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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldn’t play with someone if I sensed outwardly that there was not much more to their desire than scoring in my holes.  "
I'm not saying that. The desire is good company, conversation and sex. If it was that cold you could just for it. I'm more saying that even though I've had all these good things from meets we've never met to do anything outside the swinging world. Like an unspoken agreement to not get attached |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I certainly think your mindset changes as a result of swinging and whilst for me I look for the same things in people I meet as I would if I were looking for a relationship (attraction, chemistry, connection etc) the "attachment" part of that gets switched to off - now that's partly due to me being in a longstanding relationship already and partly due to the nature of swinging.
It doesn't mean I'm not fond of the people I meet and spending time with them socially is just as important to me as the sexual side but there's no sense of attachment involved.
I often liken it to stepping into a bubble when I meet people - for the time I'm in that bubble I'm with that person(s) 100% but fully aware of my life outside the bubble - when I leave it I still have memories of the time inside it but I'm no longer with that person(s) until the next time I step inside it. |
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store"
Is it a problem for you, does it make you feel bad?
I've noticed recently in the forums that no strings sex i.e. sex for its own sake seems to be frowned on. I can understand that some people need to feel a connection for various reasons but I can't see a problem if you don't as long as in both cases people are honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store"
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging?"
My thing is, I want to meet someone that wants s proper relationship but with swinging aspects. I would love to come back and have a couples account here. Just need to meet that elusive person first. Catch 22 really. Do I find that here or on a dating site. Both are hard tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging?
My thing is, I want to meet someone that wants s proper relationship but with swinging aspects. I would love to come back and have a couples account here. Just need to meet that elusive person first. Catch 22 really. Do I find that here or on a dating site. Both are hard tbh. "
I completely understand your dilemma. I just think that more and more singles are looking for something on Fab that if we're honest, Fab was not really designed to offer.
Nsa sex, albeit with people who may become friends, is surely the primary driver of what Fab is about.
If people find more on here, great, but surely its wrong to blame Fab for not offering more.
I'm not saying that you and the Op necessarily are, but more and more singles seem to be in my opinion. |
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I think the best approach to fab is to assume that everyone is in it for nsa.
Many people claim that there needs to be a connection or that they want regular meets etc. and I don't doubt for lot's of them this is true but there are also many people who've cottoned on to the fact that this is what people want to hear. Don't make yourselves vulnerable. |
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"I think the best approach to fab is to assume that everyone is in it for nsa.
Many people claim that there needs to be a connection or that they want regular meets etc. and I don't doubt for lot's of them this is true but there are also many people who've cottoned on to the fact that this is what people want to hear. Don't make yourselves vulnerable."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
Is it a problem for you, does it make you feel bad?
I've noticed recently in the forums that no strings sex i.e. sex for its own sake seems to be frowned on. I can understand that some people need to feel a connection for various reasons but I can't see a problem if you don't as long as in both cases people are honest."
Nah it's not a problem and definitely not something I look down upon. If there's no connection there's no point. I would never have sex with someone unless we had some sort of chemistry. My point is I've had this connection and chemistry and not pursued it further. I'm quite a spiritual person and believe life is about developing deep and meaningful relationships. I have met people on fab or in clubs who I would prob want to date and see where it goes if I met them in a bar or on a standard dating site. But because it's in 'the bubble' that was talked about in an earlier post. I don't even consider pursuing it. Guess it makes me feel like a bit of a hypocrite |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging?
My thing is, I want to meet someone that wants s proper relationship but with swinging aspects. I would love to come back and have a couples account here. Just need to meet that elusive person first. Catch 22 really. Do I find that here or on a dating site. Both are hard tbh. "
Yeah I definitely know what you mean. It's hard to meet anyone who's open to swinging using traditional dating sites and methods. And it's hard to meet anyone who wants a relationship on here because they're enjoying swinging. And on it goes..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging?
My thing is, I want to meet someone that wants s proper relationship but with swinging aspects. I would love to come back and have a couples account here. Just need to meet that elusive person first. Catch 22 really. Do I find that here or on a dating site. Both are hard tbh.
I completely understand your dilemma. I just think that more and more singles are looking for something on Fab that if we're honest, Fab was not really designed to offer.
Nsa sex, albeit with people who may become friends, is surely the primary driver of what Fab is about.
If people find more on here, great, but surely its wrong to blame Fab for not offering more.
I'm not saying that you and the Op necessarily are, but more and more singles seem to be in my opinion."
I don’t expect to find anything. I’ve made some nice friends if anything. There were a couple who wanted more with me but they weren’t for me. There are many that want more with someone but finding the right match is another story. I have no expectations so I don’t get too disappointed. I’m keeping my mind open. I just know what I don’t want. I love the club scene but only with a partner, just not any partner.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging?
My thing is, I want to meet someone that wants s proper relationship but with swinging aspects. I would love to come back and have a couples account here. Just need to meet that elusive person first. Catch 22 really. Do I find that here or on a dating site. Both are hard tbh.
