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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is your biggest mistake you ever made in your life, for me it was at the age of 26 where I pick up 4 guys giving them a lift in my car which I regretted. They robed me of my car at that time which made the whole family moved back to the UK?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Inviting my husbands family to our wedding and trying to make peace. Was a waste of time, they didn’t enjoy themselves and moaned all day, and it made our wedding day miserable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Inviting my husbands family to our wedding and trying to make peace. Was a waste of time, they didn’t enjoy themselves and moaned all day, and it made our wedding day miserable. "
that not nice on your most memorable day for you guys.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inviting my husbands family to our wedding and trying to make peace. Was a waste of time, they didn’t enjoy themselves and moaned all day, and it made our wedding day miserable. that not nice on your most memorable day for you guys. "
No, it’s not. Was awful. Wish we could do it all over again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inviting my husbands family to our wedding and trying to make peace. Was a waste of time, they didn’t enjoy themselves and moaned all day, and it made our wedding day miserable. that not nice on your most memorable day for you guys.
No, it’s not. Was awful. Wish we could do it all over again "
get divorced and re marry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly cannot say. I've made mistakes but always found that the outcomes afterwards have always made them worth going through. If I were to change them I wouldn't be the person I am today and that's not worth giving up as I could be very diferent and unhappy about it.
I regret not following a true love to America. She got a semi permanent job there with the National Geographic Magazine in Yellows tone National Park area. I made the choice not to go and it's hurt ever since especially when I got an email about 6 months after saying how much her heart had been broken but she understood the difficulties I faced with having young daughters here. Still hurts today.
But as I said I'd not be who I am now and my daughters nay have suffered more if I'd gone. So a right choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had an abortion when I was 21. At the time there was a lot going on in my life and I believed I couldn't cope... but now I think it would have been okay in the end.
Biggest regret of my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Despite recognisin the relatuonship was toxic and they were a pair of controlling manipulative abusers in my teens, I really regret constantly seeking their approval and not cutting my parents out of my life till my late 30s
Oh and I wish I'd upped sticks for London at a similarly early stage of my life |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
I guess I have a few.
Keeping friends that weren’t good for me and stabbed me in the back!
Not visiting a friend before he passed away.
Not getting a degree as I chose to go to work.
Not finding Fab sooner 
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
There are a few some of which still have an impact today - but the one that had the biggest impact on my life as a whole was leaving the Navy after 3-4 months at the age of 17 and for all the wrong reasons that my arrogant teenage self wouldn't listen to. |
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That things didn't go as I hoped with my ex 10 years ago, we didn't fall out but circumstances meant we were apart for 8 months and she met someone else. I still miss her sometimes (not in a weird stalkery way) and a deep down part of me probably always will I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being in a certain place and a certain time that meant I met someone who came close to destroying my whole life.
I don't regret much but if I'd have been anywhere else I would have saved myself years of heartbreak and toxic destruction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not going for half of my first husband's pension! If I had I could have been retired by now. But not a serious regret as I was determined not to be seen as a gold-digger, which I definitely am not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not travelling more when I was younger and child free!! "
Definitely this. My youngest has visited more countries in 2 years than I have in my lifetime...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Marrying my ex husband. I stood outside the church seriously debating walking away. I decided I couldn’t embarrass him in that way. I went through with it and it ended in divorce.
I was serving in the army and we got married earlier than expected as he was going to Bosnia and I was being sent to Ireland.
Needless to say I never married again
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
Trusting my mum. 
Long story short she ripped me of £3000 and disappeared leaving me in the street with nuthong in my arley teens to never been seen agen and still nuthing todays date.
Not even a birthday or Christmas card. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Getting married...
I should have just lived with him, as that way it would have been easier to just walk away instead of having to wait over 5 yrs to divorce him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inviting my husbands family to our wedding and trying to make peace. Was a waste of time, they didn’t enjoy themselves and moaned all day, and it made our wedding day miserable. that not nice on your most memorable day for you guys.
No, it’s not. Was awful. Wish we could do it all over again
get divorced and re marry "
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I'm thinking about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inviting my husbands family to our wedding and trying to make peace. Was a waste of time, they didn’t enjoy themselves and moaned all day, and it made our wedding day miserable. that not nice on your most memorable day for you guys.
No, it’s not. Was awful. Wish we could do it all over again "
You can, renew your vows and throw a party and only invite those you want there.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not going travelling with a guy I was seeing. I was going through a seperation with my husband and the guy offered to pay for everything and show me the world and take me way from a really shit part of my life... regret it to this day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not going travelling with a guy I was seeing. I was going through a seperation with my husband and the guy offered to pay for everything and show me the world and take me way from a really shit part of my life... regret it to this day. "
sorry to hear that hope you have fun now days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly cannot say. I've made mistakes but always found that the outcomes afterwards have always made them worth going through. If I were to change them I wouldn't be the person I am today and that's not worth giving up as I could be very diferent and unhappy about it.
I regret not following a true love to America. She got a semi permanent job there with the National Geographic Magazine in Yellows tone National Park area. I made the choice not to go and it's hurt ever since especially when I got an email about 6 months after saying how much her heart had been broken but she understood the difficulties I faced with having young daughters here. Still hurts today.
