FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > "Fabbed" by the wrong sex :-(

"Fabbed" by the wrong sex :-(

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm a single straight male. My pictures always seem to be "Fabbed" by blokes

I guess men "fab" pictures more than women as the ratio of male to female on this site are higher and therefore women have the luxury to stand to one side and gain attention?

For the women out there, what do I need to do to make a more attractive photo? Or do I have to resign to the thought that I'm just not doing it for you?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block men

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've blocked men messaging me. How do I block them "fabbing" me?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've blocked men messaging me. How do I block them "fabbing" me? "

Does this really bother you so much? The feeling doesn't have to be mutual.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A fabs a fab lol

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't really worry about it. Are you comfortable with your sexuality? If you are then it doesn't matter all that much.

As a straight man I'd love women to message! They don't because they don't need to fish.

I do get quite a few gay guys message...my solution: chat with them, had some great conversations and they've respected my sexuality too. Just have fun and be personable to everyone

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Women do Fab pics they like OP it's just, as you say, there's a higher proportion of men to women on the site and a number of those are bi (either openly or Fab straight) and men being visual creatures will tend to Fab more anyway. Add to that that a lot of women shy away from Fabbing pics because of the tendency of some men to take it as a signal of interest rather than pure appreciation for a pic and you start to get the picture.

Just take it as a compliment when anyone Fabs your pic and don't think too much about it.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ty31Man over a year ago

NW London

"I've blocked men messaging me. How do I block them "fabbing" me? "

Set your pics so they can't be fabbed?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *uzz And WoodyCouple over a year ago

Maidstone

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've blocked men messaging me. How do I block them "fabbing" me? "

Turn fabs off on your photos. But I wouldnt worry too much, they'll still be looking.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *uzz And WoodyCouple over a year ago

Maidstone

I think it’s your blue jumper. It’s quite camp.

Lou x

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I just fabbed the last pic of that guy sucking your dick

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *tonMessCouple over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

This

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I just fabbed the last pic of that guy sucking your dick

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

This

Looks like jizz where his boyfriend came on his chest

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *tonMessCouple over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

This

Looks like jizz where his boyfriend came on his chest

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

This

Looks like jizz where his boyfriend came on his chest

Dam labels again

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

This

Looks like jizz where his boyfriend came on his chest

Ahhhhh Hellman, the German boyfriend!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So much for being a nice pleasant forum ??

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same here.

But I know I'm straight. Real straight, not Fab straight, so it doesn't worry me at all.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And again I thought it was supposed to be a nice pleasant forum ??

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

at less you get fab so do not worry

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much for being a nice pleasant forum ??"

I asked a question, is it mayonnaise?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So strange that men in here see a 'fab' as something more than it is.

It's just a fabbed photo it's not a big deal.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

This

Looks like jizz where his boyfriend came on his chest

Oh come on..no-one does that do they?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"So much for being a nice pleasant forum ??"

I’m teasing you OP. Just a daft little jape. I’ll be off soon

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"I just fabbed the last pic of that guy sucking your dick

That was 'spit my coffee out' funny!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it wasn't for the blokes I'd have feck all fabs on photos...and yes I'm striaght

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm a single straight male. My pictures always seem to be "Fabbed" by blokes

I guess men "fab" pictures more than women as the ratio of male to female on this site are higher and therefore women have the luxury to stand to one side and gain attention?

For the women out there, what do I need to do to make a more attractive photo? Or do I have to resign to the thought that I'm just not doing it for you? "

What’s up with ya? It’s attention...you have been noticed...!!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I just fabbed the last pic of that guy sucking your dick

That was 'spit my coffee out' funny!"

okay let’s put this one to bed. OP in all seriousness that photo is a little vague. Not that I’m a fan of people displaying other people ... but there we have it.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And again I thought it was supposed to be a nice pleasant forum ??"

Think you'll learn you need to give as good aa you get here. Go get em tiger!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"And again I thought it was supposed to be a nice pleasant forum ??"

I gave you a nice pleasant reply that answered your question OP - but you have to accept there'll be light hearted fun poked on an internet forum too - especially with pics like the salad cream one in your locker

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apparently it’s Dove shower gel.