I completely understand your dilemma. I just think that more and more singles are looking for something on Fab that if we're honest, Fab was not really designed to offer.
Nsa sex, albeit with people who may become friends, is surely the primary driver of what Fab is about.
If people find more on here, great, but surely its wrong to blame Fab for not offering more.
I'm not saying that you and the Op necessarily are, but more and more singles seem to be in my opinion."
I think fab was designed for swingers. Most swingers are in a meaningful relationship and yet recognise that they are not supposed to be monogamous in a sexual sense so explore. The people that use this site as a soulless wetting of the willy are missing the point. In my opinion, the best sex is when you have a connection with that person. Even if just as friends This can be established straight away or after a long time. I'm not blaming fab or anyone else for anything that impacts my life. More of an objective critique of my intentions and feelings surrounding the lifestyle I've been living |
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
Is it a problem for you, does it make you feel bad?
I've noticed recently in the forums that no strings sex i.e. sex for its own sake seems to be frowned on. I can understand that some people need to feel a connection for various reasons but I can't see a problem if you don't as long as in both cases people are honest.
Nah it's not a problem and definitely not something I look down upon. If there's no connection there's no point. I would never have sex with someone unless we had some sort of chemistry. My point is I've had this connection and chemistry and not pursued it further. I'm quite a spiritual person and believe life is about developing deep and meaningful relationships. I have met people on fab or in clubs who I would prob want to date and see where it goes if I met them in a bar or on a standard dating site. But because it's in 'the bubble' that was talked about in an earlier post. I don't even consider pursuing it. Guess it makes me feel like a bit of a hypocrite"
Unless you're giving a false impression to people you aren't a hypocrite.
I don't see spirituality as being at odds with casual sex but I do think if it causes you to feel bad or negatively about yourself it's bad for your spirit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging?
My thing is, I want to meet someone that wants s proper relationship but with swinging aspects. I would love to come back and have a couples account here. Just need to meet that elusive person first. Catch 22 really. Do I find that here or on a dating site. Both are hard tbh.
I completely understand your dilemma. I just think that more and more singles are looking for something on Fab that if we're honest, Fab was not really designed to offer.
Nsa sex, albeit with people who may become friends, is surely the primary driver of what Fab is about.
If people find more on here, great, but surely its wrong to blame Fab for not offering more.
I'm not saying that you and the Op necessarily are, but more and more singles seem to be in my opinion.
I don’t expect to find anything. I’ve made some nice friends if anything. There were a couple who wanted more with me but they weren’t for me. There are many that want more with someone but finding the right match is another story. I have no expectations so I don’t get too disappointed. I’m keeping my mind open. I just know what I don’t want. I love the club scene but only with a partner, just not any partner. "
Yeah I definitely don't expect to find anything either. But I'm always open to the fact that if I'm on here, there's a chance that someone like me is on here.
Finding someone suitable is damn hard! Why I'm always open to it when single. I can never understand why people who are single don't want to meet anyone new. Developing a deep and intimate bond with people is what life's all about. |
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store"
Yes I am the same. I build up connections but it comes down to the animalistic nature of me finding said person attractive and wanting to touch their naked body(ies) with my naked body. I have everything else in my vanilla life so not looking for anything more than extra experiences and fun x |
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
Is it a problem for you, does it make you feel bad?
I've noticed recently in the forums that no strings sex i.e. sex for its own sake seems to be frowned on. I can understand that some people need to feel a connection for various reasons but I can't see a problem if you don't as long as in both cases people are honest.
Nah it's not a problem and definitely not something I look down upon. If there's no connection there's no point. I would never have sex with someone unless we had some sort of chemistry. My point is I've had this connection and chemistry and not pursued it further. I'm quite a spiritual person and believe life is about developing deep and meaningful relationships. I have met people on fab or in clubs who I would prob want to date and see where it goes if I met them in a bar or on a standard dating site. But because it's in 'the bubble' that was talked about in an earlier post. I don't even consider pursuing it. Guess it makes me feel like a bit of a hypocrite
Unless you're giving a false impression to people you aren't a hypocrite.
I don't see spirituality as being at odds with casual sex but I do think if it causes you to feel bad or negatively about yourself it's bad for your spirit. "
Nah I'm always open and honest. And I don't really feel bad even when I know the other person may be being unfaithful because of my beliefs surrounding manogamy. I guess it's more the stark realisation that even though i have had real connections with people on here, it's going to be real hard to find anything more |
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
Yes I am the same. I build up connections but it comes down to the animalistic nature of me finding said person attractive and wanting to touch their naked body(ies) with my naked body. I have everything else in my vanilla life so not looking for anything more than extra experiences and fun x"
That' s one of the main problem is that it becomes a bit of a meat market: scrolling through pages of genitals to find ones you like the look of.
I think, and this is just my opinion, but when I just go off purely animalistic urges even though I get the release, I'm not satisfied. Like if I have sex with someone multiple times, and we both come lots, but there's nothing more than attraction at play then there's still something missing. Yet if I have sex once with someone then lie there chatting about anything and everything, they make me laugh and I find them interesting, then I feel satisfaction. |
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OP, I can totally relate to this. Having been on and off fab for a number of years under different guises, I think it boils to the fact that sex is sex and love is love.
