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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people 
Come join us in spreading positivity and love 
Peach x |
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
Thank you Peach well said x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Great sentiments.
This place should be totally inclusive.
Erm except to Water Voles. I prefer regular Voles."
Oh dear.... you've just pissed off the whole water vole community!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Agreed. However some people (present company excepted) take it as a personal insult if someone quite innocently expresses a preference for a body shape other than theirs.
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Of course. There are ways and means of expressing preference without making sweeping ill-informed statements.
Peach x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I must concur. My confidence has nose dived recently.
I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me."
And a beautiful little bundle of peachiness you are
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
I agree, it’s like a competition and I barely post now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see no issue with threads celebrating different body shapes.
But there are a lot of “vs” threads lately which brings out the worst in people. I don’t see why it should be a competition.
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
Couldn't agree more.
Those starting negative, shaming threads tend not to be swingers though. True lifestyle swingers are accepting and tolerant of others, preferences can be expressed without offence and the few that take offence again are generally not true swingers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must concur. My confidence has nose dived recently.
I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me."
You are perfect PP, you just keep looking up the wrong definition..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
Hear hear, I’ve been a bit at a loss just lately on here because of threads saying all that. It’s fine having a preference, but no need to put others down who don’t fit into your wants. We’re all attractive to someone. Being considerate of others is a more attractive commodity than a cock pic. X |
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"I must concur. My confidence has nose dived recently.
I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me.
You are perfect PP, you just keep looking up the wrong definition.. "
Thank you. I have broken out in eczema in various places. But you know what... I'm gonna show it in the pics I take later.
I'm me, I have many imperfections, and I'm sure there are many many people with skin issues. I'm gonna stand up for all of us.
Fuck you all who hate based on shit beyond our control.
FREEEEEDOOOOOOOOM |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
Well said  |
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"I must concur. My confidence has nose dived recently.
I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me.
You are perfect PP, you just keep looking up the wrong definition..
Thank you. I have broken out in eczema in various places. But you know what... I'm gonna show it in the pics I take later.
I'm me, I have many imperfections, and I'm sure there are many many people with skin issues. I'm gonna stand up for all of us.
Fuck you all who hate based on shit beyond our control.
FREEEEEDOOOOOOOOM"
Just be thankful you don’t look like me AND have eczema lol (admittedly I don’t have it very bad but this time of year I always get flare ups)
I get a lot of knockbacks and messages read and deleted - I know I’m an acquired taste lol. Have had the outright rude ones tho (the polish couple who started calling me “ugly c**t” or something along those lines in polish - google translate is amazing lol) but that’s what the block and report buttons are for |
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
There are a great number of ego driven Adonis' and Aphrodities on here who revel in asserting their self proclaimed superiority above anyone who they feel is not worthy of them.
Too fat, too thin, hairy pussy, non hairy pussy, penis too small, penis too big...
For us the only thing these posts belittling sight users achieve is to completely remove all interest in the OP.
We're much happier with the people who have faults and not with Mr & Mrs "I'm so perfect and you're not".
Rant over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a lovely sentiment Peach, but will fall upon deaf ears. At the beginning of the year I asked people to stop being cunts, and they couldn't.
I don't even think some of them tried. |
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
I totally agree you pair of skinny buggers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x
I totally agree you pair of skinny buggers "
Two for the price of one 
We're like the economy version 
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a lovely sentiment Peach, but will fall upon deaf ears. At the beginning of the year I asked people to stop being cunts, and they couldn't.
I don't even think some of them tried. "
No. I didn't  |
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"Great sentiments.
This place should be totally inclusive.
Erm except to Water Voles. I prefer regular Voles."
Oh Funky....I never took you as vole-ist. That has put me right off of your peachy arse  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree, there is to much crap going on in the world, so many people are so shallow, a personality is just as beautiful as image and some people on here truly have ugly personalties. No one is perfect but we all came in as a bag of bones and will leave the same way, all get buried 6ft down ( unless your ashes are scattered but you catch my drift) were so backwards in paying people compliments but forward in picking out a persons negative.
