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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My life is the best it's been for a good 20 years, financially I'm no Richard Branson but I get by.
I have an amazing woman in my life who is my best friend and submissive.
My kids are doing well and happy and healthy.
I have new projects starting that are just mind blowing.
My health is fairly good despite my weight, all in all, there are lots of people who would be more than happy with the life I have.
Yet yesterday, around 5 o'clock, and for no reason, I started crying, I mean really sobbing, I've been so caught up in life outside of my head, I didn't see the black dog sneak in and do a big shut on the carpet of my well being.
It just goes to show. Depression isn't always about being unhappy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Giant hug coming your way 
Depression is horrible and when it grabs hold of you.... It's difficult to get away.
I had a crappy week last week and nearly had a nervous breakdown, really scared me as I've been there before and didn't want to go there again.
Crying it out, is nothing to be ashamed of, it's a good way of releasing built up emotions xx |
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"My life is the best it's been for a good 20 years, financially I'm no Richard Branson but I get by.
I have an amazing woman in my life who is my best friend and submissive.
My kids are doing well and happy and healthy.
I have new projects starting that are just mind blowing.
My health is fairly good despite my weight, all in all, there are lots of people who would be more than happy with the life I have.
Yet yesterday, around 5 o'clock, and for no reason, I started crying, I mean really sobbing, I've been so caught up in life outside of my head, I didn't see the black dog sneak in and do a big shut on the carpet of my well being.
It just goes to show. Depression isn't always about being unhappy. "
I hope I could add , crying isn't always about unhappiness or being depressed either x
I've always been quite susceptible to watery eyes but almost never because of my own sadness ?
I'm actually more tearful now than ever but my tears generally come from my emotions thus I find I'm tearful with joy, or empathy, seeing a beautiful scene or acts of compassion
I hope the op enjoyed his crying and it's cause can be deemed a positive ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing |
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"My life is the best it's been for a good 20 years, financially I'm no Richard Branson but I get by.
I have an amazing woman in my life who is my best friend and submissive.
My kids are doing well and happy and healthy.
I have new projects starting that are just mind blowing.
My health is fairly good despite my weight, all in all, there are lots of people who would be more than happy with the life I have.
Yet yesterday, around 5 o'clock, and for no reason, I started crying, I mean really sobbing, I've been so caught up in life outside of my head, I didn't see the black dog sneak in and do a big shut on the carpet of my well being.
It just goes to show. Depression isn't always about being unhappy.
I hope I could add , crying isn't always about unhappiness or being depressed either x
I've always been quite susceptible to watery eyes but almost never because of my own sadness ?
I'm actually more tearful now than ever but my tears generally come from my emotions thus I find I'm tearful with joy, or empathy, seeing a beautiful scene or acts of compassion
I hope the op enjoyed his crying and it's cause can be deemed a positive ?
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Absolutely. That overwhelming crash with the sobbing is a normal human emotion. If it doesn’t go away I’d be worried.
Like you KB, I have frugal, lovely life but this week has seen me sobbing and very sad because of a very simple thing that’s just sad. It will go.
I hope the sobbing has been cathartic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Couldn't agree more OP.
Hope you kick the black dog up the arse very soon and get through this.
You got this man.
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I'm a lot better today, it's hard to describe the mood swings. But I take the black dog out for a walk and it all gets better a lot quicker |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing "
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift "
I hear you. Ive struggled with mental illness on and off for some time now.
At first Kept it to myself for years and just plodded along pretending to myself and everyone else I was the happiest guy walking. Until things got shit scary inside my head. Finally started to talk about it when I knew i was going to do something.
Being open and honest with gp, family and friends was the best thing I could have ever done. This is about 6 years ago now.
So anyone else that's embarrassed and ashamed. Pllleeeeease don't be. Talking openly and honest about it is the best therapy ever |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift
I hear you. Ive struggled with mental illness on and off for some time now.
At first Kept it to myself for years and just plodded along pretending to myself and everyone else I was the happiest guy walking. Until things got shit scary inside my head. Finally started to talk about it when I knew i was going to do something.