But as I said I'd not be who I am now and my daughters nay have suffered more if I'd gone. So a right choice."
Maybe you should send her an email and see about going to visit. Who knows the flame can be rekindled. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not going travelling with a guy I was seeing. I was going through a seperation with my husband and the guy offered to pay for everything and show me the world and take me way from a really shit part of my life... regret it to this day. sorry to hear that hope you have fun now days "
nope ended up back with the husband (we got married after the guy left) and had a son, even though I love my son I do regret being tied down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not going travelling with a guy I was seeing. I was going through a seperation with my husband and the guy offered to pay for everything and show me the world and take me way from a really shit part of my life... regret it to this day. "
i could be arriving right now in NZ ,and i mean right now , plane arrived 5.10am NZ time...hope this doesnt turn out to be my next biggie !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly cannot say. I've made mistakes but always found that the outcomes afterwards have always made them worth going through. If I were to change them I wouldn't be the person I am today and that's not worth giving up as I could be very diferent and unhappy about it.
I regret not following a true love to America. She got a semi permanent job there with the National Geographic Magazine in Yellows tone National Park area. I made the choice not to go and it's hurt ever since especially when I got an email about 6 months after saying how much her heart had been broken but she understood the difficulties I faced with having young daughters here. Still hurts today.
But as I said I'd not be who I am now and my daughters nay have suffered more if I'd gone. So a right choice."
I’d say you made the right choice. Leaving your kids behind would have eaten away at you and you’d never be happy. Kids come first mate but I feel your pain. I lost the love of my life for similar reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not staying in education. Biggest regret by far! "
There's no age limit. I left uni two years ago. During my college days, there was a 75 yr old man studying for his diploma and City and Guilds in plumbing. On my carpentery course there was a mid 40s guy.
You're never too old to learn new qualifications! Sign up. You won't regret it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i see well your a lovely looking women just enjoy life you never know what out there. because i do since its my second bit at it and i life it to the full |
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"Not staying in education. Biggest regret by far!
There's no age limit. I left uni two years ago. During my college days, there was a 75 yr old man studying for his diploma and City and Guilds in plumbing. On my carpentery course there was a mid 40s guy.
You're never too old to learn new qualifications! Sign up. You won't regret it. "
The only thing preventing me is lack of finances.!
Think I’ve done just about every free qualification I can! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Buying an air pistol, that would eventually partially blind me due to a mate messing about with it."
Oh this happened to friend of mine, when I was a teenager living in Pirbright! He lost an eye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was only a kid me and my friends had made a den in some trees at the back of my house,I needed the loo so just let loose before I knew it I had what I remember thinking was just flys everywhere until the pain kicked in & I froze to the spot,some bloke ran in and grabbed me! I had then in my ears pants nose everywhere lol |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I was only a kid me and my friends had made a den in some trees at the back of my house,I needed the loo so just let loose before I knew it I had what I remember thinking was just flys everywhere until the pain kicked in & I froze to the spot,some bloke ran in and grabbed me! I had then in my ears pants nose everywhere lol"
How awful. I know someone who fell onto a wasps nest. Horrible! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was only a kid me and my friends had made a den in some trees at the back of my house,I needed the loo so just let loose before I knew it I had what I remember thinking was just flys everywhere until the pain kicked in & I froze to the spot,some bloke ran in and grabbed me! I had then in my ears pants nose everywhere lol
How awful. I know someone who fell onto a wasps nest. Horrible!"
Yeah is really wasn't a nice feeling! I still get ribbed about it to this day though & looking back it was pretty funny really |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Buying an air pistol, that would eventually partially blind me due to a mate messing about with it."
i see that not good well when i was living abroad i carried a real pistol for self defence.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Smoking.... nothing good came from that .
Started when I was a teenager , and stopped 7 weeks ago when I had a massive heart attack.
So when anyone says what a stupid habit it is , it's true . "
Sorry to hear that and hope you are feeling much better!
But well done on stopping as I am a fellow smoker and I know I should stop |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not moving to Ireland and Germany and a few other places when I had the chance. Mainly because of my sister saying I only have one sister don't leave me with him and his 2 crack pot brothers. Wish I had the "fuck it why not attitude" I have now x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not staying in education. Biggest regret by far!
There's no age limit. I left uni two years ago. During my college days, there was a 75 yr old man studying for his diploma and City and Guilds in plumbing. On my carpentery course there was a mid 40s guy.
You're never too old to learn new qualifications! Sign up. You won't regret it.
The only thing preventing me is lack of finances.!
Think I’ve done just about every free qualification I can! "
get a student loan …. I left school at 16, never regretted it as such but always wondered if I had the brains for further education...now im 3 months off the end of studying for a degree with the OU
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"Smoking.... nothing good came from that .
Started when I was a teenager , and stopped 7 weeks ago when I had a massive heart attack.
So when anyone says what a stupid habit it is , it's true .
Sorry to hear that and hope you are feeling much better!
But well done on stopping as I am a fellow smoker and I know I should stop "
Thank you , and I am feeling much better thanks .
