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"I'm sorry darl but you've been here long enough to know the score on that one " | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " I think for some not replying would be better than recieving a knock back. | |||
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"Babe I am sick to the back teeth of getting abuse for gently declining. If I feel like the message was well thought out and they have put effort in I always reply, even if it's a no thanks. But I'm starting to become bitter about doing that now as the abuse just isn't worth it "If i message and someone says no ta I say thank you and wish them well.. just becoming awful saying no thanks | |||
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"I'm sorry darl but you've been here long enough to know the score on that one
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"It’s worse when they send their OH to carry it on on a different profile. ‘Oh sorry. I’ve changed my mind now. Come straight round’. " Haha yes very true! That was something else | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " Until very recently we've only ever had people politely accept our "thanks but you aren't for us". It was bound to happen at some point. .. and it happened this weekend 
Some people just can't take rejection.
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"If you send a message to someone, doesn’t that automatically mean you have to have sex with them? "Oooh I must have missed that clause ooops silly me haha  | |||
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"Its why I just don't reply. " I'd love to know where you got your Tom Baker hat and scarf ? | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " You really are having a shit time on here lately, I get that and I feel for you x | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " Come on Darlo, You know you're supposed to have sex with every person who messages you | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? Come on Darlo, You know you're supposed to have sex with every person who messages you " I must have missed that haha When are we messaging? | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? You really are having a shit time on here lately, I get that and I feel for you x" I'm hoping it'll come right! I just have to focus on the positives I guess x | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? Come on Darlo, You know you're supposed to have sex with every person who messages you I must have missed that haha When are we messaging? "LMAO shall I send the obligatory "wish you were nearer" message x | |||
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"Babe I am sick to the back teeth of getting abuse for gently declining. If I feel like the message was well thought out and they have put effort in I always reply, even if it's a no thanks. But I'm starting to become bitter about doing that now as the abuse just isn't worth it "What this lady said. I politely declined someone today as the chat was as dry as a nuns. I got a tirade of abuse and told I probably “have loads of kids”. Although I have to say, in my personal experience over the years (and I almost always speak exclusively to single males) abusive messages have been the exception not the rule. So I do continue to respond with a polite thanks no thanks to anyone who sends me a polite well worded message | |||
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"I used to always politely reply, but it gives opportunity to the why? And do what’s your sort questions. I’ve also been threatened with acid in my face for politely saying sorry I don’t want to chat or meet " OMG! | |||
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"I used to always politely reply, but it gives opportunity to the why? And do what’s your sort questions. I’ve also been threatened with acid in my face for politely saying sorry I don’t want to chat or meet OMG! " yep,I obviously reported him | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I think for some not replying would be better than recieving a knock back." *fires off 100 faf messages to test your theory  | |||
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"I used to always politely reply, but it gives opportunity to the why? And do what’s your sort questions. I’ve also been threatened with acid in my face for politely saying sorry I don’t want to chat or meet OMG! yep,I obviously reported him" What a vicious thing to say to another person, I’m gobsmacked | |||
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"In 12 years on here, 8 of which on a single female profile i think i can count on my fingers how many abusive messages ive had. As it stands we have just one person blocked (its a neighbour we recognised). Thats the truth. I must be such a munter they dont bother "Same. I reply to all first messages and can't remember the last abusive message. People usually reply to say thank you for replying. | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? Come on Darlo, You know you're supposed to have sex with every person who messages you I must have missed that haha When are we messaging?
