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Does this site lower self esteem?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you need to be incredibly self assured and confident to enter the world of swinging... Something which certainly comes with age (sorry but I sound like your mum that's because you're the same age as my son)
Personally I would say there would be much better sites for you to have casual hookups at your age. It can absolutely brutal on here for some guys and the forum is full of guys wanting to know why they haven't got laid yet and worrying its because theyre ugly etc. So regarding the OP no this site isn't full of people with low self esteem but it can very quickly cause low self esteem and they tend to leave quicjly .
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems"
I think over time it can crush self esteem if you are contually turned down.
At 18 I was not sexually mature enough for any of this. That said I know youngsters far more worldly wise and mature than men twice their age. Everyones different.
As a parent I would hope my son didn't need to use a site like this and would prefer to hope he would be out with his mates finding a girl his own age to explore his sexuality with and share the experiences with. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems"
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that? |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"I think it can be very constructive in giving people self esteem to be honest.
Very subjective though to the circumstance. "
Oh definitely... its made me 100% more confident, im always being told they love my picture and im beautiful and i sound delicious (we only have our avatar which shows my back and his tummy!)  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?"
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha |
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha "
Friendly question. Why did you think that?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it can be very constructive in giving people self esteem to be honest.
Very subjective though to the circumstance.
Oh definitely... its made me 100% more confident, im always being told they love my picture and im beautiful and i sound delicious (we only have our avatar which shows my back and his tummy!) "
A delicious back? Afraid i'd have to give it a lick before i can comment.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha
Friendly question. Why did you think that? "
Not all women, but I thought there would at least be some that want what they'd call a "cub" or whatever haha. It's like BBW's have the USP of being BBW, because there's men that love them. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
"I think it can be very constructive in giving people self esteem to be honest.
Very subjective though to the circumstance.
Oh definitely... its made me 100% more confident, im always being told they love my picture and im beautiful and i sound delicious (we only have our avatar which shows my back and his tummy!)
A delicious back? Afraid i'd have to give it a lick before i can comment. "
I know... who'd of thunk it? It must be that Original Source Tangerine shower gel |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha
Friendly question. Why did you think that?
Not all women, but I thought there would at least be some that want what they'd call a "cub" or whatever haha. It's like BBW's have the USP of being BBW, because there's men that love them."
Even 'cubs' are generally over 21... for club purposes at least |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha
Friendly question. Why did you think that?
Not all women, but I thought there would at least be some that want what they'd call a "cub" or whatever haha. It's like BBW's have the USP of being BBW, because there's men that love them.
Even 'cubs' are generally over 21... for club purposes at least"
If 18 isn't considered a cub, what am I in the sex world? A developing fetus? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you need to be incredibly self assured and confident to enter the world of swinging... Something which certainly comes with age (sorry but I sound like your mum that's because you're the same age as my son)
Personally I would say there would be much better sites for you to have casual hookups at your age. It can absolutely brutal on here for some guys and the forum is full of guys wanting to know why they haven't got laid yet and worrying its because theyre ugly etc. So regarding the OP no this site isn't full of people with low self esteem but it can very quickly cause low self esteem and they tend to leave quicjly .
Good luck though "
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I think this site and it's use depends a lot upon how you are feeling. Certain traits can show through so confidence shines and low self esteem bites through messages too.
Be kind to yourself everyone |
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha
Friendly question. Why did you think that?
Not all women, but I thought there would at least be some that want what they'd call a "cub" or whatever haha. It's like BBW's have the USP of being BBW, because there's men that love them.
Even 'cubs' are generally over 21... for club purposes at least
If 18 isn't considered a cub, what am I in the sex world? A developing fetus? "
... pretty much!
A lot of clubs (not all) are over 21.
I think the thing is, if you’re tough enough & sexually mature enough to know what you want out of this, then there’s nothing wrong with you being on a swinging site. But don’t take rejection to heart & if you do feel like it’s getting too much, step back as it can be a little brutal, even for women!
But don’t dismiss the traditional way of dating & developing your sexual experiences either - experience is what will help you on here!
Good luck!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For the vulnerable, undoubtedly, as can any situation where people question themselves and how others perceive them. This place is not for the faint hearted.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems"
Possibly, but I also believe it can have the opposite effect.
In my case it's made me feel better about myself. |
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If you are a single guy who is not between the ages of thirty and forty, do not have a toned body, are not able to accommodate, is not able to hold a conversation for ten minutes without mentioning sex and cannot approach a woman without appearing like someone on the register, then your fab experience is going to be rejection, followed by rejection and then yet more rejection.
Hence if you have self esteem issues, this site is going to be hell. |
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha
Friendly question. Why did you think that?
Not all women, but I thought there would at least be some that want what they'd call a "cub" or whatever haha. It's like BBW's have the USP of being BBW, because there's men that love them."
Oh right, I understand. There are cougars and cubs nights at clubs but I think you need to be 21.
Good luck in your search |
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"I got told by someone from fab that i shouldn't be tryna meet women through this site at my age and that most men here have low self-esteems
Imagine that you see a woman's status saying that she hasn't had sex for ages and she could really do with fucking a nice fit young lad. Then you message her because after all, you believe that you fit the bill. But then she blocks you without a reply.
How would you feel about that?
Yeah most of the time I'll compose a message and I'll be like "Alright I've absolutely smashed it wish this message, she's surely gonna reply", I'll hop online an hour later to see its been read but no reply... its kinda annoying. I thought my USP of being 18 would help me haha
Friendly question. Why did you think that?
Not all women, but I thought there would at least be some that want what they'd call a "cub" or whatever haha. It's like BBW's have the USP of being BBW, because there's men that love them.
Even 'cubs' are generally over 21... for club purposes at least
If 18 isn't considered a cub, what am I in the sex world? A developing fetus?
... pretty much!
A lot of clubs (not all) are over 21.
I think the thing is, if you’re tough enough & sexually mature enough to know what you want out of this, then there’s nothing wrong with you being on a swinging site. But don’t take rejection to heart & if you do feel like it’s getting too much, step back as it can be a little brutal, even for women!
But don’t dismiss the traditional way of dating & developing your sexual experiences either - experience is what will help you on here!
Good luck!! "
Good advice. |
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