OP, do you see the potential confusion...?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's Dove Shower gel. Tried to be funny but fallen flat on my face / chest...

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *isty286Couple over a year ago

Dorset

It's probably the pic of you playing dueling banjos that attracts them.... "boy you sure got a pretty mouth".

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"It's Dove Shower gel. Tried to be funny but fallen flat on my face / chest... "

Same here. I’m sorry

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"It's probably the pic of you playing dueling banjos that attracts them.... "boy you sure got a pretty mouth".

Is that from Brokeback Mountain

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ummmmm. Ukulele not banjo. Totally different but good attempt

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It's Dove Shower gel. Tried to be funny but fallen flat on my face / chest... "

I'd take it back - looks like it's out of date

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's Dove Shower gel. Tried to be funny but fallen flat on my face / chest... "

Perhaps it’s a little confusing, yes. But humour is good

It might attract fabs from chaps that fancy re-enacting the pic with you, and if you’re not keen on the male fabs it might not get the appreciation you want.

All the best x

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Ummmmm. Ukulele not banjo. Totally different but good attempt "

Brilliant ! George Fornby. Turned out nice again ant it

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just take it as a form of flattery x

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you ?? Really wish I hadn't started this but at least it's had some attention although not the attention I was seeking

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"It's Dove Shower gel. Tried to be funny but fallen flat on my face / chest...

Perhaps it’s a little confusing, yes. But humour is good

It might attract fabs from chaps that fancy re-enacting the pic with you, and if you’re not keen on the male fabs it might not get the appreciation you want.

All the best x"

He could replace it with another cock pic for variety

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Is that a prince Albert?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *hatYorkLadMan over a year ago

York

I usually get a few fabs a day from guys or TV's. I'm not interested in them but a compliment is a compliment!

Some lovely ladies do fab my pics as well though

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is that a prince Albert? "

Oh stop it Clem! You can see it’s the shower fitting. Don’t be mean.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you ?? Really wish I hadn't started this but at least it's had some attention although not the attention I was seeking "

Your pics look fine, (with maybe the dove one as an exception)

Chin up

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Is that a prince Albert? "

shower scene

I don’t think you looking so close is going to help this situation

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In all seriousness OP and to come back to your original question - you have to come up with pics that are appealing that aren't in your face cock pics, or ones with messy rooms or joke ones like the mayo/salad cream/jizz/Dove one all of which you have on your profile - I just had a quick look and there are maybe two of yours I'd consider posting a similar pic of myself, and even then not without stylising them a little or adding a filter of some kind.

I'm honestly not blowing my own trumpet here but I just had a quick look at my last two posted pics both of which have 40+ Fabs each and the total number of Fabs from men is in single figures

Maybe take a look around at other successful guys profiles for ideas of what might work - but don't forget, you could have the best pics going but without a decent profile and messages to back it up, they won't count for anything.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In all seriousness OP and to come back to your original question - you have to come up with pics that are appealing that aren't in your face cock pics, or ones with messy rooms or joke ones like the mayo/salad cream/jizz/Dove one all of which you have on your profile - I just had a quick look and there are maybe two of yours I'd consider posting a similar pic of myself, and even then not without stylising them a little or adding a filter of some kind.

I'm honestly not blowing my own trumpet here but I just had a quick look at my last two posted pics both of which have 40+ Fabs each and the total number of Fabs from men is in single figures

What he said

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ensual-dominant-passionMan over a year ago

sheffield

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

Lmao

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is that a prince Albert?

Oh stop it Clem! You can see it’s the shower fitting. Don’t be mean.

I think it's Nescafe lol. Ohh the shower one

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

What I love about these kind of threads is when the poster takes absolutely no notice of the advice given. That in itself is pure entertainment

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am no longer going to be able to use my dove shower gel without applying it generously in the above mentioned ‘user manual’

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Be yourself and create your best profile including a range of pics. If you want more than the site delivers, visit clubs.

