"Damn I’ve been doing it wrong, I should let him do all the work x
I thought that's what submissive meant. The dom has to be the imagination and the organiser and the everything really 
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If that's true, I'm in!!
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"Damn I’ve been doing it wrong, I should let him do all the work x
I thought that's what submissive meant. The dom has to be the imagination and the organiser and the everything really
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That's basically what my relationship with my long term partner is. Every now and then he throws me a curve ball and asks me what I want. I'm so used to him doing all the thinking I come up with nothing. |
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"Damn I’ve been doing it wrong, I should let him do all the work x
I thought that's what submissive meant. The dom has to be the imagination and the organiser and the everything really
That's basically what my relationship with my long term partner is. Every now and then he throws me a curve ball and asks me what I want. I'm so used to him doing all the thinking I come up with nothing."
What a mad crazy submissive sub you are Brain ! |
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"Damn I’ve been doing it wrong, I should let him do all the work x
I thought that's what submissive meant. The dom has to be the imagination and the organiser and the everything really
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Yes it is to a degree, I do have my own free will outside the bedroom. But he decides what we do and when and how. But he does ask what I’d like and if I give permission to him to do what he does. It doesn’t mean I’m a doormat just that at that time I give him my submission to do what we both enjoy without me having to think about do I want to do this and that. X |
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"Damn I’ve been doing it wrong, I should let him do all the work x
I thought that's what submissive meant. The dom has to be the imagination and the organiser and the everything really
Yes it is to a degree, I do have my own free will outside the bedroom. But he decides what we do and when and how. But he does ask what I’d like and if I give permission to him to do what he does. It doesn’t mean I’m a doormat just that at that time I give him my submission to do what we both enjoy without me having to think about do I want to do this and that. X "
What if you are in the kitchen and he asks you to cover his cobblers with cream ? Does your outside the bedroom free will kick in ? |
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"Damn I’ve been doing it wrong, I should let him do all the work x
I thought that's what submissive meant. The dom has to be the imagination and the organiser and the everything really
Yes it is to a degree, I do have my own free will outside the bedroom. But he decides what we do and when and how. But he does ask what I’d like and if I give permission to him to do what he does. It doesn’t mean I’m a doormat just that at that time I give him my submission to do what we both enjoy without me having to think about do I want to do this and that. X
What if you are in the kitchen and he asks you to cover his cobblers with cream ? Does your outside the bedroom free will kick in ?"
If it’s not appropriate to the time and setting then yes I can say no at any time. But if we have the house to ourselves and we both want to then I get the cream and start licking x |
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Sheer naivety about the roles of S/D there OP!
Subs are not lazy! We work hard to please our doms and enjoying doing so. And ultimately us subs are in charge so without us there are no Dom’s. And being a sub isn’t just about getting spanked and/or whipped etc. There’s a much greater connection than that. I think if you had a better understanding you’d realise that a session between S/D is actually very intense, satisfying and respectable and normally exhausting!
Rant over, apologies for any offence caused by what I’ve put x |
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"Oh right it all makes sense now I'm submissive,is that the official word for lazy?
It's not official as such..... yet.
This is just the first leg of the naive lazy lady movement."
Let me know when it's official then I can stop calling myself lazy. |
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"So really, the sub is the dom ?"
in the true bdsm world .the sub tends to be the one in control .if you are happy letting someone loose on you .you are not a true sub just someone who likes being abused ....big difference
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