Show the love for heavens sake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. "
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now. |
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x
There are a great number of ego driven Adonis' and Aphrodities on here who revel in asserting their self proclaimed superiority above anyone who they feel is not worthy of them.
Too fat, too thin, hairy pussy, non hairy pussy, penis too small, penis too big...
For us the only thing these posts belittling sight users achieve is to completely remove all interest in the OP.
We're much happier with the people who have faults and not with Mr & Mrs "I'm so perfect and you're not".
Rant over."
+1 then chuck in the porn-talk crap too, and it makes a horrid combination IMHO, its not that we are prudish, but show some class.
It's no wonder that some people don't get meets, when their personna reeks of bullish and disrespectful traits that are to be blunt, just a turn off. Manners and respect, for most are a currency, so please peeps, do yourselves a favour and speak nicely... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x
I totally agree you pair of skinny buggers
Two for the price of one
We're like the economy version
Peach x"
If you two are the bogof version of economy I'm in 
Lots of haters and naysayers on here. If they are it's their problem xx |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
Agreed
Like people for hoo thay are not wot thay are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now."
I think it was even worse 8 years ago.
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"It's a lovely sentiment Peach, but will fall upon deaf ears. At the beginning of the year I asked people to stop being cunts, and they couldn't.
I don't even think some of them tried. "
I get asked this daily |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agreed. However some people (present company excepted) take it as a personal insult if someone quite innocently expresses a preference for a body shape other than theirs.
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The people that get excluded are a joy to behold. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a lovely sentiment Peach, but will fall upon deaf ears. At the beginning of the year I asked people to stop being cunts, and they couldn't.
I don't even think some of them tried.
No. I didn't "
It's hard isn't it |
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"A great sentiment, shame but will probably be lost on the elitist bunch of arse,s and the superior than though brigade.
That's not really in the spirit of the op  "
I know, but just facing reality unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now."
Obviously I'd disagree that it's nonsense, though I have been known to spout it on occasion. Your statement just confirms that ignorant people are here to stay, which is fine, we're all living under the same sun, I'm asking for people to be mindful before making sweeping statements that cause offence and bad feeling to others.
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
Couldn't agree more. I find FS to now be the most judgemental site I belong to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now.
Obviously I'd disagree that it's nonsense, though I have been known to spout it on occasion. Your statement just confirms that ignorant people are here to stay, which is fine, we're all living under the same sun, I'm asking for people to be mindful before making sweeping statements that cause offence and bad feeling to others.
Peach x"
What about people that get annoyed when someone mentions preferences? The type that infers the person is in some way being rude when they are just asking a question?
They incite bad feeling when none was intended. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now.
Obviously I'd disagree that it's nonsense, though I have been known to spout it on occasion. Your statement just confirms that ignorant people are here to stay, which is fine, we're all living under the same sun, I'm asking for people to be mindful before making sweeping statements that cause offence and bad feeling to others.
Peach x"
No your not,you are saying it was somehow better in the past,which it clearly wasnt
Now you're making it personal by insinuating I'm ignorant?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now.
Obviously I'd disagree that it's nonsense, though I have been known to spout it on occasion. Your statement just confirms that ignorant people are here to stay, which is fine, we're all living under the same sun, I'm asking for people to be mindful before making sweeping statements that cause offence and bad feeling to others.
Peach x
What about people that get annoyed when someone mentions preferences? The type that infers the person is in some way being rude when they are just asking a question?
They incite bad feeling when none was intended. "
I was just discussing this with fuzz actually and I think I'm with a train of thought that preference is fluid, they change as we age and experience more. So completely personal that shouldn't we just accept? Is it really relevant to anyone what our preferences are?
Saying that if someone asked me my 'preference' now, I'd be a bit stuck to come up with any but if I did, what would it matter to the person asking?
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now.
Obviously I'd disagree that it's nonsense, though I have been known to spout it on occasion. Your statement just confirms that ignorant people are here to stay, which is fine, we're all living under the same sun, I'm asking for people to be mindful before making sweeping statements that cause offence and bad feeling to others.