Put your attention on what is important and helps you achieve your goals, not on anything else. Keep life simple.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *hatYorkLadMan over a year ago

York

But is that mayonnaise though? The people need to know!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it bothers you that much op switch off the fab my pictures feature.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I’m a straight guy but still find it a huge compliment no matter who fabs my pics

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *onkeymagic50Man over a year ago

Near the harbour

I like my photos fabbed by any of the sexual oriented variations of folk on fab,I take them as a compliment my photos are like and not that they want to pump me ,

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Ummm, OP - is that mayonnaise?!

I thought it was yoghurt.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

I'm straight but fab other women's pics if they stand out.I also take a fab as a compliment if it's from a female .

Miss

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *sylockeWoman over a year ago

East Anglia

I have quite clearly stated my sexuality but only get posts from straight men who want s lesbian floor show!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"But is that mayonnaise though? The people need to know!"

Come on keep up!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I have quite clearly stated my sexuality but only get posts from straight men who want s lesbian floor show! "

Block men. You're welcome.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *oncupiscentTonyMan over a year ago

Kent

"Be yourself and create your best profile including a range of pics. If you want more than the site delivers, visit clubs.

Put your attention on what is important and helps you achieve your goals, not on anything else. Keep life simple."

Do you moonlight on the "you want it you go get it" life coach seminars circuit?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just fabbed the last pic of that guy sucking your dick

I just snorted!!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *eviantdeliteWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham

"A fabs a fab lol"
??

I fab women in nice underwear or classy erotic shots...I am straight....it is just about liking a photo...simple as that!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

1. Man asks for help on photos

2. Men gets advice explaining some of his pics may look like he has homo tendencies

3. Man spits dummy out and calls forumites unfriendly

4. Man gets more and more comments about his bi friendly pics

5. Man leaves all pics in place and ignores advice, go figure !

Drama queen and attention seeker OP? I imagine this thread has provided even more fabs now. I’ll show Sir later over a slow wanking session

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *eviantdeliteWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham

"1. Man asks for help on photos

2. Men gets advice explaining some of his pics may look like he has homo tendencies

3. Man spits dummy out and calls forumites unfriendly

4. Man gets more and more comments about his bi friendly pics

5. Man leaves all pics in place and ignores advice, go figure !

Drama queen and attention seeker OP? I imagine this thread has provided even more fabs now. I’ll show Sir later over a slow wanking session

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm interested OP in knowing why you think women fabbing your pics would increase your enjoyment of the site?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I'm interested OP in knowing why you think women fabbing your pics would increase your enjoyment of the site?"

Do you think he wants enjoyment. I’m not so sure. Comes across very negative to me.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

I agree OP we should be able to block certain Fabs.

I get a lot of sarcastic fabs which I'd like to filter.

Certainly no Fabs from dwarfs or French people.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I guess it shows I am being looked at. Really wish I hadn't started this post. Been on FAB for a number of years and always enjoyed the forums..... Until last night. Quite a lot of rude comments fired back at me. Forums should be for discussion. If I wanted to post simply for the xxxx to be taken out of me I am sure there are better sites to join

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I guess it shows I am being looked at. Really wish I hadn't started this post. Been on FAB for a number of years and always enjoyed the forums..... Until last night. Quite a lot of rude comments fired back at me. Forums should be for discussion. If I wanted to post simply for the xxxx to be taken out of me I am sure there are better sites to join "

That depends which definition of forum you choose. An open discussion, a court or tribunal...and it kinda sounds like you may have had a few tributes

On any internet forum you need to take it on the chin and either learn from it, ignore it or just give it straight back.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

That depends which definition of forum you choose. An open discussion, a court or tribunal...and it kinda sounds like you may have had a few tributes

On any internet forum you need to take it on the chin and either learn from it, ignore it or just give it straight back.

Quite right!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

You asked a question to which you got some replies. You have chosen to ignore the advice about some very obvious points. Yes there was banter, but banter was all it was. If you can’t see the error in posting a pic that looks like someone has spunked on your chest then moaning to the forum about fabs from men, there’s no hope.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 07/03/18 10:21:52]

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have taken your advice and removed them ??

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have taken your advice and removed them ??"

Maybe keep in mind that even though you know what the context for the photo is, we don't and its all open to interpretation.

Next photos you post imagine you don't know anything about the pic...now how would you see it?

If its something you don't like...don't post.

