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Is everyone that can’t accommodate automatically branded as a cheater
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
Mostly.
I always ask if a person is attached, whether they state they can accommodate or not. I've met and spoken to a fair few that have said they can accommodate, and do, who are attached and playing without their partner's knowledge.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Only men
And if they're men who have custody of the kids?
You need to understand things aren't as black and white as you like to think."
I understand perfectly.
I was pointing out a forum double standard. If you've ever read any threads, it's always men that can't accommodate that are branded cheats. It seems irrelevant if women can't accommodate |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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" Only men
And if they're men who have custody of the kids?
You need to understand things aren't as black and white as you like to think.
I understand perfectly.
I was pointing out a forum double standard. If you've ever read any threads, it's always men that can't accommodate that are branded cheats. It seems irrelevant if women can't accommodate"
Thats due to men not giving a dame if a women is married.
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"Men are branded as cheaters, women are praised for being concerned for their safety.
kinda catch-22 re safety tho, going to an unknowns place?"
If I was single I wouldn't have a stranger I just met in my home and I wouldn't go to theirs even if I was a man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Only men"
Haha.... about right.... or that's what women think 
I've known single women that don't accommodate ..... they have kids and don't want men in the house.... fair enough  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The site really fucked up with the wording of certain things on here.
It should say don’t want to accommodate rather than cannot accommodate, and the same with travel.
It’s everyones individual choice as to whether they want to invite random strangers from the internet to their homes. |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
Yeah we are! I cheat on my imaginary husband all the time...i even cuckold him by having them lay on his imaginary body on his imaginary side of the bed 
In my experience yes, the men who cant accom are cheating with the exception of those who are mummys boys still living with their parents, or those who have no job and have to live in a shared DSS house with 20 other single blokes who have made a total cock of their lives.
Single Dads who actually give a shit and see their kids excepted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah we are! I cheat on my imaginary husband all the time...i even cuckold him by having them lay on his imaginary body on his imaginary side of the bed
In my experience yes, the men who cant accom are cheating with the exception of those who are mummys boys still living with their parents, or those who have no job and have to live in a shared DSS house with 20 other single blokes who have made a total cock of their lives.
Single Dads who actually give a shit and see their kids excepted "
How about a couple who are getting married and living in a shared house to save a bit of money so we can have a good day while saving a deposit for a house?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't accommodate because I'm lodging. Even if my landlord and landlady weren't prudish I'd still respect the fact I'm living in their house and also even if all that wasn't an issue. There's bunk beds on the other side of the room for when my kids come to stay....doesn't exactly give off a sexy vibe does it?
I'm curious though if I'd get more interest if I was able to accommodate.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I can't accommodate because I'm lodging. Even if my landlord and landlady weren't prudish I'd still respect the fact I'm living in their house and also even if all that wasn't an issue. There's bunk beds on the other side of the room for when my kids come to stay....doesn't exactly give off a sexy vibe does it?
I'm curious though if I'd get more interest if I was able to accommodate.
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Just change it and see. Just because it says you can doesn't mean you have to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't accommodate because I'm lodging. Even if my landlord and landlady weren't prudish I'd still respect the fact I'm living in their house and also even if all that wasn't an issue. There's bunk beds on the other side of the room for when my kids come to stay....doesn't exactly give off a sexy vibe does it?
I'm curious though if I'd get more interest if I was able to accommodate.
Just change it and see. Just because it says you can doesn't mean you have to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't and won't as I have a Tennant. We have an agreement not to bring anyone overnight. I've a daughter who also often calls by and has a key. That said I won't meet anyone who can't accommodate and that's because hotels just become not economical for regular repeats meets which is what I look for in someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The site really fucked up with the wording of certain things on here.
It should say don’t want to accommodate rather than cannot accommodate, and the same with travel.
It’s everyones individual choice as to whether they want to invite random strangers from the internet to their homes."
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Neither of us can accommodate, Princess has children and I am very picky about who comes into my flat. It is my space away from the world and I don't want random strangers in it. My family don't even come over without an invitation. |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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" Only men
And if they're men who have custody of the kids?
You need to understand things aren't as black and white as you like to think.
I understand perfectly.
I was pointing out a forum double standard. If you've ever read any threads, it's always men that can't accommodate that are branded cheats. It seems irrelevant if women can't accommodate
Thats due to men not giving a dame if a women is married.
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Well some men do give a dame, friends who know me, can vouch that if a woman finds herself in a relationship on or off the scene, I do not play with them unless there new partner knows.
So yes there are some of us who do give a dame.
And yes, I also dont accommodate, so that makes me one of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I CAN accommodate, I just prefer not to. My elderly (very religious ) landlady lives in the flat below me and hears every little thing that goes on in my flat  bit of a passion killer! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Only men
And if they're men who have custody of the kids?
You need to understand things aren't as black and white as you like to think."