Being open and honest with gp, family and friends was the best thing I could have ever done. This is about 6 years ago now.
So anyone else that's embarrassed and ashamed. Pllleeeeease don't be. Talking openly and honest about it is the best therapy ever "
Yes, and if you have a friend who hasa mental health issue, be there for them, you don't have to say the right thing of "cheer them up" just a game of pool, or a game of fifa, it means more than you think for someone to treat you normal. Even if your jokes are shut, we appreciate the thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift "
Personally I can see it as comparable.
Statistically I’m most likely to be killed as a result of depression for the next 19 years. That’s some scary shit.
I’ve know far too many young lad and blokes in their 40s kill them selves over the past few years.
It’s what sparked me to go on and complete a mental health first aid course, even if I only ever help one person, it’s worthwhile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift
I hear you. Ive struggled with mental illness on and off for some time now.
At first Kept it to myself for years and just plodded along pretending to myself and everyone else I was the happiest guy walking. Until things got shit scary inside my head. Finally started to talk about it when I knew i was going to do something.
Being open and honest with gp, family and friends was the best thing I could have ever done. This is about 6 years ago now.
So anyone else that's embarrassed and ashamed. Pllleeeeease don't be. Talking openly and honest about it is the best therapy ever
Yes, and if you have a friend who hasa mental health issue, be there for them, you don't have to say the right thing of "cheer them up" just a game of pool, or a game of fifa, it means more than you think for someone to treat you normal. Even if your jokes are shut, we appreciate the thought "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift
Personally I can see it as comparable.
Statistically I’m most likely to be killed as a result of depression for the next 19 years. That’s some scary shit.
I’ve know far too many young lad and blokes in their 40s kill them selves over the past few years.
It’s what sparked me to go on and complete a mental health first aid course, even if I only ever help one person, it’s worthwhile. "
What does a mental health first aid course involve? Was it through work? I have a few friends that I'd like to help but don't know where to start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift
Personally I can see it as comparable.
Statistically I’m most likely to be killed as a result of depression for the next 19 years. That’s some scary shit.
I’ve know far too many young lad and blokes in their 40s kill them selves over the past few years.
It’s what sparked me to go on and complete a mental health first aid course, even if I only ever help one person, it’s worthwhile.
What does a mental health first aid course involve? Was it through work? I have a few friends that I'd like to help but don't know where to start. "
It’s similar to a traditional first aider is.
A first point of contact, it doesn’t teach you to be a therapist, just someone with enough knowledge to offer initial support and then help them contact the relevant help
And yes i went through work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im suffering badly with depression at the moment. Have been for a while despite me having lots of things that make me happy. Theres one thing thats causing me so much stress but i cant avoid it but thats probably causing the depression. Doc has given me medication but i cant face the side effects so havnt taken them and just live in hope the depression will go away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve never been there and hope I never do but big up for actually admitting it.
I know quite a few people who are or who have suffered and very few will openly admit to it.
Blokes talking is a rare thing, which is slowing changing
Very good point, we do need to talk about it, you wouldn't feel ashamed if you had cancer, so why feel ashamed of mental illness, not that I'm comparing the suffering of depression to the suffering of someone with cancer, but you get my drift
Personally I can see it as comparable.
Statistically I’m most likely to be killed as a result of depression for the next 19 years. That’s some scary shit.
I’ve know far too many young lad and blokes in their 40s kill them selves over the past few years.
It’s what sparked me to go on and complete a mental health first aid course, even if I only ever help one person, it’s worthwhile.
What does a mental health first aid course involve? Was it through work? I have a few friends that I'd like to help but don't know where to start.
It’s similar to a traditional first aider is.
A first point of contact, it doesn’t teach you to be a therapist, just someone with enough knowledge to offer initial support and then help them contact the relevant help
And yes i went through work "
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It’s horrible illness when it hits I know I’ve suffered from this the last 3 years n one day I’m fine then weeks later boom I’m at rock bottom n don’t want to talk to anyone n cut my self off from the world , but got a good gp n he listens to me n actually talks to me n dosent rush me out the surgery , I’ve been ok for a while n then it hit me badly the other day I couldn’t even go to work let alone talk to anyone , off docs tomoz x good look OP We are all here to support u if we can! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My life is the best it's been for a good 20 years, financially I'm no Richard Branson but I get by.