Or post anyway and have fun laughing with friends

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *now white1000Woman over a year ago

York

"I'm a single straight male. My pictures always seem to be "Fabbed" by blokes

I guess men "fab" pictures more than women as the ratio of male to female on this site are higher and therefore women have the luxury to stand to one side and gain attention?

For the women out there, what do I need to do to make a more attractive photo? Or do I have to resign to the thought that I'm just not doing it for you? "

Don't worry about it, fabbing a photo doesn't mean someone wants to jump your bones, it just means they like the photo.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry about it, fabbing a photo doesn't mean someone wants to jump your bones, it just means they like the photo."

Wait...what!! It doesnt?

Shit, i bought the ring and everthing!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Don't worry about it, fabbing a photo doesn't mean someone wants to jump your bones, it just means they like the photo.

Wait...what!! It doesnt?

Shit, i bought the ring and everthing!

you’re funny

OP there were other photos you had that were worth showing

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not after the ridicule the first lot got... No

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *hatYorkLadMan over a year ago

York

Imagine having Hellmans for spunk though! Would you have to be tipped upside down and shaken to get the last bit out?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I'm a single straight male. My pictures always seem to be "Fabbed" by blokes

I guess men "fab" pictures more than women as the ratio of male to female on this site are higher and therefore women have the luxury to stand to one side and gain attention?

For the women out there, what do I need to do to make a more attractive photo? Or do I have to resign to the thought that I'm just not doing it for you? "

I find that the only women who Fab my pics are either in my friends' list, or are people I 'sparr' with on a regular basis in the forums, in both cases, they know I won't bombard them with messages thinking, because they Fabbed my pics, they want to get me in the sack

Just enjoy the appreciation on your photographic efforts mate, wherever it comes from

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not after the ridicule the first lot got... No "

Theres no malicious intent with the comments. I've read the posts and yes they are roasting you quite a bit, but roasts are fun! With horseradish sauce though.

Not mayonnaise

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Imagine having Hellmans for spunk though! Would you have to be tipped upside down and shaken to get the last bit out? "

Or scraped out with a spoon!!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey OP. I saw your photos and didn’t want to make matters worse by saying that they were ok, as you don’t need to hear that from another bloke. The advice above in the main was good and the ‘feedback’ was pretty lighthearted. Take it as it was meant, as a bit of friendly ribbing, rather than anything personal. My photos were really shit when I started, significantly worse than any of yours. But they’ve evolved to the point were they’re just crap now. I even got told my job should be a ‘Shrek lookalike’. I could take it as an insult but I choose to see it as lighthearted banter and let it wash over me. I deliberately don’t Fab straight guys unless I know they like to have their pictures appreciated by anyone, or I simply cannot resist the urge to signal my appreciation of a great picture. Just take it as a compliment, that’s often all it is.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I consider any o e fabbing my pictures a complement and if you do fab them thank you . Diolch

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Awww put them back on OP ... I read the thread with interest ... but when I went to have a shuftie to see what all the squabbling was about ALL pics are gone

... personally thought comments were just teasing for fun ... definitely no nastiness xx

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *s.KerryTV/TS over a year ago

Blackpool

These threads always make me smile to be honest. It's as if you might 'catch' something from having your pictures 'fabbed' by the wrong sex or those you are not seeking.. I personally 'fab' pictures I like, or you can plainly see the poster have made an effort in, not with the intention of wanting to meet them necessarily

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *andyandy12345Man over a year ago

Edgware

Ignore it Flattery is the Sincerest form of wit

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *he Silver FuxMan over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"I just fabbed the last pic of that guy sucking your dick

damn funny! A real LOL ??

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

It is tough with that new rule that you have to arrange a play meet with everyone who fabs your pics. I feel for you OP!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think of it as kudus

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It is tough with that new rule that you have to arrange a play meet with everyone who fabs your pics. I feel for you OP!