No-one said there had to be thinking.... |
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Not all men who say they can't/won't accommodate secretly have a partner at home, but many will.
Women are less likely to be on that position as
1. They are more likely to have custody of children. I believe. 90% of single parents are women
2. Women have more reason to be worried about safety. Very few women will be able to fight off a man who turns violent, very few men won't be able to fight off a violent woman
3. Women are more likely to be honest about an unknowing party as they will still get lots of men willing to fuck them.
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We prefer visiting other couples, it adds to the dynamic of the meeting with our relationship being D/s. We also prefer to meet away from where we live for a number of genuine reasons. This has never been a problem as some couples enjoy ‘entertaining’ have more suitable accommodation.
We could just about accommodate and have quite a range of equipment that would be fun and of interest to others, but currently we don’t have the space as we are between houses. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go to a man's house even if they could accommodate! but I do ask why they can't accommodate, as I don't want to meet guys cheating on their partners.
As a single lady a while ago, I would sometimes invite guys I had met previously back to my house, but after one dick head turned up, uninvited one Sunday lunchtime, when my children were at home, I decided accommodating even if I trusted them, was no longer an option.
Club meets suit me better ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I say I can accommodate on my profile as technically I can, but 99% of the time I choose not to.
I live with family who I help care for and it's their home, I'm just lodging. Bringing randoms in would be disrespectful as well as awkward.
There's also the safety aspect, as a man not physical so much but there are some right nut jobs around and I don't want to risk one knowing where I live and the shit that could bring to my family.
There does also seem to be a presumption by some that if a guy can't accommodate he will expect the woman to. I've never felt that way, it's what hotels are for isn't it?
Tbh I'm glad I don't meet many new people anymore, saves me giving a shit. |
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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago
Leeds + Newcastle |
When I first moved to Leeds for work I had to live in a shared apartment with a colleague and there was no way in hell was I going to explain my relationship dynamic or the stream of visitors to them so I never accommodated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all. You have students like me that will only accommodate to certain people due to living arrangements, people with kids and other obstacles. Don't assume that someone is always cheating. And even if they are. Its their choice amd your choice to turn them down. |
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"I wouldn't go to a man's house even if they could accommodate! but I do ask why they can't accommodate, as I don't want to meet guys cheating on their partners.
As a single lady a while ago, I would sometimes invite guys I had met previously back to my house, but after one dick head turned up, uninvited one Sunday lunchtime, when my children were at home, I decided accommodating even if I trusted them, was no longer an option.
Club meets suit me better ! "
Yeah that happened to me as well only thankfully I was out shopping with my children at the time. He texted to say I just turned up at yours but you're out  |
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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't go to a man's house even if they could accommodate! but I do ask why they can't accommodate, as I don't want to meet guys cheating on their partners.
As a single lady a while ago, I would sometimes invite guys I had met previously back to my house, but after one dick head turned up, uninvited one Sunday lunchtime, when my children were at home, I decided accommodating even if I trusted them, was no longer an option.
Club meets suit me better !
Yeah that happened to me as well only thankfully I was out shopping with my children at the time. He texted to say I just turned up at yours but you're out "
That's why I NEVER meet in my home town area, only while I'm working.
I've been followed round shopping centres twice by a meet and 1 turned up outside my (secure) building |
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" Only men
And if they're men who have custody of the kids?
You need to understand things aren't as black and white as you like to think.
I understand perfectly.
I was pointing out a forum double standard. If you've ever read any threads, it's always men that can't accommodate that are branded cheats. It seems irrelevant if women can't accommodate"
I'm in that boat. Or at least can rarely accommodate due to the kids. But you can fully understand the assumption based on (granted perceived) figures. When you look at the volumes of cheating men on hear v the small number of men who have full custody of children one could at least say there's a fail likelyness the can't accomadte = cheating. Clearly this is not always the case. I think what is important is if your intrested is to take the time to ask and get to know a bit about the person in question. That's why I'm always open when asked questions about my family life and home situation. I have nothing to hide. I think most people get the feel for if someone is genuine or lying after a chat or social meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well this doesn't seem fair for single men. I can not accom and thats not because I am cheating its simple because I live in a not very well built flat with walls so thin you can here what eveyone else who lives there are doing. I find hotle meets are best to solve this. |
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" Only men
And if they're men who have custody of the kids?
You need to understand things aren't as black and white as you like to think.
I understand perfectly.
I was pointing out a forum double standard. If you've ever read any threads, it's always men that can't accommodate that are branded cheats. It seems irrelevant if women can't accommodate
Thats due to men not giving a dame if a women is married.
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Exactly. A lot of men will fuck anyone when horny. I tried to organise a meet with a married woman. But there were too many hoops to jump through, what with when he would be going out, or what excuses could be made for an evening away etc etc. Just not worth the hassle. A single man may have gone for it I'm sure. And many have. |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
"Yeah we are! I cheat on my imaginary husband all the time...i even cuckold him by having them lay on his imaginary body on his imaginary side of the bed
In my experience yes, the men who cant accom are cheating with the exception of those who are mummys boys still living with their parents, or those who have no job and have to live in a shared DSS house with 20 other single blokes who have made a total cock of their lives.