I have an amazing woman in my life who is my best friend and submissive.
My kids are doing well and happy and healthy.
I have new projects starting that are just mind blowing.
My health is fairly good despite my weight, all in all, there are lots of people who would be more than happy with the life I have.
Yet yesterday, around 5 o'clock, and for no reason, I started crying, I mean really sobbing, I've been so caught up in life outside of my head, I didn't see the black dog sneak in and do a big shut on the carpet of my well being.
It just goes to show. Depression isn't always about being unhappy. "
Well done for recognising it and talking about it. That's the biggest leap you can make. Don't suffer in silence, keep in contact or be with family and close friends.
I won't bore you with the details but I've suffered with 'the black dog', except my shits a monkey in my mind. He's a bit of bugger at times.about year and half a go I got him diagnosed. Found out the twat was bipolar, he's been there since my early years, I'm now 50. 3 times he's wanted to take my own life. Now I know who he is and what he's about I can manage him.
Through a big learning curve for me and explaining to close family I can talk to others.
You certainly wouldn't know to look at me, very fit and healthy, financially pretty good etc etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My life is the best it's been for a good 20 years, financially I'm no Richard Branson but I get by.
I have an amazing woman in my life who is my best friend and submissive.
My kids are doing well and happy and healthy.
I have new projects starting that are just mind blowing.
My health is fairly good despite my weight, all in all, there are lots of people who would be more than happy with the life I have.
Yet yesterday, around 5 o'clock, and for no reason, I started crying, I mean really sobbing, I've been so caught up in life outside of my head, I didn't see the black dog sneak in and do a big shut on the carpet of my well being.
It just goes to show. Depression isn't always about being unhappy.
Well done for recognising it and talking about it. That's the biggest leap you can make. Don't suffer in silence, keep in contact or be with family and close friends.
I won't bore you with the details but I've suffered with 'the black dog', except my shits a monkey in my mind. He's a bit of bugger at times.about year and half a go I got him diagnosed. Found out the twat was bipolar, he's been there since my early years, I'm now 50. 3 times he's wanted to take my own life. Now I know who he is and what he's about I can manage him.
Through a big learning curve for me and explaining to close family I can talk to others.
You certainly wouldn't know to look at me, very fit and healthy, financially pretty good etc etc."
It's the Mr, not my Mrs here lol |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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There's a meme that shows depression as a range of smiling faces.
I hope it was a cathartic cry and not a depression. If it is then keep facing it.
I have an annual mental health week to take myself away from life and just be. I'm on it now. I know I've been fighting against the buzzing in my head as I've been using Fab more. These few days away I've managed to reconnect with the bits if brain that aren't buzzing. The challenge now is to keep that feeling going when I start interacting with people again.
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is a subject that I can certainly relate too after struggling with depression for many years. I take medication, I've been to Councilliing, saw a psychiatrist, even attempted suicide so OP I hear where you are coming from.
If you feel it's getting on top of you go to your doctors, be honest about how you feel.
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"My life is the best it's been for a good 20 years, financially I'm no Richard Branson but I get by.
I have an amazing woman in my life who is my best friend and submissive.
My kids are doing well and happy and healthy.
I have new projects starting that are just mind blowing.
My health is fairly good despite my weight, all in all, there are lots of people who would be more than happy with the life I have.
Yet yesterday, around 5 o'clock, and for no reason, I started crying, I mean really sobbing, I've been so caught up in life outside of my head, I didn't see the black dog sneak in and do a big shut on the carpet of my well being.
It just goes to show. Depression isn't always about being unhappy. "
Hug of support to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i had a breakdown when i was at my most content and happy - the fact i had relaxed and let down all those barriers that had held me and all around me together for the previous years of horror allowed it to do exactly what has happened to you - i just started to cry and couldnt stop - they say it a catches up with you at some point xxx |
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