LMAO shall I send the obligatory "wish you were nearer" message x"Oh yes please . ... I'll try and refrain from the "do you use kik babe, we could cam" hahahaha | |||
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"I used to always politely reply, but it gives opportunity to the why? And do what’s your sort questions. I’ve also been threatened with acid in my face for politely saying sorry I don’t want to chat or meet OMG! yep,I obviously reported him What a vicious thing to say to another person, I’m gobsmacked " I was as well. There’s was lots of other abuse with it aswel | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile." Of course they don't deserve abuse. The OP didn't receive an abusive message. | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Of course they don't deserve abuse. The OP didn't receive an abusive message. " Would you consider something along the lines of "I wanna fuck your ass" or worse as an opening message appropriate, I wouldn't. | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " It's difficult to tell what kind of reaction you may get, I would just not respond to people that hold no interest for me. I've learnt the hard way, faq section states no reply is no interest and not considered rude. | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Of course they don't deserve abuse. The OP didn't receive an abusive message. " The OP does and has had a lot of abuse today for saying sorry no thank you and called rude for doing so. That's why I was curious as to why a polite no is considered rude. If I'd messaged saying you're an ugly twat and I wouldnt ride you into battle then yes that would be me bein rude. | |||
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"I'd actually prefer to hear no I'm not interested than just being ignored and deleted but what can you do. Don't understand the reason behind getting pissy over being turned down. Would hope people wouldn't react like that if they got turned down in a bar. " of course the wouldn't be like that in a bar, they only do it here because they can hide behind their keyboard | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile." I've had 3 bad message, being rude to me, out of hundreds, maybe a thousand. Why I don't get them I don't know; maybe, they are secretly relieved I turned them down. | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. I've had 3 bad message, being rude to me, out of hundreds, maybe a thousand. Why I don't get them I don't know; maybe, they are secretly relieved I turned them down. " it's the sexy slippers. No1 will ever dismiss u.. pure filth they are xx | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. I've had 3 bad message, being rude to me, out of hundreds, maybe a thousand. Why I don't get them I don't know; maybe, they are secretly relieved I turned them down. it's the sexy slippers. No1 will ever dismiss u.. pure filth they are xx" I'm taking that (better than my thesis that I'm the bottom of the barrel for them, and they aren't that bothered I said no). | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. I've had 3 bad message, being rude to me, out of hundreds, maybe a thousand. Why I don't get them I don't know; maybe, they are secretly relieved I turned them down. it's the sexy slippers. No1 will ever dismiss u.. pure filth they are xx I'm taking that (better than my thesis that I'm the bottom of the barrel for them, and they aren't that bothered I said no)." they maybe don't like pink? | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile." Perhaps it's to show balance. Some women like to shout out about every piddling message they receive. We know some people send twatish messages. we know they shouldn't be allowed to but they do. Deal with it and stop bleating on. Ignore. Block. Report. Depending on severity. It's really not worth making a drama over every little thing.... and I don't get abusive messages because I never reply | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " no! I prefer a reply,mostly will reply with a thanks and best wishes,its only right and civil. | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Perhaps it's to show balance. Some women like to shout out about every piddling message they receive. We know some people send twatish messages. we know they shouldn't be allowed to but they do. Deal with it and stop bleating on. Ignore. Block. Report. Depending on severity. It's really not worth making a drama over every little thing.... and I don't get abusive messages because I never reply "Well we both know there's a difference between a "twatish" message and an abusive one. Some of us recieve abuse on the first message, and some of us receive abuse even though we don't reply.
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"I really do wonder why I don't get the abuse lots of other women seem to. My replies are either- not what I'm looking for sorry, or no thank you. Short and sweet and no nasty replies. " I don't reply most of the time and 90% of the abuse messages I've received have been on the first message | |||
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"I consider it rude if you ask for a pic but won't reciprocate or block when asked to after just asking for a pic especially if you've been messaging for a while" I always think it's someone we know | |||
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"I just hide my profile for a bit. I'm not a piece of meat, you know ladies. "Another Piece Of Meat - Scorpions
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Of course they don't deserve abuse. The OP didn't receive an abusive message. The OP does and has had a lot of abuse today for saying sorry no thank you and called rude for doing so. That's why I was curious as to why a polite no is considered rude. If I'd messaged saying you're an ugly twat and I wouldnt ride you into battle then yes that would be me bein rude. " Ah then I apologise and I agree with your twat/ battle comment. I was referring to the OP where you said you were called rude. You didn't say you got abuse too. Of course it's not rude to turn any man down that asks for a fuck but men like that have no clue. They think we're free prostitutes here for their benefit. So why feel bad about someone like that calling you rude? | |||