Single Dads who actually give a shit and see their kids excepted
How about a couple who are getting married and living in a shared house to save a bit of money so we can have a good day while saving a deposit for a house?
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Ads/Geeky - you talk openly about your situation and come as a package so its transparent to anyone you interact with.
Its those who hide and blatently lie to cover the fact that they are attached. When they suggest car meets or motorhomes or outdoors i just think fuck me in a bed like a normal person!
Also, as someone else touched on above, its just not practical or financially viable to regularly meet someone in hotels. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah we are! I cheat on my imaginary husband all the time...i even cuckold him by having them lay on his imaginary body on his imaginary side of the bed
In my experience yes, the men who cant accom are cheating with the exception of those who are mummys boys still living with their parents, or those who have no job and have to live in a shared DSS house with 20 other single blokes who have made a total cock of their lives.
Single Dads who actually give a shit and see their kids excepted "
I live with parents, I'm not a mummies boy. I have a totally valid reason for doing so, I would rather not have to but the situation my parents find themselves in means it's the best option. Please try to be a little more kind with your words. |
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"In my experience yes, the men who cant accom are cheating with the exception of those who are mummys boys still living with their parents, or those who have no job and have to live in a shared DSS house with 20 other single blokes who have made a total cock of their lives.
Single Dads who actually give a shit and see their kids excepted "
sorry to disagree but why label all single men like that,due to your experience.
it dosnt mean that the single men have made a total fool of there lives, other factors could be involved that your not aware of and yet you label them
im single and couldnt accommodate due to being a single parent and yet I wasnt going to introduce different ladies to my children
some ladies do cheat on here but men are the only ones that get labeled as cheating
what about the men that get harassed intimidated by the ladies dont men deserve the right to have safety for themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah we are! I cheat on my imaginary husband all the time...i even cuckold him by having them lay on his imaginary body on his imaginary side of the bed
In my experience yes, the men who cant accom are cheating with the exception of those who are mummys boys still living with their parents, or those who have no job and have to live in a shared DSS house with 20 other single blokes who have made a total cock of their lives.
Single Dads who actually give a shit and see their kids excepted
I live with parents, I'm not a mummies boy. I have a totally valid reason for doing so, I would rather not have to but the situation my parents find themselves in means it's the best option. Please try to be a little more kind with your words."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a young teenage son at home with me and that’s why I won’t accomadate as I refuse to take fab home with me regarding meets etc as seeing different strange woman in and out the house would not be good what so ever. |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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"In my experience yes, the men who cant accom are cheating with the exception of those who are mummys boys still living with their parents, or those who have no job and have to live in a shared DSS house with 20 other single blokes who have made a total cock of their lives.
Single Dads who actually give a shit and see their kids excepted
sorry to disagree but why label all single men like that,due to your experience.
it dosnt mean that the single men have made a total fool of there lives, other factors could be involved that your not aware of and yet you label them
im single and couldnt accommodate due to being a single parent and yet I wasnt going to introduce different ladies to my children
some ladies do cheat on here but men are the only ones that get labeled as cheating
what about the men that get harassed intimidated by the ladies dont men deserve the right to have safety for themselves "
Because those are the situations i have encountered and they have shaped my fab experience.
Many of the men i have chatted with over the years are found to be in those situations because they have been a arsehole and a cheat and their wives have taken them for everything and theyve ended up with nothing.
Ive also encountered and invested time in several men who have become regular fbs who have eventually turned out to be married/attached and had deceived me into thinking they were single. That really fucks with your head somewhat and shapes your opinion, so its better for my own mental protection to assume the worst and if the best happens then great. Its a form of self preservation.
My OP did start with "in my experience" and i cant change my history, however meeting men who accom now to ensure they arent lying is within my control.
My intention was not to label all men as cheats, and i really dont think i that i did, but my apologies to those it offended. I was merely giving my view based on my own experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a one line explanation about why people prefer not to meet people at their home would help the situation. Then people won't jump to their own conclusions. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't accomodate - so I don't meet people that can't accomodate either.
I give zero fucks whether people think I'm attatched or not 
Obviously the men that can't accomodate are cheaters though |
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"I think a one line explanation about why people prefer not to meet people at their home would help the situation. Then people won't jump to their own conclusions. "
to a certain extent yes but i have it on my profule but still get the grief
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" Only men
And if they're men who have custody of the kids?
You need to understand things aren't as black and white as you like to think.
I understand perfectly.
I was pointing out a forum double standard. If you've ever read any threads, it's always men that can't accommodate that are branded cheats. It seems irrelevant if women can't accommodate"
Spot on. Singles guys seem to get a particularly bad rap with this one x |
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