*ducks off to check who's fabbed my pics and comes back (mostly) smiling*

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ezmanyorksMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I get Fabbed by guys all the time, and while it can be a little frustrating with the lack of female attention, I have learned to accept it and feel flattered that I am attractive to someone, it does not have to be reciprocated and you do not have to talk to them, getting pissed off about it is just a waste of energy

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think Fabbing pictures has anything to do with who one might meet. I prefer playing with men, but I prefer looking at women. I Fab pictures of women because I like the pictures, but I have no intention of meeting them. Imagine how strange it would look if a woman said ‘I’m straight, how to I stop women Fabbing my pics?’ Also I know if I Fab a picture of a women she is unlikely to message us, but if I Fab a picture of a man he might message. So I will only Fab men if I want them to message.

Mrs

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *W ChapMan over a year ago

Swindon

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

Brutal honesty.... I wouldn't fab your pics because they don't appeal to me. They're unfocused and poorly lit.

I fab pics that I actually like! Ones that are bright, attractive, imaginative... I have people on my hotlist I will never meet, because they don't match my sexual preferences... but DAMN!! I enjoy their pics and show my appreciation by fabbing them.

You don't have to be an adonis or a goddess to get fabs (Admittedly it probably does help though)... just put a little effort in. I'd give you a list of guy's profiles to check for inspiration.... but they'd probably be embarrassed at being named

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've blocked men messaging me. How do I block them "fabbing" me? "

You can't other than in settings select the option for no fabbing. Then no one fab but can view. This isn't such a bad option to be fair as it can generate messages from ladies who may just want to fab but can't and so will message saying this.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *urSurveySaysMan over a year ago

London/Chichester

"A fabs a fab lol"

Amen!!!!!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *is vixen at playCouple over a year ago

Dundee

Why does it bother you?

When i had my single page it was mostly guys fabbing, still is to be honest with my pics on couples page. Didnt put me up nor down, it doesnt mean you have to have a meet with them. Thats what the fab button is for. Dont see the harm especially when you say you already blocked men from messaging. G

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Yep. They're removed. I've been on FAB for about 5 years. Aways enjoyed the site, always enjoyed the forums but the ridicule I got was down right rude. OK I posted the thread and expected "banter". Banter though is a two way process and can be hurtful when it's just one sided. Got some lovely friends on here who have PMd me. Learnt my lesson. Don't post if you want to be unfairly ridiculed. Ho hum

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a single straight male. My pictures always seem to be "Fabbed" by blokes

I guess men "fab" pictures more than women as the ratio of male to female on this site are higher and therefore women have the luxury to stand to one side and gain attention?

For the women out there, what do I need to do to make a more attractive photo? Or do I have to resign to the thought that I'm just not doing it for you? "

Be more attractive?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *abrielle247Couple (FF) over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

What's the problem.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *igertigerCouple (MM) over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

me too.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Really

come on now, put your big boy pants on ffs

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Really

come on now, put your big boy pants on ffs

For a website that needs people to pay each month youre doing a brilliant job to put people off

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Really

come on now, put your big boy pants on ffs

For a website that needs people to pay each month youre doing a brilliant job to put people off

I'd have to disagree with that last statement

Seriously though OP you got some very good advice in this thread but appear to have chosen to focus on the banter thrown your way rather than taking that advice on board - yes some of the banter may have touched some nerves for you but I think to an extent you didn't help yourself by your reactions

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Really

come on now, put your big boy pants on ffs

For a website that needs people to pay each month youre doing a brilliant job to put people off

Those sorts do it all the time. But only to men.

Ignore the ones inferring you're bi and just generally being rude.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Really

come on now, put your big boy pants on ffs

For a website that needs people to pay each month youre doing a brilliant job to put people off

You and I had a nice chat on PM, OP.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

In what way?

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Really

come on now, put your big boy pants on ffs

For a website that needs people to pay each month youre doing a brilliant job to put people off

Those sorts do it all the time. But only to men.

Ignore the ones inferring you're bi and just generally being rude. "

Lol wow pot kettle black. No I call women out too. I’ve called you twice in as many days

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

In what way? "

The OP originally had about 30 pics on public display. People relying late in the thread can’t now see what was been commented on originally.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

Really

come on now, put your big boy pants on ffs

For a website that needs people to pay each month youre doing a brilliant job to put people off

OP I’ve ssid my bit and tried to answer your question with some banter admittedly that you took like utter persecution. Good luck, nothing more to say to you.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

In what way?