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"I consider it rude if you ask for a pic but won't reciprocate or block when asked to after just asking for a pic especially if you've been messaging for a while" Cos you where chatting to a bloke | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Of course they don't deserve abuse. The OP didn't receive an abusive message. The OP does and has had a lot of abuse today for saying sorry no thank you and called rude for doing so. That's why I was curious as to why a polite no is considered rude. If I'd messaged saying you're an ugly twat and I wouldnt ride you into battle then yes that would be me bein rude. Ah then I apologise and I agree with your twat/ battle comment. I was referring to the OP where you said you were called rude. You didn't say you got abuse too. Of course it's not rude to turn any man down that asks for a fuck but men like that have no clue. They think we're free prostitutes here for their benefit. So why feel bad about someone like that calling you rude? " She didn't say she feels bad? She was asking a question | |||
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"If they think saying no thanks is rude then they must have a high opinion of themselves. U should of bullet pointed the reasons y u said no... Ugly Fanny like a butchers apron Had bigger tooth picks in my mouth Etc etc" Then you are just at the same level as they are. I have no sympathy at all for people that send abuse back like that. It just keeps the cycle going and it's incredibly childish. | |||
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"I consider it rude if you ask for a pic but won't reciprocate or block when asked to after just asking for a pic especially if you've been messaging for a while Cos you where chatting to a bloke "damn that's where I'm going wrong l so the two ladies I was chatting to today we're fellas | |||
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"If they think saying no thanks is rude then they must have a high opinion of themselves. U should of bullet pointed the reasons y u said no... Ugly Fanny like a butchers apron Had bigger tooth picks in my mouth Etc etc Then you are just at the same level as they are. I have no sympathy at all for people that send abuse back like that. It just keeps the cycle going and it's incredibly childish. " yes.... yes I am | |||
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"If I send a message, I don’t expect a reply...I hope for one, but there’s no god given right I have to have one, as I’ve invaded your privacy without your permission. I don’t ever check to see if that message has been read as my thinking is that you’ll get in touch if you are interested. Even if you don’t get in touch it could be for reasons other than you don’t like me...you could be busy, you could have enough buddies right now, you could be consumed with an upcoming meet. I would never send another message until I got one off you. I would just block if I was a woman on here...you get that many messages, it’s not worth the hassle "Sensible answer | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile." | |||
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"If they think saying no thanks is rude then they must have a high opinion of themselves. U should of bullet pointed the reasons y u said no... Ugly Fanny like a butchers apron Had bigger tooth picks in my mouth Etc etc Then you are just at the same level as they are. I have no sympathy at all for people that send abuse back like that. It just keeps the cycle going and it's incredibly childish. yes.... yes I am" | |||
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"If they think saying no thanks is rude then they must have a high opinion of themselves. U should of bullet pointed the reasons y u said no... Ugly Fanny like a butchers apron Had bigger tooth picks in my mouth Etc etc Then you are just at the same level as they are. I have no sympathy at all for people that send abuse back like that. It just keeps the cycle going and it's incredibly childish. yes.... yes I am "sorry | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile." I get the occasional random abusive message, as an opener too which is hilarious, like I’m going to reply after that. I don’t think anyone deserves abuse (regardless of gender) but some women do seem to attract a lot of drama, intentional or not. | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile." Agreed. I think it’s fascina when people tell other people how they are supposed to feel or define as absuive or rude. Just because one person thinks it might be rude rather than abusive does not make that a universal truth. Enough with the undermining other people’s experience, have your opinion but don’t foist it or demand that it is the only possibility. I find it abusive that some do so. Not rude, abusive. | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Agreed. I think it’s fascina when people tell other people how they are supposed to feel or define as absuive or rude. Just because one person thinks it might be rude rather than abusive does not make that a universal truth. Enough with the undermining other people’s experience, have your opinion but don’t foist it or demand that it is the only possibility. I find it abusive that some do so. Not rude, abusive. " *fascinating | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " I was called a cunt and blocked by a lady last week for saying just that. My exact words were “nice pics but you’re not for me, good luck” and I’m a cunt apparently. | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I was called a cunt and blocked by a lady last week for saying just that. My exact words were “nice pics but you’re not for me, good luck” and I’m a cunt apparently. "Rejection abuse is gender less...! | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I was called a cunt and blocked by a lady last week for saying just that. My exact words were “nice pics but you’re not for me, good luck” and I’m a cunt apparently. "And I meant it! | |||
