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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Combination of friendship and sex. Love...one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
If you want to be friends with benefits with ME it’s important that you enter into this kind of relationship fully acknowledging, understanding and accepting what this means for both of us.
boyfriend or girlfriend, and this can have both its advantages as well as disadvantages depending upon your current wants and needs. In this regard, it’s important to recognize that this person isn’t going to be able to provide you with the emotional support and care that are typically demonstrated by a significant other in a committed relationship, such as lending a shoulder to cry on, attending family events and/or spending a romantic evening out together.
in order to avoid confusion, hurt feelings and misread signals, you should be totally forthright and in complete accord with each other about the nature of your FWB relationship. That way, your no-strings connection can be as problem-free as possible.
. In order for a FWB relationship to work out, it has to fulfill your needs as well as his or hers. And while you may enjoy hooking up and being intimate, these types of relationships can only be successful if you’re both completely content with the arrangement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Combination of friendship and sex. Love...one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
If you want to be friends with benefits with ME it’s important that you enter into this kind of relationship fully acknowledging, understanding and accepting what this means for both of us.
boyfriend or girlfriend, and this can have both its advantages as well as disadvantages depending upon your current wants and needs. In this regard, it’s important to recognize that this person isn’t going to be able to provide you with the emotional support and care that are typically demonstrated by a significant other in a committed relationship, such as lending a shoulder to cry on, attending family events and/or spending a romantic evening out together.
in order to avoid confusion, hurt feelings and misread signals, you should be totally forthright and in complete accord with each other about the nature of your FWB relationship. That way, your no-strings connection can be as problem-free as possible.
. In order for a FWB relationship to work out, it has to fulfill your needs as well as his or hers. And while you may enjoy hooking up and being intimate, these types of relationships can only be successful if you’re both completely content with the arrangement."
Unfortunately one person often lies about being friends just to get a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Combination of friendship and sex. Love...one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
If you want to be friends with benefits with ME it’s important that you enter into this kind of relationship fully acknowledging, understanding and accepting what this means for both of us.
boyfriend or girlfriend, and this can have both its advantages as well as disadvantages depending upon your current wants and needs. In this regard, it’s important to recognize that this person isn’t going to be able to provide you with the emotional support and care that are typically demonstrated by a significant other in a committed relationship, such as lending a shoulder to cry on, attending family events and/or spending a romantic evening out together.
in order to avoid confusion, hurt feelings and misread signals, you should be totally forthright and in complete accord with each other about the nature of your FWB relationship. That way, your no-strings connection can be as problem-free as possible.
. In order for a FWB relationship to work out, it has to fulfill your needs as well as his or hers. And while you may enjoy hooking up and being intimate, these types of relationships can only be successful if you’re both completely content with the arrangement.
Unfortunately one person often lies about being friends just to get a fuck."
Ain’t that the truth...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well if any women wanna be my fuck buddy, I’m open to being a buddy before any sex! Some guys just wanna dive in and run off out. It’s nice to have that connection and no attachments with someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well if any women wanna be my fuck buddy, I’m open to being a buddy before any sex! Some guys just wanna dive in and run off out. It’s nice to have that connection and no attachments with someone."
I have to really like someone for sex to happen anyway. I can only find out if I like them by getting to know them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Combination of friendship and sex. Love...one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
If you want to be friends with benefits with ME it’s important that you enter into this kind of relationship fully acknowledging, understanding and accepting what this means for both of us.
boyfriend or girlfriend, and this can have both its advantages as well as disadvantages depending upon your current wants and needs. In this regard, it’s important to recognize that this person isn’t going to be able to provide you with the emotional support and care that are typically demonstrated by a significant other in a committed relationship, such as lending a shoulder to cry on, attending family events and/or spending a romantic evening out together.
in order to avoid confusion, hurt feelings and misread signals, you should be totally forthright and in complete accord with each other about the nature of your FWB relationship. That way, your no-strings connection can be as problem-free as possible.
. In order for a FWB relationship to work out, it has to fulfill your needs as well as his or hers. And while you may enjoy hooking up and being intimate, these types of relationships can only be successful if you’re both completely content with the arrangement.
Unfortunately one person often lies about being friends just to get a fuck."
I don't think I've ever told someone I'm their friend. When I talk to people they open up and we get on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well if any women wanna be my fuck buddy, I’m open to being a buddy before any sex! Some guys just wanna dive in and run off out. It’s nice to have that connection and no attachments with someone.
I have to really like someone for sex to happen anyway. I can only find out if I like them by getting to know them. "
I wondered how the demi~ affected you.
Do you find men on here want the same - to get to know you? Apologies if too personal a question, I'm just interested. Feel free to tell me to fuck off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everybody is looking for something
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused.
But not everyone is looking for the same something....