The OP originally had about 30 pics on public display. People relying late in the thread can’t now see what was been commented on originally. "

I don't think that changes the intent of my post though.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

In what way?

The OP originally had about 30 pics on public display. People relying late in the thread can’t now see what was been commented on originally.

I don't think that changes the intent of my post though. "

Intent is everything.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

In what way?

The OP originally had about 30 pics on public display. People relying late in the thread can’t now see what was been commented on originally.

I don't think that changes the intent of my post though.

Intent is everything.

Intent is important, yes and it’s really important to clarify by questioning. Perceived receipt is also important and valid - ie. when someone’s intent is harmless on clarifying but it feels not harmless to the person receiving - then it’s important for both parties to appreciate that and own the experience or intent of the other. Just saying, didn’t mean it snowflake, is not enough. IMO.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven’t seen the original photos, but judging from the thread it’s been suggested, in perhaps a piss take sort of way, that perhaps you might be bi. Obviously I haven’t seen those pictures so don’t know if they didn’t indeed make it look like you are bi. However, having read this thread from the beginning, it’s not obvious to me what is so offensive. Unless of course it’s the suggestion of being bi that is a massive insult? If that’s what offended you so much, that makes sense as you also seem somewhat offended that men are a Fabbing your pictures, to the extent that you wanted to know how you could stop this. I don’t think anybody really understand why it bothered you that men were Fabbing your pics. Given that you seem regard the suggestion of being bi as an insult, and that you want to stop men Fabbing your pics, I’m guessing you have have quite a negative issue with bisexuality?

Mrs

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I've had a look, I'm baffled?

Photos have been moved making comments above now look odd

In what way?

The OP originally had about 30 pics on public display. People relying late in the thread can’t now see what was been commented on originally.

I don't think that changes the intent of my post though.

Intent is everything.

I don't know what your last sentence means sorry.

I agree with your other points. Both parties should appreciate intent.

But I don't think it's right for one person to then state the other is abusive or evil (can't think of a more appropriate word sorry) even when they know their intent was good.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven’t seen the original photos, but judging from the thread it’s been suggested, in perhaps a piss take sort of way, that perhaps you might be bi. Obviously I haven’t seen those pictures so don’t know if they didn’t indeed make it look like you are bi. However, having read this thread from the beginning, it’s not obvious to me what is so offensive. Unless of course it’s the suggestion of being bi that is a massive insult? If that’s what offended you so much, that makes sense as you also seem somewhat offended that men are a Fabbing your pictures, to the extent that you wanted to know how you could stop this. I don’t think anybody really understand why it bothered you that men were Fabbing your pics. Given that you seem regard the suggestion of being bi as an insult, and that you want to stop men Fabbing your pics, I’m guessing you have have quite a negative issue with bisexuality?

Mrs"

How would you feel if a group of 18 year old boys said they'd been passing your pics round and wanking over them? Or if a 98 year old man said he'd done the same?

Feeling uncomfortable about someone that you don't fancy wanking over you, doesn't make them homophobic. Or racist or ageist or whatever else.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who cares who fabs your pictures, unless your overtly against gay men?

Take it as a compliment and move on. This site is too serious for some people. The amount of kinky fuckery that goes on, that’s the least of your worries.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"It's probably the pic of you playing dueling banjos that attracts them.... "boy you sure got a pretty mouth".

Is that from Brokeback Mountain

It’s from Deliverance

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

How would you feel if a group of 18 year old boys said they'd been passing your pics round and wanking over them? Or if a 98 year old man said he'd done the same?

Feeling uncomfortable about someone that you don't fancy wanking over you, doesn't make them homophobic. Or racist or ageist or whatever else. "

No it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s homophobic. You are right it could be that he just feels uncomfortable with those outside his tartlet market enjoying his photos that he put on publicity display. On the other hand he might be homophobic, given that he was also highly offended when others suggested he might be bi. But again that doesn’t mean he’s homophonic, he could just be easily offended. With regards to my publics, they are there to be enjoyed (and wanked over) by anybody regardless of age or sexuality. If I had a problem with that I wouldn’t put them on a public website.