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? " Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. | |||
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. " Mmmm. Yeah. | |||
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. Mmmm. Yeah." Spit it out. | |||
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"Be kind, always " Yes | |||
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. Mmmm. Yeah. Spit it out. "I’m good thanks, said what I wanted and got your answer | |||
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"I tell men the people they’ve met are repulsive so I won’t meet them and they have a hissy fit and say they are nice men and why won’t I meet them. Trials and tribulations "is that why u don't show veris? | |||
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"I tell men the people they’ve met are repulsive so I won’t meet them and they have a hissy fit and say they are nice men and why won’t I meet them. Trials and tribulations is that why u don't show veris? "Nope. I’m quoting from a source | |||
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. " It's a strange comment actually not a strange question | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I think for some not replying would be better than recieving a knock back." | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile." Whilst I understand your point of view the women who complain are the ones that appear to reply to every message they receive whether the person meets their criteria or not because they "don't want to appear rude". Perhaps if they were circumspect in their messaging and block after sending a "thanks no thanks" message they'd have a happier experience...just a thought. | |||
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"Babe I am sick to the back teeth of getting abuse for gently declining. If I feel like the message was well thought out and they have put effort in I always reply, even if it's a no thanks. But I'm starting to become bitter about doing that now as the abuse just isn't worth it
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " I always send a thank you for being politely declined. I appreciate the fact they gave taken the time and trouble to respond even if its a no thanks. Never any need to be rude. Ignore the ignorant and keep on doing it please darlo not enough politeness in the world. | |||
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. It's a strange comment actually not a strange question " Yes they do. I’ve noticed them trolling the OP on other threads and called them out for it. So has another lady. Enough I think it’s embarrassing to view | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Whilst I understand your point of view the women who complain are the ones that appear to reply to every message they receive whether the person meets their criteria or not because they "don't want to appear rude". Perhaps if they were circumspect in their messaging and block after sending a "thanks no thanks" message they'd have a happier experience...just a thought. " No I don't reply to all messages Well thought out ones with a face pic attached i will as it hasn't been the standard "hey" or "you free". I believe manners cost nothing hence when it is a proper message I will reply if they aren't my taste so they know rather than believe the message has been lost or I'm ignorant | |||
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"I appreciate a " thanks but no thanks" but if my message is just deleted I don't take it personally either, especially with the amount of messages you ladies receive.....Peace & Love to all " I’d have to say the same goes for me. “A thanks, but no thanks” is a lovely way, I always try to be polite even when their response is “Duck off”. Do people forget we all talk and bad Khama spreads? | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I always send a thank you for being politely declined. I appreciate the fact they gave taken the time and trouble to respond even if its a no thanks. Never any need to be rude. Ignore the ignorant and keep on doing it please darlo not enough politeness in the world. " To be quite honest I find it a little bit rude when guys thank us for replying. It makes me feel like our wishes to cease that particular conversation have not been respected, and it does put me off sending a polite rejection. Mrs | |||
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"I appreciate a " thanks but no thanks" but if my message is just deleted I don't take it personally either, especially with the amount of messages you ladies receive.....Peace & Love to all I’d have to say the same goes for me. “A thanks, but no thanks” is a lovely way, I always try to be polite even when their response is “Duck off”. Do people forget we all talk and bad Khama spreads?" Do you report abusive messages? | |||
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"I think it would be quite good to have a function where a person receiving the rejection can’t message again for a period of time. We don’t like to block people, but could do without all the ‘thank you for replying’ messages. When we politely say no we’d like to know that that is the end of that particular conversation. Mrs" Excellent idea - I must remember to fill in the questionaire and ask for the 'polite no thanks' button! ! | |||