Guess I’ll be on these meds for good now , but worth it .
My wife still smokes , but much less than she did . She will stop when she’s ready .
I really don’t want to become one of those ex smokers that has a go at everyone that smokes though |
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They've generally been good experiences, to learn from and help me become more determined in my life. Plenty of things haven't worked as I expected but we have to let them go, once we've learned. Relationships, career, family, how I've chosen to live and behave, I've had tons of stuff that's been a bit or a lot wrong. I kissed goodbye to a great partner, with a lot of pain but really opened up my life and feel better for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had an affair with a married lady, she broke my heart, so I turned me into a dick for a while. Fucking women with no care of their feelings, playing the field and being a complete slut. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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Three regrets.
1). When at 18, though offered a role as a Trainee retail manager with the Hudson's Bay Co of Canada working inside the Arctic Circle learning fur trading with Eskimos, I turned it down. That was 1973 on a salary then equal to £22k!
2). Another job offer, this time with a major US company, based in New York. Their Vice President had been impressed with my liaison skills looking after him with his conference at hotel I worked in. Salary + accom + chauffeured car + medical & other benefits totalling in excess of £80k pa. I turned him down for reasons too lengthy to explain. He made 2nd offer; package upped to £100k but I still declined.
3). Not marrying my fiancee in 1992. Despite our split 2 months before wedding for agreed reasons, it was more my fault (as hindsight proved). Just wish I could've reversed time!). Still think of her DAILY to this day. |
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I've made mistakes but can't say I regret any of them as I learned from each and everyone but I do regret believing my high school teachers that I was thick and I'd never amount to anything. Why did they think that because I was dislexic and this was way before it was known about. I heard them words each and everyday till I left and thouraly believed them and why wouldn't I but Then I got into cars and bikes. If I was so thick how come I could strip and rebuild engines and it all make perfect sense to me. When I realised the answer to that question my life begun..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Despite recognisin the relatuonship was toxic and they were a pair of controlling manipulative abusers in my teens, I really regret constantly seeking their approval and not cutting my parents out of my life till my late 30s
Oh and I wish I'd upped sticks for London at a similarly early stage of my life"
This is close to home for me- |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not walking out of University- too complicated to fully explain here but - Aspergers without knowing Environment I hated Pushy parents I was weak
Severe depression and PTSD suicidal thoughts.
It affects me to this day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A all expenses paid holiday to the us, a week in Orlando and a week on a cruise for old mans retirement, I stayed at home and had to look after the dog, or the other one is cashing out for 900 seconds before the need goal was scored and would have won 5000, |
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I should have dated more in my 20s but I had a 10 yr long term relationship all through my 20s. Now mid 30s and living the life I should have done in my 20s! Although I have more confidence in myself now and love the single life. But still feel I should have explored more the type of guy I want.
Although my ex and I bought a house. I remortgaged and bought him out. Then sold house a few years later. Got shed loads of equity from it. Haha. Every cloud has a silver lining I guess! Haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I should have dated more in my 20s but I had a 10 yr long term relationship all through my 20s. Now mid 30s and living the life I should have done in my 20s! Although I have more confidence in myself now and love the single life. But still feel I should have explored more the type of guy I want.
Although my ex and I bought a house. I remortgaged and bought him out. Then sold house a few years later. Got shed loads of equity from it. Haha. Every cloud has a silver lining I guess! Haha."
You are more confident because what you have dealt with, as Frank Sinatra
Said ‘that’s life’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Had sex with my step mum, no one ever found out and the sex that we had for several years was great but always felt guilty even thow iv not spoken to my dad in over 13 years and I hate his guts he still dosnt know anything about it, its the only regret I have in my life |
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Staying freinds with my ex-wife after we separated. Six years after we divorced I got serious with another woman, that resulted in 3 months not seeing my son, an investigation by social services and two police visits. I ended up with full custody of my son, he's lived with me for the past 10 years. |
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By *reeMan
over a year ago
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"Smoking.... nothing good came from that .
Started when I was a teenager , and stopped 7 weeks ago when I had a massive heart attack.
So when anyone says what a stupid habit it is , it's true .
Sorry to hear that and hope you are feeling much better!
But well done on stopping as I am a fellow smoker and I know I should stop
Thank you , and I am feeling much better thanks .
Guess I’ll be on these meds for good now , but worth it .
My wife still smokes , but much less than she did . She will stop when she’s ready .
I really don’t want to become one of those ex smokers that has a go at everyone that smokes though "
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"Staying freinds with my ex-wife after we separated. Six years after we divorced I got serious with another woman, that resulted in 3 months not seeing my son, an investigation by social services and two police visits. I ended up with full custody of my son, he's lived with me for the past 10 years."
pleased it worked out and you have your son although you had to go through shit (& your son probably did) for it to happen |
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"Staying freinds with my ex-wife after we separated. Six years after we divorced I got serious with another woman, that resulted in 3 months not seeing my son, an investigation by social services and two police visits. I ended up with full custody of my son, he's lived with me for the past 10 years. pleased it worked out and you have your son although you had to go through shit (& your son probably did) for it to happen"
Thanks, it was the hardest part of my life but you're right about it working out x |
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