Mrs

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

How would you feel if a group of 18 year old boys said they'd been passing your pics round and wanking over them? Or if a 98 year old man said he'd done the same?

Feeling uncomfortable about someone that you don't fancy wanking over you, doesn't make them homophobic. Or racist or ageist or whatever else.

Mrs"

I agree and that's why I don't have public pics. They can wank over my carrot though.

If I was straight I'd be offended if people started saying I was bi. Many people avoid bi people. I'd prefer them not wanting to meet me because I'm an arse or they didn't fancy me, than avoiding me for something that wasn't true.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

How would you feel if a group of 18 year old boys said they'd been passing your pics round and wanking over them? Or if a 98 year old man said he'd done the same?

Feeling uncomfortable about someone that you don't fancy wanking over you, doesn't make them homophobic. Or racist or ageist or whatever else.

Mrs

I agree and that's why I don't have public pics. They can wank over my carrot though.

I don’t know what the pictures were that led people say he might be bi. I guess it goes to show how careful one needs to be with their pictures if they don’t want people suspecting something that’s not true.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Mrs

How would you feel if a group of 18 year old boys said they'd been passing your pics round and wanking over them? Or if a 98 year old man said he'd done the same?

Feeling uncomfortable about someone that you don't fancy wanking over you, doesn't make them homophobic. Or racist or ageist or whatever else. "

Who's said anything about anyone wanking over the OPs pics?

I'm not even sure the OP indicated discomfort at them being fabbed by men, just queried why they were and why he didn't get Fabs from women - so no his comments don't necessarily make him homophobic as such, that I can agree with

And to be perfectly honest even if people were wanking over his pics - by uploading and publically displaying pics of yourself on a site like this you accept that people may use them for that purpose - I honestly couldn't care less if they were doing so over mine (which I very much doubt) so long as they didn't then use that to impact me in any way.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

How would you feel if a group of 18 year old boys said they'd been passing your pics round and wanking over them? Or if a 98 year old man said he'd done the same?

Feeling uncomfortable about someone that you don't fancy wanking over you, doesn't make them homophobic. Or racist or ageist or whatever else.

Who's said anything about anyone wanking over the OPs pics?

He did specifically say that he doesn’t want men to Fab his pictures. He wanted to know if there was a way this could be prevented, and have only women Fab his pictures. He didn’t say why this bothered him, but maybe men appreciating his pictures makes him feel like uncomfortable.

Mrs

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One thing I’m pretty sure I’m right in though is if a man posts a picture of his dick in order to impress the ladies, he will ironically be attracting far more male attention than female

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Mrs"

Fair point and I guess only the OP can answer why he wouldn't want men Fabbing his pics or what his discomfort is with it (if there even is any).

The rest of the thread though has been blown out of proportion somewhat - suffice to say there were pics in the OPs profile at the time that were indistinct enough to cause other posters to (mostly) good naturedly question whether the OP was bi and if he was why fabs from other men were such a concern

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Late to the thread here.... I have fabbed your second pic OP as I have the same pair of pants!!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Late to the thread here.... I have fabbed your second pic OP as I have the same pair of pants!!

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Fair point and I guess only the OP can answer why he wouldn't want men Fabbing his pics or what his discomfort is with it (if there even is any).

I think if those photos did indeed make his sexuality unclear, then the forum posters pointing this out to him (albeit in a piss-taking manner) have probably done him a favour. Now he knows that his choice of photos caused others to think he might be bi, so he can now do something about it.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"What I love about these kind of threads is when the poster takes absolutely no notice of the advice given. That in itself is pure entertainment

They don't have to. There isn't much advice up to there

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day, Fab does not currently have a system in place where one can choose which demographics can view or fab pictures that are posted publically.

Mrs

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)

By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

. OK I posted the thread and expected "banter". Banter though is a two way process and can be hurtful when it's just one sided. "

Exactly this, pisstaking is fine but the pisstaker needs to be aware when the person they are taking the piss out of is not enjoying it...and they should really stop after that.

I am going to shut the thread for you now, please don't be put off from posting, not everyone on the forum will carry on upsetting people when it is pointed out.

Reply privately (thread closed by moderator)