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"I think it would be quite good to have a function where a person receiving the rejection can’t message again for a period of time. We don’t like to block people, but could do without all the ‘thank you for replying’ messages. When we politely say no we’d like to know that that is the end of that particular conversation. Mrs Excellent idea - I must remember to fill in the questionaire and ask for the 'polite no thanks' button! !" It has to come with a temporary partial block though. Not a full block, just prevent them replying to the reply, | |||
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"I think it would be quite good to have a function where a person receiving the rejection can’t message again for a period of time. We don’t like to block people, but could do without all the ‘thank you for replying’ messages. When we politely say no we’d like to know that that is the end of that particular conversation. Mrs Excellent idea - I must remember to fill in the questionaire and ask for the 'polite no thanks' button! ! It has to come with a temporary partial block though. Not a full block, just prevent them replying to the reply, " That would be useful yes. I have a feeling that a no button would avoid abuse - the guy doesn't get ignored, but if he gets a dozen a day the same I think it ceases to become a personal communication warranting a reply and might just be accepted. | |||
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"I think it would be quite good to have a function where a person receiving the rejection can’t message again for a period of time. We don’t like to block people, but could do without all the ‘thank you for replying’ messages. When we politely say no we’d like to know that that is the end of that particular conversation. Mrs Excellent idea - I must remember to fill in the questionaire and ask for the 'polite no thanks' button! !" Aw the survey. ..that needs a bump | |||
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. It's a strange comment actually not a strange question Yes they do. I’ve noticed them trolling the OP on other threads and called them out for it. So has another lady. Enough I think it’s embarrassing to view "So have I. And yes, it isn’t enjoyable viewing. | |||
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"I think it would be quite good to have a function where a person receiving the rejection can’t message again for a period of time. We don’t like to block people, but could do without all the ‘thank you for replying’ messages. When we politely say no we’d like to know that that is the end of that particular conversation. Mrs Excellent idea - I must remember to fill in the questionaire and ask for the 'polite no thanks' button! !" It was one of my suggestions when I completed it | |||
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"I see the victim blaming is strong in this thread. I personally enjoy the reply to my very polite rejections - 'oh that wasn't meant for you, you're not my type as you're an ugly cow I wouldn't be seen dead with' "I've had 4 of those types of replies. They make me laugh more than anything. I've had a couple of people message me, one from a couple's account, who said I was too big for them anyway. It's their defence mechanism and doesn't bother me at all. | |||
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"So weird when women post on here about receiving abuse there's always others who feel the need to comment the fact that they've never had abuse and subtly try and blame the woman posting about. Great! You've never been sent an abusive message, that's not really related to the original post though is it? It's almost as if some of you think that certain women deserve abuse because of how they run their profile. Whilst I understand your point of view the women who complain are the ones that appear to reply to every message they receive whether the person meets their criteria or not because they "don't want to appear rude". Perhaps if they were circumspect in their messaging and block after sending a "thanks no thanks" message they'd have a happier experience...just a thought. No I don't reply to all messages Well thought out ones with a face pic attached i will as it hasn't been the standard "hey" or "you free". I believe manners cost nothing hence when it is a proper message I will reply if they aren't my taste so they know rather than believe the message has been lost or I'm ignorant " Hereby proving my point. I could care less if someone has written a sonnet to rival Shakespeare if his profile doesn't match what I'm looking for, if he can write he can read. A brief message from someone meeting what I'm looking for always gets a response...Never had abuse/negative response. It works for me, others may continue to reply to all in order not appear rude, but wear big girl pants and exercise your report button finger as you'll be using it frequently. | |||
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"I think just about everyone has wished for a ‘polite no thanks button’ over the years. Hope it happens " Having been on sites with such a button I can assure you it doesn't work. The entitled bitch and moan about impersonal no thanks messages. Fab has had a no thanks button in the past and removed it because...people bitched and moaned about impersonal messages. | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? " It’s not rude at all. Honesty is indeed the best policy. I’d say it’s people not able to handle the rejection from yourself. Maybe have it in their heads that they’ll have you. And can’t hamdle it when they find out they can’t? | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? It’s not rude at all. Honesty is indeed the best policy. I’d say it’s people not able to handle the rejection from yourself. Maybe have it in their heads that they’ll have you. And can’t hamdle it when they find out they can’t?" I don’t think honesty is the best policy. I absolutely do not need it rubbed in my face that I’m not someone’s type. For me it would be much kinder to subtly ignore me. Mrs | |||