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By (user no longer on site)
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Fwb I’ve had the odd few but recently had one where we were getting feelings for each other and for me it’s hard not to when you spend time together quite abit and constantly fucking the same person you grow feelings but it’s very tough pulling away from it but I’ve learned it’s all about your mindset. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fwb I’ve had the odd few but recently had one where we were getting feelings for each other and for me it’s hard not to when you spend time together quite abit and constantly fucking the same person you grow feelings but it’s very tough pulling away from it but I’ve learned it’s all about your mindset."
Would you continue to pull away though if you both felt it, and why |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well if any women wanna be my fuck buddy, I’m open to being a buddy before any sex! Some guys just wanna dive in and run off out. It’s nice to have that connection and no attachments with someone.
I have to really like someone for sex to happen anyway. I can only find out if I like them by getting to know them.
I wondered how the demi~ affected you.
Do you find men on here want the same - to get to know you? Apologies if too personal a question, I'm just interested. Feel free to tell me to fuck off. "
Some of them do. When I allow men to message me I talk to the ones I like the look of. If they don't want to talk, to get to know me, I lose interest very quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fwb I’ve had the odd few but recently had one where we were getting feelings for each other and for me it’s hard not to when you spend time together quite abit and constantly fucking the same person you grow feelings but it’s very tough pulling away from it but I’ve learned it’s all about your mindset.
Would you continue to pull away though if you both felt it, and why "
Yes you have to but then again it all depends on people’s circumstances etc and believe u me it’s not easy because like I said you start getting feelings etc it’s obvious that it’s gonna go like that but you just gotta learn to switch off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well if any women wanna be my fuck buddy, I’m open to being a buddy before any sex! Some guys just wanna dive in and run off out. It’s nice to have that connection and no attachments with someone.
I have to really like someone for sex to happen anyway. I can only find out if I like them by getting to know them.
I wondered how the demi~ affected you.
Do you find men on here want the same - to get to know you? Apologies if too personal a question, I'm just interested. Feel free to tell me to fuck off.
Some of them do. When I allow men to message me I talk to the ones I like the look of. If they don't want to talk, to get to know me, I lose interest very quickly. "
I understand that mindset yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Combination of friendship and sex. Love...one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
If you want to be friends with benefits with ME it’s important that you enter into this kind of relationship fully acknowledging, understanding and accepting what this means for both of us.
boyfriend or girlfriend, and this can have both its advantages as well as disadvantages depending upon your current wants and needs. In this regard, it’s important to recognize that this person isn’t going to be able to provide you with the emotional support and care that are typically demonstrated by a significant other in a committed relationship, such as lending a shoulder to cry on, attending family events and/or spending a romantic evening out together.
in order to avoid confusion, hurt feelings and misread signals, you should be totally forthright and in complete accord with each other about the nature of your FWB relationship. That way, your no-strings connection can be as problem-free as possible.
. In order for a FWB relationship to work out, it has to fulfill your needs as well as his or hers. And while you may enjoy hooking up and being intimate, these types of relationships can only be successful if you’re both completely content with the arrangement.
Unfortunately one person often lies about being friends just to get a fuck."
As long as that person is me, all good  |
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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago
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I didn't read all of the opening post, just the first paragraph and thought from that that what the OP wes describing was a fuck buddy not a friends with benefits so the post title is misleading in my humble opinion.
Fuck buddy = meeting for sex on a repeat basis for as long as it suits both people but no real connection apart from chemisty and fulfilling a sexual need. I would feel used in that type of scenario, but I understand it works for some.
Friends with benefits = a friendship with shared interests, happy to sociaiise together and get on with each other on more than a sexual level, chemistry is there, and sex is the icing on the cake. I can see why some prefer this type of scenario as hopefully there's enough respect there for each other to make it work to suit both parties.
The problems arise when one person thinks they have a friendship but the other one just thinks of them as a fuck.
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"Combination of friendship and sex. Love...one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
If you want to be friends with benefits with ME it’s important that you enter into this kind of relationship fully acknowledging, understanding and accepting what this means for both of us.
boyfriend or girlfriend, and this can have both its advantages as well as disadvantages depending upon your current wants and needs. In this regard, it’s important to recognize that this person isn’t going to be able to provide you with the emotional support and care that are typically demonstrated by a significant other in a committed relationship, such as lending a shoulder to cry on, attending family events and/or spending a romantic evening out together.
in order to avoid confusion, hurt feelings and misread signals, you should be totally forthright and in complete accord with each other about the nature of your FWB relationship. That way, your no-strings connection can be as problem-free as possible.
. In order for a FWB relationship to work out, it has to fulfill your needs as well as his or hers. And while you may enjoy hooking up and being intimate, these types of relationships can only be successful if you’re both completely content with the arrangement.