Peach x
No your not,you are saying it was somehow better in the past,which it clearly wasnt
Now you're making it personal by insinuating I'm ignorant?
Unbelievable "
Huh?
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways. Attraction is many things to many people and generally the fab community is all encompassing.
More recently though the body comparison threads, the shaming of certain groups by individuals has started to put me off posting on here.
Can we all just be accepting and spread the love please? Mindfulness before submitting a post goes a long way people
Come join us in spreading positivity and love
Peach x"
Agreed and kudos to you both for such a lovely post |
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now.
Obviously I'd disagree that it's nonsense, though I have been known to spout it on occasion. Your statement just confirms that ignorant people are here to stay, which is fine, we're all living under the same sun, I'm asking for people to be mindful before making sweeping statements that cause offence and bad feeling to others.
Peach x"
I’ve only been on Fab a year, I’ve seen a huge change in that time, I have no idea how it was like prior to that |
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"When we joined fab the one thing that struck us and made us smile was the acceptance that people of all shapes,sizes,race,religion etc are sexy and beautiful in their own ways.
What a load of nonsense,been a fab member 8 years and nothing has changed in that respect.
You may wish it different, but the issues you talk of were just as relevant 8 years ago as they are now.
Obviously I'd disagree that it's nonsense, though I have been known to spout it on occasion. Your statement just confirms that ignorant people are here to stay, which is fine, we're all living under the same sun, I'm asking for people to be mindful before making sweeping statements that cause offence and bad feeling to others.
Peach x
What about people that get annoyed when someone mentions preferences? The type that infers the person is in some way being rude when they are just asking a question?
They incite bad feeling when none was intended. "
Or the repeated insinuations of racism because your personal preferences exclude them from meeting you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually thought the forums weren’t as bitchy and dare I say the C-word as they had been say 12-18 months ago.
Mind you they are also not as much fun which is why I frequently come & go, maybe I missed the threads you were talking about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being a larger guy and definitely not the best looking feel God handed me a right shit card but I'm happy in myself, I never judge a book by its cover, after all we're all here to have a laugh some fun yea I get attraction plays a big part no matter what ppl say but it comes in more ways that 1 |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Oh Peach how did I not see this earlier!! What a great thread that hits the nail firmly on the head - whilst I'm not so sure things were necessarily "better" a year or even two years ago when I joined - they were certainly different and not quite as negative as they seem to be currently.
Why that is I really don't know, have wondered if it's just me getting more cynical in my old age but don't think it is (I was always like this). Like I said things weren't necessarily better before, and there was always a certain level of negativity but these days the forums do seem to be full of sniping, moaning and worse.
The sooner that changes the better |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I actually thought the forums weren’t as bitchy and dare I say the C-word as they had been say 12-18 months ago.
Mind you they are also not as much fun which is why I frequently come & go, maybe I missed the threads you were talking about."
I thought the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a lovely sentiment Peach, but will fall upon deaf ears. At the beginning of the year I asked people to stop being cunts, and they couldn't.
I don't even think some of them tried.
I get asked this daily "
What you can't stop either?...
j/k..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t really feel the forum is anymore negative now than it was when I started using it 4 and a bit years ago. I got completely roasted a few times then. I stopped posting threads because of it and stopped meeting others. There have always been keyboard warriors and dogmatic people on the forum.
I now simply admit, I’m a flawed human being and for the most part my opinion is worth diddly squat on here. Instead I take the piss out of myself, enjoy myself with the people I like. I show compassion and friendliness to those I notice might be in need of it that I don’t know when I can. I also contribute my more serious thoughts when I think I have a useful contribution to make (not very often).
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"Great sentiments.
This place should be totally inclusive.
Erm except to Water Voles. I prefer regular Voles.
Oh Funky....I never took you as vole-ist. That has put me right off of your peachy arse "
I knew such a contentious view would be devisive and possibly threaten my chances with you, I know how much you admire the water vole.
I'd still like to drill you if you can see past my extreme views please. |
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