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"I see the victim blaming is strong in this thread. I personally enjoy the reply to my very polite rejections - 'oh that wasn't meant for you, you're not my type as you're an ugly cow I wouldn't be seen dead with'
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"Like attracts like. Do you have a particular issue with this OP? Strange question. I wasn't replying to the OP. It was a general comment. It's a strange comment actually not a strange question Yes they do. I’ve noticed them trolling the OP on other threads and called them out for it. So has another lady. Enough I think it’s embarrassing to view
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I always send a thank you for being politely declined. I appreciate the fact they gave taken the time and trouble to respond even if its a no thanks. Never any need to be rude. Ignore the ignorant and keep on doing it please darlo not enough politeness in the world. To be quite honest I find it a little bit rude when guys thank us for replying. It makes me feel like our wishes to cease that particular conversation have not been respected, and it does put me off sending a polite rejection. Mrs " I must admit I hadn't thought of that...The way I was brought up it was always considered polite that when someone answered a letter or a message to say thank you to that person for answering. I will have to ignore my upbringing and not respond in future. | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I always send a thank you for being politely declined. I appreciate the fact they gave taken the time and trouble to respond even if its a no thanks. Never any need to be rude. Ignore the ignorant and keep on doing it please darlo not enough politeness in the world. To be quite honest I find it a little bit rude when guys thank us for replying. It makes me feel like our wishes to cease that particular conversation have not been respected, and it does put me off sending a polite rejection. Mrs I must admit I hadn't thought of that...The way I was brought up it was always considered polite that when someone answered a letter or a message to say thank you to that person for answering. I will have to ignore my upbringing and not respond in future." I was brought up to be polite. My mother was very big on manners. But I’m afraid my mother never taught me that I should say thank you if I was sent a rejection letter. Presumably if that is correct etiquette then I should be sending ‘thank you for replying’ letters every time I am rejected after a job interview? | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I always send a thank you for being politely declined. I appreciate the fact they gave taken the time and trouble to respond even if its a no thanks. Never any need to be rude. Ignore the ignorant and keep on doing it please darlo not enough politeness in the world. To be quite honest I find it a little bit rude when guys thank us for replying. It makes me feel like our wishes to cease that particular conversation have not been respected, and it does put me off sending a polite rejection. Mrs I must admit I hadn't thought of that...The way I was brought up it was always considered polite that when someone answered a letter or a message to say thank you to that person for answering. I will have to ignore my upbringing and not respond in future. I was brought up to be polite. My mother was very big on manners. But I’m afraid my mother never taught me that I should say thank you if I was sent a rejection letter. Presumably if that is correct etiquette then I should be sending ‘thank you for replying’ letters every time I am rejected after a job interview? " Well, actually yes...its not only considered good manners it's also good interview technique but that is a different situation. After due consideration I have decided that if someone feels upset by my politeness then that it is their issue not mine and that I shall continue to be what I consider to be well mannered and say thank you and wish them well for the future. I am not in any way asking to continue something that has been rejected I am merely saying thank you and goodbye, hardly offensive or rude in my opinion albeit the fact it seems be in yours. | |||
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"Since when has someone saying sorry you aren't my type considered rude? A polite no thanks is all I'd have thought is required yet today all I've had is that I'm rude for saying no thanks. Would it be preferable to just delete? I thought honesty was best policy? I always send a thank you for being politely declined. I appreciate the fact they gave taken the time and trouble to respond even if its a no thanks. Never any need to be rude. Ignore the ignorant and keep on doing it please darlo not enough politeness in the world. To be quite honest I find it a little bit rude when guys thank us for replying. It makes me feel like our wishes to cease that particular conversation have not been respected, and it does put me off sending a polite rejection. Mrs I must admit I hadn't thought of that...The way I was brought up it was always considered polite that when someone answered a letter or a message to say thank you to that person for answering. I will have to ignore my upbringing and not respond in future. I was brought up to be polite. My mother was very big on manners. But I’m afraid my mother never taught me that I should say thank you if I was sent a rejection letter. Presumably if that is correct etiquette then I should be sending ‘thank you for replying’ letters every time I am rejected after a job