Unfortunately one person often lies about being friends just to get a fuck.
As long as that person is me, all good "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Combination of friendship and sex. Love...one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
If you want to be friends with benefits with ME it’s important that you enter into this kind of relationship fully acknowledging, understanding and accepting what this means for both of us.
boyfriend or girlfriend, and this can have both its advantages as well as disadvantages depending upon your current wants and needs. In this regard, it’s important to recognize that this person isn’t going to be able to provide you with the emotional support and care that are typically demonstrated by a significant other in a committed relationship, such as lending a shoulder to cry on, attending family events and/or spending a romantic evening out together.
in order to avoid confusion, hurt feelings and misread signals, you should be totally forthright and in complete accord with each other about the nature of your FWB relationship. That way, your no-strings connection can be as problem-free as possible.
. In order for a FWB relationship to work out, it has to fulfill your needs as well as his or hers. And while you may enjoy hooking up and being intimate, these types of relationships can only be successful if you’re both completely content with the arrangement.
Unfortunately one person often lies about being friends just to get a fuck."
Most do I my experience. One wanted exclusive, constantly let me down and just wanted the odd hookup. I gave him 3 chances, now I only give 1 chance. |
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"I didn't read all of the opening post, just the first paragraph and thought from that that what the OP wes describing was a fuck buddy not a friends with benefits so the post title is misleading in my humble opinion.
Fuck buddy = meeting for sex on a repeat basis for as long as it suits both people but no real connection apart from chemisty and fulfilling a sexual need. I would feel used in that type of scenario, but I understand it works for some.
Friends with benefits = a friendship with shared interests, happy to sociaiise together and get on with each other on more than a sexual level, chemistry is there, and sex is the icing on the cake. I can see why some prefer this type of scenario as hopefully there's enough respect there for each other to make it work to suit both parties.
The problems arise when one person thinks they have a friendship but the other one just thinks of them as a fuck.
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The problems arise, when one of them starts using the ‘L’ word. Happened to me twice now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Which can happen very easily as the more you see each other and sleep together you can’t help but to gain feelings for each other but a serious fwb would switch off to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well if any women wanna be my fuck buddy, I’m open to being a buddy before any sex! Some guys just wanna dive in and run off out. It’s nice to have that connection and no attachments with someone.
I have to really like someone for sex to happen anyway. I can only find out if I like them by getting to know them.
I wondered how the demi~ affected you.
Do you find men on here want the same - to get to know you? Apologies if too personal a question, I'm just interested. Feel free to tell me to fuck off.
Some of them do. When I allow men to message me I talk to the ones I like the look of. If they don't want to talk, to get to know me, I lose interest very quickly. "
Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To me, you are describing a FB arrangement, not an Fwb one OP. An fwb, does care. They are emotionally supportive, just like a friend in general would be. You just happen to sleep together too  |
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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago
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"To me, you are describing a FB arrangement, not an Fwb one OP. An fwb, does care. They are emotionally supportive, just like a friend in general would be. You just happen to sleep together too "
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Absolutely agree with your post. There's so much difference between an FB and FWB arrangement. Hurt can arise when people confuse the two. I don't think I could get into either arrangement so it's celibacy for me until I meet the right man... I'm not holding my breath. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't be arsed with so many rules
I just want uncomplicated fun where we're both honest with each other.
I'm not going to promise how I'm going to feel - kudos to anyone who has control over that emotion!
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think guys can do the whole fuck buddy fwb type scenario better than women.
I don't speak for all women but I know that if I'm sleeping with the same guy and only talking to the same guy and spending time with the same guy, I'm going to develop feelings for him. I'm not going to want him to be speaking to other women (in a romantic/sexual capacity) and certainly not meeting other women. |
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"Everybody is looking for something
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused.
But not everyone is looking for the same something....
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Sweet dreams are made of this
Who am I to disagree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everybody is looking for something
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused.
But not everyone is looking for the same something....
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#oldladyalert
When I was dating there were two types of relationship before people settled down with one person. Casual where you knew it wasn't going anywhere but it was ok while it lasted and serious where you wanted it to lead to long term. It wasn't always the case that both people saw the relationship in the same terms and people got used for sex and lied to just like they do now. However it was generally accepted that this wasn't a great way to behave. Nowadays it seems to me that you can label a relationship differently and blame the hurt person for being hurt.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"#oldladyalert
When I was dating there were two types of relationship before people settled down with one person. Casual where you knew it wasn't going anywhere but it was ok while it lasted and serious where you wanted it to lead to long term. It wasn't always the case that both people saw the relationship in the same terms and people got used for sex and lied to just like they do now. However it was generally accepted that this wasn't a great way to behave.
***Nowadays it seems to me that you can label a relationship differently and blame the hurt person for being hurt.
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