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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’re all on here for one reason or another with the main reason being enjoyment / fun. That’s why I’m here anyway.
However, I’m a male widower with a small child. He’s my everything and my world.
When I explain this to people or people see an old photo or baby toys they run a mile accusing witch with their pitchforks and burning sticks out without a hope of explanation!
I guess I should just put it in my profile from now on but again... it’s easier to judge than just ask or understand, isn’t it? |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
Why should you explain? Do you want to meet people who are judgemental like that?
Ultimately im guessing you want no strings fun, maybe something regular? Your personal situation is really nobody elses business and im sure unlikely to impact upon any meets... so why do hey need to know?
Of course the other real danger in your situation is ladies taking pity and thinking they can save you from your sadness etc.... there are some very peculiar folk on here! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s the fact that they’re gone and you’re blocked when you were getting in just fine...
It’s incredibly frustrating.
Tidy up  I like to think my place is tidy but sometimes the odd thing gets in the background of a quick snapchat or quick kik message! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good luck OP. I know how hard that can be.
Those who understand and accept you here are those who you will connect with. Just be yourself.
Those who do not accept you as you are are not worth your time anyway so you have lost nothing.
It's your life you do not have to ever justify yourself to anyone.
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s the fact that they’re gone and you’re blocked when you were getting in just fine...
It’s incredibly frustrating.
Tidy up I like to think my place is tidy but sometimes the odd thing gets in the background of a quick snapchat or quick kik message! "
If they just block you how do you know why? Not having a go but are you sure it’s because of your home situation? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s the fact that they’re gone and you’re blocked when you were getting in just fine...
It’s incredibly frustrating.
Tidy up I like to think my place is tidy but sometimes the odd thing gets in the background of a quick snapchat or quick kik message!
If they just block you how do you know why? Not having a go but are you sure it’s because of your home situation? "
Erm because the line after a photo of a baby toy / chair / old photo in background is generally... married with a kid? Not my style...
That’s how. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re all on here for one reason or another with the main reason being enjoyment / fun. That’s why I’m here anyway.
However, I’m a male widower with a small child. He’s my everything and my world.
When I explain this to people or people see an old photo or baby toys they run a mile accusing witch with their pitchforks and burning sticks out without a hope of explanation!
I guess I should just put it in my profile from now on but again... it’s easier to judge than just ask or understand, isn’t it? "
I wouldn't worry matey. It's a perfect filter for those that aren't compatible with you. Personally I would hope that you put your child before anything else... you seem real and honest so the right ones won't mind stuff like that x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We’re all on here for one reason or another with the main reason being enjoyment / fun. That’s why I’m here anyway.
However, I’m a male widower with a small child. He’s my everything and my world.
When I explain this to people or people see an old photo or baby toys they run a mile accusing witch with their pitchforks and burning sticks out without a hope of explanation!
I guess I should just put it in my profile from now on but again... it’s easier to judge than just ask or understand, isn’t it?
I wouldn't worry matey. It's a perfect filter for those that aren't compatible with you. Personally I would hope that you put your child before anything else... you seem real and honest so the right ones won't mind stuff like that x"
Ta Babs. Yes, little man is first and foremost! Nothing gets in the way of me and him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You put on your profile what you want to put on if you tell people about your child thats their loss if they dont believe you there are actually genuine people on here like yourself xxx "
If they get upset that's their issue and you're lucky you won't waste time meeting them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You put on your profile what you want to put on if you tell people about your child thats their loss if they dont believe you there are actually genuine people on here like yourself xxx "
Thank you! That’s very kind. |
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"People who mind don’t matter, people who matter won’t mind. "
Agree absolutely!
As a single parent I’ve chatted to and met many single dads - some of whom share custody - some have sole custody!
Dads are parents too - anyone who can’t accept that isn’t worth your time or attention op!
Chin up and big hugs!
Peachy xx |
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Something doesn't feel right to me.
I have to say O.P. that you should be more careful with your pics.
I haven't seen a woman on here with pictures of kids and toys in them.
They tend to take adult pics of themselves.
Take some decent photos. Deliberate ones and make those the ones on view and the ones you send out. Keep your child separate from this.
My dad was a single dad. Just for the record. For no other reason than the record. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Something doesn't feel right to me.
I have to say O.P. that you should be more careful with your pics.
I haven't seen a woman on here with pictures of kids and toys in them.
They tend to take adult pics of themselves.
Take some decent photos. Deliberate ones and make those the ones on view and the ones you send out. Keep your child separate from this.
My dad was a single dad. Just for the record. For no other reason than the record. "
I am obviously not sending pictures of my little one in the background. I think something has been misinterpreted here...
I am however sending pictures with a toy or pram or similar accidentally in the background and this is where people assume they have me ‘rumbled’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't let small minded idiots spoil your experience.
Some women feel entitlement due to the volume of guys on here. They become all dramatic with the block button.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
The simple answer OP is to check your pics more carefully and be sure there's nothing in the background to make people suspicious - regardless of whether they are right or wrong, or your circumstances, there are enough people on here who blatantly lie about their personal circumstances that people tend to be cautious and err on the side of suspicion - so by placing indicators that may heighten that suspicion you're not doing yourself any favours. Especially when a quick check before uploading/sending a pic could prevent that completely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't let small minded idiots spoil your experience.
Some women feel entitlement due to the volume of guys on here. They become all dramatic with the block button.
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"The simple answer OP is to check your pics more carefully and be sure there's nothing in the background to make people suspicious - regardless of whether they are right or wrong, or your circumstances, there are enough people on here who blatantly lie about their personal circumstances that people tend to be cautious and err on the side of suspicion - so by placing indicators that may heighten that suspicion you're not doing yourself any favours. Especially when a quick check before uploading/sending a pic could prevent that completely "
I said that. He just said i'd misunderstood.
So ..... He blames others for his poor pictures and then says others are misunderstanding his point.
None so blind as the saying goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’re all on here for one reason or another with the main reason being enjoyment / fun. That’s why I’m here anyway.
However, I’m a male widower with a small child. He’s my everything and my world.
When I explain this to people or people see an old photo or baby toys they run a mile accusing witch with their pitchforks and burning sticks out without a hope of explanation!
I guess I should just put it in my profile from now on but again... it’s easier to judge than just ask or understand, isn’t it? "
Bollox to them, if the thought of you having a child puts them off then they clearly are not worth meeting.
I'd meet you in aa heartbeat if you were closer. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We’re all on here for one reason or another with the main reason being enjoyment / fun. That’s why I’m here anyway.
However, I’m a male widower with a small child. He’s my everything and my world.
When I explain this to people or people see an old photo or baby toys they run a mile accusing witch with their pitchforks and burning sticks out without a hope of explanation!
I guess I should just put it in my profile from now on but again... it’s easier to judge than just ask or understand, isn’t it?
Bollox to them, if the thought of you having a child puts them off then they clearly are not worth meeting.
I'd meet you in aa heartbeat if you were closer."
Ha! Putting things bluntly!
Well that’s very kind of you. If I’m ever you way for work I’ll take you for coffee! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This happens to us women as well. Not the toys in photos.
But the being accused of being married. I don’t accommodate.
I’m still single.
Many on here are playing away an lying about it. Can’t blame them for being cautious.
You know why you was blocked. Live an learn.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have to say, I didn’t know what to expect when I put this up.
The response from the fabs community has been fantastic!
Lots of friendly people who’ve said hello, I’d love to have a chat with you all!!
M. Xx |
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