For me, i think that sentiment is a good foundation for swinging. Where lust and emotion can be differentiated, meaning you don’t fall for the people you shouldn’t, jealousy does not become an issue and where the fun becomes uncomplicated and exactly what it says on the tin - fun.
Admittedly, I’m not looking for a relationship and it’s fair to say I’m emotionally unavailable at this particular time of my life but certainly I don’t think your position is a bad one to be in |
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"Difficult one to explain.. I find that since joining fab and going to clubs I've met a lot of people that even though I have been really attracted to and spent great times with, it was only lust and I had no desire to try and make it anything more. With some, it was because they were married or in relationships, but others were single the same.
I guess my question is do others find this? Am I instinctively switching off my emotions because of the nature of what I'm doing? Or is it because everyone is treating it the same way so no one develops feelings? I'm only raising this question because I've been on here a while, met lots of beautiful people, but never just took someone on a date where sex isn't the primary focus. Guess I'm getting old... 21 year old me would have been like a kid in a candy store
I know exactly what you mean but isn't that what nsa sex is all about?
This is not a dating site. Surely lust based sex is one of the primary motivators for being on here?
There are more and more singles in the forums stating that they want to find deeper or more meaningful sex, many seem to be looking for a degree of exclusivity, but is that swinging?
My thing is, I want to meet someone that wants s proper relationship but with swinging aspects. I would love to come back and have a couples account here. Just need to meet that elusive person first. Catch 22 really. Do I find that here or on a dating site. Both are hard tbh. "
This for me too...definitely feel it's a catch 22..honestly I don't think I'll find the one for me on fab-as others have said..people are cottoning on and saying things they don't really mean for the sake of a meet!
However, the idea of a 'vanilla' relationship no longer appeals! |
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I do understand what you're saying Op but I just believe that you are your own problem.
If you feel a connection with someone but then choose not to pursue it because you met them on Fab then that is your weakness.
If you pursue it further and they don't reciprocate then that is life. It doesn't matter where you meet someone, if they want the same thing you do, unless you make it matter to you. |
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"I do understand what you're saying Op but I just believe that you are your own problem.
If you feel a connection with someone but then choose not to pursue it because you met them on Fab then that is your weakness.
If you pursue it further and they don't reciprocate then that is life. It doesn't matter where you meet someone, if they want the same thing you do, unless you make it matter to you."
I think you've probably got it right there.
Op, why does it matter where the connection was made? |
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"I do understand what you're saying Op but I just believe that you are your own problem.
If you feel a connection with someone but then choose not to pursue it because you met them on Fab then that is your weakness.
If you pursue it further and they don't reciprocate then that is life. It doesn't matter where you meet someone, if they want the same thing you do, unless you make it matter to you."
You should be a psychologist. Can just say it's all in your head mate then send them on their way.
I think the only way I can grow is by trying to understand why I do the things I do. I'm highlighting the fact that I haven't ever thought about it, even with the connection. And also only had one person who expressed that level of interest in me. More the question of the swinging psyche, and have I changed since joining in |
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"I do understand what you're saying Op but I just believe that you are your own problem.
If you feel a connection with someone but then choose not to pursue it because you met them on Fab then that is your weakness.
If you pursue it further and they don't reciprocate then that is life. It doesn't matter where you meet someone, if they want the same thing you do, unless you make it matter to you.
I think you've probably got it right there.
Op, why does it matter where the connection was made?"
It doesn't. That's my point |
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I think you've probably got it right there.
Op, why does it matter where the connection was made?
It doesn't. That's my point"
That's not what you've posted earlier though when you refer to the 'bubble'. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I think you've probably got it right there.
Op, why does it matter where the connection was made?
It doesn't. That's my point
That's not what you've posted earlier though when you refer to the 'bubble'."
The bubble was a reference to a post that someone else had made. Thought they had described it well so used their phrasing |
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I have to admit it's the lust that gives sex that little bit extra. That first time kissing and touching takes it to new levels. When you just can't stop kissing and ripping each other's clothes off not knowing what's about to happen next. Big turn for me phew lol |
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It’s all about the lust for us . The first kiss leading to an animalistic urge to rip each other’s clothes off and get down and dirty .... it’s never the same with second meets , hence why we prefer to only meet people once . |
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"I'm not looking for more than lust, though having said that I have unintentionally made some great friendships here "
Neither am I really. But at the same time I'm open to it. Unintentionally made friends who you have sex with surely has to be better than sex with strangers, right? My problem is if I don't see them as a good person, I stop finding them attractive
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"....
I think you've probably got it right there.
Op, why does it matter where the connection was made?
It doesn't. That's my point
That's not what you've posted earlier though when you refer to the 'bubble'."
Oh, ok. |
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This is exactly why I come to Fab. I tried dating an I just can’t get feeling s for people anymore. I care , not enough to share my life with though. I’ve had many buddies last 3 years plus an still nothing more than that.
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