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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

As most of you know, I've been battling breast cancer and have been unable to work for a while, financially I am crippled! I can barely afford to pay my bills and for about 3 out of 4 weeks I'm unable to feed myself. I know it won't last forever and I should be able to go back to work soonish but I'm really starting to struggle to stay positive.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps "

Are you claiming any benefits you should be entitled to pip cx

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps "
there are a lot of support groups op as well as McMillan who can offer support emotionally and advise you financially

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps "

Is there any food banks near where you live?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps

Are you claiming any benefits you should be entitled to pip cx"

I get universal credit atm...been waiting for pip to be sorted months now...keep chasing it up but nothing I can do in the meantime. I've exhausted every avenue regarding what I can claim and sold everything I can or am willing to part with. It's tough titties atm just wanna get through it all yaknow...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually, look up Storehouse Food Bank at 24A Church Street. It opens at 10.30 tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Invite friends over. Ask them to bring lunch and have a laugh

Look at holidays...concerts and things you can do when your back to yourself

Hope you fully recover and best of luck to you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually, look up Storehouse Food Bank at 24A Church Street. It opens at 10.30 tomorrow.

I was told I couldn't use food banks as I'm in receipt of benefits that they deem adequate to cover my expenses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps

Are you claiming any benefits you should be entitled to pip cx

How long have you been waiting to hear about I waited about 3 months but it was all backdated xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

More looking for techniques/advice with coping than advice with the problem tbh. Maybe should've left the details out lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps

Are you claiming any benefits you should be entitled to pip cx

How long have you been waiting to hear about I waited about 3 months but it was all backdated xx"

Since January, by the time it's sorted I'll be back at work I expect! I waited over 3 months for universal credit to be paid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Life is all inclusive...you dont just get the good parts...but for every bad there is usually a good..

So thinking about your current condition..rather than focus on the bad stuff (or life blocks) think of the good it has provided...

For example....has this bought you closer to anyone? Could be family or friends that maybe you feel more connected with....

Perhaps not eating has resulted in some weight loss! I know that is a bit of a bad thing to say but it could be a positive if you look at it as a positive.

Obviously this isnt really going to help you with finances... I'm Pretty sure there is a wealth of info on any google search...this is about making positives out of negatives..

Sounds like you may be on the verge of recovery now... I'm very pleased for you...you got this far...dont give up now....what will you gain from it? Nothing thats what! Just more blocks in the path to happiness.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps

Are you claiming any benefits you should be entitled to pip cx

How long have you been waiting to hear about I waited about 3 months but it was all backdated xx

Since January, by the time it's sorted I'll be back at work I expect! I waited over 3 months for universal credit to be paid

Ahhhh I'm sure you will hear very soon then xx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Hopefully all the good forumites can help . You know I'll help in any way I can my little Strumpet xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

profile says epic weekend and you have a verification

maybe your just having a down day

utility services will always put you on the lowest of low payment plans untill your back at work .or even freeze payments

that will leave more money for food if you shop carefully a healthy meal as little as 3 quid a day

coping wise, do what cheersyou up , listening to music , going for walks , seeing friends and thinking positive , you do at least have a roof over your head , a job in the pipeline so on so forth

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Is your partner helping out ?

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By *londie8399Couple over a year ago

blackpool

"Actually, look up Storehouse Food Bank at 24A Church Street. It opens at 10.30 tomorrow.

I was told I couldn't use food banks as I'm in receipt of benefits that they deem adequate to cover my expenses."
you can ask for an advance payment while your waiting for pip to come through

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"profile says epic weekend and you have a verification

maybe your just having a down day

utility services will always put you on the lowest of low payment plans untill your back at work .or even freeze payments

that will leave more money for food if you shop carefully a healthy meal as little as 3 quid a day

coping wise, do what cheersyou up , listening to music , going for walks , seeing friends and thinking positive , you do at least have a roof over your head , a job in the pipeline so on so forth"

I did have an epic weekend. I saw my fella for the first time in 5 months and we had a night out. That was a rare up day rather than this being a downer.

I'm very savvy at shopping on a budget, and can do so...my budget atm is 0 which is difficult to do anything with.

I'm super grateful for what I do have and having been homeless myself don't take any of that stuff for granted. As I said, just struggling to keep positive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hopefully all the good forumites can help . You know I'll help in any way I can my little Strumpet xx"

you always make me smile slim

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is your partner helping out ?"