interview? Well, actually yes...its not only considered good manners it's also good interview technique but that is a different situation. After due consideration I have decided that if someone feels upset by my politeness then that it is their issue not mine and that I shall continue to be what I consider to be well mannered and say thank you and wish them well for the future. I am not in any way asking to continue something that has been rejected I am merely saying thank you and goodbye, hardly offensive or rude in my opinion albeit the fact it seems be in yours." True good manners is respecting what other people want, and I’m prepared to be wrong, but I suspect most couples and single ladies in a situation where they are often bombarded with unwanted measages, would have a preference for their polite ‘no thank you’ to signify the end of that particular conversation. Given that most of us were brought up in the ‘70s and ‘80s, prior to email, internet and texting, there probably is no blueprint from that era as to what good manners is in relation to the Internet. So if thanking someone for a reply has now become modern day etiquette, then that is a new thing associated with modern technology. It certainly didn’t happen when we were all growing up, so I would question why is it considered good manners now? | |||
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"A “thanks, but no thanks” is not, and cannot be considered rude. I always appreciate the courtesy of such a response even if I’d have preferred a “get over here now” reply." Nobody’s saying it’s rude to send a polite rejection. I was questioning whether it’s appropriate for the person receiving the rejection to then thank the sender for the sending a rejection email. | |||
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"A “thanks, but no thanks” is not, and cannot be considered rude. I always appreciate the courtesy of such a response even if I’d have preferred a “get over here now” reply. Nobody’s saying it’s rude to send a polite rejection. I was questioning whether it’s appropriate for the person receiving the rejection to then thank the sender for the sending a rejection email. " It's appropriate. | |||
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"A “thanks, but no thanks” is not, and cannot be considered rude. I always appreciate the courtesy of such a response even if I’d have preferred a “get over here now” reply. Nobody’s saying it’s rude to send a polite rejection. I was questioning whether it’s appropriate for the person receiving the rejection to then thank the sender for the sending a rejection email. It's appropriate. " Well I guess this is a new etiquette that has sprung up with the internet and electronic communication that I’m going to have to live with  .maybe due to the speed that people can churn out emails. | |||
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"A “thanks, but no thanks” is not, and cannot be considered rude. I always appreciate the courtesy of such a response even if I’d have preferred a “get over here now” reply. Nobody’s saying it’s rude to send a polite rejection. I was questioning whether it’s appropriate for the person receiving the rejection to then thank the sender for the sending a rejection email. It's appropriate. Well I guess this is a new etiquette that has sprung up with the internet and electronic communication that I’m going to have to live with .maybe due to the speed that people can churn out emails. "It's about how one decides to run one's profile. I find it totally acceptable to receive a message thanking me for my reply. If you don't, that's up to you. | |||
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"A “thanks, but no thanks” is not, and cannot be considered rude. I always appreciate the courtesy of such a response even if I’d have preferred a “get over here now” reply. Nobody’s saying it’s rude to send a polite rejection. I was questioning whether it’s appropriate for the person receiving the rejection to then thank the sender for the sending a rejection email. It's appropriate. Well I guess this is a new etiquette that has sprung up with the internet and electronic communication that I’m going to have to live with .maybe due to the speed that people can churn out emails.
It's about how one decides to run one's profile. I find it totally acceptable to receive a message thanking me for my reply. If you don't, that's up to you.
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"A “thanks, but no thanks” is not, and cannot be considered rude. I always appreciate the courtesy of such a response even if I’d have preferred a “get over here now” reply. Nobody’s saying it’s rude to send a polite rejection. I was questioning whether it’s appropriate for the person receiving the rejection to then thank the sender for the sending a rejection email. It's appropriate. Well I guess this is a new etiquette that has sprung up with the internet and electronic communication that I’m going to have to live with .maybe due to the speed that people can churn out emails.
It's about how one decides to run one's profile. I find it totally acceptable to receive a message thanking me for my reply. If you don't, that's up to you.
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"A “thanks, but no thanks” is not, and cannot be considered rude. I always appreciate the courtesy of such a response even if I’d have preferred a “get over here now” reply. Nobody’s saying it’s rude to send a polite rejection. I was questioning whether it’s appropriate for the person receiving the rejection to then thank the sender for the sending a rejection email. It's appropriate. Well I guess this is a new etiquette that has sprung up with the internet and electronic communication that I’m going to have to live with .maybe due to the speed that people can churn out emails.
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