lick your own cum back off your mums face!
Boom!!
That joke would've been funny if Jimmy Carr hadn't told a better version of it first "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!
Me three "
No answer so i will guess 3 hours |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!
Me three
No answer so i will guess 3 hours "
I'll see your three hours and raise you three messages!! |
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
" She was your mum?
Are you looking a cum back??
I suggest you lick your own cum back off your mums face!
Boom!!
That joke would've been funny if Jimmy Carr hadn't told a better version of it first "
It wasn't meant to be a joke but thanks for seeing the funny side to it.
Never saw myself as a stand up comedian but then again I don't spend all day looking in the mirror. Will you tell us the better version please?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The girl who loved driving and taking long journeys out in the country didnt want to meet because 35 miles was too far away.. it is laughable...
Maybe she found out i was just a moaning bastard and she didn't want to be honest and hurt my feelings...
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How long were you talking to her before she said she didn't want to meet? |
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!
Me three
No answer so i will guess 3 hours
I'll see your three hours and raise you three messages!! "
Sorry folks for the delay.
We were messaging long enough to know how far away we were from each other and as I hadn't moved house during that time the messages should have stopped after the first or second.. That is unless its a penpal she was looking for which brings me back to the original post. Why join a site like this if you just want to send messages?? Am not looking anyone to change to suit me etc. Everyone is free to do their own thing etc but would anyone go to the hairdressers if they didn't want a hair cut?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" She was your mum?
Are you looking a cum back??
I suggest you lick your own cum back off your mums face!
Boom!!
That joke would've been funny if Jimmy Carr hadn't told a better version of it first
It wasn't meant to be a joke but thanks for seeing the funny side to it.
Never saw myself as a stand up comedian but then again I don't spend all day looking in the mirror. Will you tell us the better version please??"
If you want my cum back you'll have to scrape it off your mums teeth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!
Me three
No answer so i will guess 3 hours
I'll see your three hours and raise you three messages!!
Sorry folks for the delay.
We were messaging long enough to know how far away we were from each other and as I hadn't moved house during that time the messages should have stopped after the first or second.. That is unless its a penpal she was looking for which brings me back to the original post. Why join a site like this if you just want to send messages?? Am not looking anyone to change to suit me etc. Everyone is free to do their own thing etc but would anyone go to the hairdressers if they didn't want a hair cut??"
You might go into several hairdressers, check out what you think of the surroundings before you decide on the one that will actually cut your hair.
You can’t have a pen pal/ text pal without two people participating. You could have cut contact at any time. |
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Could she have thought she might make an exception for you if you sounded really exceptional and then thought, nah? Or maybe she got the hint that you would not meet socially half way first?
Only she knows. Ask her if you are curious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So this is another case of the guy not wanting to wait for the woman to be ready to meet. 35 miles isn't that far away, especially if you were prepared to my travel, or would consider reimbursing her for some of the travel costs (no getting laid by you isn't reimbursement enough and no it isn't payment in kind making her something she isn't by default).
Simple thing is that you didn't want to spend the requisite time the woman wanted or needed to feel like meeting you. I can't see the issue you have. I wouldn't be able to meet a woman and have sex with her just after a message or four, I may be in the minority but I have to fancy them and not just their body.
Suck it up OP, she wanted legwork and it wasn't forthcoming. |
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
" She was your mum?
Are you looking a cum back??
I suggest you lick your own cum back off your mums face!
Boom!!
That joke would've been funny if Jimmy Carr hadn't told a better version of it first
It wasn't meant to be a joke but thanks for seeing the funny side to it.
Never saw myself as a stand up comedian but then again I don't spend all day looking in the mirror. Will you tell us the better version please??
If you want my cum back you'll have to scrape it off your mums teeth."
I think my version is better.
Sure put it up for a vote and let the audience decide..
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"So this is another case of the guy not wanting to wait for the woman to be ready to meet. 35 miles isn't that far away, especially if you were prepared to my travel, or would consider reimbursing her for some of the travel costs (no getting laid by you isn't reimbursement enough and no it isn't payment in kind making her something she isn't by default).
Simple thing is that you didn't want to spend the requisite time the woman wanted or needed to feel like meeting you. I can't see the issue you have. I wouldn't be able to meet a woman and have sex with her just after a message or four, I may be in the minority but I have to fancy them and not just their body.
Suck it up OP, she wanted legwork and it wasn't forthcoming. "
Not as forthcoming as that nonsense you just replied with.
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" She was your mum?
Are you looking a cum back??
I suggest you lick your own cum back off your mums face!
Boom!!
That joke would've been funny if Jimmy Carr hadn't told a better version of it first
It wasn't meant to be a joke but thanks for seeing the funny side to it.
Never saw myself as a stand up comedian but then again I don't spend all day looking in the mirror. Will you tell us the better version please??
If you want my cum back you'll have to scrape it off your mums teeth.
I think my version is better.
Sure put it up for a vote and let the audience decide..
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It would have been better if you hadn't missed a word out. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!
Me three
No answer so i will guess 3 hours
I'll see your three hours and raise you three messages!!
Sorry folks for the delay.
We were messaging long enough to know how far away we were from each other and as I hadn't moved house during that time the messages should have stopped after the first or second.. That is unless its a penpal she was looking for which brings me back to the original post. Why join a site like this if you just want to send messages?? Am not looking anyone to change to suit me etc. Everyone is free to do their own thing etc but would anyone go to the hairdressers if they didn't want a hair cut??"
So you were wanting to meet after just two or three messages, which were no doubt fairly short and undetailed? That is of course your prerogative, but doesn't sound like it was hers, and nor would it be mine. I'd much rather take my time and be sure I want to meet someone than push to meet after two or three messages.