Of course, when he can. He's only just got back into the UK tho and is skint himself atm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all the tips...I'm not just sat around moaning. I have done what I can to fix my finances and not really looking for advice concerning that tbh.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Hopefully all the good forumites can help . You know I'll help in any way I can my little Strumpet xx

you always make me smile slim"
Knowing I make you smile is good enough for me . Stay positive and think of Turkey xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hopefully all the good forumites can help . You know I'll help in any way I can my little Strumpet xx

you always make me smile slim Knowing I make you smile is good enough for me . Stay positive and think of Turkey xx"

Doing my best! X

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Hopefully all the good forumites can help . You know I'll help in any way I can my little Strumpet xx

you always make me smile slim Knowing I make you smile is good enough for me . Stay positive and think of Turkey xx

Doing my best! X"
You've got A lot to look forward to so my advice is focus on that Strumps. And get a dog when you get there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep as active as possible, mentally and physically. I'm no gym bunny (quite the opposite) but a nice walk somewhere that has happy memories, a dance round the kitchen with a mop to some tunes, usually brings me round.

I keep my brain active with reading, crosswords, read up about random crap I'll never use or need on the internet, make plans for the future - never anything too fancy!

I guess I distract myself from the problem at hand.

I also cook that keeps me busy, nothing too fancy soups, biscuits, scones anything to stop me dwelling for too long.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for all the tips...I'm not just sat around moaning. I have done what I can to fix my finances and not really looking for advice concerning that tbh.

Hey your aloud a moan now and again we all are you are doing so well your trying your best to make the best out of a crappy situation whilst raising money to help a charity research this fucking horrid disease chin up lovely thing will get better xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Keep as active as possible, mentally and physically. I'm no gym bunny (quite the opposite) but a nice walk somewhere that has happy memories, a dance round the kitchen with a mop to some tunes, usually brings me round.

I keep my brain active with reading, crosswords, read up about random crap I'll never use or need on the internet, make plans for the future - never anything too fancy!

I guess I distract myself from the problem at hand.

I also cook that keeps me busy, nothing too fancy soups, biscuits, scones anything to stop me dwelling for too long.

Thank you!

I try to get out for a walk each day and doing 10,000 steps a day to raise money for cancer research atm which is helping too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks for all the tips...I'm not just sat around moaning. I have done what I can to fix my finances and not really looking for advice concerning that tbh.

Thank you, means a lot!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for all the tips...I'm not just sat around moaning. I have done what I can to fix my finances and not really looking for advice concerning that tbh.

Thank you, means a lot!

Your very welcome and my inbox is always open xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you!

I try to get out for a walk each day and doing 10,000 steps a day to raise money for cancer research atm which is helping too

You are clearly quite a special lady, thinking of others and raising money whilst battling yourself.

The only other thing I would suggest is to take some time for yourself each day, be it a bubbly bath, a catch up of your favourite tv program snuggled up in a blanket, writing down your feelings for the day and also what you have achieved - your 10,000 steps included - even if you rip it up or burn it sometimes just letting it out can ease the feelings and give you a blank canvas the next morming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you!

I try to get out for a walk each day and doing 10,000 steps a day to raise money for cancer research atm which is helping too

You are clearly quite a special lady, thinking of others and raising money whilst battling yourself.

Thank you! Great advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps "

get in touch with the Macmillan line, they can get your bills paid and offer financial support. they can help x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps

get in touch with the Macmillan line, they can get your bills paid and offer financial support. they can help x

I'm all honesty, I feel bad accepting help from charities...I'm just me, no kids, renting a room and I don't need much. I'd not feel right taking from resources that help young families or older people that need it far more than I do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep yourself going when things are bad?

Before I start, not looking for sympathy, just advice.

So how do you? What do you do to keep yourself going when things seem utterly bleak?

Strumps

get in touch with the Macmillan line, they can get your bills paid and offer financial support. they can help x

dont feel bad, if you need help accept it. There is a fund for it. i suffered from cervical cancer and i won my battle and they supported me (advice) its how i knew they could help if i needed it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would generally confide in a friend. Share how I am feeling and have a good chat about it. I'd get out of the house often even just for little walks.

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By *rank n BettyCouple over a year ago

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Please get in touch with MacMillan xxx They were a godsend when Frank was having his treatment for non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. They helped sort his PIP (he’s self employed) & they gave us a grant towards a holiday which we took at New Year.

Keep on at them & don’t give up xxx

Make sure all your creditors & utility suppliers know your circumstances so they can try & assist you too xx

B x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everything go bad for me anyway but I Keep my chin up and move on and Don’t give up even if thing do not come true OOOOXXXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh strumps, I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. Please message me if there's anything I can do to help

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh strumps, I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. Please message me if there's anything I can do to help

Thank you sweetie! Your support helps more than you know

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

When you are going through hell keep going.

You are doing awesome. Don’t feel bad about accepting charity.

I can’t offer any practical advice other than perhaps see Macmillan who give excellent advice to cancer sufferers.

Stay strong

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