So sounds like this was your preferences weren't matched to hers, simple as, not really sure she's in the wrong at all, just not matched to what you want |
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!
Me three
No answer so i will guess 3 hours
I'll see your three hours and raise you three messages!!
Sorry folks for the delay.
We were messaging long enough to know how far away we were from each other and as I hadn't moved house during that time the messages should have stopped after the first or second.. That is unless its a penpal she was looking for which brings me back to the original post. Why join a site like this if you just want to send messages?? Am not looking anyone to change to suit me etc. Everyone is free to do their own thing etc but would anyone go to the hairdressers if they didn't want a hair cut??
So you were wanting to meet after just two or three messages, which were no doubt fairly short and undetailed? That is of course your prerogative, but doesn't sound like it was hers, and nor would it be mine. I'd much rather take my time and be sure I want to meet someone than push to meet after two or three messages.
So sounds like this was your preferences weren't matched to hers, simple as, not really sure she's in the wrong at all, just not matched to what you want "
Another person jumping to conclusions. Don't know who informed you that I was wanting to meet after the 3rd message but it wasn't me...
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"If it really was a she, she probably enjoyed the flanter and ego boost, but wasn't that bothered about the physical meeting.
I still say it was a man. "
Just because a girl shaves her head and has sideburns, a moustache and walks with her hands in her pocket doesn't mean she is a man. |
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"Is there no sites available for those who just want to text without ever meeting up etc??
Why do these wasters join here and other dating sites when all they want to do is send endless text messages...
I was in contact with a girl who was 35 miles away who loved driving, long journeys, getting out in the country bla dee fukin blaa...
Her excuse for not meeting..
Guess???"
You wanted her to do all the travelling and she said 'fuck that fir a game of soldiers' now you have turned it around to be her issue?!
People who want to just chat are not wasters, they are just using the site differently to you. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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So you were wanting to meet after just two or three messages, which were no doubt fairly short and undetailed? That is of course your prerogative, but doesn't sound like it was hers, and nor would it be mine. I'd much rather take my time and be sure I want to meet someone than push to meet after two or three messages.
So sounds like this was your preferences weren't matched to hers, simple as, not really sure she's in the wrong at all, just not matched to what you want
Another person jumping to conclusions. Don't know who informed you that I was wanting to meet after the 3rd message but it wasn't me...
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No conclusions jumped to which is why I phrased the opening sentence as a question being as you'd not actually answered how long you'd been messaging when previously asked
The fact stands though that your preferences obviously didn't match hers and therefore she's not in the wrong just has a different approach to you |
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it...
Id be interested to know just how long you were messaging for
Ooooh me too!
Me three
No answer so i will guess 3 hours
I'll see your three hours and raise you three messages!!
Sorry folks for the delay.
We were messaging long enough to know how far away we were from each other and as I hadn't moved house during that time the messages should have stopped after the first or second.. That is unless its a penpal she was looking for which brings me back to the original post. Why join a site like this if you just want to send messages?? Am not looking anyone to change to suit me etc. Everyone is free to do their own thing etc but would anyone go to the hairdressers if they didn't want a hair cut??"
I’m on here and I’m not meeting. That’s my choice and my profile clearly states why I’m here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your profile states you want quality and a spark from the people you meet. Well in my opinion texting and banter is the way you build that to the point of wanting and needing to meet. Sometimes this takes a fair time sometimes it doesn't. However I don't think you're doing yourself any favours on this site with this thread and your responses to some of the posts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP I totally get your point... if it was distance that put her off then she knew that pretty much from the off.
What I will say though is I have an idea in my mind of how far I would travel to meet someone, but if I get a connection with someone further away I'm flexible on distance. Perhaps she was chatting to see if she was prepared to travel that distance then at some point, when push came to shove, decided she wasn't.
Onwards and upwards |
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By *hechap OP Man
over a year ago
Derry |
"OP I totally get your point... if it was distance that put her off then she knew that pretty much from the off.
What I will say though is I have an idea in my mind of how far I would travel to meet someone, but if I get a connection with someone further away I'm flexible on distance. Perhaps she was chatting to see if she was prepared to travel that distance then at some point, when push came to shove, decided she wasn't.
Onwards and upwards "
Exactly. That was my point and the fact she loved driving etc. If she wasnt attracted to me all she had to say was "not interested anymore or not compatable etc" Talk about not seeing the elephant in the room. Obviously some people just take a quick glanse at a post and then give their opinion and jump to all sorts of conclusions... But here i better not say anything more or I will be put on the naughty chair.... |
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"Why does it bother you so much?
Just move on to someone who does want to meet...
Because I don't want to spend my time sending messages when its going nowhere.
I thought the idea of joining somewhere like here or a dating site is that the end result would be a meet up or a date.. Not just endless messages with no intentions of ever meeting anyone.. I just can't get my head around it..."
Start with the assumption that most people that you message with will not turn into a meet, because of various factors, including compatibility, work/home issues and relationships. People speak for longer in order to evaluate others - not for the sole pursuit of chatting. At any point either side will deduce it's not going to work: this will be most of your prospective meet chats. There is tremendous competition, so someone else who is a better fit can dislodge you and potentially become a regular NSA meet, so that others are needed less.
That's Fab - it's unlike dating, where some people want monogamy. Improve your own methodology. |
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"Maybe she was just taking her time getting to know you a little to see if there was chemistry and a connection there before being ready to meet OP - which is what I prefer to do "
Spot on ,we like to get to know people first and if a profile isn't what you are looking for,just move on to the next.
We can all use fab as we choose to .
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